Episode22: Hello Nairalanders, I'm not here to brag, I just need advice before I get lost.
I have two relatives living abroad (UK), both are from my mothers side, same father and same mother...
Just few days ago, I was called and told that they are making plans to send me to the UK early next year to go and stay with my uncle and find something doing there... they already communicated with my uncle abroad, and they just wanted to surprise me.
I'm 29 years old now, I graduated from school last two years as a petroleum engineering. Though, I'm not doing any work for now. My girlfriend is pregnant for me, and I have not disclosed it to anybody yet.
But the truth is that my mind doesn't want to go, I'm not ready and I have told them. They have already started telling me this is a one time opportunity, and that if I miss it, I won't see it again, but I have made up my mind that I don't want to go.
I just can't leave my friends here, I just don't know but I can't..
I need advice,
Why should I go, when my self and my mind is not ready...
An attention seeking post from a renegade attention seeker learning how to write fiction just to bask in the euphoria of seeing comments attached to his attempt on senility.
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AkporsMechanical: I promise to be very brief. My wife and I live in a three bedroom flat without paying rent, although we only occupy one room since we don't have much property yet. The owner of the house abandoned the house before now and when we had accomodation issue asked us to stay there. We have been here since last year. However, there is no Geepee tank to supply water into the house. We could only pump water into our little drum when there is light. So I always go fetch water from the neighbouring compounds whenever there is no light which have resulted into several insults. My wife has been dragging me that I must buy a Geepee tank.
My salary as a private school teacher is barely enough to feed us talk more of saving to buy a Geepee tank especially in this economic crisis. In the midst of all these, my wife's phone went bad and needed a new one Just this afternoon, my wife started raining insults on me that I am not behaving like a man at all, that I should have settled down fully before thinking of marriage, that I want to make her go hungry. This was because I told her I would cut off some part of my salary to be saving so I can buy curtain for our room, television and save for Geepee tank. She even went ahead to say I am poor and wretched just because I can't afford her a new phone for now.
Since afternoon, I have refused to eat. My problem here is that my parents love my wife and my parents are far from where I reside. And I don't want to report my wife to my parents so it won't bring disrespect later to her in the future. Secondly, as the first born of my parent,I don't know how my parents will take it if I tell them I don't want to marry her again so they don't have b.p. I am really really confused. The little extra money I get from extra tutorial is what I do send to my two siblings in school even though is very little compare to their needs but at least it is something.
I feel like running away but to where? I truly love my wife but she is regretting marrying me. Please what can I do?
Marriage is not for everybody. If its not working, you both stop deceiving yourselves and officially divorce.
We have more important issues to think about please.
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Matinox: This evening I took a reflection on what my wife has gone through in our small marital journey, my heart swirled up with gratitude, I felt like to call my mum and tell her thank you again.
Women are built different!
I just had a baby, I was in the labour room and boy o boy! The female body is a work of art!
I considered the pains they go through... My wife for instance, after marriage, sex was a huge desert to cross, it was her first time, she would cry countless times, by the time we crossed that hurdle, she took in, pregnancy came with its own shenanigans!
This thread isn't about my wife, but to all honest women out there, God bless your efforts.
First sex - Pain Pregnant - Pain Delivery - Pain First Breast feeding - Intense pain Resume sex after child birth - Pain Wean your baby - Pain
Life for you all is like an art gallery, you all fit into many descriptions. God bless you all.
That's what you think but that's not what our God commanded, we are not to marry outside our faith. So no matter where a person comes from as long as he or she is a worshiper of our God we can't deny him or her but even my own blood brother who isn't a worshiper of my God knows i will never ever support him marrying a worshiper of my God!
Please who is "your God" ? Is He different from the God of Isaac, Isau or Jacob? Is he different from the one true God we all pray to and reverence? Please clear me on this "your God" cos I can't seem to understand.
Good to see you too . nairaland got boring, to drop comments and engage in discussions take so much strenght from me that's why I'm scarce here.
nothing like the good old days when it's all good vibes and positive energy.
The good old days was not good vibes and positive energy. It was a battle between Nairaland mods and garri lovers. Stop spreading falsehood without provocation. This is a public forum! Spits..
aybabz101: I dont know what the strike aims to achieve......coz the government cannot keep on subsidizing fuel. Their strike is technically to increase minimum wage which will only apply to the government workers and corporate workers with the vast population still the same...
this thing is simple....the government needs money to keep running which at the moment the government don't have, cos over 90% of their earnings is spent on debt servicing....... therefore, subsidy must go!
im also a citizen feeling the pain oooo......but the truth nothing any body can do at the moment....the country has been terribly ran by successive administrations and we are now feeling the results of poor management....
In fact, i believe the worst is yet to come...talking from economic facts and figures without emotions......
If you don't have anything sensible to say, sometimes it's better to shut up the gutter you call mouth and don't exhibit public display of nude nuisancee.
Animegirl: If you believe in the concept of an alpha male or superior man, it is essential to understand that treating your partner with respect and care is vital in maintaining a healthy relationship.
If you don't treat your wife well, how do you expect your wife to take care of you when old age sickness comes? Funny, how most men deceive themselves by saying "my wife is not my family" if you have such mentality you're a fool.
Similarly, subscribing to the notion that all men are naturally polygamous does not justify cheating or engaging in unfaithful behavior. Cheating on your partner can lead to severe consequences in the future, including the possibility of being abandoned when you need support the most.
Furthermore, having multiple partners and not taking responsibility for your children can result in strained relationships with your offspring as they grow older. Neglecting your parental duties may lead to your children not providing the care and attention you might need when you reach old age.
Infact I rather marry a simp, who loves me and take care of my needs than marry self proclaim Alpha and Omega with so much toxicity
Your mates are becoming captains of industries and building the world and you can think of is being someone's wife. To be a wife is your priority in life?
Very empty minded women roaming around social media. *spits***
. I might have made a few mistakes in the past (not sex related) but ever since I met my first and only girlfriend (we are together for two years now) all I want is to keep loving her and being a good guy to her. It's not exactly hard...when you love someone, you respect them and respect gives you so much self control because you only see the best of the world in the eyes of the woman you love. .
Yes many men as promiscuous by nature. As someone in the medical field I can argue on and on about the biology and anatomy and physiology and psychology behind this... At the same time we can chose what we want to be, we can chose to be responsible and good expecially when the right, loving woman comes along. . . I will always always be loyal to my GF. She is my world.
FahBuLous: As a certified and well known indegene of Akwa Abasi Ibom state, my favorite soup is non other than "Afang soup" I think this is the most delicious soup in the world... No cap..
You have no idea what Egusi Soup can do to the soul.
I don’t think I can ever recover from this life disastrous act!! My baby was suppose to be due by 28th November 2023 If you ask me why I did what I did I can’t even explain!!
The painful part is I don’t even know if the abortion was successful cause the blood I saw wasn’t what the quack nurse that did it for me said!! Now I’m on a cross road whether the abortion was complete or whether I’m still expecting a damaged and disfigured child!!
Please don’t be like me Don’t follow my path I hope I recover from this and if I don’t so be it.
The mod that posted this, is it not too early for this ? People are trying to make ends meets and this is what you posted for people to read. Misplaced priorities everywhere. Gosh!
Jashub: Op, if she comes back ,accept her . But you need to work on yourself...and that means being able to support your family in every sphere .
Secondly , you chasing her away will only make your son spite you...and you know how manipulative women can be when it comes to twisting narratives to gain sympathy.
Afodot0022: Good day naira landers and happy holiday. I am writing this base on the challenge am having in my marriage. Some of you might have known little about the issue i had previously cos i brought it to the forum.
It happened that my wife was having emotional affairs with another man which i knew through her chat.
Though family and pastor were involved and have tried everything to resolve the issue between us. I have decided to forgive and forget and also give her a second chance even though it was a difficult situation for me, I decided to let go cos of my two daughters and don't want them to share from a broken home.
Now the issue am still having is that my wife has promise to change and be a better person and also promise to cut any emotional tile with the man. But I wasn't confident with that, so i told her to block this guy on all social media and also delete his number so there wont be any communication between them cos i sense if they both keep in touch, they might go back to what they were doing before. She got angry when i told her this and she said she can't block the guy cos they have been friends for many years even before she got married to me.
She started dating the guy last year under my roof and her reason was that i pushed her to do such act cos i wasn't giving her enough attention and love which is totally a lie.
So house, pls just let me know if i did wrong by telling her to block the guy or i over did it. I just felt blocking him will be best for us cos i noticed my wife is not fully detached from this guy emotionally.
Pls if you are in my shoes, what will you do house. If you want to get more insight about what transpired, you can go to my details nairaland.
Pls mod, help me by doing the needful.
You are a dusgrace to manhood. You are a SIMP. You shouldn't be a man. This is totally pathetic and unbelievable
What is your own 2022 resolution, what did you achieve a d otherwise, what is your 2023 resolution? Let start with you first Abu you no get resolution ? Amebo
My resolution is to not have any resolution..
That thing you want to start don't even try it. Go and ask why people avoid me on this forum
Jennyclay: Looking at the man's picture one could tell he was truly wicked to his children. These are the kind of men that would squander money in beer parlour but won't give their children money for school fees and up-keep
These are the kind of men that would squander money on ladies but won't give their wife money for food. And if the wife complains he would beat her up.
These are the kind of men that compare their children to other people's children whereas he's not making any effort to better the life of his own children.
For his children to have regretted having him as a father shows he did unspeakable things. His children were nice enough to attend his funeral. If I were to be in their shoes, I won't dare attend his funeral.
Stingy ko ko men everywhere!
Did you come to this world because of man? Why don't you make your own money and stop the fantasies about collecting money from men.
Travel / Re: My Family Wants To Send Me To The UK-(London) , But Am Not Ready: I Need Advice by EgusiSoup: 2:57pm On Dec 02
, cook ugwu,ogbono. 
pound yam plus Egusisoup for our mother
