Thank you guys for the useful pieces of advice and the hard knocks. I need the hard knocks to wake up!!

Moderators, can you please move this to the Family Section?


cc: @farano, @Rocktation, @pasqal09

I am not sure if this is the best section or it should be in the family section.

I have been married for 4yrs now. Our marriage is going fine and sweet though not without challenges. But pesently, I am having very strong sexual feeling for someone I regard as a sister. She came into our family 2yrs ago for help. I feel sad and ashamed of my feelings such that it is affecting my behavior at home and my work. My wife has asked my for weeks now, I can't tell her. My wife has jokingly told the girl in question " ask your brother what is wrong with him". When the girl asked me, I told her that I am falling in love with the wrong person. When she pressed on me to tell her who the person is, I said "it's you". She broke into tears and cried for almost an hour. Dating with a single is not even an option for her as she still in school. To even think of affair at this stage is suicidal for me. I know doing anything with her is an impossibility, but having the feeling is weighing on me so much.

What is wrong with me? How do I safe my self-esteem and keep my family