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for the sake of your future, do this.

The First Pillar of a Dream Marriage

This is your key to marital fulfillment and success

In a world like ours, where the major concern of every individual is “what is in it for me,” people approach relationships from the angle of what they stand to gain. Consequently, most relationship demise hinges on the initiating partner running out of objects that appeal to their self-interests to latch on.

The formative years of men are laced with dreams and hopes of what to be, have and do. The advance of age brings with it the reality of the earthly sojourn; that the plasticity of the mind to run wild in the ocean of dreams is grotesque and not proportional to what is humanly attainable.

True, there is a sparing one per cent of the population who have been dealt a fair hand in the game of life; the billionaire club. Their fortunes did not come to be through the sheer size and volume of their dreams and hopes nor through mere happenstance.

There are pointers to the effect that these billionaires had habits, traits, and privileges that eluded the rest of the masses. Such traits as the knack for calculated risk-taking, their being entrepreneurial and highly-educated, with a bit of luck set them apart from the crowd.

Your craving to attain lofty heights in something desirable must be backed by planning and persistent effort. Falling short of that paradigm amounts to woolgathering and an over-indulgence in fantasy or should I say ‘phantasmagoria’, if you will indulge me.

To be self-absorbed and to exclude the needs and desires of the other partner breed the entitlement mindset; acting as if the world or anyone owes you a thing.
To sustain your existence to saner levels, growth is a necessity and you reserve the right to demand same of your partner.

Proponents of the evolutionary theory tell us that in the scheme of things, the stronger species are braced to live and the weaker ones are phased out by the world’s constant needs to reform to suit the ever-evolving demands of the natural order. This apply equally to all spheres of human activity.

Suppress the propensity to rain tirades upon tirades on your partner about their need to grow. Rather than hang around and make unrealistic demands of your partner, the both of you should imbibe the family culture of mutual growth in your chosen careers, faiths, and all other matters of shared interest. This is your key to marital fulfillment and success.

Your criticism of the other person and their need to fix an area of their life you perceive a lack, will serve to aggravate matters further. In the same way and manner you sit around the table to plan your finances (that is if you are not one of those that keep their earnings a secret matter from their spouses), should you plan your careers and future if you envision one together.

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[size=15pt]For the sake of your future, try this instead.

The First Pillar of a Dream Marriage

This is your key to marital fulfillment and success


In a world like ours, where the major concern of every individual is “what is in it for me,” people approach relationships from the angle of what they stand to gain. Consequently, most relationship demise hinges on the initiating partner running out of objects that appeal to their self-interests to latch on.

The formative years of men are laced with dreams and hopes of what to be, have and do. The advance of age brings with it the reality of the earthly sojourn; that the plasticity of the mind to run wild in the ocean of dreams is grotesque and not proportional to what is humanly attainable.

True, there is a sparing one per cent of the population who have been dealt a fair hand in the game of life; the billionaire club. Their fortunes did not come to be through the sheer size and volume of their dreams and hopes nor through mere happenstance.

There are pointers to the effect that these billionaires had habits, traits, and privileges that eluded the rest of the masses. Such traits as the knack for calculated risk-taking, their being entrepreneurial and highly-educated, with a bit of luck set them apart from the crowd.

Your craving to attain lofty heights in something desirable must be backed by planning and persistent effort. Falling short of that paradigm amounts to woolgathering and an over-indulgence in fantasy or should I say ‘phantasmagoria’, if you will indulge me.


To be self-absorbed and to exclude the needs and desires of the other partner breed the entitlement mindset; acting as if the world or anyone owes you a thing.

To sustain your existence to saner levels, growth is a necessity and you reserve the right to demand same of your partner.

Proponents of the evolutionary theory tell us that in the scheme of things, the stronger species are braced to live and the weaker ones are phased out by the world’s constant needs to reform to suit the ever-evolving demands of the natural order. This apply equally to all spheres of human activity.

Suppress the propensity to rain tirades upon tirades on your partner about their need to grow. Rather than hang around and make unrealistic demands of your partner, the both of you should imbibe the family culture of mutual growth in your chosen careers, faiths, and all other matters of shared interest. This is your key to marital fulfillment and success.

Your criticism of the other person and their need to fix an area of their life you perceive a lack, will serve to aggravate matters further. In the same way and manner you sit around the table to plan your finances (that is if you are not one of those that keep their earnings a secret matter from their spouses), should you plan your careers and future if you envision one together.

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This is your key to marital fulfillment and success[size=16pt][/size]

In a world like ours, where the major concern of every individual is “what is in it for me,” people approach relationships from the angle of what they stand to gain. Consequently, most relationship demise hinges on the initiating partner running out of objects that appeal to their self-interests to latch on.

The formative years of men are laced with dreams and hopes of what to be, have and do. The advance of age brings with it the reality of the earthly sojourn; that the plasticity of the mind to run wild in the ocean of dreams is grotesque and not proportional to what is humanly attainable.

True, there is a sparing one per cent of the population who have been dealt a fair hand in the game of life; the billionaire club. Their fortunes did not come to be through the sheer size and volume of their dreams and hopes nor through mere happenstance.

There are pointers to the effect that these billionaires had habits, traits, and privileges that eluded the rest of the masses. Such traits as the knack for calculated risk-taking, their being entrepreneurial and highly-educated, with a bit of luck set them apart from the crowd.

Your craving to attain lofty heights in something desirable must be backed by planning and persistent effort. Falling short of that paradigm amounts to woolgathering and an over-indulgence in fantasy or should I say ‘phantasmagoria’, if you will indulge me.

To be self-absorbed and to exclude the needs and desires of the other partner breed the entitlement mindset; acting as if the world or anyone owes you a thing.
To sustain your existence to saner levels, growth is a necessity and you reserve the right to demand same of your partner.

Proponents of the evolutionary theory tell us that in the scheme of things, the stronger species are braced to live and the weaker ones are phased out by the world’s constant needs to reform to suit the ever-evolving demands of the natural order. This apply equally to all spheres of human activity.

Suppress the propensity to rain tirades upon tirades on your partner about their need to grow.

Rather than hang around and make unrealistic demands of your partner, the both of you should imbibe the family culture of mutual growth in your chosen careers, faiths, and all other matters of shared interest. This is your key to marital fulfillment and success.

Your criticism of the other person and their need to fix an area of their life you perceive a lack, will serve to aggravate matters further. In the same way and manner you sit around the table to plan your finances (that is if you are not one of those that keep their earnings a secret matter from their spouses), should you plan your careers and future if you envision one together.

[b][/b][size=15pt][/size]Learn more at www.influence.com.ng

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Parenting Advice: Building a Rock-solid Foundation For You and Your Children's Success.[color=#000099][/color][size=16pt][/size]

[size=14pt]How to set your children on the right path and provide them with example for them to emulate.[/size]

The Money Mistakes of Our Forebears And Their Failure to Set Us on The Path to Financial Literacy[size=14pt][/size]

Money has been one of our race's most elusive goal. And it con

This is because money is a consequence of a permutation of factors that remain high-ceilinged to the average human.
A spiritual mentor told me once, and rightly so, that surmounting the vicissitudes of livelihood, is the achievement of a greater share of whatever success definition exists out there.

I can relate with that on a profound level. I encounter a lot of people, even during small talks, struggling to drive home the point that success sprawls far beyond money.

That is indisputable in so far as they realize that money occupies the central and larger portion of the success pie.
Whatever notion of success, achievement or happiness you hold still hinges on money.

It is a disservice on a personal level to treat money issues with levity and to not hold them with the firm grip they merit, giving the central role money play in our every day existence.

That is where our money problems mostly find their roots. When it comes to money we live perpetually in self-denial.
As a matter of principle, schools were not meant to provide all our educational needs. Leastwise, they ought to provide the torch and set the tone for all our future undertakings and aspirations.

Parents and schools have been largely inept in setting their children and wards on the path to financial literacy and entrepreneurial success.
The game of money is more of a sprint than a marathon, as is business success. The earlier you start the better your chances of reaching the finishing line stronger and ahead of time.

Hence, parents are in a better position to hand to their kids the necessary head start.

When their own financial literacy is on life-support, you can't expect a grain of guidance from them. Little wonder the crass financial ineptitude of kids born of such parents.
The accumulation of money follows the entrenchment and practice of certain habits. Much like manners, parents are duty-bound to instill successful money habits on their children right from the primal years.

Parents have masterminded many a career failure of their children.

In a self-defeating attempt to guide them on the path to a lucrative career, they push their children into fields to which they are not cut out for.
The backlash is a gross limiting of the child's potential.

Without due analysis of the child's nature, gifts and interests, fathers (more than mothers) deprive their sons and daughters the rare chance of gaining mastery of the field where their chances of reaching the zenith through tapping into their innate abilities are highest.

Two Ways Parents Can Guide Their Children To Financial And Career Success [size=14pt][/size]

Keep a keener eye on your child as they grow. Scanning for inclinations and natural talents. Identify objects, subjects and interests that sways them and holds their attention unusually longer.

Therein lies their best career choices. Your job as a parent is to guide them along the path of fully exploiting their natural gifts and talents. Your task is to spur them to make career choices around the fringes of their innateness.

Done rightly, such guidance will lay the necessary footing for success in their career, business and in how they handle money.

The more we know and apply the more we may earn. Since knowledge and skills grants us the ability to fulfill more of our world's needs. A devotion to continuous learning is by this note a valid financial advice.
Set the pace for your children by becoming an avid learner yourself, consuming information and absorbing knowledge of your field, its allied areas and beyond.

They'll pick up the cues with little or no effort to persuade them on your side.

Your learning must be organized, coordinated and specialised if it must yield the desired result.

Reading everything that comes your way will amount to not mastering any specific area. Your efforts and time leading to little or no appreciable progress.
Same applies to gaining certifications and training in varied fields that are not directed towards a specialisation.
If you are a father and have succeeded in putting your children on the right footing to financial success, please share with us the strategies that worked for you.

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[size=16pt]Igbokwe Murders Juliet's Lover on Their Marital Bed[/size]
[size=14pt]Mr. Igbokwe on July, the 25th, 2016, returned from a business trip to Onitsha to find Olatundun on his bed ravaging his dear wife and taking her on mountainous trips of ecstasy. Am I vacillating? he was having sex with her on their matrimonial bed very akin to portrayals we are fed in movies.
Igbokwe engaged the thief in a brawl. Sensing possible dominance, he made for a machete with which he snuffed the last breath out of his invader. Pathetic Igbokwe!. Both Igbokwe and his wife Juliet are in police custody waiting to be charged to court and trialed.
The cheating wife made some sobbing remarks befitting a woman caught in her act. That their marriage had been on the precipice with incessant fights and quarrels. That Igbokwe has been negligent of his duties.
What was more noteworthy in her statements was her claim to not know how it all happened, that she suspects she was under some form of spell. To charm you, madam Juliet, a man doesn't need to visit sorcerers, particularly in this age and time. You hinted on his repeated attempts at making advances at you. This was at a time Igbokwe was absent in his presence and you craved those good old days while Igbokwe and You, Juliet chipped away at your remnant emotional accounts.
That created a gap which Olatundun noticed and seized the moment. make no mistake about it, his persistence in the face of Igbokwe's unfeelingness, and Juliet's disenchantment, among other things were enough spell for the late Olatundun to find his way into her hearth and by extension, her legs.
In this whole saga, everyone loses. Like I wrote in my last piece on this subject, making a marriage work in a way that records less fights and more fulfillment, is an art that requires the mastery of certain diverse sets of skills. A mastery that does not eliminate crisis but entrenches skilful management and resolution of arising conflicts. [/size]
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[size=18pt]Bill Gate's paradigm[/size]
[size=16pt]Bill Gates of Microsoft and Governor Masari of katsina state have one thing in common. They are both embarking on a trip to checkmate endemic poverty among women in rural places. Agriculture is where they find their rallying point. Observers to whom smart devices have been the major determinants of their style of adult living finds it deeply appalling that in the information era, government is empowering citizens with goats and not with PCs.
I couldn't help but to differ with that standpoint, so my drawing the Bill/Masari analogy, giving that Bill Gates is globally idealized and even idolized.
Bill and Masari are at poles apart with regards to the sources of funds for their respective initiatives and their choice of animal. Bill Gate's choice animal for husbandry is chicken and the sponsor of his project is his Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation. An avenue Bill uses to shelve excess cash from his towering vaults.
Masari's source of funds for his goats breeding project is a small and medium scale entrepreneurship development loan from the Central Bank of Nigeria. The prospects of the scheme appears bright from the point of view of the systems entrenched to oversee it implementation.
It appears to be an initiative 'built to last'. From inception, the scheme passes the litmus test of a business with prospects of success. That is if the government is not playing a fast on us this time..................... [/size][b][size=18pt]Read more here...http://influence.com.ng/raging-firestorms-of-poverty-bill-gates-chickens-and-aminu-masaris-goats-to-the-rescue/
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[size=18pt]Bill Gate's paradigm[/size]
[size=16pt]Bill Gates of Microsoft and Governor Masari of katsina state have one thing in common. They are both embarking on a trip to checkmate endemic poverty among women in rural places. Agriculture is where they find their rallying point. Observers to whom smart devices have been the major determinants of their style of adult living finds it deeply appalling that in the information era, government is empowering citizens with goats and not with PCs.

I couldn't help but to differ with that standpoint, so my drawing the Bill/Masari analogy, giving that Bill Gates is globally idealized and even idolized.

Bill and Masari are at poles apart with regards to the sources of funds for their respective initiatives and their choice of animal. Bill Gate's choice animal for husbandry is chicken and the sponsor of his project is his Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation. An avenue Bill uses to shelve excess cash from his towering vaults.

Masari's source of funds for his goats breeding project is a small and medium scale entrepreneurship development loan from the Central Bank of Nigeria. The prospects of the scheme appears bright from the point of view of the systems entrenched to oversee it implementation.
It appears to be an initiative 'built to last'. From inception, the scheme passes the litmus test of a business with prospects of success. That is if the government is not playing a fast on us this time..................... [/size][b]Read more here.......... www.influence.com.ng/raging-firestorms-of-poverty-bill-gates-chickens-and-aminu-masaris-goats-to-the-rescue/

Learning about relationships and by extension the opposite sex carries the day
Most of us, whom through one way or the other find our ways into the science class, had a certain prejudiced notion that we were either more talented and endowed than our contemporaries in arts and commercial classes. We were further led into the delusion, that those in other fields took the back seat to us in the train of life and success.
More years and experience exposed that notion for what it truly was; a fallacy.
A case in point is that of a man with a thriving career and at the top of the corporate ladder but chronically finds the demeanor of the women in his life completely elusive and consequently unable to savor the accompanying delight from having women around him.
It is thus common to find shakers and movers in the business and corporate world in messy and nasty marital crisis.
Considering that every craft serves its own unique purpose in society, the debate of which profession is better than the other is therefore, uncalled for. Although the STEM (science, technology, engineering and Mathematics) fields have been proven to offer more lucrative careers than others, someone still must occupy the other positions in the natural order.
Just as proficiency in any endeavor requires practice and the time to get it right, understanding and living smoothly with the women folk is no exception. The argument thus goes that majority of the conflicts and arguments encountered in the home front could be evaded with a certain measure of knowledge and foresight.
This is not to lay claim to the possibility of a marriage or relationship with a 100% percent conflict-proof, but to simply draw attention to the fact that in a relationship the pleasurable moments should trump all else. read more here....http://influence.com.ng/misandry-and-the-women-who-call-men-dogs/

We all have our differences
There are good, ugly and bad people. Who doesn't know that no two men or women are exactly the same. We are unique in our own ways and differ from each other in one way or the other. Ask Einstein what he meant by the term "variation".
A battle of the sexes rages unabated. "All men are dogs"? you hear. Your male parent and siblings inclusive? so you where sired by a dog? I ask. I will take it that you were probably just frustrated with multiple failed attempts at the Cinderella fairy-tale or the disappointment of that happy-ever-after dream that never was. so you didn't meant all of that hogwash.
For that reason, you resorted to making such atrocious and bawdy remarks of the sex you are most likely going to end up spending a sizable chunk of their paycheck in your life time. The heat and pains of your previous heartbreaks will eventually dissipates and you will decide to give love another chance. read more here..........http://influence.com.ng/misandry-and-the-women-who-call-men-dogs/

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• Feeding fat on the plights and sufferings of the Internally Displaced Persons (IDPs).
• How insurgents were emboldened and the war against them unduly prolonged.
• A nearly obliterated voice of the opposition.

Feeding fat on the plights and sufferings of the IDPs
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Elections were a couple of months away. The two leading political parties, the All Progressive Congress (APC) and the People's Democratic Party (PDP) were going for each other's jugular. This was at the time when the overly tensed nature of the polity portends all but anything wholesome.
Informed and uninformed political theories and philosophies swarmed public and social discourse in a manner nearly unprecedented in Nigeria's political annals. One theory worthy of note had it that insurgents in the North-east were sponsored by influencers within the ranks of the APC in a sinister move to garner a sympathizing followership and discredit incumbent President Goodluck Jonathan.

At that material time, all of that stood for nothing but mere speculations. More than a year has now passed, we are gradually emanating from that wilderness. We now know more than we did back then.
Pillaging and marauding Boko haram insurgents held sway for substantial lengths of time. The aftereffect of that carnage subsists, with widespread starvation and disease in various IDP camps across the country.

Elkanemi football club of Maiduguri resumed playing on their home pitch just this year, and sallah was celebrated amidst palpable calm and peace that approximated an illusion in the near past. Although, incidences of suicide bombings still spring up occasionally, normalcy is gradually finding its way back to life in the region.

In a few paragraphs hereunder, I intend to share with you fragments of my ruminations on the matter of how money meant for arms procurement to keep insurgents at bay was diverted by opportunists under the nose of former president Goodluck Jonathan.

Until such time, a cursory glance at the elusiveness of a principled life for people in leadership position and the ordering of their affairs around some moral compass is worth some space here. I followed with keen interest the devastating consequences of want and deprivation to the very fabric of a man's system in its totality.
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of hijabs and garments; the battle between Governor Rauf Aregbesola and Osun state CAN.

If the University of Lagos permits female Muslim students to wear the veil; hijab, on campus, and does not prohibit the male students to don big beards and caps, then in the spirit of fairness and equity Christians must not only be given the freedom to act in the same light, fellowship bodies will have to enforce the wearing of choir robes and garments on campus.
Donning hijab in Muslim theology is a fundamental obligation, not an attempt to propagate religion, as far as we know. Failure to [url][/url]http://influence.com.ng/2016/06/16/of-hijabs-and-garments-the-battle-between-governor-rauf-aregbesola-and-osun-state-can/

Seeking attention at the expense of reputation
"Court attention at all cost" exhorts Robert Greene in his controversial book the 48 laws of power. In the 5th law, he wrote "so much depends on reputation, guide it with your life." Most people, particularly those wielding substantial power can gain the attention of the public by merely hurling scandalous and petty accusations at public figures. Consequently, they are left without the microscopic amount of integrity and reputation.

They are seen by the same public they are trying so hard to impress as merely shallow and using their attention seeking tactics as a mere vain attempts to cover up massive levels of insecurity.
"Mr. Fayose had no reputation worthy of protection by any court." said the trial judge that dismissed Fayose's suit against the news magazine in 2004 . The news magazine had earlier reported on the N1.2 billion Fayose stole from Ekiti state's coffers and his funding of a squad of killers.
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How poor grammar can ruin your employment and promotion opportunities.http://influence.com.ng/2016/06/18/if-you-dont-want-to-be-a-corpse-in-the-labor-market-avoid-this-one-common-mistake-2/?preview_id=212&preview_nonce=9c2a263693&preview=true