Catch them young; so said a sage. Why?

A girl started having penetrative sex at the age of ten. As she grew older, she felt cheap, dirty and cheated so she stopped: but the damage had been done. She has already lost the respect for the use of her body so it wasn’t long before she resumed dutyhttp://mywardandi.com.ng/2016/07/15/what-is-the-right-age-to-start-discussing-sex-with-your-child/

Femi is a young boy of six from a small town in Nigeria. He spoiled a toy in school and was confronted by his teacher. Instead of telling his teacher the truth, he decided to lie that his brother did it. The teacher punished Femi’s brother by flogging him in front of the assembled student the next morning.
You might have had a similar story; even your child might have done something similar to this. What will you do? Will you just leave him believing that he will change has he grows older. That would be an erroneous thinking. If you want your child to grow up to be a respectable, morally upright adult, then you need to come in.
HOW TO STOP YOUR CHILD FROM LYING
MAKE YOUR CHILD BELIEVE THAT ALL LIES ARE BAD
Some people believe that there is a white lie which is good and there is a black lie which is bad. If you are also an advocate of this philosophy, then it will be difficult for you to help your child who lies. Human has this psychological ability to turn something that is bad to good. All that is required; is to consistently assure yourself that this thing that people believe is bad is good for me.
This psychology ability of human goes through three stages:
The first stage is; wishing that something that is bad is good
The second stage is; believing that what is bad is not all that bad
The final stage is; totally convinced that what is bad is good
How does this psychological reasoning affect your child you might ask?
Children are very smart. If you believe in this theory of white and black lie, they will sense it in your utterances and it won’t be long before they start turning those lies you termed as black to white on their head.
KNOW THE TYPE OF LIES THAT IS BEING TOLD BY YOUR CHILD
We have three different types of lies
1. Malicious lies: These are lies that are told to harm another person.
2. Pressure of the moment lies: These lies are told under the pressure of the moment perhaps to avoid embarrassment or punishment.
3. Normal lies: These lies are http://mywardandi.com.ng/2016/07/13/how-to-stop-your-child-from-lying/

Aunty Yinka held Linder’s shoulders and looked into her eyes.

“Linda what is wrong with you? Do you feel sick dear? Should I call your parent to come and get you? Better still, I could arrange for the bus to go and drop you at home if your mum will be around.”

“No. No. No aunty. I am fine.”

“So why are you crying?”

“It’s ……. It’s……” Linda said and turned to point a finger at Tade but she knew she better not do that.

“It’s who?” Anty yinka asked

“It’s nothing.” Linda lied.
“But it has to be something. You were crying.”

“Something entered my eyes.”

“Really?”

“Yes.”

“So why were you running out of the class?”

“I wanted to……… rinse out whatever it was that entered my eyes.”

Anty Yinka looked at Linda. She knew she was lying but she just decided to let go for now.

Something is definitely going on in this class and I promise to get to the bottom of it Aunty Yinka promised herself.
It was the last class they will have before they go for lunch break.

“What if my lunch got picked?” Linda asked herself. She had already been disturbed by the scene that was acted out by Tade in the morning. As Linda was musing in her mind, the bell was wrung and her heart skipped.

Linda reluctantly brought out her food just like all her mates were doing. They all placed their food flask on the table and opened it. Tade moved from food to food to select the one he would pick for that day. Tade got to Linda’s side and saw that she has not open her food.
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“Mayday! Mayday!” The mythical call of a distressing child. She could be the next target and he could be the next victim. Save your child today.

It is a known fact that our children are more exposed to sexual predators in this age. What is so sickening about this is that it could happen to anybody. Even the children of the most observant and vigilant parents could be preyed upon. But cheer up, something could be done. One of my friends would say, “Suspicion is a sin”. Is that how you feel too?

Well, there truly should be a limit to the act of suspicion lest one becomes paranoid. When it comes to the subject of this discourse however, no stone should be left unturned. Sadly, the bad news is 90% of sexual predators are people that the children love and trust. It could be in the school, daycare centre, place of worship, in the neighborhood, even in one’s own house! Yes. The good news is sexual predators have traits that could be identified.
IDENTIFYING POTENTIAL PREDATORS

– They select children that are vulnerable and easily trusting.

– They get close with the child by display of affection, and pretending to play with them.

– They give generous gifts and make the child feel special.

– They gradually isolate and spend time alone with the child.

– They encourage the child to keep secret from parent/guardians.

– They seduce the child gradually.

By the foregoing then, we can actually derive the method to identify these monsters. So whenever you notice any of these actions toward your ward, act fast to protect your ward.

BE YOUR WARD’S TRUSTED LINE OF COMMUNICATION

When your children trust you completely, they will innocently tell you very thing that happens to them.

READ AND KNOW YOUR WARD’S MOOD

When you can successfully read and understand your child’s mood, you would be able to know when they are keeping secret from you or when they are troubled.
TEACH YOUR WARD TO ACT FAST

Teach your child to act whenever they feel uneasy with someone. Train them never to be too shy to leave or boldly say no whenever they feel awkward or uncomfortable with anyone.

GIVE A SOLID FOUNDATION OF SEX EDUCATION TO YOUR WARDS

A convicted child molester once said, “Give me a child who knows nothing about sex and you’ve given me my next victim.” That is chilling! Sadly, many parents shy away from discussing sex with their children right from childhood, terming such moment as awkward. That should not be so.
There are ways to do this without the child feeling disturbed or embarrassed at the same time understanding the importance and seriousness of the subject.

Our next article will teach you how to do this successfully.

AVOID DISPLAY OF ADULT PRIVATE PART IN FRONT OF YOUR WARDS

Never allow your children the comfort of seeing adult private parts, especially that of the opposite sex. Children are so naïve and innocent and might not be alarmed if, having been exposed to seeing such back home, someone bares a private part of opposite sex in front of them. Aren’t they used to seeing it after all? So what is the big deal they may feel? Of course as they grow older, they might be curious as to what it actually looks like, and gradually, be curious as to what it actually feels like. That is why sex education is a step by step process that should be discussed with children right from tender age.
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