Waiting for the bad belles and fault finders

Fairview1:



C'mon bruv!

This is just a sheer reminder of that which is necessary that we forget to do most times.

First off, I'm female

Secondly, we already know that except you didn't grow up in a typical African home where your parents feel entitled to your earnings, you'll practically share your salary with them.

It. Is. An. Unwritten. Rule

And no be today

It's not ideal, but that's what it is. A lot of people do that and more and we don't see them make a fuss about it

If it's your husband, would he still be with you?


Nairalanders are hypocrites sha

Lol

Some people here bear the weight of their family's finances and you'll never see them make noise about it. You just sent airtime of 3k that some people here dash beggars and you're opening thread

SEGLIZ:

same thought crossed my mind cause I know such option do exist.
except this individual is new to ATM!?

Same thing I think

Rare occurrence but then couldn't you click others and withdraw in tranches of 20/40k?

Your tory get as e be

Inside life

Mehn, don't give up

You have no other choice really except you know people that know people that know other people that can help you or you have a productive business. If not, keep grinding, one day e go pay

freecocoahubby:
Wtf! Are you a child bride? Did you go to school at all?

Mad oh

saffyy:
Please for some of us who already have like two years experience relating to banking. Would there be any advantage attach to it after training school?

Lol.

Have you gotten to TS that you're looking for advantages? This question would have been best answered at the assessment centre in my opinion

Everybody is saying no make-up, who are the people that makes their underage daughters up then?

You've said it all

You just have to give it to the whites, these beautiful decorations serve the dual purpose of aesthetics and trees preservation...you don't have to cut down trees to have beautiful Christmas decorations. A valid point made with these decorations

You and your husband are very funny, I hope you sha have money to take care of the ones you have on ground...

The person that wanted to marry you was never yours in the first place, if he was, he'd have found a way to make things work with you.


As for your dad, sorry to say, he's an excuse of a parent and doesn't deserve your regard for anything. Next time get a stand in uncle from your mom's side to take his place. If he can take himself out of all your lives and leave you all to fend for yourselves, he doesn't deserve respect or regard now. Don't allow him continue to make your lives miserable, there's a difference between being a father and just donating sperm. Sperm donors do not deserve the treatment reserved for fathers and vice versa. Cut that toxic man from your life.

Liposure:
emotionally and physically, yes but financially, no. a woman doesn't hav 2 be finacially stable 2 get married.

Lol, that's why you end up carrying load for her and her family members better shine your eyes and face reality

ednut1:
both gender are confused

Women aren't actually, we always go for the strongest option, men want a lot and nothing at the same time

ednut1:
i said many. No be this same 9ja men say they cant marry a career banker woman but prefer chilling jobs like teaching. Over 70% of 9ja men prefer broke women as they endure all kinds of shits

Nigerian men are confused no be today

seanblaise:

Why you dey smile?
Are you a broke woman?

Modified

Lol


Later you people will say you hate feminism

Whenever the woman is emotionally, financially and physically ready then she should get married. Anything aside that is an invitation to Nairaland family lamentation threads.

Iseeksolution:

Thanks... I am glad it is working out for you.
My mum will make matters worse... She is always on his side.... Always... Maybe for her reputation... I don't even know.
As for my husband.... He even keeps pictures of his Ex(hard copies) ... Still in contact with some... It's crazy!

Did you not see any of these pictures before marriage?

Family section is where it's happening

Stanfeelings:

How has this helped? She said she is fed up. it wasnt getting easy, rather getting worse. and u see no issue with it? wow

So what else should I advice her to do when she could have nipped the bud of the trend when it first started?

Abegi next!

It seems like everybody is unhappy in their marriage on NL

How have you been dealing with it for the past ten years?


Continue in the same way

KingGBsky:


I follow nairaland so much and what I see about the ladies here is so predictable. If this was about a lady not happy in her home you will see all the feminists all out to tell the woman to quit the marriage, that her happiness is what matters most. Now it’s about a man not happy in a home that’s not even a complete marriage yet, you’ll ladies are asking him to endure. Chai. It’s a pity. Bro do what will give you happiness. No woman has the right to put a man in unhappiness. For what reason? If she chooses to make your life a living hell, then leave her and be with whoever gives you happiness. A man will work and provide for his home for one woman to make his life a living hell. Them never born that woman.

Modified: Seriously you shouldn’t be talking about going into another marriage yet. Take it easy bro and learn a lesson.

Your argument is neither here nor there, you just want to witch-hunt feminists. Please avoid me

This pretty much sums up all the marital issues threads.

MrBrownJay1:


FIXED

if the above is what he has been doing all along, and you were "ok with it" in order to keep the peace, then i suggest you A) continue keeping the peace and B) accept that this is the man you have and NOTHING you do (apart from divorce) will change that.
all the above you wrote are partly your fault. you did exactly what many are doing in their desperate state to marry: they accept any rubbish thinking that they could change that said man later.

Nairaland marriage palava weak me


All of you just seem to have issues that would have been obvious if you took your time to know the person well during courtship.

Audio rice

Ralpdee123:



Agreed.

Maybe you should be sensible enough to share how you solved yours rather than shading me untop my problems........

Can we rest now...

If you had sense you won't open this thread

Ciao

Ralpdee123:


Go...Jaree!
Try and be sensible.....
Your time is coming....

Will never be like yours because I'm taking the necessary steps to put my life in place before ending up with anybody. If you had allowed yourself time to grow and really know your wife, you wouldn't be in this mess.


Now you're there, stick it out because whether you like it or not, your 'lying and lazy' wife is now part of your life forever.