mystikc77:

I must disagree with you regarding your statement West Indian do no like American or African American, please don't lead these people to put labels on us. I am West Indian from Trinidad engage to an Igbo man and I love him as we'll as all my American men, black white Indians etc.

I apologize if anyone is mislead by my statement. It is something that I have been brought up with and was told. I have seen it with my own eyes time and time again. I was just trying to point out that West Indians have a lot in common with native Africans and that everything should not be about stereotypes no matter where you are from.

Why did God allow his son to die? The reason is very simple and it starts with Adam. Because Adam sinned in the Garden of Eden, he disobeyed a revealed will of GOD. God cannot dwell with sin (disobedience) because it is contrary to HIM, and he has no sin in HIM. Remember GOD breathed into Adam and he became a LIVING SOUL. What GOD breathed into Adam was his Holy Spirit which is a life force. God warned Adam that in the day you eat of the tree of Good and Evil you shall surely die. After disobeying this command, the life force that was breathed into Adam had left. This is when and why he started to die. Sin is like a disease that is carried on from parent to child from generation to generation. When GOD said "you shall surely die" to Adam, he meant Adam and all that came from Adam. Meaning his wife Eve who was made from his rib and his children that he bore. Man was not made to die and this is why it took Adam so long to do so 939 years I believe.
Lets'skip forward Abraham found favor in GOD's eyes and therefore the nation of Israel was chosen by GOD for Abraham's righteousness. In order to find favor at this point sacrifices had to be made to appease GOD for the sins of the nation.
When Jesus comes into the picture, he is sent to be the connecting factor between GOD and Man to reconcile the relationship that was in the beginning. You must be repentant of your sins before GOD because remember he cannot dwell with sin. Jesus is the medium between GOD and Man and he had to die, a sinless sacrifice had to be made because we are sinful. For one man's sin (ADAM) we were condemned and for one man's sacrifice (JESUS) we are saved. Do you see the analogy? Because of Jesus's sacrifice GOD the Father no longer sees the sin of Adam but the sinlessness of Jesus who is the last sacrifice that appeases GOD.
For those out there who question this please I beg you to take a look at yourself and take a look at the order of the World we live in. The order of seasons, where we are located in the solar system, the way our bodies are made, even our healing process. Do you really think that the whole of creation with all the different species that exist were created by a BIG explosion . IF so, then who started the BIG explosion, how did it come to be?

what's the problem with washing a girls undies? Women do it for men and men have a discharge as well. I dont get it.

One question: Is what you put into the relationship worth your life?
If you value your life you would leave before you lose it.

Yes i do and have found out some interesting things. I do it openly in front of him now. But honestly facebook and other social networks can bring the death to a relationship. The main point in creating facebook was to meet people and find people you may have lost touch with over time. But once you found that special someone, why go hunting on social networks for others?

Yes, mine has my passwords even though he may not use them but still I have nothing to hide.

Your friend can either accept her for who she is and move on in a positive direction or leave. I believe he wants to stay bc he is looking for advice. The first lesson here is marriage is for better or for worse. She may have entertained other men bc the guy in question waited so long to be sure about his HIV status, or bc she may have believed that he no longer wanted to be with her. Women think very differently from men and the fact that he told her to move on does not mean that is what he wanted her to do. He was just making her aware of the situation and allowed her to make a choice. From what was said I do believe she loves him bc she would not have stayed with a man who "may" have been HIV positive and still slept with him bc a condom is not 100% proof and still move onto marry him. I would suggest sticking it out. Marriage is hard work but the rewards of it are priceless. Just make sure this is a behavior that is not instilled in her. Give her a choice again. If she values the relationship and the future she should make her mate feel like this is something that will not repeat itself. What is important are the goals the both of them share together. ;DYour friend can either accept her for who she is and move on in a positive direction or leave. I believe he wants to stay bc he is looking for advice. The first lesson here is marriage is for better or for worse. She may have entertained other men bc the guy in question waited so long to be sure about his HIV status, or bc she may have believed that he no longer wanted to be with her. Women think very differently from men and the fact that he told her to move on does not mean that is what he wanted her to do. He was just making her aware of the situation and allowed her to make a choice. From what was said I do believe she loves him bc she would not have stayed with a man who "may" have been HIV positive and still slept with him bc a condom is not 100% proof and still move onto marry him. I would suggest sticking it out. Marriage is hard work but the rewards of it are priceless. Just make sure this is a behavior that is not instilled in her. Give her a choice again. If she values the relationship and the future she should make her mate feel like this is something that will not repeat itself. What is important are the goals the both of them share together.

:DSounds like she was embarassed and does not want to endure that pain again. Time heals all wounds. You can try to use a common person between the two of you to get her back. But if to no avail, leave her be, let her heal, she may still be hurting. The problem is that you cut her off with no closure, no real reason. Imagine the pain she dealt with after you left her for another. Yes you broke her heart and you have to accept it no matter how painful it may be for you to move on but, I am sure a lesson has been learned. Best wishes.

I am sorry to hear that she was raped. Just bc someone goes to a party does not mean that they want to be violated in such a manner. She was graduating and wanted to celebrate. We can all say what she should have done but as you can see it wasnt her style of going to party or drinking. Women get raped everyday just by walking down the street. Should one stop living life just bc there are some out there that do not value it?

I believe you did not read my statement correctly. I did not say I hate Americans, I said West Indians hate them. What is said is that African Americans are lazy, dont like to work and have a bad culture. I also stated I was made fun of by my own family members who used the term "Yankee" when referring to me or my other american born counterparts. If I was closed minded then I would not have taken the step to marry a man from a culture that is known to have a bad stigma, now would I?

I am an American born woman who has parents from the West Indies. I was not raised as an American by my parents and I have come to marry a Nigerian man, who has been good so far to myself and my son from a previous marriage. What I have come to understand so far is that nigerians do have a different view of Americans and it does frustrate me at times because West Indians and Nigerians share a lot of the same cultural values, and I find myself having to point these out to my husband at times. This is not new to me though because in the West Indian culture growing up we were often called Yankee by our trinidadian family members. It still makes me cringe to this day to hear the word. West Indians do not really like Americans, esp. African-Americans. I think it is not only a Nigerian thing but a world wide stigma. I do at times point out to my husband the stigma that Nigerians carry when marrying American women because they are known to do such things as get papers and leave. I do not think there is anything you can do to stop a person from leaving. Yes it is unfortunate that there are women and men out there who may be subject to this kind of thing. I can only advise to be careful in all decision making and take with a grain of salt. I can only pray that my marriage is successful and blessed by God Almighty.