1.) Its understandable that nigerians feel this way about second hand clothes as "second hand is the poor and hopeless" is what has been passed down through generations.
2.) The medium used to display and market second hand clothes projects that image of poor and hopeless.
3.) Nigerians; you need to change your mentality, second hand doesn't necessarily mean "bend down and pick me up"; afterall you do buy second-hand cars; how do you know the previous owner didn't carry an infection?

There's absolutely nothing wrong with second hand clothes; people throw clothes away everyday, the rich and the poor! If it's in good condition and it fits; what's the problem -you know how to wash clothes right!

On a biblical approach
The bible says that the words of the Lord does not leave his mouth and go back to him without accompishing what it has been sent to accomplish. The words says that Eve (Eve represents women be it animal/ human/ plants or whatever) is cursed with birth pains, so it is. (our God is not unjust)

On a scientific approach
"henchmark" has the right idea

This story is very touchin and my heart goes out but girl, u have to b strong and u have to b wise!

You won't get anywhere sitting at home crying so forget that (it will only make u feel sorry for yourself)!

In this life there are always choices, and this is where u have to start -do you want to stay and work through your marraige or do u want to leave? the choice is yours. As christians, we know that marraige is an area of "real" testing and to give up is NOT to grow up. if u run when things r bad- u'll always keep running.

My tips to u "if" u decide u want to stay and make it work are:

1. u have no business with the other woman so don't waste ur time trying to confront or fight her or reply her email (that's just waste of energy and she fit abuse u -soo tee-).
2. u need to win ur man back and this is where ur focus should b
3. get a babysitter for ur kids (ask family) and GET A JOB- the first thing men complain about is finances and how their wife isn't supplying any and who better to complain to that the ex! This also tells your man that ur too busy for this crap!
4. in the bedroom you need to make the action long and sweet, and make sure ur in control of the flow (i no fit teach u this one oooh- my only pointer is u need to b on top)
5. u need to please ur man, don't stop ur wife duties because of whats happening
6. talk to friends and family on the phone in his presence (about everything else but the situation) laugh out loud and enjoy ur self -this will help u take ur mind off whats going on and ur man will respect u for being strong through this dificult time (basically, ur too busy for this crap)
7. spend time with him without the kids, (u don't have to go out) -show him that u're interested in whats happening in his life, treat him like a big baby (cuddles, kisses- pay him attention) and he will gradually open up
8. u also need to be looking good always, 4 months is long enough!
9. u want to get to a position where ur man is content at home (he'll then have no need for conversations with the ex)
9. pray, put it in Gods hands. this is last NOT because it's the least important (it's the most important) but it doesn't work alone (u have to act in the natural which is reinforced with ur prayers in the supernatural)

there is only so much we can all say but i pray that God will give u d wisdom to c it through!

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i wanna make new friends, keep in touch with ma bros & sis, keep up with culture and catch jokes!
i love the fact that we are spread all over the world and we meet in this one place, hope you welcome me into the family!

reading thru the replys, a lot of u say oyinbo people "kolo" -i say u can't blame them! 
Majority of oyinbo do not look after their parents talk less grandparents!
u no fit blame am !o! mayb d dog na d only thing wey dey keep am company for who knows how long!
she probably did to ensure the dog is treated well after her death!