daylay7:

I dont think she can bear weight on her leg because each time i help her to stand, her legs will be shaking as if she doesnot have the stamina to stand. But I think with time, she will improve. I said this because any time i help her to walk, she would be lifting her legs as if she want to run. lolz

Does she stand leaning or holding onto chair?

I hope you will help me understand this dream. I keep seeing this lady that died few years ago in my dream. We all grew up in the same place. She was my elder sister's mate but she got married later than most of her mates. Early into her marriage her husband died and she subsequently also died after few months or 1year at most childless. I left Nigeria about 13yrs ago and have never been in contact with her and wasnt around when she died. She died around 2013/2014. She went to the same secondary with my elder sister and they both boarded. I don't know why I keep seeing her in my dream. I have seen her up to 5 times. Plz help

Please i want to do 3 days PTE intensive course in Enugu. Anyone knows any contact?

nkwuocha:



That's if the the worst!Horse ride?!
He will erupt hard like vocalno.The husband has got a lot of mind work to do.

He lasts long with horse riding but it's tiring for me
Besides i dont really enjoy it that way

Am beginning to dread sex with hubby because i end up unsatisfied and angry each time.
Anytime i moan during sex or he knows am enjoying it he will just release, leaving me hanging. The only solution is for me to remove my mind and just lay there but then he last long that i end up praying he comes. I dont know how else for both of us to achieve orgasm during sex. Pre intimacy is not a problem for us, its just the main action. Ive talked to him and he stated that he feels sensitive with the style. But even when we try different styles as soon as he goes behind that will be it. But i cant avoid behind because thats the only way i can achieve orgasm. Any suggestions please

@op I understand what you are going through. My sister has 5girls. She got married in 2000 and has her first daughter in 2001. She was so sad also through the years of her marriage because of societal pressure. People were saying all sorts of things.

Anytime she drivers a baby, their response was mmhh she has delivered another girl as usual. It got to a point, out of my young mind I was praying that when I get married and have a son I will give the child to my sister while she fakes her own pregnancy . When her fifth girl arrived one of her youngest daughter questions why she kept coming back with girls that they want a brother.
But my sister was lucky her husband showered her with love and there was no pressure from our in laws. My family had a meeting that my sister should not go through any pregnancy anymore without being sure that the next child will be a boy as we have bought so many books, monitors and things to enhance her chances yet she continued having girls. We didn't want to loose our sister just because of mere pursuit of a male child. Besides she has been on this journey for the past 13yrs of her marriage.
We made enquiries and she went abroad to do sex selection which she described was an emotional roller coaster. The stress alone, injections, lifestyle changes inclusive of diets and living in the hotel all through the course of treatment. The first attempt failed as no there was no healthy male sperm to insert. We had to pay again and extended her Visa and glory be to God the second one was successful. The boy is over 1year now and healthy as well.
I also recommendEd it to my friend that has four girls and she went to the same clinic. She was successful at first. They both complained the journey was not an easy one. We don't know what we have getting pregnant easily. They also met so many Nigerians at the clinic.
@op
If you and ur hubby are financially alright you can go for the sex selection. Otherwise economy is very bad to continue having babies just to get a male child. I wish you a baby boy. Blue dust all over u.

ipobbigot7:
Madam i will start by correcting the idea of you threaten your maraiage with seperation unless you really wish for it.

The two of you should accept responsibility for the roles you play in the quarrels and start making deliberate efforts in first correcting your attitude, manner of response and approach, perspective of each other, disposition and level of tolerance.

It's not just you alone your hubby as well, before either of you could correct the other you have to first correct yourself because what either of you bring in to the relationship is what you get from the other. You want respect start giving respect, you wants to be understood try understanding him or her, you want to be tolerated start tolerating, you want to be addressed with soft tone start using soft tone.

You two should resolve that no issue will rise without talking it out. Above all give priority to God in the marriage, let His love and his fear rule.

Thanks for this. Everyone here thinks am a troublesome woman. Both of us are culprits here. When I said I also give him my own share of trouble, I meant I can't keep quiet because I feel irritated and my tolerance level tends to be low at that time of the month. Why won't my husband pass his message across without shouting? And this is when I also flare up. Why don't he talk calmly to me at least in those periods or try not to raise his voice knowing fully well that i will flare up at that period. This is a medical practitioner and therefore he should know better. I have tried to describe everything so that I can get a good advice which is what I seek. In life is good to be fair. There is no point coming here painting my husband bad when I know two saints cannot make a wrong(both of us are responsible). That I suffer from PMS doesn't mean I go about looking for trouble. I don't look for anyone's trouble but I find it hard taking s.h.it I would have normally overlooked.

Richy4:
Are you Chy4luv's Husband?....Just a harmless question...

Yes he is
Or may be Richy4's brother

Why should I be the one to always keep quiet why can't he do the same especially knowing my time. This is what annoys me. He is 11yrs older than me but shows no atom of maturity.

Richy4:
What do i even know in marriage not to talk of advising someone with 10 years experience...But however, I know that It takes two or more to argue..One person cannot just shout and shout without another fueling the argument to be heated....to an extent it becomes a shouting match..

If one of u can just learn to be calm when an argument is about to be heated or knew when to shut up and take a timeout for the kids sanity,that will be cool and doing that does not make anyone of u weak...it means maturity..one of you can just play dumb and Take a timeout once in a while to listen,....to what the other is saying....

But when two highly inflammable couple comes together...and no one wants to be a voice of reason, it creates chaotic situation at home..and the home became unbearable for the children...

Madam separation will not solve your problem..one of you should be calm some times...being calm does not show sign of weakness...As you said, your husband is a nice man... but temperamental...If you desire peace in your home where you will raise kids that will not be scared of marriage in future, or hates to comeback home when they grew up due to the heat, then you know what to do...

N.B: Though I am not worthy to advise you due to your experience in Marriage madam...But this is just common sense..

Richy4:
What do i even know in marriage not to talk of advising someone with 10 years experience...But however, I know that It takes two or more to argue..One person cannot just shout and shout without another fueling the argument to be heated....to an extent it becomes a shouting match..

If one of u can just learn to be calm when an argument is about to be heated or knew when to shut up and take a timeout for the kids sanity,that will be cool and doing that does not make anyone of u weak...it means maturity..one of you can just play dumb and Take a timeout once in a while to listen,....to what the other is saying....

But when two highly inflammable couple comes together...and no one wants to be a voice of reason, it creates chaotic situation at home..and the home became unbearable for the children...

Madam separation will not solve your problem..one of you should be calm some times...being calm does not show sign of weakness...As you said, your husband is a nice man... but temperamental...If you desire peace in your home where you will raise kids that will not be scared of marriage in future, or hates to comeback home when they grew up due to the heat, then you know what to do...

N.B: Though I am not worthy to advise you due to your experience in Marriage madam...But this is just common sense..

My sister said the same but it seems I can't keep quiet. Am not usually the type that keep quiet when on my month which is when all these arguments arrives.

These arguments are usually around my period. I suffer from pre menstrual syndrome. He knows that. I really dont wanna be on medication for that. don't look for my trouble two to one week before my period, I feel very irritable. My period came this morning. I came back to work this afternoon and told him. He said waoo and no arguments well done. That i don't take nonsense when I am on my period . Little did I know we will be quarrelling in less than 2 hrs.

Thanks

Rich, this one shouts, louder than us self .
Colleagues said she used to be worst, she will be shouting ur name from one end, come here, so rude and autocratic. She hasn't changed one bit but has left them alone as I still experience that with her.
I will be having a meeting tomorrow, I will highlights all this. Will let u guys know how it went.

Richy4:


Ok..Naturally you have to be calm while you were dishing it out....Do not raise your voice while doing it as a gentleman...

Just sacrifice a particular lunch break and stalk her to wherever she normally had her break and hand it down to her nice and clear..Remember not in the office.

Just start with you....Look (you put her name)...I just want to talk to you...She will give you an audience

I have endured how you tried so hard to undermine me in every opportunity u got in this company...How you tried your best to blame in something that was not literally my fault....But I have come to a conclusion that you were doing this because u were not very lucky intellect...Do not get me wrong I was not trying to say you are a fool...All I am trying to say was that you were not blessed with mental manpower....because assuming who were, you would have know that that job you were blaming me was not a job assigned for me to do but (You mentioned the name of the person)

This is the last time I'm gonna warn you about this....Since you have become a bitch...I can't wanna stoop so low as to engage myself with a regular bitch like you...I deal with super bitches...And super bitches incase you don't know are intelligent and smart which i believe eludes you.
For the last time.....Back off my case.....

<<Then You just turn and swag away....Do not stay to listen to what she has to say.........Indian women were not known to talking loud in public...Except if she was indeed a regular bitch...

Hey You need to have guts to pull this off...I did a similar thing in my place of work and came out with flying colors... they were trying to look down on me as a black man and test my patience.......I did not even have time to report any one...I just gave it to that 43year old man white man nice and neat...After that news went around that I was not a push over....So i got my peace back...

Hahaha. Meeen u are too much.
Wish I had seen this when it first started. This would have worked like magic lol. I will refer to this in the future. Saving that. Thanks
But on a serious note why do they look down on black. It can be very hard as a black person outside naija shore. God will help our country

Richy4:


Ok..Naturally you have to be calm while you were dishing it out....Do not raise your voice while doing it as a gentleman...

Just sacrifice a particular lunch break and stalk her to wherever she normally had her break and hand it down to her nice and clear..Remember not in the office.

Just start with you....Look (you put her name)...I just want to talk to you...She will give you an audience

I have endured how you tried so hard to undermine me in every opportunity u got in this company...How you tried your best to blame in something that was not literally my fault....But I have come to a conclusion that you were doing this because u were not very lucky intellect...Do not get me wrong I was not trying to say you are a fool...All I am trying to say was that you were not blessed with mental manpower....because assuming who were, you would have know that that job you were blaming me was not a job assigned for me to do but (You mentioned the name of the person)

This is the last time I'm gonna warn you about this....Since you have become a bitch...I can't wanna stoop so low as to engage myself with a regular bitch like you...I deal with super bitches...And super bitches incase you don't know are intelligent and smart which i believe eludes you.
For the last time.....Back off my case.....

<<Then You just turn and swag away....Do not stay to listen to what she has to say.........Indian women were not known to talking loud in public...Except if she was indeed a regular bitch...

Hey You need to have guts to pull this off...I did a similar thing in my place of work and came out with flying colors... they were trying to look down on me as a black man and test my patience.......I did not even have time to report any one...I just gave it to that 43year old man white man nice and neat...After that news went around that I was not a push over....So i got my peace back...

[quote author=Richy4 post=53039254]

Ok..Naturally you have to be calm while you were dishing it out....Do not raise your voice while doing it as a gentleman...

Just sacrifice a particular lunch break and stalk her to wherever she normally had her break and hand it down to her nice and clear..Remember not in the office.

Just start with you....Look (you put her name)...I just want to talk to you...She will give you an audience

I have endured how you tried so hard to undermine me in every opportunity u got in this company...How you tried your best to blame in something that was not literally my fault....But I have come to a conclusion that you were doing this because u were not very lucky intellect...Do not get me wrong I was not trying to say you are a fool...All I am trying to say was that you were not blessed with mental manpower....because assuming who were, you would have know that that job you were blaming me was not a job assigned for me to do but (You mentioned the name of the person)

This is the last time I'm gonna warn you about this....Since you have become a bitch...I can't wanna stoop so low as to engage myself with a regular bitch like you...I deal with super bitches...And super bitches incase you don't know are intelligent and smart which i believe eludes you.
For the last time.....Back off my case.....

<<Then You just turn and swag away....Do not stay to listen to what she has to say.........Indian women were not known to talking loud in public...Except if she was indeed a regular bitch...

Hey You need to have guts to pull this off...I did a similar thing in my place of work and came out with flying colors... they were trying to look down on me as a black man and test my patience.......I did not even have time to report any one...I just gave it to that 43year old man white man nice and neat...After that news went around that I was not a push over....So i got my peace back...

[/quote
Hahaha. Meeen u are too much.
Wish I posted this when it first started. This would have worked like magic lol. I will refer to this in the future. Saving that. Thanks

eyinjuege:
Bullying in the workplace is taken very seriously, especially in the UK.
Make an official complaint. Start with writing an e-mail, explaining your grievances, and be polite, straight forward about it. Try not to be too emotional, but also be concise and state how its been affecting your productivity. How you don't like coming to work because of her, and how you've had to reduce your hours because of her. You can also mention you're now been ganged upon by her and her friend. Don't mention their races, unless you genuinely feel they're not just been bullies but also racists.

The email is an official documentation of the concerns you want addressed.

Anytime there's an altercation between you and them, start writing and recording such on a paper, with date and time it occurred. Also put down the witnesses present. Just collextball these notes, for a future date when you need to make another official complaint.

Thanks. What consenquences could happen when one makes an official complaint? It seems bullies get away with no consequences

Richy4:
why are you whining...Tell her that she can drop dead for all you care...Complaining will be like giving her an upper hand....to act superior...

Just follow her to wherever she was having her break/ lunch one day and tell her that you have had it up to here... with her bullshit...that you are not gonna tolerate that anymore...No physical confrontation because Indians don't do that violent things ...verbal, intelligent and constructive insult will do the magic...I wish you knew how to politely dish out an insult...without making it look or sound like it....The type Cameron used on Nigeria when he said we were fantastically corrupt......I might even give u tips on an opening line of insult that sound kinda intelligent if you want ....

That's what I need to learn. Keep calm and yet pass ur opinion across firmly. Please I would like some sentences

[quote author=eyinjuege post=53035283]Bullying in the workplace is taken very seriously, especially in the UK.
Make an official complaint. Start with writing an e-mail, explaining your grievances, and be polite, straight forward about it. Try not to be too emotional, but also be concise and state how its been affecting your productivity. How you don't like coming to work because of her, and how you've had to reduce your hours because of her. You can also mention you're now been ganged upon by her and her friend. Don't mention their races, unless you genuinely feel they're not just been bullies but also racists.

The email is an official documentation of the concerns you want addressed.

Anytime there's an altercation between you and them, start writing and recording such on a paper, with date and time it occurred. Also put down the witnesses present. Just collextball these notes, for a future date when you need to make another official complaint.
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Thanks. What consenquences could happen when one makes an official complaint? It seems like the bullies get away all the time.

worworgirl:
Not all Indians are bad anyway, I have a few of them as friends, jovial and kind hearted. People should stop generalizing. Girl u have to be very stubborn with them, roll ur eyes whenever they are bullying u and pretend u are not listening... sometimes when they talk just say 'blah blah blah.. what did u say again or u can simply ask 'are u talking to me? Be free with yourself and move about happily, it will kill them. When u re not working use headphones and listen to song or play games on ur computer.

Yes I have an Indian friend as well who happens to be the neighbour of the one bullying me. She is very nice and kind hearted. She also complained the bully is also harassing and poke nosing into her affairs. She did tell me to stand up to her that she bullies people around. In terms of generalising, my Indian friend also confirmed Indians especially women are hard to work with and she also find it difficult working with them.

daretodiffer:
Wow!

When you want to report them again do it via email so that you have proof. If they refused to change, report to the most senior

You can also change your job. I feel your pain.

Yes I report via email as well.Changing Job is easy as I have two places asking me to come work for them, but how do i know I will not meet such kind of people. Though people say indians are worse people to work with. I really like my job and workplace due to the flexibility as I have young kids and manager is very understanding with childcare.

lilyheaven:

You nailed it, don't wait, just send it back to then, as the insult is coming, but Indians can be wicked o, they will look for another way to bring you down. They are naturally witches, only few of them are good

This is why I always let the manager know, so she knows there's a rift between us. Whichever way they try to bring me down, the manager knows.

amuijiji:
To choke bottle for person eye dey hungry me..

OP, u re too cool nd they would continue riding on you..

Am not really a quite person. I think she is just using her position to abuse new comers. But having been there for over a year I dont see myself as new anymore rather as a team member which she has failed to include me.

Osahon7:
Seems you live in the UK??
Omo you nor be Naija again?? Shine eye for them and their head will correct!?

I wish this is happening in naija, I would have ensured they got the beatings of their lives . But in this country you have to be diplomatic and professional as you may end up being labelled.

daretodiffer:
Have you tried ignoring then it walking out in them or using earpiece when they start their madness?

Thats what I do to one of them, so she now pushes the other one to ask me. She started the one yesterday because another colleague saw them discussing it first before she called my attention. Ignoring that one is difficult because she is most senior and incharge. It starts by her calling me first and saying can I show you something and it generates from there.

[quote author=sisisioge post=53022286]Since you have lodged a formal complaint to the manager, the next time they bully you just tell them calmly not to address you like that. Plus arrange to entirely separate your work from theirs. That's if your line managers are different.

That's what I plan to do. I don't know if it would be possible as the other one works 4 days a week out of 6 days. I used to work 30hrs a week but have reduced it to 24hrs recently. Our manager is very understanding. I will see if she could help me with that but I don't know if it will warrant me reducing my hours further so as not to meet them.
Everyone is complaining they tend to be worse when they're on the same shift which happened yesterday. I also want to lodge a complaint for them to be separated or on different shifts if possible. Both of them scrutinies my work all the time trying to find any mistakes. Regularly I see them together gossiping and trying to find faults with my work. When an old member of staff make any mistakes they try to keep it low. I have informed the manager about this and she wasn't happy but I feel like because she is new she doesn't have balls yet.

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I want to buy a new apple laptop from usa and have it ship to UK. Please how do I go about this? Any recommendations for reliable and good websites ? Cheers

40K op.

Please your suggestions are needed.

hello.
I need to send money to naija. How much is ur commission and rate?
I need your phone number.

At Op,
If you check my post you will know that I don't normally comment here but I had to
There is no cause for alarm, my two kids did this especially when they have their pampers on.
I was also worried until I saw other kids doing it. They do it around that 8months.
Wait until you start noticing his morning erection

Please I am thinking of bringing somebody from my country to UK but not quite sure about the whole procedure.
From UK immigration website, I found out that recently they changed domestic worker visa to just 6 months.