@ Rominiyi, the poster,

PLS JUST HOLD UP WHATEVER DECISION YOU HAVE COME UP WITH & FOLLOW THE PLAN BELOW, RIGHT NOW U ARE NOT THINKING WITH YOUR HEAD BUT YOUR HEART:

Go and watch The movie - "Fireproof" @  
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PpuRpjPSFpc.

But first of all read the story line @ http://www.squidoo.com/fireproof-the-movie.

I believe whatever is lost (be it love or attention) in your marriage, can be restored after watching the movie

Like i said earlier in my previous post, "Don't start what you can't finish". I believe God is going to use the movie to transform your life and that of your present hobby ( erasing your ex out of the picture).

Did you really love your husband before you married him in the first place? Let's know.

My advise to you is, " Don't start what you cannot finish". Now that you haven't seen him (that is if you've not), Go with him to an opened environment where the risk of falling into any temptation would be evaded and explain to him that you're not willing to give up your marriage for anything. Tell him about the vows you made to your husband on your wedding day and that you're determined to stick to it. Say anything you want to say to him but make sure you part on a good terms with him. Afterwards, delete his number from your phone, change your number, most importantly, remember you said you came across your ex for the first time on one of the friendship sites, if it's Facebook or Hi5 or whatsoever, go and unsubscribe your membership so that the temptation of seeing him again wouldn't crop up again, if you know what i mean.

Just try hard to loose any contact from him and never plan any future arrangements or meeting with him ever again, this may be hard to do but trust me you'll get ova it. If you are a Christan, go on your knees and ask Jesus to help you deal with the situation, cry unto him and he'll answer & not fail. If i may even ask, what led to the break up 6 years ago?, was it (1). pressure to get married, (2). Love lost, (3) lose of contact, (4) infidelity, what exactly?

Don't worry God would help you through this!!!

Hello everyone ,

I have been with this guy for the past one and a half years now, but recently we broke up(in january, last month) due to long distance between us and misunderstandings( we've not seen for 6months), am in the UK studying my masters and he is in Nigeria working. He hadly called nor even cared about calling. When i complained about it, he told me that things would change and that i should give him so time and watch. The funny thing is that each time he called, he never fails to tell me he loves me and he misses me and all. I got confused that he might be playing tricks with me and seeing other girls back home, so i called it off.

However, i was wrong for calling it off because i noticed some changes about him few days before the break up but because he cut the phone on me during one of our conversation, it made me really think that he didn't really give a damn and thats why i called it off. The thing now is, a week after he never bothered to call nor text, neither did i, did i realize that i had to call him and apologize for the rash decision i made.

By then, it was already too late, he sounded uninterested about the relationship and afterwards each time i called him ( me only doing all the calls, no single call from him), i asked him whether he had moved on, he wouldn't give me an explicit answer and then one day he told me he was indifferent about taking me back because according to him it was not the first time such thing would be happening, so what would stop it from happening again. The thing is i didn't mean the break up.

Anyways, too cut the story short, because of him I'm planning to go back to Nigeria for a few weeks just for the purpose of sorting things out with him one on one, but the thing is he is weird at times, in the sense that when i call him sometimes he happily picks the phone and talk cordially but on some other occasions he wouldn't even pick at all after calling for about 7 times and then I'd just give up. Do you think he is seeing someone now? Do you think he has moved on with his life? Do you think he still feels the same way for me?. But he told me he is expecting me so that we could talk, but I'm scared. I don't want him to do anything drastic to me like break my heart the more.