karpentar: Easy things are tempting, but only if they are forbidden to others. If the woman is easy for me but hard for everyone else, then no problems.

MRbrownJAY: @OP
it all depends on the intentions of that said man, in regards to you. not all women are approached to become wifeys....some are approached SOLELY to be used and abused, and to these lot, we REQUIRE that they cheapened themselves, lol!

sadly, there are MANY women (and men) out there who are highly desperate and who are willing to go to amazing length to settle with someone (sometimes ANYONE), and there is not much we can do to help them. we can only look and shake our heads at the level they are willing to lower themselves.

there are many actions that would be considered CHEAP in my world:
- you beg/demand for any material thing WHATSOEVER .
- you have no class and yet expect to be treated like a celebrity.
- you dont know what the difference between a Sauvignon and a Chardonnay is, but yet you want to eat at the classiest restaurant in town.
- you've ridden okada and buses all your life but suddenly expect to be driven around, simply because you new BF has a car.
- you automatically expect your man to elevate you status to HIS own, simply because you guys are dating.
- you see anything remotely RIGHT about sleeping your way to get ANYTHING in life (other than the affection from your man)
- you believe that your money should be spent on yourself only.
- you love a man but yet dont want to show him that you do , for whatever reason (emotionally cheap)

******out of breath****** will be back for more, lol!

Okija_juju: For a Girl:

As a litmus test to see if a guy is really interested in you, yes it is good..

HOWEVER: Too much of it can make you out to be a stuck-up biitch..



But if na me dey pursue you, I am not into all that Hard to get bullshit!

Life is too short for me to be on a longthing..

Nonnyrose:

so true, playing hard 2 get is so yesterday.the girls of era has completely gone wild and the are everywhere. When u re busy play hard 2 get, three ladies re taking ur place. Even in marriage u still have to sit up b4 some lady comes in and throw u out. What i do is dat when i like a guy and he approaches me,i jst get 2 knw him atleast give him a soft landing bt if i dont dig u i will let u know instead of play wit u. I love myself and i always be myself no mata wat.

@sanbthen you are a greedy man

Tolaaaaannni: Its good to a certain extent, I.E The only thing the guy wants is to get in your pants, playing hard to get would make you look "uncheap" and valuable. [b]But if you play hard to get till a certain age you become what they call "Old" and "Unmarriable". Sometimes playing hard to get, make a person lose a potential spouse.

Nonnyrose:

so true, playing hard 2 get is so yesterday.the girls of era has completely gone wild and the are everywhere. When u re busy play hard 2 get, three ladies re taking ur place. Even in marriage u still have to sit up b4 some lady comes in and throw u out. What i do is dat when i like a guy and he approaches me,i jst get 2 knw him atleast give him a soft landing bt if i dont dig u i will let u know instead of play wit u. I love myself and i always be myself no mata wat.

seedord247: Only a broke a$$ nigga woo a girl for months.

veraponpo: My sister, wisdom is what I think every lady needs.Few of the facts I have discovered recently are:

1. Relationship with a guy that is not ready for marriage always ends in comatose state MOST TIMES,in abortions, heartbreaking, deceits, etc note the capitalized.

2. Hard to get game, most times, happens to the young-(16-26yrs ladies) , from 27yrs almost all ladies are easy to get except if she is in a serious relationship.

3. Ladies, most times, lose the simple and innocent guy and fall into the hands of players(sharp guys) because, it is only the players that can do, say and act in the way they want. They then believe they are with the correct guy, whereas this guy's mission is to deceive her.

4. PLS DO NOT PLAY HARD OR CHEAP TO ANY GUY U LOVE. BE NATURAL AND WISE. LET HIM SEE YOUR INTELLIGENCE, ESPECIALLY IN THE WAY YOU DRESS AND TALK. I wrote that line in upper case because it answers your question.

Any man that is ready for a wife to marry will appreciate a wise lady that answers every questions correctly without any iota of deceit but with green light from her. If you tell your new guy that you want to think about his intention to be a close friend, pls be sincere, i.e truely wait and watch his ways, kind of friends, and life style. Pls do not have a sterotyped mind of playing hard or cheap.

lawak: let me give u a summarised version of my marriage story: When I was convinced and fully made up my mind to get married, I scouted for some years for the right person and finally settled for one. The major killer stroke she used was her open mind; even when her friends and folks were suggesting the hard to get style for her, she chose to be docile and that singular action stood her out. I proposed to her just one week after we met for the first time ever and we got married after one month. am sure some of those suggesting the hard to get style are still waiting to hear stories (they might have to wait for ages). The ones who played hard to get for me later came back but it was already late. In summary "playing" hard to get is not good.

Nonnyrose:

so true, playing hard 2 get is so yesterday.the girls of era has completely gone wild and the are everywhere. When u re busy play hard 2 get, three ladies re taking ur place. Even in marriage u still have to sit up b4 some lady comes in and throw u out. What i do is dat when i like a guy and he approaches me,i jst get 2 knw him atleast give him a soft landing bt if i dont dig u i will let u know instead of play wit u. I love myself and i always be myself no mata wat.

stillwater:

Never date someone with that at the back of your mind. Do you. The men these days are a far-cry from our fathers. Work at your own pace. If you don't like being rushed, please don't rush yourself. If you are the type that is quite decisive when propositioned, by all means say yes. You are an adult, make decisions for yourself and not what society dictates or what your friends would say.

But if the girl's aim is just to play hard to get, I think she's lost the plot.

Kobojunkie:

WOW . . .Whenever I come here, I am sure to find people manufacturing facts from their arse.!!!

sanb: LOL mehn just listen to yourself you sound very cheap to me

lawak:

ur comments clearly decribes who u are

ronkebp: Do not get that 'play hard to get twisted oooo'....some lady thinks is telling a guy off, immediately he winks or says hi, you see some ladies eyeing the guy or hissing, some wear this big frown on their faces.

In my own view..it is not getting easily laid....majority of the guys, come to you for one thing, "to get laid" once they are done, they are off, to the next available chic...I had a friend who was always so easily laid and easily dumped....she would call me the next morning, " Ronke, it has happened again oo,the guy has dumped me again" my question would always be, "did you sleep with him"? we know what the answer would be.

There is nothing wrong in going on couple of dates in an open place where the guy in question will not grab and r/a/p/e you, there is nothing wrong in being polite and approachable. You just have to have class and love yourself...not with unnecessary pride and ego.... you will be surprised the type of men, you will be attracting.


Everyone woman has and owns the keys to her legs....

drnoel:

True but then I´ve seen men still go after women even after they have explicitely said no and no. So what do u call that?

DailyNews:

You must be a guru guy...in fact, u six much jor! lol...and to sum it up, playing hard to get won't ever win you any busy honorable man cos they got no time or strength for all that, thats y u see most end up marrying some ladies you see as bad girls, cos those bad girls don't play too hard to get, but when they finally accept you, you will discover they aren't that cheap as u tot, hence the men stay and do mostly marry them while the nice girls are out there studying all relationship manuals from religious to moral and in an attempt to act or appear too decent by playing hard to get, they end up attracting only playboys who are experts in wooing and can wait for eternity just to get what they want! So op, just make it easy but don't be cheap like MrBrownJay pointed out above, those things are part of why most guys dump some girls without the girls knowing. good luck! I have gotta get back to work now!

Dimples 316:

Well I certainly do not split bills with a guy on our first two dates or outing, If am feeling you afterwards you can be sure the next treat will be on me, If am not feeling you there won't be a 3rd, 4th or 5th outing of any kind. But I NEVER do that splitting of bills thing at the initial stage of a relationship he is doing the chasing and I definitely would like to be wooed.

I can cook, so hell no I won't be dying of hunger and waiting for some bloke to take me out, if it gets so bad and am not in a position to quickly make myself a meal there are fast food restaurants littered all over the place and with just 1k I can grab me some food. Wait for a man to buy me food when am hungry that is really cheap you won't catch me in that one oooo.

ronkebp:

that does not stop you from being polite till you walk down the aisle with another man, then they will get it.

phraze: I know a tough gurl who around me acts freaking shy but when with her friends, bold as a lion, lol. One night wen we were about dispersing from each other, a guy was dizzy and wanted to attack me, by rubishing my involvement wit these friend of mine. She sprunged up with the most effective words and the chap just staggered away, tho i was already preparing my fist for a punch, which was kind of emotional, she reasoned. That made me amazed in Silence. That means She understood Emotion and Reaction, Perfectly. She is somewhere comfortable anyways. She is a Nurse by Profession tho. I advice every woman to have a nurse friend to understand Men. Learn alot and Help your man. Tho the Guy in the situation wouldnt have stood my outpour but she stepped like a good passenger and sat on the situation with so much experience. She drinks alittle tho. And all these happened at a bustop. She understood the situation and reacted well. Maybe she undastands Drunkers. Ladies just be an Angel and at the right time a Person. A Person reacts to situation without Emotion, an Angel is shy and gracious at her mans presence. Balance should be striked Carefuly. One More Important Discovery: when u act shy wit a man, he climbs 30,000 feet on mount-confidence. You act calm to make him be a man. This applies only to Romantic Moments oh, like when you and him are quite and alone. Its just something you should exibit 3trice in a week oh. Men love a Soft but Firm woman. Be Matured and learn some little poetry too... Lol * Runs Out*