Lagban:
"I am adult married to a lady of 35years". @OP tell us ur real age instead of hiding it. I don't know Nigerian men hide dere age as if it is something superb. Ur age myt a contributory factor to ur marriage hitch. quote author=wonukwuru post=52500821]I am adult married to a lady of 35years. We have been married since 2007. God has blessed us with 3 wonderful children( 2 boys and 1 girl). Before we got married, i agreed with my wife that i only want to have 2 kids ( I wouldnt mind if they just boys or girls. That means, Im not particular of the sex of the kids). My wife is a B.sc Accounting graduate, while myself, I am a Chartered Accountant, with a well paid job. My wife had a 3rd class degree. On several occassions, i have told her to go back to school for Post Graduate Diploma (PGD) in order to upgrade, but she plainly told me that she cannot go back to school again. When i asked her why, she told me that her brain cannot withstand any academic stree again. I also suggested to her, since you studied accounting in the university, why not enroll for ICAN program? When i said that to her, she told me that she could not go for PGD, is it ICAN that she can do? I have been thinking, what will i do for her to be like others.

Luckly, was transferred to Benin. I went with my family to Benin. We stayed over 4years in Benin. While we were in Benin, I told my wife to go and enroll for a 6months diploma programm in computer (because she is not computer literate). I paid over N110,000 for the 6months programme. My wife only went for the programme for 1month and stopped. She refused to complete the program. When I asked her, she told me that she will go back after she had "put to bed"( Then she was pregnant). Guys, its over two years now and the baby is even in pre-nursery school, yet my wife has not reminded me of going back to complete the programme.

Last year, she asked me to open a store for her, that she want to go into trading. When I asked her the nature of the business, she said, she wants to deal on selling rice, beans, yams, groundnut oil, etc. I now suggested that it will not be a problem, but she has to look for somebody who is already in the business so as to understudy the person for atleast 1month. She refused, saying that without her understudying anybody, that she can still make it. I told her that my reason of suggesting to her to understudy somebody was that, i wanted her to be selling in wholesale. My plan was to give like N1.5million. I told her, i cannot just release N1.5million to her for a business that she did not learn. I told her that N1.5million is not a small money. Brethren, that was why up til now, i have not opened the business for her.

My children's school fees is over N650,00 per term for the 3 kids. I provide for feeding. My wife does not want to do anything as to assist me in the family. I give her money for her hair, cream, bathing soap, panties and clothing. Im really getting tired. My salary does not carry the family again because of too much expenses.

Another problem now is, my wife's dressing is nothing to write home about. She dresses as if she is in her late 60s. I have complained to her on several occasion that i dont like the way she dresses, but each time i bring up the issue, she will get angry. People around, have meeting my sisters to tell them that my wife does not dress well as somebody that has gone to the university. Even in my house, my wife only tires wrapper. Nothing in her again attracts me to her. Infact, for the past 3 months, i have not slept with her. I sleep in the parlour while she sleeps in the bed room.

Else, i forget, my wife delibrately "took in" again since July last year. This is after we agreed that the 3 kids that we already have is enough. Her method is, each time i remind her of what to do as to be assisting me in the family, she will delibrately "take in".

My wife, went to the university but she cannot speak simple and correct english. She cannot write application letter. She cannot teach my kids who are in primary 2 and 5 respectively. I pay a lesson teacher N30,000 monthly for my kids but my wife is at home doing nothing. Since we got married, my wife has not sent me text message on her phone more than 3times. The ones that she sent, my brothers, there are lots of gramatical blunders. When i confronted her with the text message, she could not say anything. I was checking for some documents in my room last week, and i came across an application that my wife wrote to submit to a private school where she wants to teach. When i saw the letter, believe me, my brothers, one of my kids that is in primary 5 cannot write such rubbish.

What i thought she was before i married her, is not what she is. I cannot take her out for an occassion because she may embarrase me by her conduct in the public. I need a divorce but the problem now is, i did i court wedding with her. What should i do? Im confused.

With all your sense, you are still looking for solution on naira land.

Gerrahia

otokx:

Deferment has its time which will be much later maybe in 4 - 6 months time, the underlying assumption is that you are register-able possessing currently all the required o levels without name inconsistencies and you must still pay for acceptance and accommodation plus the deferment fee.

Thank you. Please when you say without name inconsistencies, I changed my name when I go married and its my maiden name which reflects on my certificates but I have change of name documents, marriage certificate etc. Is there going to be a problem? My name on the admission list is my new name.

Mr Otokx, please what's the process for deferment of admission for pharmacy? Thanks.

@otokx your responses here have been very outstanding as you have answered several questions which i also had to ask. However, most of these persons are desperate for answers; i know i would be if i were in their shoes. So i can only plead that your exercise a little more patience in your responses. Not everyone has the same capacity to understand information once. I trust you understand my point.

otokx:
Oya na travel and come down to UNIPORT where nothing is happening for now then you will see and travel back.
What you guys should be doing now is to open a bank account and be saving money for the expenses you will incur when you reach here, ask those who came in last year, UNIPORT is unique. They will tell you their experiences.

otokx:
Your average is 224, Ngo when we do a simple ranking you come up at the 90th position so don't just go about carrying on as if your score is so wonderful - usually we do not do this but just to set the records straight.

Charly boy, trying so hard to remain relevant in the entertainment industry. Wat sef...was he ever relevant?

It goes to show that there are the respected faces and the "struggling to earn respect" faces of Nollywood. Many happy returns to Ibinabo.

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Only if u r a lovable person would u be able to get someone else to love u. What qualities would u see in yourself to make u fall in love with u? Make urself loveable.

Please, this thread is not intended to incite any trouble. I was arguing with a friend earlier today about certain people who claim to be fasting 6-to-6 and wake up by 5:30am to eat just before 6am. I believe that fasting is a voluntary abstinence from food (or other pleasures) for a period of time. Is fasting supposed to be a voluntary abstinence or an abstinence because u are not hungry for food since you have eaten just before the time of fasting?

The blame game

I laff in german, see dis proper fool. Na clay boot im go carry!

henry4uall:

I challenge this crazy ulama to give out his five-year old daughter in marriage to prove he is a believer in that doctrine. While Yerima introduced sharia in Zamfara, cutting hands of cow thief, he was busy stealing billions of the state coffer with is evil hands intact. What a bunch of paedophiles!

Thank u my brother! All of them who r in support of Yerima's pedophilic act in the name of Islam should donate their own daughters to the cause. How person wan know say them no go touch the pickin, abi referee go dey there? Useless people!, they just misinterprete the laws of Islam to suit their situation. I pray that when they die, those their 70 virgins will bite and break off their d**ks, !!!

ohaechesi:

A beg that condom feet reach me, i'v gat some scores to settle with one chic so

u dont understand do u? The teeth pricks into ur 'thingy' when u try to hav sex wit her without her permission.

One of the numerous steps to dethroning Bankole. These people are joking with Jonathan! We wey from bayelsa know him well, He knows wat he's doing. We'll continue watching,

Little wonder they r insensitive to d plight of other nigerian! They can afford to buy fuel @ 1000naira per liter sef!!! well, we rest in the hope that God will make everything right in his time!

I don't blame him at all at all, born fool!

Acidosis:

'Bunch' of political racist. Just take a look at the names: Babagida, Yerima, Gaya, Abdulazeez, even the editor of the story Iman Iman, Shekaura, I wonder why they omitted Kaita.

lmao

Do u guys always hav to turn every forum into a quarrel It seems to be the order of the day in nairaland.

For me sha, i think Chris has a point (not wit the insults though), medically, how can a baby be born that was neva seen on a ultrasound scan? Abi the cream made the baby and the consequent pregnancy burge invisible?

Not a miracle at all, at all! Just some concoctionist looking to be publicized!

nellaluv:

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[color=#990000][/color][b][/b]This one na real agaba!

WTF AK 47? And they are supposed to be part of the goverment? Naija we hail thee!

all part of women liberation!

@ sereques,

Dat ur UK wey u dey, e dey like say u still dey sweep road, u neva find better office work na im make u dey jones like dis. Anyway, hola me when u are made

deariekay:


berrye. but u were abusing a lander who need a lady for val,because of no job,now u too want who go spend on ya head.i pitty u.them go use u do money if u are not careful.

@ deariekay,

I come reason d thing latter and e come make sense. Anyway, notice to all nairalanders, any body way wan use me do money, na coins and cowries na im u go get oh!

wisyno:


Hello, I am a student of uniport and I think it will be a nice idea to meet a cool chick from my school here. If you are a fine babe from upee, give me a call on my line 08053132473 or e-mail me at wisyno@yahoo.com.

Guy na u be real uniport guy. No mind dat guy. E dey like say im be ewu basito na im make im dey jones

murder:

look at you,you don't have a job and you are looking for a lady for the val's day,i pity your condition.
you better think twice,no lady will come your way without your cash.
i will advice you to go and get money somewhere for u to have a lady.you know no say woman likes money alot.

No mind am. Hungry boy looking for free babe. U neva start.

ufobabe:

WHAT IS REALLY SO SPECIAL ABT VAL?

if u can't get your babe a gift that day, can't u get her something any other day?

i dey wonder 4 we young people shaaaaa!

See another hungry one looking for free thing. Na by force for u to get babe? Abi u no get soap for house to take 'get busy'

U no serious! U no add ur monetary value. Them tell u say naija babes need hungry valentine. Guy, step up oh!

U no sabi where Uniport dey! School don open, u dey nairaland dey find babe. U don go check ur results? I no think so sha!

All these spammers! God help una

Valentine is a few weeks away and there are some of us nairalanders who don't want to miss the valentine fever(becos maybe we missed out in the xmas and new year fever). Anyway, if u are among, please post ur replies. As for me, I am free oh, screaming I NEED A VAL OH!

@ Topic,

StanP's right in a way. Yes nairaland babes like 'em 'spiced' .
Still, with a profile like urs, u tend to attracted an even worse pack, gold-digger pack, husband searchers etc. Best if u reserve the glitz and glam for d 1 when u find her hmm.

kattrina:

The way my mom explained the difference was infatuation is when u just know a little bit about a person and you like it and want them to be something so you fill in the blanks with what u want them to be. Whereas love is where you see the person for who they really are and you accept that and are happy because you want them to be themselves.

I hope that makes sense and is not more confusing!!!

I have 'fallen in love' with three guys in my lifetime already. I have this one and I am so scared that I may fall out of love with him soon because I am not sure if it's love or infatuation. Someone please tell me it's love this time!