Maaamaaa:
I will try my best not be biased about our story and if you have any questions to ask please do.

I met him last year December precisely and we both work in the same office, we became best of friends but he was in a relationship (distant) and I was single.
We were really close because we both were new in town with no family around and then I fell in love with him and opened up about my feelings to him but he said he was in a relationship.

I was hurt but I held my head up and moved on. I started mingling with other male colleagues and then he became jealous and so I confronted him about it (still loved him) and u also told him to choose between us and he said he wants me. His decision was based on the fact that the other lady was far away, he thought she was promiscuous and she is an OND holder etc (I got to find out about this later).

We moved in together because of financial stress and talked about getting married next year... Late June this year I found out he had not broken up with the other lady, confronted him about it and he settled the issue.

I got pregnant July and he asked for an abortion, I insisted on keeping the baby with or without marriage.. He finally accepted to marry me and proceeded to tell my parents(he later said I forced him to that). He accused me of so many things and called me different names.

He traveled to his hometown and informed his parents about it all and met with the lady. On his return, he said the lady gives him peace and if I lose this pregnancy he will go back with her and that he loves her but he is just getting married to me because he respects my family and do not want to bring shame to me at work.

I cried, prayed and endured it all. Two weeks ago his family came for the introduction and the wedding has been fixed for December but I'm not happy.

I'm a shadow of myself, he feels disgusted by my presence and I can't say anything without him getting angry. I used to nag and quarrel a lot but I've stopped, even when I'm angry I just walk away.

He does not care about me and this pregnancy and if I tell him I'm sick or tired or anything, he will just say that I'm not the first to get pregnant and that it's when I push the baby he will take responsibility.

I have tried my best and I'm confused, last night I called him peacefully to ask him what I'm doing wrong but he said I'm disturbing him. I used to call his parents and my parents to intervene but he said I should stop that and I have stopped.

Please what can I do to save our relationship, it's not easy for me . this is not the man I fell in love with help me and please I need your advice because I am ready to do anything.

I want my child to have a normal family.

...just. note. that. love is a gradual even in marriage, don't. get confuse. ome day heart we judge. over humans altitudes

IamNawty:
Second wife..! Chaii.. Dats y I can't marry a Muslim guy oooo

u be idiots...they said re-marry that means previous wife either divorce or dead

drss:
dis is it! nigeria is officially in authoritarian dictatorship. does d dullard know national assembly is not a appendage of d executive does he know dat nationali assembly is more powerful dan d executive does d dullard know dat national assambly has d power to sack him if dis con3 was a sane, d dullard would have been impeached sinced last year cos he has commited many impeachable offences.
why ar my concern sef. buari was never a democrat. surely a leopard never changes his spots. buari of 1984 is still d same full breed tyrant of 2016.

do u no what presidency is all about

At the poster you are just being carried away by handsomeness and personality that all remember u cant afford the stress of a lazy man bills forever

TonyeBarcanista:
A Sad loss to democracy

mumu talk, what sad lost

thats is my amiable governor

I love Bello

asodeboyede:
the owner of the gun should be killed instead....

do u understand law?. for d owner to b killed

u anoda man marry u... no wahala

afla:


Plenty plenty concubines confirmed. This is a man that was bluffing that he had no plans to travel few days ago. All of a sudden, he uses our money to hire private jet and sneaks out of the country to bypass using domestic airlines. Just for a trip of three days. What a shame. Meanwhile, he has refused to pay us our salaries.

no doubt you are a Christian either Jeremiah or Jerry ur name is... wat do u mean by ancestral gods.. so the journey to jerusalem by christian might also be ancestral journey. Nigerian as a plague called blasphemy wch as steal our sense of thinking

OnucheAdams:


Wada didn't put the workers on starvation before the elections. As the allocation started dipping significantly, Wada proposed the much talked about "Imo Formula" as a solution but NLC kicked against it.....Once he lost the elections, the same NLC were sponsored by APC/Bello to embark on a strike, just to frustrate him an paint him bad.

hope u have see ur miscconception of speech that yahaya bello nd apc made NLC to go to strike someone who was gvn a position without high expectations of it at instance hw wch u said audu connive wt NLC ur statement wud hav follow .. the question is did bello connive wt NLC on strike to spoil his own goverment or wada own wch he was den nt given power of governance. example can u as an individual meet NLC to declare for presidency

princee7:

anebira uvini amma governor ayi e owe salaries. people of kogi state are complaining and if he doesn't change his ways he will be the worst governor of kogi states. imagine him using state government powers as if it was his birth right. giving political appointment and important seats to his friends ...kogi is always so unlucky when it comes to governance

for the fact that u speak ebira shld nt get anyone convince that u are ebira and u speak ur opinions. .. ebira as a dialect can also be learnt from non-indegenous pple who are lovers of language hearing.

afla:


ACTUALLY WADA IS THE REASON WHY WE ARE EVEN SEEING ANY SALARY NOW BECAUSE IF NOT FOR WADA BAILOUT, BELLO WILL NOT PAY US ANYTHING. ALL HE HAS DONE IS USE SOME OF BAILOUT TO PAY ARREARS. HE HAS REFUSED TO USE ALLOCATION TO PAY SALARIES BECAUSE HE SAID HE DOES NOT WANT TO BE REMEMBERED AS A GOVERNOR THAT PAID SALARIES AND PENSION.

if u claim wada was the reason u were paid before then why must he put those pple dat entrust their faith in him on non- payment nd total starvation before the governorship election

princee7:
what do you guys expect from a man with 3 wife's n other concubine's. what do you guys expect from a man with 3 wife's n other concubine's. he had better change his ways and stop running the affairs of kogi state government like his house hold.

"all brawn and no brain"

Zubair123:
because President is travelling day and Night, he should also do the same thing. You go to pilgrimage when people at home are very very ok. 95% of Nigeria governors are not crrative at all, instead of him to sit his ass down and think how to make a Kogi State a better place for his people he is busy travelling here and there. I'm from Kogi State, Adavi LGA. It will not be silly if he learn from lagos state governor. A close relation told me his wife travelled to lesser hajj with his sister is that how its suppose to b?

pls let me ask u hw many times as he traveled from the state? who told u ambode does nt travel on emergency issues. . . you are not an ebira.

Zubair123:
because President is travelling day and Night, he should also do the same thing. You go to pilgrimage when people at home are very very ok. 95% of Nigeria governors are not crrative at all, instead of him to sit his ass down and think how to make a Kogi State a better place for his people he is busy travelling here and there. I'm from Kogi State, Adavi LGA. It will not be silly if he learn from lagos state governor. A close relation told me his wife travelled to lesser hajj with his sister is that how its suppose to b?

pls let me ask u hw many times as he traveled from the state? who told u ambode does nt travel on emergency issues.

donteflon:
the problem with Nigeria is
malicious slandering. . . few month
ago some said at aisha buhari book
launch yahaya bello donated
70million but I wonder who wud
hav cook dat story up, some said having
affairs with aisha buhari I still
wonda too... what I didnt hear
wat dem saying aisha buhari as a
son or daughter for him. pple of
kogi the okun and igalla channel
ur grievances to the grave yard
if u are by one who do. any
sitting governor cant be ban for
a mere salary own if probably tru
he is owing. I no d governor as bin
facing challenges from debt in
previous time. and he as started
making payment of salary to
worker who meet up guildlines
demand from the change
administration. yahaya bello is
just being simple wada would hav
gotten a self contain prison at
kirikiri or kuje prison. I wud want
him to expose wada and stop
hiding wada sins for his
castigation... am a proud lover of
politics and I we always be

yahaya bello as always being a businessman even though he had wish a birthday party for himself. he as always equal to the task to be independent before joining politics

donteflon:
yahaya bello as not done anything
wrong to be put on vilification leading to
career assassination. the problem kogi
as is tribalism. believe me no father
would extremely want to condemn his
son. how wch its was a Yoruba man or
igalla man they wouldn't be an affront
to their personality in public manner.
the sitting governor have two major
critics though its now depends on
individual general view of those ethnics
group. by the way less than a year in
office Shldnt be a noise factor to be
considered. u cud confirm from agencies
wch as being paid their salary in kogi. to
me all debt by the previous cant be
lifted at once. let see how the bail out
goes they needed 50billion and cbn
provided 20billion remaining 30billion and
fed govt as even put a stop to bail out.
now dont u tink its now involves sense of
wisdom to apply in this case. nobody in
this forum as condemn wada for owing
salary or do u tink its was even a nice
ideal seeking bailout by any govt who
want prosperity. let dont serve as a
lover of critics. than to be the keepers
of kogi dreams... was he the cause of ksu strike from initial?

the problem with Nigeria is
malicious slandering. . . few month
ago some said at aisha buhari book
launch yahaya bello donated
70million but I wonder who wud
hav cook dat story up, some said having
affairs with aisha buhari I still
wonda too... what I didnt hear
wat dem saying aisha buhari as a
son or daughter for him. pple of
kogi the okun and igalla channel
ur grievances to the grave yard
if u are by one who do. any
sitting governor cant be ban for
a mere salary own if probably tru
he is owing. I no d governor as bin
facing challenges from debt in
previous time. and he as started
making payment of salary to
worker who meet up guildlines
demand from the change
administration. yahaya bello is
just being simple wada would hav
gotten a self contain prison at
kirikiri or kuje prison. I wud want
him to expose wada and stop
hiding wada sins for his
castigation... am a proud lover of
politics and I we always be

Obajemustapha:
thank u man 4 once I see someone who see ma views am nt against cause I don't him as a person, but him as a governor dat am against because walahi to be frank d guy by no chance ain't working no shit in our state only to spoil d little we have nd cause heavy hardship in d state claiming dat dia z no money but yet dia to go and celebrate a grand birthday nd call celeb musicians to celebrate nd share our money out which u say dia z nt oh afta collecting 20billon as bail out fund nd yet nt pay workers nd pensioners dia 7 months nd still count salary nd have d mind to leave d state work force to be on total melt down as oda bodies like d banks nd NLC join KSU on dz strike nd still have mind to say u are traveling out for Umrah nd expect God to nt punish u nd answer ur prayers ba with d course from civil servants on u abi d man has being floop since he came till nw ba

yahaya bello as not done anything
wrong to be put on vilification leading to
career assassination. the problem kogi
as is tribalism. believe me no father
would extremely want to condemn his
son. how wch its was a Yoruba man or
igalla man they wouldn't be an affront
to their personality in public manner.
the sitting governor have two major
critics though its now depends on
individual general view of those ethnics
group. by the way less than a year in
office Shldnt be a noise factor to be
considered. u cud confirm from agencies
wch as being paid their salary in kogi. to
me all debt by the previous cant be
lifted at once. let see how the bail out
goes they needed 50billion and cbn
provided 20billion remaining 30billion and
fed govt as even put a stop to bail out.
now dont u tink its now involves sense of
wisdom to apply in this case. nobody in
this forum as condemn wada for owing
salary or do u tink its was even a nice
ideal seeking bailout by any govt who
want prosperity. let dont serve as a
lover of critics. than to be the keepers
of kogi dreams... was he the cause of ksu strike from initial?

donteflon:
if u ask me any stupid question I we prove ur foolishness. .. I am a learnant colleague. hope u hav heard abt that word in the court of law

those that mean because someone governs a state he can not relate with God.... there are some career assassination by pple who dont know in details but only bemoan from unreliable and biased view to make their own personal opinions. am proud of bello

donteflon:
if u ask me any stupid question I we prove ur foolishness. .. I am a learnant colleague. hope u hav heard abt that word in the court of law

those that mean because someone governs a state he can not relate with God....

Joavid:


off topic


if you don't mind me asking, a you a Muslim or Christian?

if u ask me any stupid question I we prove ur foolishness. .. I am a learnant colleague. hope u hav heard abt that word in the court of law

pple criticise my governor and forget to see wada as the cause of their predicament. ... ebira learn to be wise to speak gud of ur broda... igalla nd okun are nt happy

visita:
Guy calm down. I'm also an ebira man but I don't like this. The state is in disarray and he leaves for pilgrimage, something he can always do later?

Guy shut up that hw u ebira hates urself. . if he is traveling is he traveling wt his cabinet or even d state

donteflon:
yahaya bello my mentor carry on

I vividly remember blasting pple that criticise my governor that he was ban from traveling I guess dey can see he already there... for all the haters face me so I reply u with my wisdom teeth

yahaya bello my mentor carry on

OnucheAdams:


Federal worker could extend to the Security agencies, NYSC, Health Worker, FIRS, Federal University etc. Now, let's see who the so called "bunch of political fool is"

"all brawn and no brain"

yahaya bello as not done anything wrong to be put on vilification leading to career assassination. the problem kogi as is tribalism. believe me no father would extremely want to condemn his son. how wch its was a Yoruba man or igalla man they wouldn't be an affront to their personality in public manner. the sitting governor have two major critics though its now depends on individual general view of those ethnics group. by the way less than a year in office Shldnt be a noise factor to be considered. u cud confirm from agencies wch as being paid their salary in kogi. to me all debt by the previous cant be lifted at once. let see how the bail out goes they needed 50billion and cbn provided 20billion remaining 30billion and fed govt as even put a stop to bail out. now dont u tink its now involves sense of wisdom to apply in this case. nobody in this forum as condemn wada for owing salary or do u tink its was even a nice ideal seeking bailout by any govt who want prosperity. let dont serve as a lover of critics. than to be the keepers of kogi dreams

the problem with Nigeria is malicious slandering. . . few month ago some said at aisha bello book launch yahaya bello donated 70million but I wonder who wud hav cook dat story up, some said affairs with aisha buhari I still wonda too... what I didnt hear wat dem saying aisha buhari as a son or daughter for him. pple of kogi the okun and igalla channel ur grievances to the grave yard if u are by one who do. any sitting governor cant be ban for a mere salary own if probably tru he is owing. I no d governor as bin facing challenges from debt in previous time. and he as started making payment of salary to worker who meet up guildlines demand from the change administration. yahaya bello is just being simple wada would hav gotten a self contain prison at kirikiri or kuje prison. I wud want him to expose wada and stop hiding wada sins for his castigation... am a proud lover of politics and I we always be

OnucheAdams:


That's not true. Wada owed two months salary, and that's primarily due to the strike embarked on by NLC at the tailend of his tenure.....And take this from a Civil Servant domiciled in Kogi State.

It's expected that the Govt ought to first of all study the problem before professing solutions to them. Bello didn't do that, instead he chose to engage the civil servants heads on like a bull in a china shop, which is why the State is paralyzed today. And if Bello was seriously interested in moving Kogi forward, he would have been prudent in the way and manner in which he went about managing the State's resources.

You had just quote urself that wada had some challenges at a time meab while he ruled for 4yrs so while dont u allow a man who as nt spend up to a year have peace of mind rule after 4yrs u may criticise him. ibro and wada who took Governorship position as family tittle. . frim idris abubakar to idris wada and want to rule for anoda more years Mayb after him it we be some other entity called idris again

OnucheAdams:


Who says that the Govt doesn't favor me? I am not a State Government employee, but a Federal Govt employee that interfaces with your incompetent Government on a biweekly basis. And therefore can say with all certainty that Bello is grossly incompetent. Rather than spend time on core governance, your Governor is rather committed to projecting his powers across the State. The Igbira and so called youthful sentiments that worked for him has faded out and the sooner he realizes this, the better it shall augur for him. I owe no alliance to Wada, but can say for a fact that he is an intelligent, calm and mild mannered man who wanted the best for his people, but fell short in certain areas for a multitude of reasons.

I am nt an ebira neither okun if u tink I am but I tink u are a bunch of political fool. federal worker wat ur business wt state affairs

afla:


By Imo formula- you mean the one where he said senior civil servants and political appointees should sacrifice 40 percent of their salaries for sometime so junior workers could get full payment until when allocation gets better the senior workers will be paid their arrears 40 percent.? I was one of the fools who opposed him then. Now we know better. Bello has shown us serious pepper in kogi. After celebrating alert, you will go to bank and they will say no money. I have never heard of this kind of scam before. And nobody can shout or talk. They will either beat you or lock you up. Cult boys and kidnappers now have police escorts in kogi. Wanted criminals are walking free. We are under fear here. God please forgive kogtes and remove this punishment called Bello from our head

the problem of debt and non payment was cause by previous administration, u dont expect newly elected govt not to strategize on how to gradually pay dem off and dat the recent allocation was meant for new changes nt an old wound. dont u no d state university salary was owe by wada who didnt mak payment