If you can ask this question, PLEASE don't get married

UrFears:
Dear senior colleagues, y'all should kindly drop tips on how to find jobs for we coming in as January intakes.. Thank you...

Ps: I've paid my tuition in full and I've accommodation(s). Nobody should try to scare me

use chat gpt to tailor your resume to each job description. you can ask it to give you results in word doc format. it will increase your chances of getting interviews

your responsibility as a father has nothing to do with your relationship with your ex-wife and the infidelity you keep mentioning is not useful information in the context of taking care of your children. the reason for divorce does not excuse you from your responsibility to your children. do not discuss this with your children in an attempt to get back at your ex, it will backfire on you and your children will view you as a bitter and frustrated person. move on with your life and hopefully you have better luck next time.

I hate how someone can be minding their business in nigeria and this type of thing can happen to them with no accountability, no compensation, inadequate medical care. The victims will pay the price for what they did not cause and it's not right

Smile4mee01:


They are also looking for guys with papers. This paper issue has changed the dynamics.

I dont even mind dating someone without papers because I'm on a pathway to getting my papers already.

I don't recommend a woman with papers dating a man without papers solely because of the many many women that have done it in the past and had negative outcomes, ended up being used and dumped and left alone to struggle as single mothers. it's normal for a man without papers to claim he doesn't need papers but a lot of times they are telling lies, it's all part of the game. if you were of the caliber that it would be believable that you want to relocate to nigeria, they may find it easier to believe. from experience of over 20 years in america, it is wise and prudent to keep immigration matters separate from marriage, with some exceptions. it's not fair but with all that has been happening to women here, it's a necessary safeguard.

if you really want to move to nigeria, why not date someone in nigeria and travel back and forth until you are ready to relocate. abi you too don't want someone without american visa??

are you able to see a dermatologist? like others have said, it may get better with age but it's best to have it checked out because of the social stigma associated with having skin issues.

Jannyfranc:
Thanks for your response,i am coming with my spouse,plus i intend to work as a lecturer. Any idea about North carolina,the cities you mentined,have high cost of living .please can you suggest another ,am looking at weather, cost of living , less violent and where there is no natural disaster,e.g Hurricane, fire etc

you're right. budget is a big consideration especially initially. keep in mind that you don't have to remain where you start out. you can always relocate based on work, preferences, etc
weather and cost of living - houston and dallas (summers are hot but winters are relatively mild). running away from hurricane eliminates houston but there's the probability that you can live in houston for a few years and relocate without having a major hurricane. america is a violent country with lots of mentally unstable and volatile armed people (I have to be blunt here) so I don't have any recommendation on less violent city other than stay prayed up and be careful. houston is very diverse, not sure how that compares to north carolina but just something to keep in mind. good luck.

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my comment wasn't addressed to you. you can give the OP valuable input without saying someone else's opinion doesn't make sense. learn to comport yourself.

Jannyfranc:
Which city do I choose between Georgia, south Carolina, Texas and Virginia? Note that my Children are below 15year and I am a lecturer.I want affordable and Non violence state.Please advise me.

consider staying away from the south... I know homes are cheaper etc but wanting non violence state and being a lecturer, you probably want to live in a more enlightened environment. are you coming with a spouse and do they plan to work? If I had to choose again I would move to a city in colorado or california. Seattle is another good choice.

Nigeria lo kan...

Najdorf:
Is renewing f1 visa stamp in Canada advisable? I have a summer research program and want to use it to kill two birds with one stone.

I did it years ago with no issues

lots of generalizations here... many one percenters have homes in multiple countries and maintain a presence Nigeria for business reasons, networking and maintaining their social relevance. Many big decisions and business moves are initiated at some of the parties we see them attending so they have to maintain a presence in Nigeria to some extent. A lot of them technically live in two or three countries and they take their domestic help along with them in addition to regular staff that they maintain in their homes worldwide. I was surprised to see a comment saying they can't have domestic staff abroad I don't know why anyone will think a billionaire's maid or assistant will not have access to any country's visa to follow their boss around the globe. The people that have just relocated should please try and live abroad for a while and expand your experiences before coming to generalize and paint a picture that is inaccurate and only shows a lack of exposure.

tell your friend no. you need to start getting used to protecting your future wife.

thatigboman:
Op, it is discrimination to say that there is work that a man can do that a woman cant. in advanced countries, you can go to jail for saying that.

his very loud biases will limit his advancement. I can't imagine having someone that thinks like this as my direct report

Tbozun:

What makes them advanced

the fact that people of your big age have more career prospects and a society that takes care of them?

Apply for other roles...

Nigerians got the leader they deserve.

It's not only Nigeria, it's all over the world. Prices for daily necessities are going up 20, 30, 40%. I don't know anyone who is getting that much of a raise, so people are effectively getting poorer. May God help the world.

A vacation

TOHHAN:
Good afternoon mama, pls I have a serious challenge and dunno if anyone here might have had the experience before.

While I was pregnant, my bp has never been high even when my leg was swollen, the bp neva enter 120 bt 2 weeks after I gave birth it increase to 132/60 which the hospital gave me a drug(dopatab) to regulate it bt I didn't finish it because my mum said it's not gud for it to b too low. I went to check again today because am having slight headache and arm pain bt surprisingly it's seeing 142/97.
What could be the cause of high bp after delivery pls and wat else can I do to bring it back to normal, am seriously confuse and tired of all dis 1thing after d oda showing up after delivery

This happened to me after my first. It's pre-eclampsia (yes, one can develop it after delivery). All through the pregnancy, no bp issues at all then few days after delivery I had this bad headache that refused to go away. I went to the doctor and they checked my bp and it was really high. Please take it seriously and don't hesitate to go back to the hospital with any concerns.

Sassy256:
BA! BA!! BA!!!
I welcomed my second prince today via emergency CS. God has indeed done me well o, join me praise His name
Bs coming soon.

Congratulations! May God bless your family

BA!!

I welcomed my Princess weighing 4.1kg on August 13th via elective CS. BS coming soon, I'm still navigating CS recovery. Wishing all mamas safe delivery.

oluwalatte1:
BS! BS!! BS!!!

This one go long small oooo

Beginning
After our wedding, my wife kept having baby fever. She was always sending me IG videos and talking about how cute a baby was, but I dey run. So finally in October(6 months after our wedding) after much discussion & prayer we agreed to start trying, thinking at least by December the baby suppose enter. Next thing, my wife started feeling a bit sick and decided to do a PT(Pregnancy Test) at home. Omo, this baby no calm down. Na that October gangan, e come. E shock me. �

Funny enough we go do blood PT later for one hospital like that, they said it was negative. I’m like shey una dey whine me ni. Something wey I don see for like 3 strips. We go somewhere else to do another test, which turns out positive and we register there for ANC(Antenatal Care).

1st Trimester
Anyways moving on, 1st trimester was something else. Because there was a lot of nausea, and a lot of vomiting, my wife could barely keep anything down. Also, I was doing most of the cooking, so she could not smell what I was cooking if not she won’t eat. She also said I can’t be using my body spray. No be small thing. There was one time she was vomiting so bad, that her throat was hurting, I think she even vomited blood. I kept trying to do what I can to help.

Congratulations to your family! I love how involved and supportive you were throughout the whole process. May God bless the little one.

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Ekabobo:


Seems I won't have to wait till Friday... Started spotting early today....in d lab now waiting my turn... Let God help me biko ...I dnt av anyone else cept him.... After ttcing for so long... Make him pity me abeg....abeg... Pls

No matter what happens please trust God. When I went through a miscarriage I prayed and cried and slept on my side for almost 12 hours in pain. I refused to get up so I won't spot. Ended up in the hospital the next day and the worst had happened. I was so discouraged that God after all my prayers, but I held on to the faith. Exactly a year later I was in the same hospital on the labor and delivery ward to have my baby. Anxiety and desperation are tools the devil uses. God will answer His names in your life, over this situation and you will carry your children.

StarryV:
My August people how una dey oooo. Mama Sassy256 my able cappo how are you doing na. I've really been excited since I realized today is 21st July. You know why? Because my EDD is 21st August hahaha and i'm almost sure that baby will come before that day sef. Will commence my leave from 1st Week of August (after next week) to enable me travel and do some last minute preparations before the arrival of my prince . I'm just excited as if na tomorrow be the day sef. Lol.
July come and be going ooo. Our July mamas no wan sama us BS. Diaris God o.

Ehee for those who have crossed 35weeks, abeg eh, no vex, how una dey take turn for bed? Infact how una take dey manage to sleep abeg? For me it is the most challenging thing at this stage of my preggy journey o. Abeg if you get better method of sleeping, turning and getting up from the bed please share with me mbok. The heaviness is real.
Lemme come and be going...

Turning on the bed ke? I just try to scoot myself close to the edge of the bed and push myself up with my hands. The struggle is real. Is anyone feeling really bad pelvic pressure when they get up to pee at night?

Sassy256:

Mama abike12, please calm down this is not how to respond. That's a concerned husband talking and I see nothing wrong with his statements. He's not arguing with anybody so please don't take this personal.

Ok I really hope so because some men can be hard on their wives. Pregnancy is different for everyone so she may feel different from others.

yemeshak:
Good day everyone, my wife is 5weeks pregnant.

She has been weighed down by the pregnancy and I had a belief that it is too early for the pregnancy to be weighing her down . Pls house how soon does pregnancy symptoms start?

Also, at what week do we start antenatal?

what is the basis of your belief that it is too early? have you been pregnant before or do you have a uterus? There's a pregnant woman living with you and telling you how she's feeling but you want strangers to validate her symptoms... Why is that?

Vikcho:
you bastard keep shut

I really want Nigeria to get better, then I encounter some unfortunate products of a useless society like you, and I'm like some people deserve to suffer.

what will he say before?

BigIyanga:

Typical Naija oppressor mentality. The issue is not about age.
Per 1989 UK Law-HOTA, Live organ donor and recipient must be genetically related. Is the boy related to the Ekweremadus?
It’s also illegal to induce, coerce, manipulate or offer monetary compensation to donors.
Ignorant and arrogant leaders worshiped by ignorant followers like you.

Exactly

YorobaPIGS:
He cannot. Reason: He approves of tribalistic comment from fellow yarobas and Igbo haters on this forum, that why you see brainless pigs like that leodefool always exhibiting acute idiocy inherent in MOST yarobas

FYI I'm yoruba but I don't support any tribalistic comment. Nigeria has enough problems as it is. It's quite concerning that our youth want to carry on this legacy