omega25red: What help do you want you caught the B@#% cheating you would be really stupid to go back to her
Besides the obvious you know by now all her friends know that you caught her if you go back to her they all would know you are a mugu and people would laugh at you for as long as you stay with her. Also she wouldn't have apologized if you hadn't caught her so you know she really isn't repentant


On the other hand you could get with her and use the emotional upper hand you have to ruin her or you can just be with her for sex while you mess with other girls and when you find the one you like you dump her publicly for some stupid shit like why didn't you laugh at my joke

good luck

I can't believe all that actually came out from yu.it goes a long way to tell.................., someone is heartbroken and all u can say is this.isssh!

My dear,I think you should find out what the issues were that actually pushed her into the hands of another.Nobody is perfect and we are all bound to make mistakes,don't allow anybody mislead you.most of this guys giving you advises run back to their babes even after catching her with another man.

I am not worried about him cheating.instead he is the one killing himself.he calls and I don't pick up or he calls and it is on call waiting...its a big problem. Whenever he visits and am not ready to get down he suspects am seeing someone.he goes through my fone like one million times and wants to know who called at all time.

LewsTherin: Do you already fear that he's cheating on you creating all the arguments? Contrary to popular nairaland opinion, some men do have self control. I was involved in a ling distance relationship for over 7 years and I didn't cheat on her.

Can you actually be in a long distance relationship without cheating on your partner.esp when you get to quarrel almost all the time. Am finding it hard to hold up.please I need your advice.

You make so much sense.

yellowpawpaw:


Dear, its in u. If u want to curb pride and quick temper,u can do it. Nobody was born with such. Its the environment we find ourselves in that moulded us to what we r and we accepted that as normal.
Look at those around u, like beget like.
Eg nl family section, if u hv d time check out various posters and whom they attract.
Having a r/ship with someone that is like u will worsen it. U need d opposite.
Involve urself into humanitarian work.
It humbles pple. One of my friend is very very proud with sassy mouth. She wouldn't allow u to even talk. I quietly withdrew myself.
Also learn how to walk away. It might be rude but its better to walk away than spew rubbish from ur mouth.
Practice with nairaland if u hv d time. It might look funny but this is one training ground for many. Eg, ur post might attract negative comments. Out of anger u might want to lash out. After typing, pause and read then delete or leave d typed whatever and go,come back later and delete it. U will feel so happy within.
As u r advising somebody, u r equally advising urself in any post. it gives joy and makes u want to improve more unknowingly.
Check ur background and know if there r some diggin to do.
At times its good to deny ourselves some certain things u know.humbles us.
Look at life differently.
I made friends with d elderly and wise ones. Learnt a lot from them.
In ur r/ship, always look out for the other party. If u feel tensed up about something,don't wait,u can ping d person,then talk about it later.
Always know that we r very imperfect including u.
Take each day as it comes. No too much expectations from anybody.
And on and on........


I don't even know if I make sense.
(Muah)