crackhaus:
Mtcheeeeeeeww...

Pitiful, ball-less, spineless, and full of self-pity...

An advise would be wasted on you.

Brother no one is asking for your pity I only ask for advice from reasonable people. You may feel you are wise until you fall into a situation that we make you look fool.

[quote author=izzou post=107807692]

So sorry, brother.

This one weak me

Is her dad alive?[/quote

He's late.

izzou:
I really don't want to dwell much on the issue you have, but what annoys me is why your wife would run to her parents' house whenever there's a misunderstanding.

And what kind of parent would keep their child at home? When it's not a case of domestic violence?

If my future wife tries it just once, that would be the last time she'll step a foot in my apartment.

Very disgusting attitude

I pray you will not marry into a wrong family.

I refused visiting her family twice when we were dating when she was pestering me to come and visit them but since thvday I visited everything changed and I began to follow her like mumu.

The family is bad, I discovered this after marriage. It appears there is a curse on their family. Her elders are not doing well I secure job for one when in that recruiting firm, one other is jobless, the third is not doing one serious job and the only sister she has is in their mothers house with her children and I learnt she has another child with another man later when I married my wife.

quote author=Klass99 post=107805288]I'm thinking a separation at this time might be a good thing, while you focus on your recovery (mental & economic recovery, I mean)

I wasn't clear from your narrative if you're still down on your luck, but if you are, just focus on getting back on your feet before you take your next steps forward.

Let her stay at her parents with the kids for now, I am not sure how long that will last at her end but hold out until she makes the first reconciliation move.

But, how do you feel about all the text messages you've come across? Were you genuinely destabilize by them or you couldn't be bothered? I'm just trying to understand how you have seen chat after chat and still kept your cool till now. Is it because she's been the piper for a while? Meaning no offence to you.....just curious.[/quote]

Felt bad of course...
One was asking her to pick axis to meet.

She actually initiated the move with one man.

The one that infuriate me most is one bleaching with local look that is calling her my baby, guess they had an affair before.

But I'm a little bit toughen emotionally that I did not feel too bad probably because of the worst experience I had back then in 2018

I need a very reasonable advice from this wonderful forum.

I got married close to a decade ago and the marriage is blessed with two kids.
Though things were tough at the beginning because wife lost her job and I bore the burden solely for 4 years, we had our st child 5 months after wedding andh the second 2 years later. Lost my job around the time our second kid arrived, we kept struggling with great hope. Around 2017 she connected me with a mam that help with an adhoc work in a recruiting firm, I got their within 2 months I helped madam to secured a marketing job, I managed with the job for like 8 months before it ended. Immediately it ended Madam began to behave funny let's I forget I sold my car to pay for her final year exam and also gave her money to get the certificate all amounting to 250k then. Around 2018 I was thrown back to the labour market and I was shown hell by wife, several calls of men, knew about 4 men through her watssap messages that she had affairs with I always get to see these whenever she fell asleep with her phone in her hand. 2019 I got back on my feet and I noticed she stopped the runs. Meanwhile she made so much money during the period of her escapades because of clients deposit that earned her bonuses at work but squadder a huge sum on travelings which were unsuccessful. She joined another financial institution this year and she handles client that need loan, 2 months after securing the job she started talking of getting car ordinarily I would have discouraged her but being someone that is always resolute in her decision making I quickly wade in so as to safe her from men that may want to take advantage of her as this has happened before I tried to inquire about the source of fund for the car she said she liase with a client to take loan that she will only pay back the principal portion that the client will pay the interest and she will be using all her salary to pay back, before we got the car I told her to go for a lesser car like 700k but she said it's 1m she budget for Nigeria used Toyota Corolla. But since we have got the car madam is so stressed up financially while I take care of all the bills even before she got the car she has not be helpful in the area of bill but only buy food stuff whenever she feels like but since she got the car she's still pestering me to be funding the maintenance of the car she drives to work everyday. I saw her chat with a man like 3 months ago and from the chart she was wooing the man for financial assistance, they arrange a meeting which I'm sure something must have transpired between them I confronted her and she promised not to see him again, my main pro is that in her new office some people around there know me we carried out maintenance work on the car recently that got her to online loan debt and I can observe that she was connecting with some men again for financial help, I got some messages confirming her promiscuity again and I confronted her she began to raise excuse here and there I was so mad with her that she thought I will beat her but thank God I didn't though we kept away from each other for 3 days but on getting home yesterday I discovered she had packed her loads and kids loads and left for her parents house and this should be her 4th time of doing this whenever we have misunderstanding. I love my kids but her attitude is making me to gradually loose the the love I have for these kids. I reported her to her mum she was kneeling down and begging me yesterday but for how long I'm I going to continue with this woman...

Please I need advice that will guide my decision, I only fear for those innocent kids future because she doesn't seem to care about their present well being though she claims all she is doing is to process traveling to secure their future.