LilMissFavvy:
Nothing like fear of penetration. Your wife has problem with her private part. She medical help and operation.

She told me it was fear; that she was scared of the pains.
If it was a medical condition, why couldn't she ever make any attempt to find a solution? She never ever discussed it unless I brought it up!

LesbianBoy:


Did she cry or beg you for more time when you asked for a break up?

Yes, she did.
But I think it's bc she saw that the marriage was indeed ending.
Prior to this time, she never showed any serious concern nor looked for any solution. She avoided any discussion on the issue as much as possible, and even got angry with me sometimes when I brought it up!

MrMacinterchi1:
Oga op , have you succeeded to consummate your marriage?

Have you succeed to have sex with your wife?

If not, it will be to clear you that your marriage is not yet totally Legel - even in religion or civil rights.

Your wife should put much effort. ☆Happy☆ ♡Valentine's♡ ☆Day☆

I've decided to end the marriage and move on with my life, exactly 1 year and 3 weeks after our wedding. I couldn't put up with it anymore. Wife never ever showed any concern nor made any effort to solve the problem.

Experiencing a similar but worse situation with my wife. Been married for eleven month now, no sex; not even once!
Wife is scared of penetration and I've given up on it already! We only masturbate, touch each other and then come. She doesn't like mouth action either!

Yimmicks:
Yours is even 2 months, ours was almost 6 months. It could be vaginimus such that the penetration is almost impossible. What helped me was first pelvic floor exercise, (learning to control how to relax my pelvic), second and really helpful was the DILATOR therapy. I started from the smallest to get the vagina used to having something enter and then proceeded to the biggest after which hubby could penetrate. I’m not sure you can get one easily in Nigeria but check out SexwithDrM (I think she changed to “becomingmorewithDrM) on Instagram or Oloricoitus on Instagram or any other sex therapist who could help her..please be patient with her. I’m sure she’s not faking it. I’ve been there. It’s just that awareness around that isn’t much in Nigeria, the media mostly portrays magical sex but it’s not always the reality especially for virgins. Sex is a skill too , she’ll get better with time and you’ll be amazed..

I'll check that out on Instagram. But the annoying thing is that she isn't making any effort whatsoever on her part to find a solution. She probably just thinks I should understand, and I'm feeling that is selfish. The question is "for how long?" will I understand.
The whole thing is already beginning to take a toll on our relationship. Bad thing for me is that I'm not the womanizing type

beehivedata:
You totally ignored the signs. You threw such observations as she getting angry to you even greeting a lady to the winds. Such attitude from her spells extreme jealousy. More often than not, people who react in such manner have a high propensity to being violent and also think since they might be doing something as little as greeting the opposite sex, it could lead to something intimate.

Only God knows why you went ahead to marry someone like that especially when you are sexually active. In any case, a true virgin would be eager to give it all to her husband rather than come up with flimsy excuses each time. She's got a lot to hide judging by all you've highlighted.

I don't even know what to think. I don't know how long I'll have to live with this.

Optimistdude:
Bro, no time o... 2 months might turn to 2 years all of a sudden.

Ask her if she can bear children without sex or pregnancy?

Truth is that if I leave her, she will never on her own ever initiate it. She will be happy that I have forgotten about it. We could remain like this for more than 2 years!
I have done all I could to encourage her. I have told her that every woman was once a virgin and everyone on the street was born through sex. That there are no two ways to it.
I have decided not to disturb her anymore because I get really angry after each failed attempt.

beehivedata:
My brother. Just be patient with her. What you find out when u eventually sleep with her will decide what the next step is to take. For now, you're already in the marriage and would have to cope with what it throws at you. Just be a good man and keep trying.

I'm trying my best, but it looks like I just may not be able to bear it for too long. The last time I had sex was when in early 2019. I had cheated on her then with a neighbour who took advantage of my illness at the time to get us down to it. My fiancee was in a different part of the country then and she only visited like once in two to three months.
She later found out when she read through my conversation with a friend (a guy) where I was regretting my action. Hell was let loose!
So my annoyance now is that she doesn't want me to as much as greet another lady. So I cant have it with her and i cant have it with anyone else. I think it is selfish!

BiggyB242:
I have noticed something about ladies who are virgin, they are extremely jealous and stubborn.

She is extremely jealous!

meobizy:
I have no time for made up stories today. Let ignorant Nairalanders waste their time instead.

It is not a made-up story, Sis.
Not as if it really matters what you think. But I'm sharing my own experience.

Denique:
You should try going down there and watch her beg you for it. It works, trust me!

She doesn't like "heading".

Richy4:
I might be wrong but just maybe she's not what she claimed she is...I mean the Virgin card that she was playing....and she doesn't know how u might react if there were no traces of blood after...

But if she is, then Sit her down and talk to her... let her know that every girl married or not was scared the way she was but they overcame their fears.. tell her to let you in on what her fear was...then promise you will be gentle... get lots of pears baby oil for lubrication, u won't go wrong with that...

I've tried all these. I have even thought to myself if she lied about the virginity thing and is trying to hide. But then, I was never interested in the virgin or no virgin thing and I told her that from the onset; that I don't care if any woman is a virgin or not. I already told her my marriage intentions before she ever mentioned her status.
Again, I don't think she's hiding anything. She is just scared of penetration.
How I got to know she was a virgin then was one time when she had an infection from a hostel toilet. The pharmacist gave her a certain stuff to insert into her privates as part of the treatment, but she refused to do it. It was when I pressed to know why she wouldn't do it that she opened up that she was a virgin and nothing had ever entered there!

Liposure:
Or was she circumcised as a child? because i don't understand.

I've asked her that, but she said no.
I even asked if she was at anytime sexually abused. It's nay!

Freestainworld:
Try and touch her on the right places, take things easy with her, don't not ever talk of regrate, talk to her and see reason why you guys should do this, sweet-talk her nah.

I've done all that. Infact, I noticed she has become comfortable with me touching her and then we do other things then we "cum". Anything but penetration. But I'm no longer comfortable with that because it's all mere masturbation. What I need is the real thing!

I initially had a long distance courtship with my wife while we dated. Later she came and stayed with me for some months bc she had accommodation issues. She was based in a different State. Altogether we dated for 4 years before our eventual marriage. All through those times we never had se.x. She never allowed us to, and since I'm a Christian, I willingly left her alone since it's even against my christianity teachings. Moreover she was a virgin and I felt there was no need putting undue pressure on something that was eventually going to be all mine.
Fast- forward to today, it's been two months after our wedding, no se.x. My wife is too scared of it. Each time I make an attempt, she gets so scared of penetration that my "thing" just collapses. Forcing her would make me feel like it's rape. I have bought all kinds of gel to apply and reduce pains, but it's not working with her. She is still saying I should give her time to get used to it.
Meanwhile she is the over-jealous type. She gets angry for as flimsy a thing as me viewing WhatsApp status of female contacts on my phone or Facebook photos of female friends!
I'm already feeling I've made a huge mistake in marrying her. I never thought I'd ever cheat after marriage, but it looks like I'm being pushed into it.
What can a brother do in this situation?