#MYLAGOSEXPERIENCE (A must read)

I’ve come to a realization that as Nigerians, we blame the government for treating us badly yet, we do no even treat ourselves any better.

As early as 7am, I was already at Orile-Agege General Hospital (Oke-Odo), I quickly joined a sitting queue where I was redirected to Revenue to make payments for card, before I could qualify for the queue.

(At Revenue Section ) Good morning sir (In Yoruba), I greeted the man in sight from the window access. He ignored the greeting and asked, “What do you want” (In English), so I quickly switched my language. I told him my mission. “What’s your name, your age”, he inquired and I answered.

He issued a bill and I stretched my right hand to collect the card and he stretched his left to give. Thank God for Pastor Mike, (You won’t understand anyway), I also switched to my left, “this man is an idiot”, I said to myself, as I walked away. While I checked the name of the issuing officer on the bill, it stunned me to discover that the idiot is a Yoruba man, bearing OJO.

Getting back to the queue to make payment and get a card, the man there was ceaselessly snapping, dishing out unnecessary instructions with bitterness. I ignored all that, with a focus to get my card and move to the next phase. On my turn, I presented the bill and the fee. Issuing another receipt with the card, he presented it with a left hand and I quickly did the same as I concluded that “these people are condemned to left hand.”

At the third stage, I joined a number of people under the canopy. Since it was my first time, I asked them the next thing to do. I was told to fill a particular form and put it in my file. After complying I went straight to submit. As the lady stretched her left hand, she confirmed my earlier conclusion and I quickly switched again.

I was ordered back to my sit, waiting for another call. From the same cubicle, after waiting for about 40minutes, another voice that I think had perused my details called my name. On getting there, she greeted nicely in my dialect, I responded the way I could. She asked after my family and told me she married from my state, so I have to take care of her breakfast (then I understood the warm reception.)

She asked if I had a referral letter, I responded in denial. “No problem”, she said. The other lady (The one who confirmed my conclusion) joined the conversation. “So she’s from that state, and she doesn’t understand the language,” she said. “I do” was my response.

She retained my file; I was to go with a little card, which she used her left hand to put on the table where I could pick it. I was through with her in few minutes, but not without parting with some cash (which I also dropped on the same spot on the table) she smiled as I walked away.

About 20 minutes later, a lady emerged with our files; she called our names and directed us to an open hall, where we had to take another queue with a lot of patience, before we could be attended to by the doctors who weren’t on seat at about 9am. But what choice did we have, we had to wait.

At last, the doctors came and after waiting for another two hours, one of the doctors attended to me and I was again referred to another department where I was subjected to unnecessary rigour due to poor administrative style. “Never again will I come to this place”, I promised myself. After another two hours, I was already on my way out but with an appointment for another week. The experience was hell.

I took a public transport, and I disappeared. While I alighted, trying to connect with another bus, I saw something I needed, so I stopped in front of the Yoruba woman. I asked in Yoruba how much she sells her product and she just mentioned the price and asked in English how many I wanted. “What is wrong with all these Yoruba people, even a trader?” I rhetorically queried myself.

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Good and smooth relationships are the hardest to find these days and a major dysfunction in existing relationships is one or the two people in it having a sense of self entitlement which could lead to an actual problem in the relationship,

Every sense of entitlement starts from the littlest thing, though, we see them as normal but no, they are not and unless they are duly dealt with, such relationships is about to hit the rock bottom. Sometimes, entitled people don’t see these acts as being overly entitled, they think it’s normal and they are doing no wrong.

Well, some of these entitlement issues are;

The Tit for Tat Scheme

This is where the whole problem starts. A whole lot of people who are in a relationship have a mindset of “I have to get this if I’m giving that”. For ladies, sometimes, a lady thinks because she has sex to offer, her man must give her all she wants because she’s satisfying his sexual needs. As much as this has become the norm, let’s be factual, both parties are satisfying eachother’s needs, so keep the money out of it.

From man’s angle, if he starts to think he spending so a deserves to own her body, then, there’s a problem. Things done in a relationship shouldn’t be based on these mindsets and having these sense of entitlement. Whatever happened to just enjoying the moment and making the best out of it?

Thinking whatever belongs to your partner is yours too

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As much as we love to think this is true, you both ain’t married yet. His or her phone isn’t yours, you can’t force him to tell you his phone password, your cannot force her to let you know hers. Giving you these information is only based on genuine love and transparency. Girls often think they have a right to their partner atm pin, clothes, shoes, his car and other stuffs. Girl, there is no rules stating this obligation. Again, doing these only discretional and same goes for the man.

It’s okay to share his things but you need to know where to stop because you don’t want him putting to your face that you are being too entitled, it hurts but it’s the truth.

Being overly jealous of other friends

This is often seen in most relationships. One who’s entitled doesn’t thinks his or her partner is for just them alone. They don’t want to share. Such person cannot have a friend who is the opposite sex, there’s going to be a serious problem. I’m not saying you should be inquisitive when you feel the need to ask questions, but, people who feel entitled become overly obsessive, they don’t want their partners around other people for whatsoever reasons.

Asking for favours like it’s your birth right

A person who feels overly entitled would ask their partners for things or favours like they are commanding. Here, it’s some kind of confidence that he or she must do what they are asking or but what they want. They don’t think are making your inconvenient or making you go out of your ways to do things for them. They are less appreciative because they feel they aren’t asking for too much and they deserve it.

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Just recently, I realized the LinkedIn App is the most overlooked and under-used app amongst all platforms for job optimization and that probably people tend to think it is boring. Well, the LinkedIn platform is made for serious business and gives no room for the regular unseriousness social platforms allow.



The LinkedIn platform isn’t for just anyone as it helps to connect you to those that are related to your career and would be of much help to you. Sometimes, before sending an application letter, part of your homework should be to look for the HR officer of the company on LinkedIn, this is so you can address your cover letter and application letter to the person, it personalizes your letter so the recruiter will sit up and notice you.

Personally, i think it's best to look out for people holding key positions in the company and connecting with them or addressing the letter to them.

As graduates, students or any job seekers, LinkedIn is an important tool for job seeking but the sad things is that it is overly underrated and so many people are on this platform but they actually don’t maximize the benefits.

There are certain rules to guide you while using the LinkedIn platform, they are;

#Rule 1 : Only put up professional profile picture

It is important to know that if your profile doesn’t have professional pictures, prospective recruiters would not take you serious. People tend to use filtered pictures like LinkedIn is Instagram. this is a typical red flag.

Using professional but beautiful picture attracts people. They know you are there for real and straight business and not just there to joke around. Every employer wasn’t a beautiful and presentable employee even if it’s not on the basis of a full time job.

#RULE 2: Make your headline Catchy

This is another important rule. Most people use funny headlines as “Fresh graduate at Lexoft Media”, such headline won’t be taken seriously as most employers want someone with experience so it’s better to write things like “ Human Capital Management| Project Management | HR Enthusiast".

This helps the explain the career you are into. All these should be tailored towards your career direction. It helps to show how intentional you are about what you want.

#RULE 3: Don’t confuse your "About" section with your Headline

Confusing the About section with the Headline is easy but you should know that the Headline only allows few words and the About section is where you infuse your career objectives. Although people tend to see your Headline first before checking your About so if the headline is not catchy and well constructed they don't bother to go further to the about.

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Shoes[urlhttp:///s2437bbed191029en_ng][/url] are very important part a person dressing and it is a must have for men especially. It is a major part of what defines you as being fashionable and classy. As a man, your shoes can either make or break you so it is advisable to always go for quality rather than quantity.

Often times, it is believed that when meeting someone for the very first time, the factors used to give first impressions are your hair , handshake and your footwear. Since your shoes might be the first factor to consider it is best to always give people a great first impression.

There is a seemingly unending list of shoe styles to pick from but this article is to help you know the most important five must have shoes for men without having to spent too much or try so hard.

The Leather Oxford

The name comes from a type of half boot that became popular at Oxford University in the 1800s, but today most Oxfords will be found in shoe format. This shoe is characterized by it’s closed lacing format unlike that of the Derby shoe. These days, there rarely any man who doesn’t own a black or brown Oxford and it’ll always look great for a formal occasions.

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