i guess no-one really wants to be termed a loser, and some truly cant handle rejection

dont think so.
the easiest person to deceive is yourself,
so no matter what you do, someone will be getting less of what should be given.
i wouldnt want to be that person, would you?

yeah! i mean why not.
if you both understand and respect each other, i dont see what's to stop you,

well reading thru yours', one can see that you are seriously contemplating this move.
you seem to have a head on your shoulders, so this would be a good time to use it.
if you feel you can handle this without complicating things between your girl, then i will say go on,
but ultimately, its' really not about what ever advice you get here, if you mean to do this, no-one can stop you,
its your call man, and its your life.

i agree with nimi-k. architects here will be able to give you a design that works. when you say calabar, i think you can add more value to your investments if you consider a hotel or such like.