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DV2012 is out oh, has anyone checked yet, I'm really anxious

marriage is what you make it, if you want it to be a blessing, it will be and if you want it to be a curse, it will happen likewise. You have to work at it, it involves responsibility, if you are not ready for this , then don't get married. You cannot just take up the title, fold your hands and expect everything to be like before and then blame you spouse for your difficulties. Africans grow up, the world has changed, don't expect your spouse to change, you change, work harder, increase your income, be more tolerant and more focussed. This life is about growth and change, deal with it

one of this days he is going to kill you, you are far much more worth than what he is giving you

My dear nairalanders I need your opinion, I am female and i have this female friend whom i have known for 6 years, I'm from Delta state and she is a yoruba girl, she is just too aggressive for my liking, some people call it control but what I see is aggression. recently she was asking me questions about my marriage and as a rule for me, I never discuss my husband with friends so I politely asked her to change the topic and she now said we cannot be friends if she cannot discuss the topic she wants to discuss, so I switch off the phone to apologise later and she became very abusive. I have tiptoed around my friend for 6 years being careful not to annoy her, I have had enough, i finally told her that i felt she was a very quarrelsome woman and it's a shame she is a pastor's wife. Opinions please

@Okstol, this is not a matter of being stingy, FYI Nigerian women are not stingy, in all my travels and from the women I've seen in other countries, I have come to believe Nigerian women are very peaceful, commited to their families, take a lot of nonsense for the sake of culture, overrated submission which our forefathers did no require from their wives and not to mention peace in the home. When you naturally give, even when people don't give back you're not bothered, it's from your heart, it's when you have eagle eyes, never give and genetically stingy that you see other people as being stingy

I can only tell y'all what i tell my husband all the time, when your marriage fails, don't think you would look faultless by going round passing blames on one another, you have failed and it's something you will need to think of for the rest of your life even if you remarry. Nigerians need to step up, times have changed, we need to work harder to make our marriages work, every relationship has challenges whether with a spouse, siblings or parents. We don't get rid of our parents or siblings, no mater what they do to us we tolerate, why then do we find it easy to get rid of our spouse, if from the day of marriage, you changed your perspective and treated your spouse like your own blood instead of a necessary evil who has come to fufil the requirements of our culture, we most probably would have longer lasting marriages

thank you jare for your reply, finding out from an outsider is almost impossible because I'm not that friendly, I'm the type of wife that minds my home and minds my business. I'm happy with the feedback because i feel so far a man feels superior with his wealth, there will be less complications in the home, especially if you are married to a typical african man. peace y'all

my husband thinks he is richer than i am, i noticed it gives him a lot of self confidence, i feel so far he is happy, I'm happy, he is not interested in my investments or in what i earn. When i ask him for money, he excercises his power by delaying my request and i just hold on till he gives him the money, though i have mine, i feel it makes him feel like a real commonly stingy nigerian man. Life is sweet, what do you thiks. FYI, OPINION POLL FOR WOMEN ONLY

that's for all your reply's though some people had nothing sensible to say but thanks all the same, will take everything on board

I'm currently engaged to a Christian brother, he shares a flat with a fellow christian sister, who is married with 4 children but her husband is in the USA, any time i visit my fiance, she always like to point out my faults to him (i know because he tells me everything) but my husband already knows my faults because pretence is not one of my virtues. She is beginning to get on my nerves, now I'm beginning to also point out her faults as she is the dirtiest married woman I've ever seen in my life, I'm beginning to stoop to her level and as a Christian, i feel very bad about this, i really feel like calling her aside and telling her what i feel about her. I feel Nigerian women, instead of spending time taking care of their homes, they would rather spend time not minding mind own business and given others unsolicited advice. I have told my fiance to move, the woman is a devil in disguise, although he is not bothered about the things she says behind my back, I can't stand such women and I am really trying to be as civil as possible with much difficulty because she is a friend to my husband to be