I would like another child and I dont want to go through the stress of pregnancy, birth, new born wahala, potty training etc. I'll just adopt a 2 or 3 year old and move on.

elvision1:
only those who know toolz would understand why this is not expected of her. she's a radio personality dunno if she still is anyway. she had come across as a good character model but then all that glitters ain't gold.




for the few that see nothing wrong in smoking,if its such a good thing why is it frowned at in formal meetings? I don't know why most educated Nigerians of these days are so brainwashed to think they know better just cus they have an alternated view to the norm.

My goodness she's smoking shisha in a club. What kind of self righteous nonsense is this ish?

You guys are just jobless idiots. You go on someones snapchat and start broadcasting. Bloody ignoramus

mimzy:
Growing up as a Nigerian female, you're told to sit, talk, act and respond to situations in certain ways or you'll be branded as "unladylike". Women are conditioned in a certain way and most of us have adhered to these rules.

Notwithstanding, these questions have always been a puzzle to me, other women and, I suspect, even men:


1. Why do men feel they should be forgiven when they cheat on their women but the rules change when these same women cheat on them, even once or just emotionally?

2. Why do contemporary men insist women share the bills but they think it beneath them to help out in domestic chores?

3. Why should a man be hailed by his friends for bragging about his sexual encounters with women but they slut-shame a woman who's honest about her escapades with a man she's into?


4. Why do Nairaland men insult a woman who's liberal in her views but cheer on a guy who says lewd things about women?

5. Why do men generalize all women as "_bitches" and '_hoes" but take offense when allusions are made to their female relatives being the same?

Even on this thread, some men would prove me right but the question is: WHY THE DOUBLE STANDARDS?

Darling who cares what anyone thinks? Live your life and just do you.

The guy is clearly refusing arrest, that is in itself a crime. They can use force to subdue him. He's lucky he's not in the US or by now e for dey 6 feet under.

amacastel:

Google about ojukwu all his wives are legally married either traditionally, church or court they are all legal wife, beside the properties does not belong to Ojukwu it belonged to his father was sized by govt because of Ojukwu role in Biafra civil war, so he work hard to retrieve them is wot he shld do cos he caused the sizeature,
For Bianca she is just a very greedy woman with land grabbing blood like her father Onoh ngwo who has ego ochie. Imagine struggling for ur husband's father property for kids alone while ur husband has brothers. Na wa ooo that's pure greed of highest order

Wait!!! Am I seeing double? So you work hard and die and your property goes to your brother? Not your kids? Hmmmn, wonders shall never end!

mrvitalis:
So this man had this much properties in lagos.. .. and yet deserved people he was really fighting for igbo land to develop

Am sure him like most igbo men has more properties outside igbo land than in igbo land

Hypocrisy to the highest level

Go and read up on the Ojukwus before you come here and disgrace yourself.

sandrajazmin:
Gold digger

How? This woman has lived with her husband since the 80s. Her father was well off and she was MBGN when she married him. Why would you eject her because her husband is dead? She isnt even fighting for property, just a place for her sons who are ALSO Ojukwus sons. People are so wicked. And u a woman is calling her a gold digger? Imagine this happening to you. Your husband dies and his people try to throw you out and leave you with nothing.

Joavid:
like Abiola, like Ojukwu.

I have no pity for her. this is what happens when you marry old men like that - so many wives and ex-wives,so many kids... even if he had a will, conflicts like this are inevitable.

now she has to be the only parent of her little boys.
kids growing up without their father in a polygamous home, when the mum is constantly fighting step kids her age, reminding the whole world she's the only legal wife....what a sorry sight!

I only have pity for people like you. Only pity smh.

Mrpelumi1:
I beg you all to read this to the end, it might be of use to you!
I am actually a Young blogger and i started it in 2014 after i left secondary school... i worked for one person or another and i end up getting stories or getting scammed.. i then decided to stay on my own but nothing worked out because i bought several adsense which got disabled... just when i got an adsense account from a genuie source and i made my 2 months earnings $1300+ i got disabled again while waiting for my pin! that was in August 2015

I never loved betting, infact i hated people who do it i never knew i would fall a victim! in september 2015 my schoolmates introduced me to Bet9ja sport betting and the very first day i attempted it, i played with 1k and won N14,000 Little did i know that it was a welcome Notice! I used half of the money to buy a new pair of shoe.... and i took the rest the next day!
within 1 hour everything was taken away from me! I felt bad that day and i went back to my hostel. i kept on playing and loosing all my feeding allowances, food money, borrowed money, & hard earned money. The highest money i have ever won was 28k
Last week my uncle decided to send me 100k from USA through western Union and i decided to go and boost some of the money... i keep playing this thing not because i am addicted, but because i thought i can recover all the money i av loosed! and i see some people turn to instant millionares through bet9ja... Olamide,lilkesh,phyno and crazeclown supports it as been ambassadors to this bet companys!
I took 30k from the 100k my uncle sent to me to the bet shop last week and everything wooped away. i went to withdraw another 30k... it all went within the twinkle of an eye again... i went ahead t
o withdraw the last 40k and i only had 1k left to go back home. it sounds like i am the biggest fool of all time , but till now i cannot explain the spirit that pushed me to do so. I was just regreting and there was nothing more i could do.
Today Tought me the lesson of my Life! on wednesday my mom gave me 15k to keep for her when she travelled to ilorin she told me she was going to come back next week monday... so on thursday again, i was forced to go and play this thing.. i said within myself that i wont play with more than N1000 no matter the case only to find myself loosing the whole money as usual. then unfortunately, my mom called me that she was coming home on friday that i should get the money ready as she needs it to fuel her car and buy stuffs as she was going for a wedding i couldnt tell her anything because she trusted me and that is the only reason she gave me the money to keep! i started sending out messages to all friends on facebook 90% ignored me probably because i had one issue or another with them, i started selling all i had ...pages, groups, i even sold my phone at 3k just to raise money. finally i was able to raise N7000 ... My mom asked for her money this morning and i told her that i kept it in the bank that i was going to withdraw it from the bank... i went to bet9ja again to see if i can raise it to 15k and give her all the money without any stress. Everything went again as usual. That was when i knew that i am addicted and it is more like a curse i can break.

All i need is ADVICE! Should i forget all the money i have lost!

This guy you be mumu!

scantee:
I am very sorry for the long sermon, i can't even sleep...i feel horrible

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Let her grow up and decide if she wants to marry you. A girl in school is too young to be making such life changing decisions.

Daminaj1:
She did not caption the photo because it is too cute for words

https://www.instagram.com/p/BAsGEPTOOtY/?taken-by=genevievennaji

Is it me or she looks 20?

cc:lalasticlala

She's not 36

And they are looking for Biafra? I no go anywhere!!!!

Why una dey vex? How do u expect them to pay the 1 trillion Naira fine? Na from our head na.

Im not a fan of jungle justice but I support the beating shege out of the bastard. I was a victim of his kind once and I need to revenge

That's just hilarious.

anizi:


Not particularly a lie, he could have had his connecting flight to canada from Atlanta airport, he does not need to go out of the airport. A visa is need if he wants to go out of the airport into the city

Aunty the guy is lying. The way it works in the US, EVERYBODY MUST COME DOWN FROM THE PLANE, clear security and immigration b4 you move to collect your load and switch planes. That is the LAW. There is no getting around that. No airline in this country will let you enter their plane to US without a valid visa. It is 100% impossible, quote me ANYWHERE!

voltron:
... this is why you should not get pregnant while you are drunk in the back of an abandoned danfo bus at Obalende

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
I really dont get the rationale behind dressing well just to go to shoprite, it just supposed to be a store

Adongerrit either

PLEASE KEEP AWAY FROM ARIK AIR!!!!

collinspro:
I am messed up right now and I need your advice. I work in a company where I report directly to a lady. My woe started when I went to her office one day to pick up a file. As I entered her office, my phone rang so I decided to take the call. The call was a bit long so she decided to get the file for me from one of the file cabinets. As she bent for the bottom drawer her skirt tore terribly exposing her panties. The phone almost dropped from my hand. I tried to hurry out of the office but she called me back to help her go across the street to stitch it. I was almost frozen. Ever since then she has been disturbing me to sleep with her.

She said she gave me the job because she love me. I just got married and don't want to cheat. Yesterday, she called me and and dropped the bombshell " if you don't sleep with me I will fire you". What do I do? I don't want to lose that job. I am considering reporting her to my general manager but I am afraid of the consequence.

Please report her! Sexual harassment is wrong Wrong WRONG!

krissy213:
Boarding Schools And Lesbianism
It has been observed that most girls in Nigerian secondary schools, especially those that live in dormitories indulge in the dirty act called lesbianism. Parents do not have any clue about what their kids are into. Schools especially those for girls only breeds female homosexuals. They engage in school mother- daughter relationships and establish a bond. They also exchange gifts like teddy bears, cards, make up accessories, jewellery etc during events like valentines day and birthdays. They exchange visits and sleep over at each other's hostels and they usually wake up in the middle of the night to have sex. Most girls, especially the freshers are usually forced into the act. They are threatened and punished severely if they refuse to be lured into the act, which makes them live miserably in their dormitories. They are usually too afraid to speak up to their teachers, guardians or their boarding house mistresses for fear of being punished. Students into lesbianism are usually beautiful and they hunt for beautiful partners to show off what they have.
Some girls are usually lucky to stop the act after awhile while others live as lesbians or bisexuals all their lives.
Parents and guardians should try to enlighten their kids/ wards about the dangers of same sex and they should always encourage their daughters to stick to their beliefs despite the challenges they would encounter from their lesbian school mates.
Schools should be vigilant and maintain a strict discipline of non- lesbianism, therefore, anyone caught should be expelled.
Tuck shops should also not sell things that could be used by girls to thrust into their private parts like candles, fishrolls etc
Schools should also observe their lights out and also ensure that every girl is on her bed. The G and C section of the school should also be active.

Please do not say most. A number of them yes but not most. I went to an all girls boarding school and so did a good number of my friends and we were not lesbians. We knew the lesbians and they were a minority. Do not generalise biko!

vivianblog:
Too Lovely , Nice photo

Source http://viviangist.com/the-sani-abachas-in-new-photo

Dear Abachas, you cannot rebrand yourselves. Return the stolen money or we will stone you when we catch you.

HA ! This is an insult to we 3rd Class holders. How can I be at par with common HND? Ehn? Even my electrician has HND.

dinachi:

Why are you looking for my trouble now? Provide accomodation for her na and stop disturbing my ears abeg. Nigeria is not America where men have NO rights.

And do women have any rights here? Its all fine and dandy when we have no rights ba? Na im Bleep up. If na me if you no gree pay, you go hear am. He will never see those children again. We go go court. Him and his fellow threesomes go enter LIB. Hell hath no fury.

dinachi:
@ Op yes leave him but first make sure you collect the phone numbers and house addresses of all these femnists asking you to leave him. They should provide accomodation and job for you and the kids when you leave.
More seriously, I am really sorry about your predicament

She will leave him but he will pay his kids fees and their upkeep. Please stop justifying his shitty behaviour. This is not feminism, its about being a decent human being and consider the feelings of others. I wonder what your reaction would be if this were a man telling us his wife had a party.

curtains:
www.nairaland.com/2316343/marriage-depressed

The link above is about some months ago I saw his bbm n WhatsApp chat he wants to have a party with. He has finally had it last week. I found out dem the history of his browser that he has bin going to badoo. Wen I opened them, what I saw, was unthinkable.

Wen I confronted him, he confessed n is begging. He did it wit two girls from badoo

Our marriage is 5years. We r both in our early 30a's. We hv 3 children.

I have no more love for him. I need a break out of this house. I actually packed my belongings n my children to leave but on w second thought n his begging I didn't leave again.

He is an ardent reader of nairaland but hardly comments. I don't know if he want more fantasy in fact am devastated n have not stopped crying since Saturday night. I still dont want to tell my mum or friend. I need someone to talk to me pls cos am looseiing it

Aunty, I read your previous post and I've read this one and I'm surprised you don't see the pattern. He will do and beg and you will forgive abi? Before he was crying, now he is only begging. Believe me, he will never change. DO NOT pack your bags out of that house. Pack HIS own bags cos he is out. Get him the Bleep out of that house now because this is just the beginning. Next he'll be fvcking them in the house while you serve refreshments.

goldfishsk:
I had given my wife all the liberty to use facebook, whatsapp and other internet applications. She is not a regular user of these applications. One of her co worker(married with one kid) whom she had a bad remark, like he is always chatting with some other lady who is also married. She had a negative remark of this person. After few months this guy turn to be in her friend circle and occasionally she used to tell me details which sounds different from earlier comments and sound good about that guy.

Later he started to sent 'Hi', 'How r u' etc in Whatsapp and facebook and she used to show me and reply with my permission. I took this as a good friendship and did not noticed much about it. In recent one month somehow I started checking the messages. The messages were normal and nothing sounds different.

He got another job and maintained this friendship. What surprised me us in addition to messages in facebook or whatsapp, they communicate also in SMS but content is very decent. The count of communication has increased and now a days she dont tell or show his messages may be she might be thinking that I am convinced of their friendship.

My wife basically hesitate to send messages if I ask to send details of any things to buy from shop and also was very cautious of not wasting money by SMS. But now she replies to all his SMS and not bothered about cost.

Few days back I openely discussed this with her and she told you can check our messages any time and there is nothing of bad nature. Also she said since I dont like this she will stop sending messages. infact he used to send messages between night 9.30 to 11. Since I objected she messaged him in front of me that not to send messages as I dont like that.

what worrying me is whether this communication continues and if the messages are deleted I wont come to know.

So far both of them have not dealt in a wrong way. Reading above what do you feel whether this is a good relation or shall I put constraints on it. Also how will I bring back my wife from this relation though it is not crossed boundaries so far

Permission to respond to text message? Women are suffering o!

I dont know o! See inferiority complex. Igbo boys speak Dutch, German, Japanese and Chinese so they can hustle well.

raayah:
Most Nigerians know how to speak English, Yoruba, Igbo and other foreign languages fluently.

I don't understand how a white man speaking Igbo makes him better than a Nigerian

Mosthandsomeboy:



http://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2015/11/emir-of-kanos-daughter-comes-for-lib.html

I like her!

This is exactly why I quit my job on the island. I just couldn't continue to live like this