If everyone was like me this world for sweet die

Still wondering what the man said that was termed "an affront on the traditional institution"
People just like using words they don't know the meaning.

cloud:
its obvious you are not yet a parent. You will understand better when you start having children of your own. Just pray for God's guidance and try to do your best when the time comes.

You people should stop looking for excuses to justify irresponsibilities and failures.
If you must know, I am a father of 3 boys and a fostered girl; an 18yr old in the university, a 14 yr old girl in high school, a 10 year old in high school and 5 yr old in primary school.
I dont even live with them but the first time my first boy started having taughts about girls I knew about it, the first time my second boy watched porn on his phone I knew, the first time the 5 yr old lied to his mum to get a favour i knew.

I disciplined, gave counseling, changed rules and kept monitoring them to prevent future occurances.
No child I gave birth or under my care will ever turn out to become evil or a menace to society..I say this with 100% certainty.

Mastakija:
I think we shouldn't really judge the parents
Some parents might have tried their best on their kids but some children are just born evil
May God have mercy

Why should we not judge the parents? They are culpable before the law.
Responsible parents should not breed cultists and criminals.
No how children in that age bracket will be involve in such evil without their parents knowing.

This is commendable, participants will sure learn one or two things.

Made up story

malami needs immediate mental evaluation, i wonder how he became a SAN.

Stop misleading people please, you claim to be an electrical engineer but doesn't know the difference between a conductor and a non conductor, AC currents and DC currents
1.Plastic as used in phone chargers cannot conduct electricity.
So there's no way voltage will get to you or phone.
2. There's a transformer in phone chargers that change AC ( alternating current
..like the current in a wall sucket that can shock) to DC (direct Current..like the current in a car battery)

There's no way AC current @ 220v will escape the transformer that it's supposed to change it to DC 5V and travel through plastic which is a non conductor to the phone or the user.

As for phones electrocuting people , I think the electronic components inside the phones are responsible and not the chargers.

DONFRANSKID:
What a Piece of shit you wrote there

All the men you posted started from the bottom and raise to enormous wealth with women behind them.

BigMoneyeye:
Our society is structured in a funny way, or maybe it's nature.
The female is raised to bother about finding a man to settle down with, instead of looking for a reasonable means of employment.

The male child on the other hand, is worried about making his life better, he is worried about being employed. He is worried about earning a living.

Can you see what is wrong? Is it that women are inclined by nature to depend on man or our girls are being raised to believe that it's a man's duty to provide everything a woman wants.
What value can you add to a man's life if he marries you

It's not the society and it's not funny it's nature. Times have changed agreed but nature remains the same. When I have the time I will write about women being breadwinners of the family and the adverse effects. It's delusional when a guy expects his unemployed girlfriend or wife to provide money or contribute to the bills in the family or relationship and still expects her to be faithful. When you put undue pressures on your woman for money she will most likely get it from other men.

Behind every successful man is a woman

I believe many of us have read the above statement many times but I doubt if many can unlock the true value of the statement.

Today,. many misinformed men in Nigeria of marriageable age abhors marriage and see it as a curse rather than a blessing.
Many erroneously think they will fare better in life without the burden and distraction of a woman in their lives, they argue that marriage in Nigeria is angled to favour only the girls.

These misconceptions have adversely affected the virtues,values, structure and tends to destroy the moral foundation of the society if unchecked. When a lie is told many times, it tends to be seen as a fact but it remains a lie.

There is a woman for every man and a man for every woman.
I've come to realize that the problem most young men Nigeria encounter in relationships and marriage is making the wrong choices with women, they are more after trivial things like physical body features than more important things like compatibility. Guys run into problems because they erroneously believe that any girl can be theirs as long as she has the ass,boobs,curves and face they fancied.

You become a successful man the day you meet your woman! It's unfortunate that most Nigerian guys don't pay attention to the happenings around them when they are in relationships or courtship with girls.
There are girls who come into your life and things naturally starts to fall into place, gradually you begin to make progress in many areas of your life, you start to experience favours all around you, you feel peace within and with her.This is the woman behind every successful man, All successful men have them

Some guys have felt these with Nigerian girls but because the girl doesn't have a big ass, a PhD or know how to give Head they will abandon her..to go after the girls that will give them reason to come to nairaland and post Nigerian girls are useless

DONFRANSKID:
Nigerian girls are useless
Come beat me

It beats my imagination how grown up men that should be inculcating societal virtues on the younger ones will make baseless statement like you typed above.

PhavesGideon:

Hmmmm.. This one never know.

This just what I am trying to discourage... generalization. If you or someone you know have had terrible experience with Nigerian girls doesn't mean we will all have the same experience with them.

Pumpumking:



..bros..so which naija babe pay u to post these tread...Nmezor??
how much they pay u sir?

pay? no one paid me, I dont need to be paid to correct misinformation and lies.

I've come to notice that Nigerian girls are vilified and subjected to mockery by many disgruntled heartbroken males, especially on this forum.
Many have also identified with the
rhetorics of Redpill just to spite Nigerian girls.

It is unfortunate that this mindset have gained popularity among shallow minded males who will swallow every unverified fables posted on the internet hook,line and sinker without any form of mental processing.

Nigerian girls are one of the most loving,caring, patient and supportive females you can find anywhere in planet earth.

Most people that post nonsense about foreign women being better than Nigerian women don't even have an international passport talk more of a visa.
Men that have "hustled" outside knows the difference,they will always come back to marry a Nigerian girl, some of these girls wait for them for years.

The only problem I see here is the inability of most Nigerian men to win the heart of a Nigerian girl. For you to win her over there must be something you are bringing to the table that countless of her admirers are not offering. You can't be saying the same things to her that she's been hearing five years ago and expects her to be falling and tumbling for you.
Once you are able to win her heart, she will suffocate you with love, passion and affection that you will be begging for space.

I will be posting regularly as time permits me to counter many lies peddled here with facts moving forward.
I will be discussing, role money in relationships, unfaithfulness, culture difference,neatness, greenlight,relationship bills, long distance romance, dating for marriage e.t.c.

This will never work with a girl that's in a serious relationship with her boyfriend. At best you will end up in the friend zone, once you are there you will remain there.

Kaykay999:
That powerful men got me crackin up
Oh my god lol
My cherry was snatched away by one powerful man definitely a cultist

So true, powerful men are everywhere are everywhere. They make girls do things with them and the girls will always keep it a secret most times.

doubleZ88:
so finally.
wat are u driving at?

Nothing sir, just sharing my thoughts and giving inexperience folks a lead.

21 Reasons why Nigerian women cheats.


Every woman will cheat when the condition is right, saying not every woman cheats is stupidity. To say that your woman will remain faithful no matter your actions or inactions is delusional.

Every woman has her own condition (s) to make her become unfaithful and when that condition is met she will cheat.
As husbands and boyfriends the only way to stop her from looking elsewhere is to find out her own condition(s). Work hard to be the man that meets her condition (s) or be that man that prevents, disrupt the process of another man meeting these conditions. This should be done every day and all the time,27/7

I write out of my personal experiences, having dated more than 40 females of different age groups, social status and geographic locations.
My opinion is mostly based on relationship and marriages in the country.

Some of the conditions are listed below.
The list is not exhaustive but gives a general overview.

1.Laying eggs around:[/b]matured females hardly fully trusts any guy in relationships this is to avoid disappointments they have experienced in the past, so they give other males what they give to the guy they are in relationship with just in case.

[b]2.Abandonment: When you are not available,when you don't give her attention,pamper and give her reasons to remain in your arms she will be with someone else that does that in no time.

3.Mothers: What many boyfriends don't know is that some mothers are actually the ones behind the scene manipulating, scheming and giving directions as to whom among her daughters numerous options she should get involved with. Her mum knows the last time she came to pay you a visit.

4.Listener: Females generally like to talk and they crave audience when they do so, if she's not talking with you she's talking with someone else and that person if a male will eventually have her full attention in no time.

5.Leaders: Every man should be leading his female to a destination, when she finds out that you can't take decisions and stand by them she looses interest and seeks leadership somewhere else.

6.Bad boys: These are not street urchins or touts as erroneously believed but guys/men with potentials whose lives are messed up one way or the other, girls like to come in and try to fix them even when they are in a relationship,(the nature of females is to nurture) this is why most girls find good guys unattractive cos there's nothing in their lives for her to fix. As a boyfriend or husband try and mess yourself up once in awhile. Give her something to fix in you.

7.Marriage: females are very desperate for marriage, they will cheat with any man that promise it or that gives them any hope of marriage.

8.Poverty: Never expect faithfulness from a poor hungry female, she must survive. These includes married females with needs.
If you can't satisfy her needs, other men will.

9.Unforgettable Exes: Women put alot of emotional attachments into relationships, when the relationship breaks, these attachments doesn't break with it. Only time and attention from the new man will fully disconnect her from her Exes. Okafor's law applies here.

10.Living large: Many girls wants to intimidate other girls with what she wears,where she lives, what she drives and her lifestyle...she will cheat to archive or maintain this.

11.High libido: There exist females who see your 30 minutes in and out hard work as a quickie, if you can't satisfy her she will get it elsewhere.

12.Revenge/vendetta and Anger:
A female will cheat when she thinks her man is cheating or when another girl cheats with her man and when she's angry with her man.

13.Cute/famous men: women in marriages and relationships are drooling over cute guys in the streets and on TV, on the internet, zee world ,BBnaija, e.t.c they will sex them if the condition is right.

14.Your friends : 7 out of 10 of your close friends will eat her cookie if they have the chance,they will use your friendship to get very close to her, they will get to know her weaknesses and strike. Avoid much closeness between your friends and your woman. You see that hugs she gives them(pressing her pecky boobs on their chest), you see that hand she puts on their shoulders, things will happen...shine ya eyes

15.Men with fine legs: Many girls loose control when they see guys with beautiful legs and feet, they fantasize doing things with them.


16.Ladies Man: Their are men who attracts females like magnet attracts metal, they cheat with these set of men for no logical reason.


17.Persistent chasers: Believe or not, there are males who have been after your woman since 5 years ago, these men are unrelenting in their quest to UnCloth her, some have taken it as a life time project, they will chase her from secondary school to the university, from her father's house into her husband's house.
Funny as it may sound she will get tired of running one day and give in.


18.Religious men: They see these men as gateways to heaven, these men are charismatic are never wrong. These men leverage on the emotional nature of females to manipulate them for their desires.

19.Drug lords: Girls that suffer any form of addiction will cheat with dealers to get satisfaction.


20.Potential guys:
A female will see a male with prospects that his friends or family members will not see, she will latch on to him and cheat with him not minding her relationship status.


21.Powerful men: Men with any form of power can threaten your woman into submission mostly against her will or to repay a favour.These men includes cult leaders, gangsters, office bosses, lecturers, course reps, WhatsApp group admins, Uber and bolt drivers e.t.c


In conclusion the cheating habits of females in these parts has a direct relationship with how the males treat their women.

Ishilove:

Oga stop trying to make yourself feel good. We don't have to be saints to point out that your lifestyle is very unpalatable.


I hope you know teenage is 13-19? Since when??

I definitely don't need anyone's approval to " to feel good" about myself. I have done really well for myself in life. 1 or 2 mistakes or missteps is not enough to make me feel bad about myself.
Life happened to me just like anyone else,we all have our unique stories to tell.
Before you judge someone you must have walked in the person's shoes which is not possible.

As for cohibitation, I went to school in this country and I know how students will become couples in school while they are single at home, I know how teenage girls will travel from their school state to another state to live with a man for weeks even months, should I talk about what happens in PPA's during NYSC?
He/she that is without blame should cast the first stone.

BTW, the purpose of this thread is not to debate morality status.
Thanks

JovialJune:



Believe na, who cares, what is the difference between you and the dings here who say all sort of rubbish about women, you made a lady a baby mama, after living with you for 17years, you had the temerity to name her as an option, painting her in bad light to be seen as a terrible person, imagine saying all hell let loose when your mum and aunt got involved in the little disagreement, I'm pretty sure your mum and aunt beat her blue black, that's why she pressed charges and jail your mum, but you choose not tell us that one, nonsense, you kept someone for 17 years without putting a ring on it and expect her to be all nice and floffy, na she be the mumu wey stay with you all this years na,

I said what I said and I will say more if need be, you can go off yourself if you dont like it, rubbish.

Seen, can you now direct your frustrations and emotions to the appropriate quarters.

realtalk19:


Cynthia looks like a good option

Thanks.

luvmijeje:
At 38yrs, you still don't know what you want from life. If you are here asking question then you are not ready for marriage.

I am on my two knees, please and please don't get married to any of them. You will end up making their life miserable. Continue doing side chick with them.

When you meet someone that's yours, you will physically, emotionally and spiritually know. You won't mind her flaws. Her strengths will only confirm what you know deep within you. There will be no room for doubt.

The day a man stops to learn is the day he starts to die. I only brought this hear to seek other people's opinions and I've gotten intelligent responses from many.
You can never know it all in life.

ImaIma1:


Good.

And I wonder why number 1 is even an option with everything she has done.

She is an option because she's not married, she's the mother of my kids. Like I said before, if I find a very tiny logical reason to get married to her I will.

JovialJune:



She is his baby mama, he has to consider her first lol, two dysfunctional people, if she narrates her own side of the story, I bet hers will be much worse, they fit each other.

I've tried to remain civil the best I can on this thread but don't push it. Don't make me believe that you lots deserve the debasing you get in this forum.

ImaIma1:
Whatever you do, please leave that 20 year old girl alone. Don't use all your baggage to mess up her young life. She as a virgin will now end up with you that have over used yourself. Please release her.

Oh, really?
Well, she's number 3 and last in my list for a reason.
Someone with cognitive reasoning should see that.

Her inexperience, age, lovey dovey mentality and seeing relationships in real life like in the movies are all turn offs for me.

LadyRosa:


You're correct, reason why I castigated the Janet in my first post and blamed it more on bad upbringing. A lady living with a man without any formal commitment?!? And birthing two sons. Where I come from, those children belongs to my father until the bride price is fully paid.

He must marry her. I'm not obligating him to, after all 'ihe di n' oyi ga na n'oyi'. Wetin dey for relationships with out commitment dey Waka like that...

It's his call.

It's funny how you and others be forming saints on this thread
Is it not the same society we all leave in?
Many teenagers cohabit all the time in relationships.
What is a taboo in my place is killing of innocent unborn children .
I will rather have a mother who will threathen to curse me if I terminate a pregnancy than a mother who have aborted many pregnancies for her daughters.
That many are cool with abortions doesn't mean people who don't do it are poorly brought up, don't you ever cast aspersions on our parents cos they never failed in any of their responsibilities.

Children out of wedlock is not a curse or a result of bad parenting
Many families started this way, I pray every day to have a very tiny logical reason why I should wife Janet.

LadyRosa:
Why did Janet lock your mother up?
I won't be sentimental here, what did your mother did to warrant her being locked up? Was she been threatened by your mom? You go habited with a woman 4 17 years and apart from 2 boys there's no commitment from you, so what are the reasons?You are expecting a baby mama that has cohabited with you for 17 years without marriage to be mentally and emotionally stable?An unordained marriage with no traditional or legal backing? The type we call 'Abuja marriage' here? You're not the 'crown' on her head, so do not expect to be honored.
. The lady in question is very silly for birthing for a man twice out of wedlock. Both families are not brought up by good parents.

My mom will never allow my brothers to have a child out of wedlock (They know better, you give girl Belle, you marry am even if she be winch. Those are the rules) and in turn me no fit born for man wey never marry me talk more living with him, so I go to condom section and refill my purse as well if I must _sex.

You don't live your lives unplanned without caution. An unexamined life ain't worth living. You and your baby mama should reconcile, you both are Morally depraved and should be together.

I didn't want to go into giving full details so that my post will not be too long.
Let me try to answer your questions .

1. Why she locked up my mum.[/b]We had an occasion that brought many of our relatives to our family house, the house was filled and people were still coming.
My own house is also in the same vicinity, my mum asked one of my aunt to go and stay in my house since there was no more space in our family house.
When my aunt got there Janet refused to let her into my house. After much explaination and pleading my aunt called my mum and told her what happened. My mum got to the house and scolded her for her behaviour, she insulted my mum and my aunt lost it and hell was let loose.
Janet went to the police, my mum and aunt was arrested and put in the cell.

[b]2. Having 2 kids out of wedlock.
My kids are seven years apart, this is because for the 17 yrs were always having issues that separates us. We were never together for the whole 17 yrs.
There was a time she relocated to another state, there were times she stayed alone in her own apartment.....will continue later.

linearity:
Go for Cynthia, you already know her weaknesses! Please, need just four things in life, which are: sex, progress, good food, and peace; Cynthia is giving all three.

Janet is bad news you will get no peace and will meet your untimely death. I understand your needs to be close to your two boys. The truth is, you wouldn’t be able to offer them any value because Janet will ensure you are miserable and peaceless.

Queen is the perfect example of ‘not all that glitters is gold’. She has not explore life, she is still a mystery yet unraveled. Once unraveled, you might be in for a shock or something average or specular, but at close to 40 years old, any shock might send you to your untimely grave. Plus, she is not yet in the Univeristy even, by the time she has spent five years on campus plus ASUU strike plus NYSC, bros she would have opened her eyes and might start questioning what bewitched her to fall in ‘love’ with an almost 50 yrs old man, as you will be close to 50 yrs by the time she finish serving….let Queen go!

Cynthia Is the real deal, there are no perfect women or men out there……even if you are able to find the perfect one, you will be too imperfect for them!

Thanks, I also have that thought about Queen but she's always giving me the assurance that she won't disappoint me.

Janet somehow has the support of my married younger sister out of everyone in the family.(even our kids prefers to spend time with me than with her)
My sister will always tell me that it will be wickedness for me to abandon a woman that put 17 yrs of her life with me in a relationship and marry another.

DaddyRochie1642:
The present day Nigeria now is all about survival and how to survive, sadly the word "Love" sounds strange to Nigerians.

The second lady according to you seems to bring balance to your life and business.
It will be a huge bonus if she gives you maximum respect too.

Like I said earlier, the present day Nigeria is all about survival, Nobody wants a "Liability".

Yea she's peaceful and respects me too.
Thanks

AkatConcept:
I guess the second option is the best for you man.

Forget about the mother if your children. That old woman won’t change

I won’t also advice you go for that last girl wey just wan enter university. You and I know the kind of stuff that happened over there with these teenage girls once they got admitted into varsity.

Anyway, check my Bio if you’ve got any Bitcoin or gift card to trade. Trusted and reliable

Ok, thanks man.

I've finally made up my mind to get married.
Please forgive any errors in my post.

I created this account to remain anonymous
I am a man of 38 yrs.
I decided long ago not to ever get married due to very unpleasant experiences I've had with women.
I've had reasons to rethink my decision lately.
I have 3 women/girls am considering for marriage, they all have their strengths and weaknesses.
As I will list below.

1.
Janet: This woman is 39 yrs old, a year older than me. We had a very troublesome relationship that lasted for 17 yrs and produced 2 kids; boys.
This woman have done things to me that few people will ever experience in their lifetime.
She once locked up my mum in the police cell when I was not around.
She brought her boyfriend when she was pregnant and introduced me as her brother.
She has taken me to social welfare office and gave false allegations against me.
She has accused me of trying to use our kids for money rituals.
She has accused me of attempting to rape our house maid which she knows was false.
She has gone round the neighborhood telling anyone that cares to listen that am Hiv positive even when she knows it to be false.
No evil known to man that she has not done to me and my family. I pay all the bills, takes care of her, she's unemployed and very religious.
I still consider her for marriage for the sake of my boys I don't want them to grow up in a broken home. We have been apart for 3 yrs now.
Also, at 39 with 2 boys and loads of trouble it will almost be impossible for her to get married to any man.

2.
Cynthia
She's 26 yrs old and a single mother,(she gave birth at 17 with her 1st boyfriend) I met her after I stopped cohabiting with Janet and got a new apartment. She's what many will call a high class lady, she clubs,she dresses to kill, she drinks and we smoke together, she's the one that even taught me how to roll properly
Despite all these, she has a very good character and personality better than most girls who doesn't do what she does.I've met quite a few.
She doesn't hide who she is.
She's a very good cook, she cleans and she's very neat.

This lady is also special cos I've come to understand that things fall into place whenever she's around me, I've never lost any business opportunity or favour whenever she's with me. Whenever I tell her of challenges am facing, she will tell me that as long as she's with me that I will never fail to achieve whatever I want and this have always been the case. 3 times I brokeup with her just to test if she being around me have anything to do with the good fortune or if it's a mere coincidence. Things started crumbling around me. Clients no longer takes my calls, some of my contracts were terminated for no good reasons, clients will refuse to pay me for no reason.
Everything will come back to normal immediately we reconciled.(this mystery about her is beyond logic)
I am considering her for marriage for her personality, the good fortune she brings to my life and business.

3.
Queen

Queen is a 20 yr old girl that is very beautiful and a virgin.
She loves me so much.
she even told her mum about me.
She's yet to gain admission into the university. Her parents have agreed that we should go ahead with marriage on the condition that she will graduate before coming to stay with me as wife.
Her mum is optimistic that we will make a good couple, she told me to come with my people cos other suitors are coming for her daughter' s hand in marriage and she will prefer her daughter marries me.
Somehow, I am not comfortable with her cos of our age difference; I am 18 yrs older than her. Girls of her age are known to change or become promiscuous when they get into the university.
I am considering her for marriage because of her beauty, her love for me,her smartness her parents support to the our union.

There you have it guys, which of these women/girls do you think I should get married to?