I don't know, where are u based?

@ my children, its Metformin and this also regulates period,

@ Baaby, y are you stressing yourself for a boy after having 3 girls. Have you seen our list 90 ladies and not one single baby. Besides the reason you don't have a boy is due to your hubby's chromosomes, bet hubby won't b happy if you mention the XX, XY chromosome things. Just take it easy and enjoy your girls o. If I had 3 girls, I'll be closing shop and wouldn't even bother myself anymore after suffering infertility for 7+ years.

@ Alwaystrue, e pass me ni. In life you have to jump through hoops. Nothing in life is easy unless its charity. That was the reason I asked if he got a job immediately after finishing primary school. Maybe if he did, then he won't stress his wife. That would mean he got everything on a platter of gold.

This infertility sef e pass me. When I was ill, went to my GP said I had a mass in my tummy anyway the thing turned out to be our old girl fibroid. I notice some people mentioned how to shrink this naturally. Pls repost whoever has successfully done this. I've 4 Hysteroscopy in 5 years and they always say its outside my uterus and shouldn't be a prob, but who knows

@ Adedoyinsola, Happy Belated Birthday!!! Welcome to the 30s club!! Soon it will be welcome to Mammies club IA.

@ Omonikiba, glad you've recovered.

Anyways peeps, laterz

@ Tundeseun, I don't even know what to say, What happened to preservering. As if your husband just finished primary school and he got a job straight away. All these are tests from God, if he wants to chuck you out, don't let him at all. Let him himself go to his parents house. Oshisko!!! Who born monkey?

@ Fruitful Ruby, some clinics use the pill to down regulate, this is used to suppress the ovaries and thin the lining as well. It's just like normal IVF,when she bleeds, she will then be put on the stimulating drugs.

@ Yeni, Massive Congratulaions.

Culled from the Internet

We need to understand the cultural-religious issues first to clear the misperception that child marriage is supposedly sanctioned by Islam.

ISLAM has always been an obvious easy target of misperception, misunderstanding. In a never-ending challenge against it, another opportunity for Islamophobes around the globe to maim the religion lurks wide open yet again when the issue of child marriage resurfaced recently.

They claim that child marriage is sanctioned, and thus common in the teachings of Islam. The practice takes place every day in the Muslim world to innocent girls as young as six, making it shockingly widespread.

Moreover, statistics of cases – though questionable – of different Muslim countries proving the prevalent rampage are cited.

Quoting a report by the United Nations, the Islamophobes reveal that “one out nine girls in developing countries will be married by age 15, and an estimated 14.2 million girls a year will become child brides by 2020, if nothing changes”. Are Muslim men to be entirely blamed for their seemingly lack of restraint?

The reality is that child marriage happens all over the world, regardless of religions or civilisations. But it appears that Islam suffers by far the most severe beatings compared to other faiths and cultures.

For the sake of argumentation, why does such a phenomenon befall the Muslim community? The answer is perhaps more cultural than religious. Culture, more than anything else, may have the upper hand.

Because many of these communities are found in countries deprived of progress and cultural practices are steep, hence, culture plays a huge role in their lives more than religion. Any law, be it sacred or profane, is indispensable of culture, and cannot completely escape from cultural influences, good or evil.

It is true that Islam has spread to countless nations, bringing along with it the progressive law (Syariah), but often times, people and cultures in these places are still feudal, semi-feudal or even tribal in character.

We may infer that child marriage perhaps originated from this feudalistic or tribal life of certain people before the society embraced Islam.

Thus, it is simply cultural in nature as the practice was not only common to the Arabs, for example, but to other races as well.

This tribal custom plays a role, for instance, in the belief that a young bride can be moulded into a good filial obedient wife and give birth to more offspring.

With the coming of Islam, these people had the “perfect” justifica­-tion to legitimise their “lifestyle”. To a certain extent, even religious leaders could not avoid from being influenced by their culture and cultural inclinations.

There is hardly anything Islamic about child marriage. One may argue that the practice is even unislamic as it runs counter to the true spirit of Islam. Marriage is a contract and the Quran in Surah al-Nisa’, 4:21 prescribes the institution as a “strong solemn covenant” (mithaqan ghaliza).

Underage girls, say at the age of nine, cannot enter into such a covenant as it is too strong a contract. A minor has neither the ability nor capacity to understand what a covenant means and implies.

In addition, in any given family life, both husband and wife may and can stipulate conditions. If either party fails to keep good their agreements, the marriage may collapse. In this sense, a child cannot stipulate conditions.

Marriage is a partnership for life. We cannot expect a child to have the necessary experience or intellectual acumen to rightly choose her breadwinner. Thus, from this perspective, child marriages can neither be considered Quranic nor Islamic.

The perceived dominant practice of child marriage in Muslim regions, or even the non-Muslim territories for that matter, may also be linked to economic reasons, and nothing strictly religious.

We have heard of cases whereby young girls were married off to ol­­-der spouses in an understanding between two men to wed each other’s sisters to escape paying expensive dowry (mahr); to settle personal and family debts; and the inability of poor families to reject certain interesting amount of monies offered for their daughters.

Therefore, gripping poverty and other pressing economic factors hinder effective initiatives being taken to reduce let alone eliminate child marriages.

While the Islamophobes attempt to ridicule the so-called child marriage in Islam by referring to the hadith of Prophet Muhammad tying the knot with Aishah purportedly at the age of seven and consummated the marriage when she was nine, the conservative Islamists, on the other hand, are using the same tradition to justify their stand in allowing the same.

Both camps are, in fact, mistaken. One argues that the hadith appears much later after the demise of the Prophet. In-depth studies by reliable scholars clearly expose the fact that Aishah was not less than 17 years old at the time of the marriage, and consummated it at about 20. So, Aishah was not below the age of puberty when consenting to the marriage.

In Islam, this is the true position of a girl achieving puberty or the age of proper understanding when it comes to marriage. The religion basically prescribes that a child ceases to be a minor upon her first menstruation, regardless of age.

Once approached with a marriage proposal, she has the option to accept or reject it. Her consent is a necessary prerequisite for a valid marital contract. Her guardian enjoys no liberty to force her to accept any proposal if she is unwilling.

It means that in a pre-arranged marriage, it may be annulled if the girl so wishes.

Imam Abu Hanifah holds that the guardian does not have an absolute

authority to give away the child in marriage. In fact, all Sunni schools of thought are unanimous that forced marriages are strictly forbidden. The reason being Islamic marriages are primarily contracts between two consenting parties referred to as ‘mithaq.’

The preceding discussion attempts to explain that, as aptly put by al-Azhar al-Sharif, the highest religious body in the Sunni world, “Marriage in Islam is regulated by certain rules, namely, children must reach puberty and maturity so that they can get married.” Here, no specific age limits have been fixed by Islam.

If there is any problem with the marriage, it is not because of Islam per se, but we must examine other surrounding factors as well. Religion should prevail over culture and not vice versa. Most of the times, domestic violence and abuse cannot be associated with or attributed to religion.

This explains why most Muslim lands have now statutorily prescribed 18 as the age of marriage for bridegroom while 16 for his counterpart. And in our case, for example, the Islamic Family Law (Federal Territories) Act 1984 states that should the age go lower than the minimum limit aforementioned, a written permission must be obtained from the Syariah Court, in certain circumstances.

http://www.thestar.com.my/Opinion/Columnists/IKIM-Views/Profile/Articles/2013/06/04/Child-marriage-in-Islam-a-myth.aspx

Your fault sister, A muslim woman is not meant to marry a Christian man. I'm sorry you only have only yourself to blame. You've laid your bed, you've to lie on it. I'm sorry I'm a bit harsh but TRUTH HURTS!!! You have to follow him to church if you don't want to end up breaking your home. A woman goes with the religion of the man of the house!

@ Dreamsinc, thanks for looking out for me. Hmmm if I tell you what's been happening to me for the past 3 weeks, I just thank God that I'm alive. It's been real spiritual battle. I haven't been to work, enemies want to turn themselves mad not me just because I want to have a child. Oga o, Wetin person no go see for this TTC. It's well and I repeat Alhamdullah that I'm alive.

To all my muslim sisters, Ramadan Kareem!

Kai, @ op, usain bolt gat nothing on your husband lol. This one pass me. Have you tried counselling?

@ Great, Yes it's very difficult looking at it from your point of view because you already have kids. I love kids like no man business but I believe in life decisions concerning us was made 50,000 years ago. ( from the muslim point of view). Will I still choose , my husband knowing we have male infertility. I don't know. It's a hard question but I guess I shouldn't post here cos we found out some months into the marriage.

Thanks for all your messages. I've had ups and downs. May ALLAH make it easy for us all.

@ Zeezy, I've been having sleepless nights too o. It's like whatever it is doesn't want me to continue.

ASA Sisters!

May ALLAH save me. Since I got back, it's been one spiritual attack after the other. It hasn't been easy o. I no go lie. Started Rukiya and there were movements everywhere. Yeah the height of it was yesterday when I ran away from the house, couldn't stand My husband. I ran out wearing slippers @ 10pm. ALLAH really saved me o, I was close to I can't say. My mum met me half way, all because I did Umrah. This is sihr of the highest order. I can't really post more but thought I should share. Happy Jumat. Ladies.

@say9ng, please don't kill me. So sperm came out and the whole workforce saw it and it was a big disgrace. You're so funny. This has so lifted my mood.

Hi Ladies, I hope you're all doing well.

Omonikiba, your Yewande is coming very soon. Pls accept my condolences.

ASA Sisters,

I saw this online and thought of you all.

http://uaelaws.files./2012/05/power-of-dua.pdf

@ onono planet, May ALLAH make it easy for you and DH. Words can't express how I feel... You need a cyber hug...

Sorry I thought you were in UK. My bad!!!!

ASA, in between I'm not a brother o. I'm a SISTER!!!!

@ Sfi ea, if you really need the contact, you don't need to open a thread. You wasted time opening thread when you should have been on a search engine or still calling the police.

I knew they wouldn't finish the the project before Hajj this year. The Masjid is being extended and its a massive project. My two pence to those that say Arabs are racist, I'm sorry but I never experienced that during my Umrah. The question I asked myself whilst over there was, is Nigeria not an oil producing country? Is it not the same oil that we produce but alas Nigeria is so full of corruption. It cost about 20-30 Riya to fill a tank of a minibus. I'm dead tired so can't convert to naira but I was like UK are ripping us off in crazy taxes we pay.

@ all making silly comments, is it it compulsory you make a comment? If you don't have any good thing to say then keep quiet.

Besides I travelled from UK and I didn't pay a dime for my Visa. It was FREE. Like Deols, said the Visa payment that Naijas pay is actually for housing etc.

Hi Ladies,

Anyone heard from Ticha

Salam sisters!

I've been away cos I went to the Majestic city! And I prayed for you all. May ALLAH answer all our prayers! So will be waiting for the outpouring news from everyone soon.

Zeezy u forgot to mention ajwa dates too, eating 7 on empty stomach. Taxi is here. Catch u all laters!!!

@ TBaby. It's black seed oil.

Salam my sisters!

ET- embryo transfer
AF- Aunty Flo
FET- Frozen Embryo transfer
BFP- Bi fat positive
BFN- Big Fat negative

I bet if this man were any of these ladies brother, they would all be singing a different tune. Empathy is the word. I feel for this man big time. Na so craze no know sex.

@ pslm, pls it's well, I can't really comment except to say that your cousin should be prayerful and very careful. With God all things are possible.

@ Udoka, all this part A, part B of CD1, I no like am at all. This one no b Naija movie na. Anyway this is my conclusion you were depressed for 2 weeks max, actually depressed is a strong word. You were down cos you lost your baby. Na in Valentine reach your area, result came back from abroad, they gave you Ehmmm Clexane, Steroids and now you're 3 months pregnant.

My peeps I don conclude be that o. We no get time for part B, before u say NEPA don strike for your area. Congratulations!!!!!

Udobaby, I hail una. Why all this suspense na. You want kill person you no say we dey TTC and u want add another thing on top am. Make u no kill us oh.

@ Omonikiba, you have to be raw o. Me sef wey dey beg God for 7 years, should I have turned myself into ileya meat cos of no pikin. Everything in life has a phase. I go baby shower yesterday come and see how this 5 month baby latched on to me. She no let anyone carry her, refused to let go off me, was just playing with my boobs. I had to carry her throughout the games and I was the one conducting everything. It's well o my peeps.

See how everybody dey show face because of Udoka. Udoka if you no write your epistle, we go come arrest you o big time.

Have a great week my Ladiez!!!

@ Beloved, see as you post epistle even though you dey recover. May the Almighty bless and grant you all your heartfelt wishes.

UdokaaaaaaaaaaaaAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Welcome back!!! We all missed you! Happy Wedding Anniversary! May the Almighty continue to bless your reunion. I'm awaiting your 5 page epistle. See as you disappear like Seanbell and she reappeared with pregnancy. Abi you don catch am?? And you resurfaced to come and tell us. Oya oya I dey wait.

@ Beloved, just been reading about collapsed lung. O ga. Alhamdullah you went to see Dr o. I don't even know what to say. Have you asked if there's a like hood of it reoccurring again in the future. I feel so much for you. You've been through so much this past year. May ALLAH ease all your affairs! You mentioned spritual in the Health Section. Why do you think it so? I just thought trapped wind in the cavities of the lung. But have they investigated what caused it in the first place. Are you asthmatic? Actually you said you weren't. Are you skinny and tall? Are you a gym person? Just bumped into the link below and Thanks for sharing!!! We are all sisters.

In some cases, a collapsed lung occurs without any cause. This is called a spontaneous pneumothorax. A small area in the lung that is filled with air (bleb) can break open, sending air into the space around the lung.

I'm Iya google I know. Just take things easy and leave it all to ALLAH and relax let your caring DH take care of you. We all know how hard it is for doctors to relax. Pls you need it.

@ Dreamsinc, see as you list all the experts with yourself included, we can help with food, lol. somebody dey talk suicide, dreaminc u dey talk food, pls i beg no kill person with laughter. You people no go kill me for Nairaland.

@ sotum, I think my ladies have all said it all. No suicide on this thread o. Na joy,happiness and plenty prayers fast and numerous support with a s. Also watch our for our in house comedian aka safelicious.