Cheasystickylov:
Hello all, please all I need is your candid advice. I do not think this is the time to ask me rhetorical questions. I would have answered all those questions before the end of the epistle.
I do not sincerely if to quit my marriage or jut keep hoping that things will change in the nearest future.
I dated my wife for three years before got married in 2006. I can say without exaggeration that it has been war, except occasionally when peace will just reign for a short period of time.
Sadly I got a job in a multinational and we moved to Germany in 2014 and that just worsened everything. This made her to acquired more powers to do what ever she likes.
My wife is someone that literally fights with every single person.
During our dating, she exhibited so many of these characters. Despite all these red signs, I somehow just continued rather foolishly in the relationship hoping things will get better. This was not also helped by the pastor of our church who ensured that the relationship continued, he gave very many biblical examples including forgiving someone 7 times 77 times. I must also state that her mother was an elder in the church. So the action of the pastor is understandable.
We eventually got married, and it has been sorry tears and blood. We were able to have 3 children, and the eldest is 11 years, the youngest is 7 years.
My wife disrespects every single living thing I say, every one of them, she can insult me in public without giving a damn. I can not list all the scenario. Just to emphasize this point, her eldest brother and sisters have cautioned her many times , in my house and even when we visit them. To further emphasize, her eldest sister’s husband stop us from coming to his house because he said he can does not just bear the insults and the manner she disrespects me.
We can not have a heart to heart discussion, she is always not ready, or when we talk she just tell me to summarize, or she ignores me completely.
I have suggested counselling, however, she simply refused.
We can stay in the house for months without talking to each other, I have and still has always been the one that tries to initiate peace. Sadly most times she doesn’t even listen and walk away.
She keep male friends that I do not even have any real relationship with them, even if I try to caution her, she screams back. I have actually stopped trying to caution her, I just leave her alone with them. The latest now is a pastor who prays for her for the past 5 years, sadly the pastor and I have never had any conversation for all these years. I demanded for his number 2 years ago, she refused as usual, so I just allow her be. Of course their has been one or two case of suspected infidelity, initially when I asked she just ignored me and was even screaming. I gave her deadline of 5 days and she later cam to me to explain. Although there were still many grey areas.

The sad part is that, there is no single family member to even look into the matter
1.Her step brothers and sisters- they are not in talking terms.
2.Her mum- her mum dare not !
3.Her uncle- She is not in talking terms with any of them
4.Her Aunt-the same story, not in talking terms with them

She does not really have any close per say, and occasionally attend church online. I wish does attend a physical church, her pastor would have been the next person that might probably look into it.

Sadly she believes every one of these people including me have a problem. She feels she is right and we are all just evil people.

I am so confused and frustrated. I do not know exactly what to do.

Please stop stressing yourself there is nothing you can do to help dis, I will advise u go to YouTube and start following all of Doctor Ramani teachings on Narcissistic Relationship/Marriage and you will be enlightened to take the right step. For your mental health please don't disregard dis

Lifeisokay:
Hi everyone

Am looking for a serious relationship, I am a female, I'm very young but I really need a partner, he must be in his early or late twenties, not into fraud(Yahoo) or other crime activities, must be well mannered and respectful
Please I don't need an exchange type of relationship, I don't need money, I can take care of myself financially. What I need is a lovely and committed relationship

Message me if u are interested

What's your location?

bigpicture001:


Thanks man.. heard from her friend that sh said am too stingy,.

Honestly I didn't make her spend up to 50k from her wage.. 300k is not big and can be exhausted soon..

The weight will be too much if I form the normal Nigerian guy who likes to carry load on their head

my brother you did well, thank God it's happening now other than later.

Jeon:


I'M NOT INTERESTED IN ANYTHING RELATIONSHIP CUZ NO ONE CAN MATCH UP WITH MY PERSONALITIES.
[b]SO BETTER TO STAY AWAY FROM THAT[/b

THANKS
GOOD BYE.

And what might that personality be? Lets relate as friends

Op you hav just been saved from a narcissist. It's is not easy to detach urself from a narcissist but trust me dats the best thing that can ever happen to you.
My advice, follow doctor Ramani on YouTube, she will open ur eyes to a lot of things and manipulations and detaching yourself from her will be easy.
#peace

studyhub:

Yes, go ahead and send.

Thanks for the response

Please I will like to know if statement of result can be used for WES evaluation? Because due to covid most of us couldn't get our certificate 2020 but hopefully it ll be available by next year. Thanks

I recently developed a strong desire to explore my options as a quantity surveyor and seek for career growth outside the shores of Nigeria.
I Will really appreciate honest opinions from those who are already practicing professionally outside or have gone down this part to best advise and share their thoughts on countries with good career prospect and best possible route to relocate for a professional within the field aforementioned.
Thanks.

P.S: I'm considering the study route, don't have the fund yet but will work towards that from the anticipated advise, experiences and opinions gotten from here.

fatima04:
You people are not playing with this new part at all and now made me catch up after several days of reading through more than 40 pages. I will not dissappear and miss hot gist again oo.

Welcome back @Aphrodite007, we missed ya and glad you are doing great.

Thanks for your message on celebrating Little wins, saw it at a good time and we really do get overwhelmed amongst everything else.

I also thought @dustydee was a woman oo �� , maybe it's Shim sha

Missed the argument from our Mr Alaba intl importer exporter of drugs, some very funny responses that made my day.

Always a pleasure reading through @Ticha post omo, semi-retire at 50. We don bookmark the post and hopefully save enough to venture into it.

I want to add Engineering to the list of lucrative courses people can focus on asides IT and medics. It is a really lucrative industry, with loads of opportunities,although the salary return may not be as high as some IT roles. Lets also encourage our kids, nieces, nephew etc to study Engineering related courses, I am forever grateful to the person that pushed me to Quantity surveying.

There are lots of Engineeringcompanies offering apprenticeship roles with starting salary of 22k with benefit (for 2/3days at work) and still pay their Tuition. Basically, they are not saddled with student loans and still have good savings once done. I have seen 2 black kids in my coy blow up this opportunity on youthful exuberance.

Oga beryour i dey watch you oo, seems you wan port away from Engineering with all this tech analysis and abandon me, issokay oo

Reading through all the posts and seeing iboboyswag situation get resolved pages later was quite motivating and should be a lesson to people creating groups outside NL on whatsapp, seun really did strike gold, make he just increase some of its functionality.

Glad it all worked out @iboboyswag I can imagine the dilemma you and the family went through, the fear of UKVI ehn.

@akorkor having issues with that email and glad you asked your question on here and got better suggestions and help that I may not have been able to offer privately.

Endofmyjottings

This is nice. I am also a young QS seeking for better opportunities, would love to get in contact with you ma.

Gerrard59:


Good option is postgraduate studies in Germany. You deposit the fund into a block account, which gets released to you upon arrival in Germany. However, the process in obtaining a visa as a Nigerian in Nigeria is onerous and the worst I've read in my entire life. This is because due to the sheer demand of people who want to flee Nigeria, Covid-19 disruption which resulted in logjam of applications and maybe a change to dissuade prospective applicants, the process for applying a student's visa has two categories - A and B. Where Category A: students who got scholarships from governments, organisations or the school. Basically, you're funded by a third party. Also, if you have a first class within a certain period of time (check the embassy and thread). This Category will have your application processed quickly and you get invited for an interview. Category B: You have a 2.1 and below, self-funded etc. This will have your application processed at a later date and takes a year (again, check the thread). See why I mentioned it being onerous and worst ever read about? You have folks in Category B who got admitted but because they are in that category, their visa interview dates are allocated at dates beyond resumption dates and sometimes the following year. That's, you apply for admission for say September batch but don't get a visa interview till say June meanwhile classes commenced the previous year. Compare it to Japan where you apply for admission into the October intake, get a visa interview once your certificate of eligibility arrives (usually a month before, that's, August), head to embassy, get the visa and travel to Japan. Also, you're married and a father, this will incur more expenses if you intend carrying them along.

Better option is Canada express entry. You go through the process and all things being equal, you get ITA sometime next year. However, 5M will not be enough as a family man with two children. If I'm not mistaken, single applicants are required to possess POF of C$12, 000. Unless you go alone through the competitive process, you're patient, have a very high IELTS score of 8888, be prepared to learn French if need be etc.

Best option is the United States With your level of experience and hopefully a good grade, you can apply for a direct PhD and here's the juicy stuff; as a PhD student, you don't pay tuition fees as the department will waive it for you, get a stipend, you can bring your children and wife to the US; and yes, the school will fund you for that. Also, you have an easier path to green card and eventually citizenship after graduation. Now, the process entails you looking for a professor whose research theme aligns with yours. Send cold emails (see this link for in depth details: https://anumightytm.medium.com/part-two-guide-to-graduate-studies-in-the-united-state-of-america-us-38142f48d1f0), write the GRE to improve your chances, hopefully your IELTS score has a Listening score of at least 8 to improve your chances of getting teaching assistantships. Unfortunately, it's late to commence the process now as most schools offer funding for Fall season (August) as opposed to spring (March/April). So, what do you in the interim? Prepare very well for the journey and guess what? You will spend max N2M (inclusive of flight tickets) for this option because at the end of the day, you are not paying tuition fees nor providing living expenses. Why PhD instead of a masters? You're 31, don't have about 15M+ to present to the visa officer, long work experience and married with two children. An MSc doesn't favour you as most times, the school will not fund you. Trust me, if you opt for this option, you would be in the US mid-2023.

P.S. Forget the Australian option, you don't have the money as it's way more expensive than Canada's, your age doesn't favour you and maybe your occupation is not in high demand.

Best wishes!

You seem very enlightened about the whole process, would love to be guided by you on relocating as a young guy

Your last statement is wisdom for those who choose to take heed.

I believe life is a function of the choices we make.

FTC�. back to settling the matter, oga move on

In need of Redmi 7 3gb ram, 32gb ROM Neatly used with pack within Abuja. But can go for a new one depending on the price.Thanks

In need of Redmi 7 3gb ram, 32gb ROM Neatly used with pack within Abuja. But can go for a new one depending on the price.Thanks

my Question is who ar dose going 4 the testing for them to com up wit such figures?

samsard:
Are you a transcriber on this thread?

yea I am

Pls, is it possible to transfer fund from my PayPal to my bank account, if yes? What is required and d procedure.
Thanks

Ibechris2:


5 years.

dats lovely. do u mind sharing some tips

Ibechris2:


5 years.

dats lovely. do u mind sharing son tips wit d house

Ibechris2:
I regret not seeing my wife earlier. She was 30 and I was 31 when we got married.I am 11months older than my wife.

Marriage is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen in my life.

I remember one day my wife said to me, we need to quarrel at least for one day let her know what it means for husband and wife to quarrel looks like.

I jokingly said,not in my house.

It is absolute beautiful when u marry ur heart desire. Pls avoid baby mama. Is a wrong approach to marry or get children. Very,very wrong.

Wow, lovely. How long have you been married for sir?

holluikon:
*GOOD MORNING*
Buying all your PayPal funds now, instant Payment, no hold/Pending
*$10--$200 GNS needed Asap*
*Bring what you have, I'll accumulate*
*HAPPY EASTER*

how much do u buy

Doyin400l:
When expenses is greater than income for 3weeks. Na die oo

God help us

in this case dere is no income just expenses due to the lockdown

Following the recent rise in fake giveaway threads, I felt a burden to help create a platform where those in dire need could solicit for support from whomever may may be willing to help.
Like they say, "Na person wey never go another person farm go dey boast sey na him papa farm big pass" I felt I was in need but from what I have seen here I know say my own na play(though I know some might just be a ploy to get free cash online but we can't rule out the fact that some might genuinely be in need)

With that been said, I have a need of a #1000 so as to b able to withdraw the last #1000 in my Account.
0116430352 Union Bank. I will really appreciate the help.
Don't just post your account number, state your need.

PS: This is not a giveaway thread, neither am I promising you that your need might be met here but who knows your helper might just locate you here.

Abeg someone/Any1 Should help me with a thousand Naira so I can b able to Withdraw the last #1000 in my Account. 0116430352 Union bank. dey no allow me without my last 1000naira and it ll go a long way at dis point in time. Thanks.

Thanks.

pls me i dont need #25,000, Abeg someone/Any1 Should help me with a thousand Naira so I can b able to Withdraw the last #1000 in my Account. 0116430352 Union bank. dey no allow me without my last 1000naira and it ll go a long way at dis point in helping me feed. Thanks.

Abeg someone/Any1 Should help me with a thousand Naira so I can b able to Withdraw the last #1000 in my Account. 0116430352 Union bank. dey no allow me without my last 1000naira and it ll go a long way at dis point in time. Thanks.

Abeg someone/Any1 Should help me with a thousand Naira so I can b able to Withdraw the last #1000 in my Account. 0116430352 Union bank. dey no allow me without my last 1000naira and it ll go a long way at dis point in time. Thanks.

MadeINchenzen2:
One thing remains constant, can u guess what it is

No I can't, only if u tell me