estheremma:
Believe me bro,she needed some cash n she made up that story to wheedle mony from you,have u been freely giving her cash?d mistake some men make is believing u earn money so y must I give u money, ask her this n u will be surprised its a money issue,I'm happy about d fact that u trust her,all this single fellows on naira land saying rubish about infidelity,

She doesn't need cash to go the hospital
My company pays for our medical bills
Am thinking it was all for attention as I read online

aisha2:
Just asking to be sure how you knew she lied.

Some times women are late and have false positive. Not defending her just considering possible case scenario

Okay for the times she said she was pregnant I was around and she said she was .i said ok Good
Never saw the test result as there was no need for that.the times she called and said she miscarried,I was not around
Now something happened that made us go to the hospital,so while talking to our doctor,I asked what could make my wife miscarry twice,within a short period
The doctor asked miscarriage?
I said yeah doctor check her file.he checked and there was no history of that
She quickly said"eh sweetie it didn't happen here,I went to a hospital close to the house
I wasn't convinced,so I said on our way home,we would stop at the hospital,then she said she was going to explain when we get home
So were you pregnant I asked him
All I get is am sorry
My wife is not cheating on me,I know that.she is very pretty yeah,could pass for a single lady
But I know my wife

Sophyrocks:
Op, we here who dnt know your wife wouldnt know why she would lie na. Why dnt you keep pressurizing her to tell you the truth or involve someone she respects to ask her? Why is she crying?

Really wierd that a woman would lie about that when there is no pressure to get another child.

Don't want to involve another party

Am having been in deep thoughts for like 3weeks and have been wondering why my wife lied to me that she miscarried twice,while I was out of the country on an official purpose

Note
We have a daughter together
No pressure from me on getting pregnant
I actually told her to wait till our daughter is 3 yrs old before she takes in again,she is yet to be 3


So she lied she was pregnant when she wasn't
I have asked her over and over again why she had to lie
All I get is tears or am truly sorry
At first it was funny to me ,but now is no longer funny

See why am against dating someone whose age is so close ?
So she didn't see any 30 year old guy
Pls don't let anyone force you into settling down against your wish,the end of it is not always good
If she can't wait let her go

Is that the official email address of the school?

Wizee: didn't you read where the Op said he has talked, complain bt he's wife refused. Bt now she's keeping to herself. @op what i think is that when you complain you use strong/abusive words on her, so now she doesn't want that emotional abuse. Apologise to her first, then make her tell you the problem.

Yeah thanks

chaircover:

Mr Eddy sorry to hear about your situation, but I want to believe that all is not lost and things can still be sorted out.

First you have to understand that you cant really drastically change people. From what you explain and in your words say "i wanted my wife to change the way she thinks and act" . . . why marry someone so far out of your expectations and then try to change her later? What are these things you are trying to change?

She is only human so Of course you are going to get some resistance, especially as you are aggressive about it, hence the initial fighting until Your wife got fed up of the constant bickering and has just decided to tow the line of "yes sir three bags full sir" just to keep the peace and has now seemed to have switched off emotionaly

. . . Basically, you are not happy with her real self and yet you are also not happy with her new fake self. So What do you want?

Ny little advise to you is to think deeply about who your wife really is and why you want to change her from who she really is. you also have to ask yourself why you married her and the things that attracted her to you.

A lonely empty marriage is a terrible situation to be in and so you you need to find a way of reaching out to your wife and bridging the gaps. Im not saying let her carry on with things she is doing wrong or for you to ignore them, what im saying be compassionate when you talk with her about her short comings and to be realistic im your expectations.

Thanks a lot.so many nice things attracted me to my wife .truth be told what I complain about were noticeable when we were dating.i was so crazy over her,so I told myself that with time she would change.i have sincerely apologized to her I just hope with little time she will come around.i want to change some of our ways because am not just cool with it.she wears short to pick our baby from school,she never thinks about the big picture.just very minute stuffs.hair,phones,designer bags.those are cheap things so wen she makes it seem so big it pisses me off.she doesn't appreciate the things I do for her,get her white she says I would have preferred black.finally even thou I know she is young and pretty she should dress like a married woman.

Am married,I would say happily.i have been for 3 years with a baby.i just noticed my wife now resents me.dont even know the right words to use.i wanted my wife to change the way she thinks and act I never knew my constant reminder most times in an aggressive manner would lead to this.i have actually been telling her to change for the past 2 yrs.imost times it lead to quarrels and enemity between us.for the past 6 months she has been keeping to herself.anything I say or do to her she uses the "ok" word.during her spare time she is glued to nairaland and nothin more.she is so quick to say sorry.never wants to argue,never wants to talk much.always quiet and absent minded.i have talked to her if anything is Wrong, she said she is fine.could it be as a result of my constant complain.am a stranger in my own house now.i just wanted the best for her it's not like I just wanted to put her down.she is very active on nairaland that's why I had to register and post.shouldnt I have raised an eyebrow when I saw something she did wrong especially her dressing.am really worried