chubinwa:
She wantyus to leave the kids to attend to a night club when we finally get married. Not only that, she wants to be wearing a highly revealing dresses that will be showing her thighs. What sort of indecnt craving is this. And she sees it as nothing. Am worried. I may break up with her.

oga you have your answer. She is for the streets. E good as she tell you now. Even if she changes mouth later, just know say na scan

Crossboy:
Is living with your parents between the age 25-35 embarrassing? 🤔

as long as you are also helping in the house financially while there, you can stay. Pay small small bills

ronet2:
Hello everyone,

I need some advice from medical persons on a possible exposure to HIV.

What is the probability of contracting HIV infection after protected sex with condom and washing of the genitals with soap and water.
So the story..
I had a one off sex with a lady on May 4th 2024 with condom. No oral,no kissing. After ejaculation,I removed the condom carefully,their was no condom tear/bust and went to the bathroom to wash off with soap and water ( i did not wipe off with tissue before washing off). So on 28th morning,I woke up with vomiting,diarrhea and localized abdominal pain on my lower left. Had a very mild fever the next day and I was treated for malaria and I recovered,though abdominal pain persisted for a while. I tested for HIV at 30 days post exposure and it came back negative.On 18th June 2024,the abdominal pain returned with diarrhea,lower back burning sensation and low grade fever the next day. I carried out culture test And Ulcer test, some bacteria was found and ulcer was positive. I was treated for ulcer and the abdominal pain stopped.

So my fear:
1.Can ulcer alone cause the symptoms described above?
2. Are their other possible STI/UTI test I need to carryout?
3. Is it possible that while washing off,the reminant of vaginal fluid on the pubic area can wash down to the tip of the penis and hence cause infection ( note I did not wipe off with tissue before washing off,meaning i might still have sperm at the tip)?
3. Can HIV transmit this way?
4. What are my chances that my 4 weeks negative test will not change after 3 months?

From wide search,I learnt that HIV 2 which is predominant in west Africa is a bit harder to transmit.

I'm still experiencing intermittent abdominal pain,burning sensation.

Thanks. 🙏 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

hahahaha I can bet 100k you don’t have HIV. I was like you for 6 years of my life. I go knack one babewith cd. E no burst ooo
Few days later I sick.

Sarcastic101:

No there's nothing to gain from getting married.

Married people can't even state what they have that they couldn't get when they were unmarried

let us get married first. If no b Wetin we think we go opt out. But let us taste it

Update147:
Woke up this morning thinking about my ex gf, I still love her dearly but can't go back to her cos she's a cheat.
But my question is why do I still love her anyway ?

it happened. Give it time

tgmservice:
Hello nairaland Fam need you input on this.

I am a married man going to 3 years now.
I was scrolling on Facebook when a Saw a video of man exercising in a Gym.

This man wore a short nicker and you could see the shape of his joystick dangling. His thing was really big
The issue is that when I scrolled down the comment section I saw a comment from my wife since we are friends on FB and this is exactly what she said in verbatim (guess she is not so smart I would see her comments)

" I love to eat this kind of Food" yea including the smiley face

From her profile pic you can clearly see she is a married woman even other people responded to her comment calling her all sort of names like Olosho and the rest, one even said I pity your Husband.


I saw this when I was in the Office and it clearly spoilt my day I could not concentrate at work anymore.
When I got home I challenged her regarding this comment and she said its nothing that its just a joke comment.

I have been angry as she seriously disrespected me and I am considering a divorce from the marriage.

you married an olosho oooooo. She even used her real page. Oga dat woman Dey cheat

Vikto17:
My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial support l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

”blood is not thicker than water”, very important message. Bro, comot your hand for him matter. No listen to Wetin anyone go talk

ebubeson:
But your parents can be healed of HIV. But I don't know if you are a Christian. Try this in one week and tell them to test again. You can help them since they are not strong.

Do 7 Days Midnight prayers for them. From 12:00 am to 2am. What should you pray about? But first tell them to repent and accept Jesus Christ. You also should do so.

Pray this for those seven days and hold same bottle of water for 7 days as you bless the water each day in the name of Jesus Christ.

(1) By the Power in the Blood of Jesus Christ, I break all covenants my Dad and Mum entered with the spirits, powers, viruses and demons of HIV and Aids in Jesus name. Amen. 2hours (Day 1).

(2) By the Power in the Blood of Jesus Christ, I destroy all dedications my Dad and Mum entered with the spirits, powers, viruses, demons of HIV and Aids in Jesus name. Amen. 2 hours (Day 2).

(3) By the Power in the Blood of Jesus Christ, I destroy the legal grounds, hand writings, decrees, judgements, evil case files my Dad and Mum have with the spirits, powers, viruses, demons of HIV and Aids in Jesus name. Amen. 2 hours (Day 3)

(4) By the Power in the Blood of Jesus Christ, I cast out the spirits, viruses, demons, powers of HIV and Aids in the soul, spirit, body and life of my Dad and Mum in Jesus name. Amen. 2 hours (Day 4)

(5) By the Power in the Blood of Jesus Christ, I replace the blood, cells, DNA of my Dad and Mum with the Blood of Jesus Christ in Jesus name. Amen. 2 hours (Day 5)

(6) By the Power in the Blood of Jesus Christ, I use the Blood of Jesus Christ to speak better things and HIV Negative in the blood of my Dad and Mum in Jesus name. Amen. 2 hours (Days 6)

(7) Lord Jesus, I thank you for changing the HIV status of my Dad and Mum in Jesus name. Amen. 1 hour.
Give your parents the water to drink and go for a re-test for HIV Negative.

lol funny people

SomeoneTalkToMe:
Looking for a relationship with someone abroad like myself: U.S, Canada, U.K, Germany, Ireland, Australia. Other countries welcome.

Candidates in Nigeria welcome.

I'm a citizen of my country and can travel to any part of the the world to meet or you come to me.

Do not message me if you are in any relationship currently, are chatting with ten thousand women already, were previously married, or are a single father (have kids).


Age 35 to 45.


Friendship first to check for compatibility.

you no put your age na

GeneralKoko:
Good day Nairalanders!

I'm 21 years and would be 22 this year. I would be finishing school by September and I plan to leave my parents house totally by the end of this year.
Although staying with my parents guarantee me free food and comfort I think on the long run it would limit me.

What's your advice??

nobody Dey pursue you. Go back home if you don’t have the resources yet, plan yourself while there and move out later. No follow these people wey Dey talk leave your comfort zone, na so them tell me but I no send them. I left at 26, and I am doing well. Paying bills no easy ooo and you have the most part of your life to pay

Salami234:
So on my first post I narrated how I had sex for the first time..(that ended up been an embarrassment do to my quick cum)

But what I didn't tell you guys was that it was actually a raw sex(i never planned to have sex in the first place),since then my mind have been restless, considering that I know the girl I had the sex with and also know her stories,how she live her life and all that,to be honest I have been disappointed since that very day till date(like this girl doesn't worth taking my virginity 😥😥😥😥)it's well shaa.


So today I decided to take bold step by going for HIV test,my blood sample was taken,and I was asked to come for the result tomorrow..

It better come out negative because if it eventually come out positive I will die even before the virus kills me(its either anxiety kills me or I commit suicide)I just pray it comes out negative..

Seriously the stress that comes before and after sex is more than the enjoyment..

About pregnancy the said girl saw her period a week + after the sex..

And for those that will querie why I had sex with such girl even after knowing many things about her, please forgive me,na mumu dey worry me...

It's been 25days after the sex...doctors in the house I hope the test can detect the virus (if there's any) within these time limit??

even if you were to be positive, you are still in the window period. 25 days is still short. To confirm you have to re test at 90 days

PrayWills:
Our court wedding was supposed to be on Friday. I caught her telling a married man I love you and calling each other all sweet names. I confronted her and she said she was telling of proving to me she was faithful that I should draw whatever conclusions I wanted to.

I went to work on Monday and came back and told her I wanted to pause the weeding until we could sort our issues and she said we should call it off totally.

As we speak she has moved back to her mom’s house with the two kids, what do I do?

PS: she was raised by a single mom

better be happy.

Barims:
I've been bothered by something lately. I'm 27 years old and studying at university. I've noticed that my classmates disrespect me by addressing me by my name, despite the fact that I'm significantly older than them—probably about 5 to 6 years older. It's really bothering me, and I'm not happy about it. Imagine someone I'm six years older than calling me by my name. Should I just distance myself from them since I'm uncomfortable with the way they treat me as if we were the same age? Or what'd suggest I do ?



Please no insult pleasure 🙏

u no serious. Shld they call you ancestor? Is dis even suppose to be an issue? Oga do graduate come face real life. Old man

Ezechi18:
At this juncture I will make the decision of letting her go, my trust for her keep decreasing.
She even chat her ex with my phone but he no de reply, now the pregnancy she carry I no send, it getting out for peace to reign.
I Don even Lynn finish cos of thought.

Like she went to ex family without telling me till I see her chat, I won burst😭😭😭😭😭😭

why you go Dey take such rubbish. Oga u must not marry her. Make she be baby mama

MrBrownJay1:
if you've managed to be married with this person for 9 long years and has two kids by her, you can manage her forever.... stop looking for cheap way out now. the character you described up there is the same character she had the day you met her.

what is this separation gonna achieve? why try to run away from your family under the pretense of better life?

funny. U never see person divorce after 25 years? Dey play

Clevagal:
My boyfriend lost his sister recently and he has been so distant. We don’t talk like we use to talk because he claims to be doing one thing or the other. He put his phone on DND so calling him is almost impossible. I really don’t know what to do because I really love this guy and want to be there for him but how can I when we barely talk and when we do…It’s just so short. I try not to ask him “are you okay” “hope you’re okay” because I know question being asked consistently can be very annoying.

Please help me on what I can do

he is sad. Give him space but be close by. Always text him every day even if he doesn’t reply.

olajos10:
My girlfriend believes she isn't good enough for me and thinks I deserve someone better. She owns a fashion design business, which I support in every possible way to help her brand grow. Although I'm not financially stable at the moment, I provide moral support and contribute my skills as a graphic designer and photographer to promote her brand.

Recently, she suggested we take a break because she doesn't want to burden me anymore. She even mentioned that if I find someone better during the break, I should move on.

I confronted her to understand her reasons, especially since I've never complained about supporting her or feeling stressed. Her response was, "You don't have to, because I don't want to be callous."

I don't know what to do now.

she don find better person. She no know how to tell you

eni070:
Though I haven't seen her with any man before. But she received calls in my present when ever she is with me. And when I ask her she tell me her male friends they just want to say hi or something else. I believe her because she doesn't Hide to receive the calls. Though I don't hear what the other party say on the phone. The problem now is she hide her phone from her. And she clam not having any outside affear. She clam working but anytime I call her I. Video call when she is at work she won't pick, she only call on video call when she outside or somewhere else like walking along roads side. I'm just so confused. I don't know if I'm wasting my time on her. You know ladies this days. Please no abuse words. Just advise.

I fit bet say she Dey cheat

chaddy16:
OP is not wrong. The fact is whether you have money or not, you'll still have to get married and have kids. So not everyone will make mad money like the 2nd poster said. The most important thing is try to be financially free. Life can never be fair to all and not everyone will make it big. Not every woman will even marry their dream men also. A lot of women out there are in their 40's and are still single coz no rich man is available to marry them. Just do what you have to do quick.

Money or no money, you will still die and your children too. Even your great grand children will die. Life isn't about only money.

what of people who don’t want to get married at all

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

you were wrong. You for just wait till morning

DarkLover:
Hello everyone, please my friend needs help🥲

I have this ex that we were cool when we were together some years back, life happened and I broke up with her because of some of her attributes I disdained.

So I traveled down home yesterday and I was surprised to find her in our place, it’s been over 3 years now and she won't move on, she's doing well in her personal life, she's got business of her own and a supportive family too, however, she’s obsessed with me and won’t let go. She already developed a close bond with my sister during our gf/bf period, and despite the fact that we no longer see each other, she still comes by occasionally to our place, my sis has told her several times that I've moved on and she should too but it seems she believes in us coming back together.

She is in our place rn and has been performing some wifely duties to my irritation, I traveled home to relax & I was surprised to see her, anyways I’ve been avoiding her as well as avoiding any conversation with her, I have a gf I'm not willing to trade or leave for anything.

Looking at her, I really feel for her but I can’t help her. My sis said she's obsessed with me and won’t even give any guy a chance, I can’t send her away ‘cos she’s seeing her friend which is my sister, I don't know how to help her.

ehhh go back your base na. That one concern am. If she tire she go give up

Lordsinger:
Hello house,
Good morning to you all.

I'm a guy in my late twenties, my girlfriend in her early twenties...
We really have a thing for each other, but we discovered we are both of the AS genotype.

Now my question is:
*Can IVF help us get children that will not have the SS gene?
*Can this be done here in Nigeria?
*Is it cost friendly?

Pls I need experienced answers on the above questions urgently, so that a man knows which way to go.
Gracias...

did you guys later break up?

uzomakanaki:
Good day Nairalanders.

What could make a lady date her fiancee's colleague? I'm done with ladies for now. This a bad experience.

I got a job for my now ex fiancee in the organisation where I work. We dated for 2 years. She was posted to a different branch office not far from mine.

A year on the job I began hearing rumours that she's going out with a senior colleague of mine in the same office with me. Those that I heard it from didn't know we were dating.

I confronted her and she denied it. I was not comfortable with her response, and one day she came to spend the weekend with me, I decided to go through her chat, I could not believe what I saw in her chat with this guy in question.

They've gone far to the extent of having sex with themselves which was said in the chat.

The next morning I confronted her with evidences of what I saw in her chat with my colleague, she became furious that I had no right to check her chat, with no sign of remorse. I was broken and at that point ended the relationship.

I've requested for a transfer out of that branch, cos I want to deal with this guy. Cos he's fully aware we were dating and have met us on different occasion outside.

Since the break up with my ex, he has been avoiding me in the office.

I never saw a dirty attitude in her at the early stage of our relationship, I never knew I was ready to marry a full blown LovePeddler who's looking for a platform to sell herself.

But for the guy I'll deal with him.

why would you deal with the guy? Was he your friend?

Invisible123:
Update!

The union ended 3 yrs ago just before my daughter clocked 1.

It's been a very torrid period without my daughter.

but what was the genotype of your kid

Timoleon:
tangible to me fit no be tangible to you. 10$, 15$ might be tangible to you, it's not to me. Rest

no Dey calculate the money for dollars. Na Naira dem give you. So make I give one mumu 100k cus I don Dey abroad 16years? Una funny. I bin owe am before I comot country?

Timoleon:


Him no need give am anything. After all, for 16 years, e no give, nobody die. If he felt it was time to do something, he shoulda have done something tangible, if he wasn't in a comfortable space to do something tangible he should have simply maintained status quo.

I really don’t understand. Explain this something tangible. Like how much na, 100k?

Timoleon:
Lol...this is worse than insult. It's better to not send anything than ring someone up after 16 years in the abroad just to send 12$.

Some people will say it's 'entitlement mentality'. But if I see you for road, you dey mind your business I come hala say I know say life hard, take 50 naira go find biscuit chop, before you die for our neck. You go reason better blow for mouth. After all, you no beg me for food or for money. Despite the fact that I just gave you my 'hard earned' money, you'd know in your heart of hearts that I just undermined you.

For 16years, bro has been managing to survive, How would you message him out of the blues to send him 12$. One carton of indomie.

I no understand, make him give am 100k?

Jewessgratitud3:
A neighbor of mine called me on Saturday and was complaining bitterly about his Bossom friend.

He told me his friend travelled to the US in 2008 and after a few calls they lost contacts. Last week his friend messaged him and said he's aware of the hardship in naija and asked him to send his account details. My neighbor did and after a while he received an alert of 20k. I said wow!.. that's a miracle. but he hushed me and said I should let him finish.


He said immediately he did the conversion it came to 12.8 dollars. He now said after 16 years it 12 Dollar the friend could send to him that that's an insult.
I tried to make him understand the friend may not be doing well over there but he said the guy is doing well that he's weighing the naira value of the money and feels 20k is big money. He said he feels insulted. Me I just carry my two long legs Waka leave my ungrateful neighbor.

Is my neighbor right and did his friend do wrong by sending that kind of amount? 12 Dollars...

To me the friend did not do any wrong but my neighbor feels he could do better.that 12 Dollar is like 1,200 hundred naira to them over there.

Guys what will you do if you were my neighbor?

thunder fire the neighbors. Was he owing him before he left?

Starboytwo:
No born pass 2 abeg.

Unless you want shege Promax.

Your parents born plenty children and the money you suppose use dey take care of your wife na him you dey send to your siblings.

Your wife must complain. No TV, no money, no GP tank, and you say make she nor complain.

Remember sir, no born plenty children unless na Promax shege you seek.

May God help you. No condition is permanent.

2 ke? Make him no even try to born for now. Later him fit born 1

AkporsMechanical:
I promise to be very brief.
My wife and I live in a three bedroom flat without paying rent, although we only occupy one room since we don't have much property yet. The owner of the house abandoned the house before now and when we had accomodation issue asked us to stay there. We have been here since last year. However, there is no Geepee tank to supply water into the house. We could only pump water into our little drum when there is light. So I always go fetch water from the neighbouring compounds whenever there is no light which have resulted into several insults. My wife has been dragging me that I must buy a Geepee tank.

My salary as a private school teacher is barely enough to feed us talk more of saving to buy a Geepee tank especially in this economic crisis. In the midst of all these, my wife's phone went bad and needed a new one Just this afternoon, my wife started raining insults on me that I am not behaving like a man at all, that I should have settled down fully before thinking of marriage, that I want to make her go hungry. This was because I told her I would cut off some part of my salary to be saving so I can buy curtain for our room, television and save for Geepee tank. She even went ahead to say I am poor and wretched just because I can't afford her a new phone for now.

Since afternoon, I have refused to eat. My problem here is that my parents love my wife and my parents are far from where I reside. And I don't want to report my wife to my parents so it won't bring disrespect later to her in the future. Secondly, as the first born of my parent,I don't know how my parents will take it if I tell them I don't want to marry her again so they don't have b.p. I am really really confused. The little extra money I get from extra tutorial is what I do send to my two siblings in school even though is very little compare to their needs but at least it is something.

I feel like running away but to where? I truly love my wife but she is regretting marrying me. Please what can I do?

did you see these signs before getting married to her? What does she do? Do you guys have kids yet? Please answer then I would know how to advise

Mranonymous50:
Hello nairaland family, this is gonna be a long one, sorry just need to lay out all the details so you guys will get the clear picture.

I'll be 40 this may. I plan to settle down this year but I'm torn between 2 women. One is an old flame I was supposed to settle down with 9 years ago but I wasn't ready back then so she married another dude, it was a shabby marriage as the guy didn't even come for her with his people from his father's side but rather from his mum's and he was keeping the whole thing a secret, there was no church wedding or traditional ceremony, just the people he came with to pay bride price and then he took her to court to collect marriage certificate, then 3 weeks later he left the country and never came back, except four years ago where he spent a month and then disappeared again. But the kicker is she was pregnant with my baby before she married that dude. it is painful knowing that my baby doesn't even know me but I had to do what I think is best for her and the mother, it would'nt make any sense interfering in her marriage and likely end up destroying it because I wanted access to my baby, I thought that would be selfish so I console my self knowing that the girl's family is well off and my baby girl wouldn't really lack anything.
The marriage has been hell for her and she discovered the guy is impotent, so he is unable to father a child which he knew before marrying her but kept it a secret from her and pretended like he was the father of my baby girl, although it was obvious he had no atom of love for her. The dude even married another white woman over there. This guy just caged her and wasting away her life. I loved this woman and still do, we didn't communicate all these years because we had a huge fight, so out of anger we both stopped communicating, we discovered recently the real reason for the fight was because she was deceived back then by another lady that wanted to be with me but that is story for another day.

The issue now is I am in a serious relationship with another woman whom I have been with for 2 years, I have already proposed and she accepted, but we had a serious fight and didn't talk for a month and coincidentally that was the period my former lover reestablished contact.

Reconnecting with her made me realize what I have been missing. With her for the first time in a long time I feel I am not being pressured. I feel really respected and appreciated unlike my current fiance that spends all day on Instagram and always billing me, because she doesn't work which is ok by me, although recently she has been really serious about starting a business, but she is like let me say "semi feminist" she thinks we should have equal rights which does not go down well with me, for example she will always want me to be in the kitchen with her if she is cooking, she really believes it's my responsibility to take care of her, I don't have a problem with that but how can you still think we are equals. She has a lot of friends and goes to a lot of parties, she likes showing off on social media and when I complain she subtly tells me I should stop hiding and to go make friends, I am an introvert and enjoy being alone and I avoid anything public. I am anxious around her and this affects our sex life, we hardly have sex because I don't feel aroused by her sometimes a month or even 2 months and we won't be intimate despite the fact that she is very beautiful she turns heads, tall and has the shape every woman envies, I my self is very handsome dark and tall with good physique and people always stare at us whenever we go out. And when we eventually do have sex I don't last at all and she complains. She has her good side, she is homely clean and really takes care of the house, highly intelligent and her advice have saved me from disasters a couple of times and for that I love her, her network of friends gives her good connections.

With my old flame things are very different, I was beginning to think something was wrong with my sex life until we reunited. we can make love many times everyday and I last a long time, looking at her just turns me on, she is very respectful she has her own house and a car, but still very humble unlike my fiance. Issue is her husband won't let her go, the man is unreachable, he can call her anytime he wants but she can't call him. She has told him she wants out, her family doesn't believe in divorce and everybody thinks her husband is the father of the baby. Only her mother knows because I called and told her way back then and she is keeping that a secret. The mum knows what the daughter is going through as she has even attempted to take her life on one occasion, but for some reason she doesn't want the daughter out of the marriage. I don't know if it's because of there old way of thinking or because of what the money the guy sends her but the mum is also very wealthy and owns houses in Lagos.
The daughter is afraid of what will happen if people find out her husband isn't the father as the husband is always threatening to expose her. I love the two women what should I do?

bro go for an entirely different person

EreluRoz:
I personally don't believe in women contributing financially at home however she should help immediately she observed the weight is getting heavier on you without being told.
Buying snacks for kids if you insist on a particular area.

funny. Come abroad, you go believe