@Justwise, thanks for your prinpt response

Hello everyone

I and my husband intend travelling to the UK for vacation/our belated honeymoon during our leave from work. I was a regular visitor to the UK (Student Visa & 2yrs Tourist Visa afterwards) until 2012 the year it expired and haven't renewed since then due to work(I got a job in late 2011 and had not seen the need to travel until now that I am married)

My husband has never been to the UK before and has a fresh passport, so we both want to apply as a couple. We are both working in good organisations.

My questions go like this:
1. Should mine be a visa renewal or fresh applcation considering the duration since my visa expired ( 2012).

2. Can I still apply for 2yrs and 6 mths for my husband?

3. My previous visas carry my maiden name but I would be renewing my int'l passport soon to my new last name. How do I go about informing them of the change?.

4. What are all the requirements/documents that we need to proceed.

Thanks for your awaited response

I suggest that you stick with Ecobank because you're more likely to be retained there. Better you go for the certainty rather than what you're unsure of.

@ poster, please come and give us an update about how it eventually played. I guess the guy should be about 29 years old now.
I wonder what happened to the two of them. Did L (the guy) eventually marry T (the girl) cos the 2 years has passed now?!!

Wow you guys I never knew there were real caring people on here. I really want to appreciate you all for your concern and encouragement. I feel much better after reading some of your posts. I know there is more to life and things can only get better. I just have to forge ahead and cherish the good people (like my family & friends) that God has put in my life. I'll get through this.

Thanks again, Love you guyz

Hi Nldrs,

I just need some encouragement. I feel so downcasted right now. Just got out of a long term relationship and although it's been like almost 2 months ago, i still sometimes feel lonely and depressed sometimes People around me are either getting into relationships or have been in stable relationships. You just get this feeling that you shouldn't be alone. Besides that, I'm still trying to get over my ex (which is kinda a bit slow). I don't know , just wanted to express myself to someone one might care.

These were the words given by a grieving wife to her late husband of almost 30 years, inspiring!


My husband - One of the few genuine goodmen!!!

Out of all - I chose you.
Out of all, it was you my heart fell for and knew.
My life became complete when you spoke.
My world found meaning when I leaned on you my oak!
You taught me that despite all odds there are a few good men who can stand the mud,
A few good men, who understand their purpose, who can bend on their knees and propose.
A few good men, who know how to love, yet not afraid to show it.
A few good men, who strong, bold and yet soft.
A few good men who show how to be caring, patient and understanding.
A few good men, who relate well with every in-law & known as the "one" in a million.
A few good men who value marriage as God 's perfect institution, willing to obey and listen to all its instructions.

I thank you God for giving me one of these few good men.
STAY BEAUTIFUL IN THE BOSOM OF THE LORD UNTIL WE MEET TO PART NO MORE

Your "Lady"
Catherine

charming4:

Thanks a bunch, yeah i know I'll heal with time. I'm actually this worried cos i have a delicate job which requires 100% concentration, this whole issue has really robbed me of that. I proposed to her last Val's day(even though now i wish i never did) which still brings sour memories. I will survive.

I believe with time, you would heal. I myself just got out of a 3 years relationship ( pls read my Post titled - HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO GET OVER AN EX) and I must tell you even if its been like a month since we broke up, I still need more time to heal because it's a gradual process. Don't rush it, you will overcome just like I eventually would also. Sorry to ask, but was it a mutual thing or what was the cause of the break up, ?

However, my little advice to you is to cut all communications with her, don't go to places that remind you of her, put away all pix of her, gifts or belongings that remind remind you of her, get closer to God(if your a christain), forgive her and let go, be optimistic about future relationship and love. Just put it in your mind it wasn't meant to be and probably God was trying to save your from future heart breaks. Don't worry, this shall soon pass ok. We shall overcome. Takia

pikadily:

I got over my ex in exactly 3 months 8 days and 4 hours.The girl is shege though,she fine too much.

But do you at least subconsciously think about her once in while or did you just erase her out of your mind completely?

Hi Nlranders,

How long does it really take to get over an EX. This is someone that you truly loved so dearly and made your stomach churn just at the thought of him or her. You built your world around him or her, thought it would turn out be 'a happily ever-after ending'. . But somehow along the line, you either realized you weren't meant for each other, or due to growing-apart, or a cheating partner, or for whatever reasons that you had to let that other half go.

If you have recently or in the past had a break-up with an EX( whether you were the breaker or breakee), did it take weeks, months or years? Please share your experience.

@ poster,

It's advisable to date someone younger than you or the same age, i don't support the idea of you being younger. I'm a lady and would personally tell you.

@ john ope,

A friend of mine was just called to write a test at Literamed publication. Please do you have any idea what she should expect, what is the nature of their test, what is their salary structure like?

@ poster,

I quite understand where you're coming from. Putting myself in your girlfriend's shoes, I would be upset at first and may probably not call, nor pick your calls, but if she truly loves you, she'll come to understand ur past situation and forgive you. Just try and be a little bit patient, am so sure, she'll come around (that's if what she feels for you is real).

dapsycool:

Where did u get that pics, that looks like  my ex  

Hey dude, you also look familiar. Do i know you somewhere

@ Canuck,
would you please access mine

@poster,

PURE IGNORANCE, even as the bible says "my people perish for lack of knowledge".

For you to start to have those thoughts of wanting to explore other men after loosing your virginity (While you're still dating your boyfriend) means that you are likely to cheat on your husband if you're not able to controll those urges of yours. Reason being that once you've lost it, you never stop being satisfied with just one man, hence you start jumping from pillar to post. BE VERY CAREFUL MY SISTER!!

@Janeesa, right on point.

When i asked her why she had to stoop so low for the guy, she told me that he made her feel that virgins are not humans, worthless and inexperienced people who are incapable of satisfying their partners and so she didn't want to feel like such loser and just did it anyways.

Thankfully, She said she's planning on leaving him because she can't bear the shame of loosing it to him and wouldn't be able to bear the pain if he eventually leaves her, so it's better she leaves jejely on her own. I feel sorry for her though. I bet the guy is probably telling himself that he has scored "another" jackpot and would have started to see her as "the other loose girls in town". Well for me, i know that even if she has defiled her body which is the temple of God, it's not the end of the world for her. God is merciful and i believe would give her a happy fresh start. Anyway thats why i'll be there for her through it all. I just hope she gets over it fast. Na wa for MEN oo and their pressure(indirect or direct)

A very close friend of mine just lost her virginity and she came asking me if she had made a mistake and when i asked her how she felt about it, she started to pour out her concerns to me. She had been dating this guy for a little over three years and although there was no direct pressure on her from the guy to give it up and she didn't want to loose him, knowingly fully well that he has always been sexually active with his past girlfriends. In the beginning of their relationship, there was little pressure from the guy, but later on he just accepted and loved her that way, even if she knew he was dying inside.

My friend told me that the main reason why she said she had to have sex with him was because she loved him and was scared of loosing him, but wasn't sure whether that was the right time. Now, she is scared that he might leave her for giving in (after 3 yrs). Please note that the lady is 24<27 yrs old and although he had been talking about marrying her, it wasn't going to happen until 3 years time. She doesn't know what to think again

I've told her that even if she thinks she made a mistake, she doesn't have the power to erase the past and no amount of advice that i gave her was able to sooth her, so I've come here for advice from fellow nairalanders and probably those who have experience as well. Right now, as i speak she is ashamed to talk to the guy nor even see him cos she thinks he might not respect her anymore.

I've got a few ideas for you, you could pick any of them. Cheers and gudluck!

1). Invite her for some games at home. Use Scrabble letters and spell out "Will you marry me?" Have the diamond close by.

2). Create a personal Web page with her name and your proposal with a picture of the diamond in its velvet presentation box, and send her the Web address. Or sit down together to surf for good vacation sites, and visit a site or two before you type in the site address.

3). If she wakes up each morning to the clock radio, arrange for an ad on her usual station at just the right time so she hears your proposal when she wakes up in the morning. Try to be at her door (or beside her) when she hears your public proposal, and have the diamond in hand.

4). You could also hide the ring box in the carton of eggs. When she or he goes to make breakfast, be ready to drop to one knee.

Poor Lady

@Poster, you have to be very carefull about what the pastor says and truly confirm if the message is really from God or not.

I know someone(a lady) who was in the same position as yours. A pastor told her not to marry the one she was in love with, but marry the one whom she didn't love. To cut the long story short, she went ahead and heed the pastor's advice. Obviously, she married the one she didn't have feelings for and guess what, that marriage was hell, the man physically abused, he would beat her almost to the point of death, he did not take responsibility of the family either. One day, the man just dissapeared leaving her for good and never came back to the marriage.

So my friend, BE VERY CAREFUL( am not saying all pastors are fake though), if God doesn't want you to marry d one you claim you love, He would also speak to you and direct you, pray hard and be sensitive to his leading. You just have to watch out for signs.

Peace!!!

frank3.16:

Now guys, this is very simple.

Like everybody else, I had some experience when i was in school and I found out that its not all about calling urself a virgn. well the girl I dated then claimed she was and I was playing Mr. nice guy only to find out that she was beggin another fellow to shag her.

Now,  didnt take it out to other girls I dated, but I decided I wont play the fool again. U know, u cant help who u fall for, so even though I said I wont fall for any girl who claims to be a virgin, here I am, in love with another.

but then, I will use my head.

she has thoroughly refused to let me have my way, but I smile, she does not know who she is dealing with. I do help her financially in the past whenever i am in a good mood. but this is getting annoying.


then the question i asked myself is: what will happen if i stop helping her financially? she claims she does not love me because of mony, i also claim i dont love her because of sex. I have made some sacrifice, why cant she make hers?
if i am willing to part with my mony why cant she part with her so called treasure? or is my mony not my treasure?  

It seems that you only want to be in that relationship for what you can get (sex) and not what you can give. From you post, you sound so selfish. True love is giving and if you can't accept it that way, let her be, it's obvious you're not the one meant for her.

frank3.16:

then the question i asked myself is: what will happen if i stop helping her financially? she claims she does not love me because of mony, i also claim i dont love her because of sex. I have made some sacrifice, why cant she make hers?
if i am willing to part with my mony why cant she part with her so called treasure? or is my mony not my treasure?  

then leave her alone, so that some other guy(maybe her husband) who cherishes her TREASURE and is truly deserving can have a part of it.

Well i think the girl is supposed to return it to the ex-fiancee cos that ring was a sign of commitment for marriage and since that's no longer going to hold, i guess the girl should give it back to the guy. period

I believe long distance relationships do work but it takes commitment, strong will by GOD'S GRACE and of course blind Trust like some other posters have said. I myself, have been in one for the past 2yrs now and in the last year i've seen him just once. It could be really painful because you can't see the one that you love, touch them or feel them. I can't quantify the phone bills i've invested in dis rlship, i don't even want to go there. I have been faced with so many temptations here and there, almost fell into one when me and my bf had a serious issue( he also almost fell for temptation himself the same period as mine), but thank God we were able to conquer them and are still waxing strong. I get to see him again in few months time, yeehh!

Well, for those in it keep on praying and hope for the best cos the joy would eventually come when you and your SO will finally be together in each other's arms with no distance barrier to battle again.

Keep the faith!

Please who has any idea of how much it costs to ship and clear a car from the UK to Nigeria?