Do you know what she is 101% right. Every young man who is not married will say go against that. If you go for counselling for marriage they will tell you men should take there mind off what is in the woman's pocket. Be a responsible man take care of the family. The woman will help when it's necceasery. She is a help mate. You can discuss with her which possible way she wants to contribute . You will find out you dont even need to tell her she will take up some responsibility who ever is telling you dump her leave her she isn't a good woman is just childish. I went for three month proper counselling for marriage in Winners Chapel. She is right. take care of her love her. You will find out all she said won't be what she will do .

I was almost scammed like this some years ago. I was 19years old pretty young lady going to school to collect my admission letter . I took a taxi to the school on the way a man who sat near me was speaking a different kind of English . A different accent. I knew he was not a Nigerian maybe some of this African countries. He asked if I knew the number on the paper and name. I couldn't pronounce it . ALL that was written on the paper was rubbish . Nothing I could pronounce. He said he needed to know the address to visit a woman who owns him money. Tried to help him because I knew a lot of places in Enugu. Suddenly time to highlight the driver infront was asking me what my parent do I told them everything. The passenger infront was asking abi begging me to help the boy . That they will give me gold, wrist watchesn money. They begged and begged. The man was sweating profusely. For a moment I taught what will I use all this material things to do. What will I tell my parents I got it from. I taught My admission letter to the University or wrist watch, electronic and money . I choose school. Told them to open the door for me to leave . They let me go. It's after sometime I knew they were scammer. I thank God.
It happened again another year . Left the man to talk all his stories then I told him , if you follow me any step again you see that Police man standing there I will report you to him. He left me and disappeared into the crowded

The thing dey pain you as she dey respond Abi? Leave the girl alone abeg. She didn't come into this world for you. If she ask for money now you will run . Leave her abeg. Must you chat with her. Leave her for the man she is dating .

This is a warning for all car owners . It's up to you to be smart . Tell your brothers and sisters too. Your husband and Wife.

My brother in law was driving on the road police stoped him and demanded for his car document/ particulars. He brought everything out all stapled together. So they asked to search his boot. From that minute when he turned they tore out a particular document from the stapled document which was attached together. After they told him a particular paper wasn't there he checked knowing everything was intact when he gave them. Lucky for him he had extra copy of all document in the car he gave them they checked and told him to go. On checking the document again he noticed the paper was torn off . About leaving the police check point he looked at his side mirror and saw them throwing away a paper he knew it was his particulars. So he turned back went to the police check point and picked the document. Telling them what they did.

Lesson: if you have a photocopied document. Have it like two or three areas in your car . If you are sure you have a Complet paper. Dont go blaming tgem for your mess. Photocopy it three times let all be in your car. So when they have done there maggic you show them it's Complet.
Some may have all document and when such things happens on the road you are asked to pay. You pay for what you have.
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Nice. Heared the Hausas came out with guns from the mosque to attack. Passed through there yesterday they destroyed government property. SARS are all around to monitor the area. Driving pass there you have to hide you phone even though you are in the car. That place is a mess.

You don't have to feel bad or feel scammed. Maybe trully they needed that money to survive and they must have used a different approach to get it.
Which ever way you helped that's all that matters

We hear

I may have read your past post about your relationship . I can't remember. Too many relationship things on nairaland. I don't even want to go into it.
But reading through this today I just have this feeling
If you don't trust her and have doubt about her why are you with her .
You sound like all this snoppy guy. Always trying to see what the girl is up to. Her phone her messages . Her personal life.
My dear if you don't marry her she won't die. Don't over rate yourself like one good guy like that. She will marry someone else.
Being with you doesn't mean she can't have conversation with other people she knew before you. Meeting up and all. Every individual has personal life.
Am not saying she is cheating or she isn't. But then if your are not comfortable step out and stop running into nairaland to tell us what the girl is up to and what she is doing. You don't even sound matured to me.
This time you will leave her dump her do this and that. You have told you sister she said dump her. Abegiii
You people should leave the girl alone jare. You are not interested leave. And stop making so much noise about it.

I live in PH you virtually have to mop everyday. If your leg touches water and walk around the house footprint everywhere will be black . You walk around the house then before you know it your leg is black. Every surface is black . Dinning table, sink, window, leave the house for few days and come back it's like a jungle. Black thing all over the house. It's a mess.

I will marry my husband again oooo. I don't think anyone can be like him.

7years is a long time. My piece of advice . Try to calm down pray about it. If you love him deep inside your heart try as much to remain calm . You have to build your home yourself. You are going into another phase of your life my dear things will change. Now the main seriousness have started . Don't let the change seperate you let it build you..

They should she sue the husband for battering first. With the kind of country we now the man will walk free

Anytime he eats out don't make it a big deal . Pack your food and put in the fridge. When he comes back talk to him as normal. Next time cook small food when you think there was quarrel. Always tell him where he went wrong and when you guys are in the happy mood tell him how childish he behaves by eating out and ask him how long he will continue to do that.

Lillian doesn't want to let this guy go. If she doesn't want him she would have been far from him and never be seen with him.

If it like that . I should sue the Tailor that collected 5k from me to sew my dress returned the cloth without sewing it and didn't return my money

This is to all girls. Be wise . But when you know you have made a mistake be quick to correct it and learn from others mistake too.

Two years ago I had this friend of mine . Very pretty. We kind of look alike though slim clean chicks . One thing brought us together in school. Me trying to save her. looking after her like a junior sis. I was in final year in school when she entered year one. In the room of final year I was like a mother to her. No one could do anything to her as long as am there. Fast forward I graduated we talk and still see each other at least every year. She was like when are you going to get married this girl . I said i havnt found the right one yet . Years passed I met a man . Loving , caring. I couldn't think of anyone on this earth I would spend the rest of my life with. So I guided him jealousy. And we loved each other at first site. 2015 or so I went for my brother's wedding so I had to sleep over at this my friends place. So many things happened. She had finished schooling. Bored at home waiting for NYSC. So I invited my boyfriend then to come for the wedding as future in law NA. He is a quiet person . Head over hills in love with me . My wish goes . So he came in a car with his friend took me and my friend to my brother's wedding. Before then this girl will ask how I spend so much time on the phone talking to one person. For my mind this people don't no somthing .

After the whole ceremony my boyfriend went back to base . I began to miss him. Where will I be on Christmas season for Gods sake. He is everything to me. I have grown up with mother father brothers. He is my future now.
So I decided to go back to be with him for the holidays. Because i would resume work soon. See my friend come dey ask me o_O. So you are travelling . I havnt been to that state before please let me go with you. Hmmm I said this kind wahala girl. Ohoo. I wanted to say no but my boyfriends friend said he was interested in her so I said ok. If he is interested I will eat free goat meat where I like it. NA so I carry my friend o_O to my man's place. The guy who wanted her she no gree see am again . Said she does not like him. Hmmm NA so this girl won make me miss this goat meat. I forgot that side. I began to open my eyes wella. My man took a picture of her eating so much food though it was a funny picture . After the picture I went to his phone and deleted it all. We went out one night to a super market knowing too well how my man likes new things. I sat in the car the girl left me there and followed my man . Walking round the shop with him. I was so angry with him but laughed with my friend. Second time . My man left us in the car to shop again. Before I count 5 this girl jumped out again to go meet him . Hmmm . NA so my mood changed and I directed my anger to the innocent man because I didn't want to hurt her feeling with my words. But who follows person boyfriend like that. I began to think she is still a small girl she doesn't know what she is doing at 22- 23 years I was 27. You can see how I taught her mentality will be.

The worst happened a day for her to go back then it now showed I was really angry but she wasn't sure if it was with her or with my man. She came to me asking me to give her my boyfriend number. I asked for what she said she wants to send him her account number that she needs money to go back . NA so I look this girl o_O. I was quiet. She kept bugging me . In my mind I was like who brought her to this state. To call the long story short because it's long. I collected money from my man woke her up at night and gave her the money for her fair . In the morning ,Immediately she entered the bathroom went to her phone deleted my man friend's phone number from her phone. I saw she asked my man's friend for his number when I didn't give her the same guy she refused to see for the days she was with me. I deleted the guys number, deleted my man's number that he sent . I wiped everything. Then when she came out dressing I told her one thing .
I won't let you go dear without telling you what you did wrong. I didn't mention jumping from car to meet him. I just told her I invited you here you don't need to go through my man before you go. I don't like it.
She replied you are an elder sis to me you would have told me it was wrong
PLEASE IS THERE A COURSE CALL LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP 101?
My best friend told me even if NA small pikin dey do the girl my sister is high time she left.
See how African Magic won happen for my eyes . I told my man I don't want her number on your phone . You don't ever call her again. The day I hear you call her . I will join two of you together.
We are married now as husband and Wife. HAPPY WEDDING ANNIVERSARY TO US.
Babes shine your eyes so you don't go round in cycle through out your life because of one silly mistake.
I didn't tell you my mum won kill me with talk . Never try that rubbish again.

I will start this by sharing an personal experience. So my sister has been married to her husband for four months now . Still looking forward to conceiving. Just four months and people won't allow her enjoy her marriage . People calling her to ask if she has gotten pregnant. She has received numerous calls to this effect.
What are your problems . are you all mad!

A friend of hers called her . She is not even married neither is she in a serious relationship . Not even as Educated. Stoped at Sec Sch . Said she is counting days for her . I asked NA you marry husband for her or you gave him prick

An ex called to ask same . You marry your own wife still calling her to ask if she is pregnant. Is he mad?

My aunty called her telling her when is she coming for Omugwu. She don train her own children finish

The wedding DJ too asking. Asking you must be pregnant now. I asked him if he want to contribute to paying there fees

A woman in church too sat her down to ask her why she hasnt gotten pregnant . Sharing bible verse with her and holding hands to pray for her . Is she Mad!

What are your problems. This needs to stop this 2017. Person who is wearing a shoe know where it hurts . People really need to mind there fucking Business. Am going to get rude and nasty to anyone from today who ask silly questions like this. You people cant torture people mentally and emotionally .

Please if you know anyone your mum , sister , aunty cousin, brother , sister friend in the habit of asking that stupid question about another persons pregnant status tell the person to mind his or her business. The woman TTC too is more worried than your gullible state of mind. Mind your own Business !

manneger2:
We didn't submit any thing, we only presented the original for them to see, I notice the preferential treatment shown towards ladies to Men, ph centre

How was the submission online like. I submitted passport and my c.v but I didn't get any info about the test till now

I nominate myself

It's because you havnt fallen in love. When you find that one person that complete you you will be over whelmed. Anyway am getting married in three weeks . The anxiety kills and fiance getting me upset. Can wait for it to end

I dated a guy when he had nothing . Though I was in school. when I graduated I told him 4years in school you didnt achieve anything. 5 years into the relationship I told him if after 5years you are still not ready no more. I moved on with my life. Now he is in Malaysia, showing me his houses and stuff he has now.
At a time i felt if I knew.
But then I am married to a man I love so much. I think all he showed me was just lies.

See what having a side chick does. Focus on your wife and building your home

For me the most shameful thing I have ever done I wished it can be wiped off and never existed was when I was about ? My brothers usually have this book don't remember what it is called but anytime I come in the room they hide it . Pictures of naked men and women indulging in sextuall intercourse. One day I checked their bag and saw it. For the first time I didn't know what it meant . But it's like the more you look at it the more picture of it you develop in your mind
Trying to praticalize it at a young age. I didn't understand what it meant and the implications. Just once i tried to praticalize and do what is there with Someone my age who simply didn't understand it too decided to tell the parents the meaning of trying such which then my parents heard of . I was beaten so bad of what I didn't no about and what I saw in a paper and not educated about and never heard off. I regret that day. I wished that day never existed . I wish I never knew or saw that book . I wished I never went to check their bag. I wished for so many things. At that time I wish I will die so no one will remember it ever happened. Sometimes when I remember it I still feel regrets. I still remember it sometimes I think the other party will remember it too. Will it disturb that person as it disturbs me too.
No matter how little a child is better they are educated about this things . Don't try to hide things immediately you see them . You just created a crave to know what it is. All those say this channel is for children the others for adult. When you are not around they will want to know what is it about adult channel anyway. Rather keep them busy with books , educative toys , story books , colours and all.

Stay in your home madam. If you leave she won't leave. Stay there. Simple

Am there now. In fact it's terrible. I think military people are on the road to clear it

He has wasted 21 years taking care of another person's children.
That woman is wicked. Her wickedness is from the pit of hell

Postpone the Wedding don't call it off. Postpone for some month and see if you still want to marry her. If you can't in few months time you won't consider the preparation but your happiness.


Most ladies are distracted by this married men and other young guys. But a lady who truly loves you will stick to you. When I was engaged to my husband . Married man came to me saying it's only engagement he has done he hasnt married you let's just go out. I said no no no because I loved my man no other man could replace him.

She just want to flex around not knowing nemesis will catch up.

Like I said postpone it

Eyaaaa

People talk out of assumption and you hold on to it as fact. In your right sense if you were all in my shoe what actually do you think will be the first question when you notice such thing. Don't just throw words without thinking . Everything must not be black and white before you understand it. Anyway will just take reasonable opinions

I have told her it is reasonable to stay. Marriage is for better for worse. She is strong willed . Can't force it.
No body knows tomorrow. Everybody live life by their personal choices good or bad.

She may wake up one day and say is because of you I stayed see my life if I had gone it will be better.

She has family who has advised her. My mum even advised her to be patient.

Let's be reasonable in comment and don't make judgement without reasoning. Give your opinion without insults in a reasonable way.

I give my opinion and let you make your decision.

They are looking for a baby and she is depressed and fallen out of love with her husband

True talk. It's only a man with no money that will say women like money. Why the hell did you go to her before. You leave you position walk up to a women sitting jejely on her own to talk about love you don't even know about. Disturbing her phone with call , seeking her attention. For what exactly.
Making empty promises of doing anything to keep her. Yet you don't even have the means . Then when she leaves you say she likes money.
Money ko money ni. You are the one who doesn't have sense of responsibility. A man wants a woman he doesn't get her he comes to say she likes money.
My Friend when you have money it will be the least of what will keep that woman. Sometimes you even have the money and can't get the woman you want.