Hi NLanders,

Please does anyone have the book; the smart money tribe by Arese Ugwu, and wiling to share?

Great write up. Insightful and realistic.

Please, do I have your permission to use it?


quote author=mhizgracie22 post=88253545]"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.[/quote]

Dear fellow nairalanders,

Please any HND holder that has done/doing Bells HND conversion to BSc or knows anyone involved in the programme?

Kindly share your experience such as perception in the market place, proceeding for Msc especially with a federal school...

Thanks in anticipation great people.

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Nice one @ IamaNigerianGuy

The other thing you may need to do is clarify your KPI in clear and smart terms. So that at the end of your probation, there wont be any mago mago. Btw, almost every coy has a probation period for new entrants some even do 6months but not with peanuts pay.

Grace, Arhhhh u came to NL to talk our talk and ask ds kain question.

THis is exactly why i said no male friend...ehnnn

See u at noon....LOL

Guys saying it cant work for naija, Forget am, it can.

Just two things are involved;

1. High (perceived) valuable contribution to the biz

2. Strong connection within the biz or Strong extra terrestrial connection.

THese two are non mutually exclusive and can be, depending on the situation.

Like seriously?

amtalkin:
444 Buhari

A don flash u tire..where have u been hiding?
This morning is beans + sardine + potatoes + carrot

AryaSand:

Please Flash me, i'll call you back.

AryaSand:

Just finished making edikaikong n stew, rice and beans for the week..

U are invited only for tasting

Here comes this cat again with plenty of life...gengennn, where are the dogs?
Dont know if i qualify to be a foodie, what i know is i love good food and sometimes like to make my own meal. And infrequently enjoy good bukas/joints/lovely foodie...

AryaSand:

Your cat did die. I'm a foodie and i'm open to buying and eating out a lot, especially if the canteen is clean.

I used to scout for new buka/joints but it's bEing a long while i enjoyed that hobby.
There is this big pleasure that comes with preparing or seeing your meal being prepared, bigger joy doing new/different recipes and sharing with others. It's another level of pleasure cultivating what you eat yourself..chaii, who get time/resources for that one..

Home-made meals rock!

U can debate on whether it's economic or not but you can't debate the value and pleasure.

Rapmoney:
Take note that this post covers just local restaurants or what we normally call 'Mama Put'. It does not cover standard eateries such as Chicken Republic or Sizzlers

With the rate at which food ingredients is increasing in Nigeria, it has become clearer that prices of food stuffs have defied the law of gravity that states 'Whatever goes up must come down'.

The one wey pain me pass na the latest size of akpu for buka these days. The thing just small like small pikin fist!

In my area, if you must eat to be satisfied, you must hold at least N500.
Breakdown: Akpu or Eba (two go for N100 each), cowhead or cowleg goes for N250 or N300

If na Management package when account dor show red, two akpu - N200, one small meat (like maggi cube) - N50. Total=N250.

If na rice or any other food, you must hold up to N600 before belle go set oh! If it's management package, you can roll with N300

Ah dey Warfi!!!

How e be for ur side, peeps?

Buka gal?
As in, u prefer to often eat in bukas or u work in a buka? Just curious tho, hope my cat no o die..
Btw that skill of taste the food first before launching is a good one.. sometimes peoples disposition in the canteen can be a clue too

AryaSand:

We don't have tastee's money. We dinor come to Lagos to use all our money to eat.
Sorry about your experience, not all buka's are like that. I'm a buka girl and I can show you some amazing buka's. Next time when you're buying at a buka for the first time buy less, say #50 rice and 1meat, that way if you don't like it you won't feel like you've wasted money or get disappointed but if you love it you can always ask for more.

Preach it ma!

Juliearth:




Eating out is not hygienic nor econoimical. Meals prepared in public restaurants are often poorly cooked(too much salt, excess oil,laced with preservatives,stale..) and the cooking environment may not be that clean thereby,exposing chstomers to food poisoning and typhoid. Besides,why should one spend 300(averagely) on a meal when he/she can prepare a satisfying, healthy,nutritious... meal that can last for days?

God punish devil.. Bread kwa

He better turn the stone to gold. Na bread we dy find?

Even Jesus say him disciples go do pass wetin him do

I am on 'Sabbatical' leave..

Thanks Op..I once enjoyed Catholic service in school, I should try these Masses thingy.

There will be few coys in Nigeria dealing in that although I do not have any contact atm. But on a second thought most of those equipments are not manufactured here, they are imported. So, if u check alibaba and aliexpress u will find various types online.

Makes sense.
Thanks for sharing.

tobianthony:


Brother when I was engaged ...I made a terrible mistake ...my fiance and I were always chatting ..nothing bad there oh ...

But when you chat people do not hear the tone in your voice and they interpret your chats according to their insecurities they feel for you .

For instance if you chat her up and ask how she spends her money ...if she feels that you are trying to leave her ...she will interpret that as why are you always asking me for money are you gold digger ...

Don't know if I make sense ...

For sensitive talks use the phone and always record your arguments go over them and see where you went wrong .

Why did u say call and talk instead of other means?

tobianthony:


Funny enough I have never gone for counseling I just made a lot of mistakes ...

Communication is important too ...the one thing I can say is don't let social media be the key medium of communication . Call and talk to your partner .

If you guys want I could give more advice Sha just open a thread and ask me .

People do not like what I say because it's the realistic truth .

The quietness no be here o, some shops no open. People gather around in houses at different times.
Some cars were burnt on Wednesday around Sopeju/Adewunmi although police are stationed at different junction.
I just pray everything ends today after his burial and they only fight themselves without touching the innocent Nigerians.

Waawwwuu, babe i salute u ooo.
He will surely thank u later with....

Krystalzkris:
Mix the bitters with the Miranda, thank me later.

Ahahaha..
Take another leave na
btw..happy abortion escape in advance

tchidi:
Op, thank you for posting this the day I'm resuming from my leave!!
Where were you during my leave?!

I agree with the OP especially on 1,2 & 4 that do not require much investment, 3&5 are actually very sense making BUT as things be ehnn..

The painful part of the annual leave is that the annual leave allowance has been spent/budgeted on other things before the annual leave making the leave some times boring. This year leave should be memorable o, it will be more memorable to get that job interview and finalize the move.. that will be resuming to sign out...baba pick call oo

True!

BUT

SOmetimes, the problem may result from communication.
Different things give different people that sense of uniqueness and being genuinely loved and often times it takes care/attention to get around that.

True. A very basic spec.
And as per the headache, the headache go zero whatever 70% she may be offering even if na 100%..

chiraqDemon:

The specs are normal, therr are countless guys like this. But apart from being from a rich home, and being an educated graduate. Will she give d guy more headacge than he can handle.
The way i see it, she fits 70% of many guys' requirements and i also know she has much more to offer than punna. But if she go give too much headache i would gladly throw the other 70% she has fulfilled out the window and run for dear peaceful and stressless life

The God fearing and head giving and recieving part is quite amusing.

I think her thinking would be since they wont do the do before marriage head will suffice.

Besides, the specs are basic all things being NORMAL, however there is still a question of what she has to offer OR what the spec guy will also require..??

Please has anyone experienced a case where other tenants run Generator through out the night and the noise from the Gen is like the sound from okada without silencer constituting nuisance?
Dialogue both with landlord and the tenant has been to no avail.
Does LASEPA really works? What can really be done to this?

Madam shelter4luving,

This is inspiring!

Respect to your sense and may your home be blessed. Thanks for sharing.

1.What i have to say is look at the objective of the wedding party again with your bobo. The two below I think can be the broad reasons behind wedding party-

a. the couple & memory
b. the crowd/guests
I am of the opinion that the party is to create a beautiful memory for the couple and therefore focus should be on them and not so much on the crowd or guests. A balance of this will make the party more beautiful especially when the resources are available otherwise there may be a need for compromise.

2. The focus of the wedding (based on 1 above) should then prioritize the allocation of the resources. So for example why would you spend more on decoration than your outfits? Fine, the decoration will be in the pictures but it will only last for the duration of the wedding while the pictures of the couple linger longer… More than 50% of that budget is spent on people-food, drink, souvenirs, I hope they don’t just eat and go or drop wall clocks as gifts…

3. You may then look at your list again and see if your objectives and plans marry.

Respect to you once again. BTW, I don’t mind coming to dance at the parry oo

In all these, a cardinal truth is NOT TO BURN BRIDGES

My time comes soonest.....yagggaa