Family / Re: Is This Enough Reason To Send My Niece Back To The Village? by Elsmufy: 3:58am On Sep 06, 2023 |
NaijaRealtor: 1. Right from when she was about three years old, she would always pray for me to make it so she can come stay with me.
2. Been married for like 7 years and we have 3 kids. My wife was on my neck to bring my niece to come stay with us so she can assist with helping to look after the kids once they all return from school.
3. Because I know how many ladies treat children that aren't theirs, I refused to bring my niece over. So after much pressure from my wife, I approached my sister and her husband and pleaded to allow me train her as she'd always prayed.
4. Weeks after her arrival, my wife started complaining about her attitude and stuff. I refused to yield to my wife's suggestions that I take my niece back. It almost caused quarrel between us.
I felt it was too early to judge her. She's just 12 years old.
Her Attitudes:
A. She would fold and keep pants stained with my 1 year old poop in the laundry basket until it starts bringing out maggots, then we would search the whole house for the source of the foul smell until we find it and throw away affected clothes, disinfect the house and all.
B. She, yesterday wiped my 6 years old son with iron buckle on the belt and his head nearly burst open. He complained of severe headache and we are still treating him.
C. Final straw was, while we were in the office today, my 6 years old started to throw up. He was sick. This girl just laid on the couch and instructed a 6 years old to go fetch the broom, mopping stick and packer to clean the mess.
My son was very weak, but he went to fetch these items and cleaning the vomit. Because he was very sick, he kept on throwing up and cleaning at the same time. All these while, this girl laid there relaxing until my wife came home and washed my son up and cleaned the floor.
When I came back this evening and learnt about the stuff, I quietly asked her why she'd behaved like that and she said it was nothing.
I really don't know whether to let her stay while I try to coach her or take her back to her parents.
I seriously need advice.
Sorry for the long epistle. Ok now I understand You brought a KID to take care of your KID? and now you want to know if the reasons above is good enough to send the kid back for not taking good care of your KID ? Right? |
Romance / Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Elsmufy: 2:02am On Aug 25, 2023 |
addmole: I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.
Anyway sha, lets move on...
5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.
Omo... The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.
I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.
I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.
ANOTHER PART OF HER: My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.
There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.
We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.
I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.
I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.
Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.
i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.
Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.
She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.
What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough. It's a medical issue You said she feels pain in her stomach It's medical |
Celebrities / Re: CELEBRITY NEWS: Txperience Live In Asaba - (terrific Xmile Concert 2023) by Elsmufy: 3:10am On Aug 21, 2023 |
JTwarrior: Nigeria Sensational Music Okafor Charles Chukwuka Popularly Known as ‘TX (Terrific Xmile)’ who has emerged and is making a name for himself in the world of music. His songs are catchy and have a lot of impact. His fans are in for a treat. Following the immense success of TX (Terrific Xmile)’ most recently released hits ‘Bless and Work & Pray, Yawa featuring JaywillZ’, the uber-talented artiste is all set to pull down the City of Asaba with his Celebrity Gangs, the TXperience came with the successful release of his recently released song ‘Yawa’ on which he features another leader of the new school movement, Jaywillz on what seems to potentially be one of the biggest hits of the year.
TXperience will be another Bomb in the South South Region of Nigeria, The multi-talented artiste TX in a press conference states that the Event's is packed with lots of Groove and Excitement. Celebrity on the list are JaywillZ Frank D DonMadiba Comedy Belushi Mr lush (Lushmusiq) Mahoe Las BoiJamin Rheymo And others Regular : 5k Vip : 20kSilver Table: 300kGold Table: 500kLounge: 1m Music By: Freeman GFM, Uclem, 2kind, Jo C, Method Blazer, Dot B, Lennyboi Koc, Delta Record Artistes (DRA) Paddy Freeborn, Getty Henry, Linobrown. Comedy by: Baba Wale, Don Talker, Holy Ake, Mc White, Tboi, Funny Joe, Mc Jokes Apart. Hype Man: Delta Boy, Cee D' Gudguy, Nestro. Djs: Dj Mikky, Dj GFlex, Dj Wizborn. Dance by: XPL Venue: Sweet Spirit Hotel, OKPANAM Rd, Asaba. This Event is packaged by 2things Promotion and Proudly Promoted by Prince Fredoo Perry For Enquiry Call the number on the poster, Come and Xperience the Real TX as he and his Celebrity Friends Graze You with Terrific Xmile.
Time dey come this new thing weh una see for asaba go Taya una And all of una go run and stop polluting asaba and other places with this rubbish |
Properties / Re: How Can My Husband Solve This House Problem? by Elsmufy: 10:13pm On Aug 20, 2023 |
do4luv14:
Chief I dey here ooo 😁😁😁😁 My brother I see you for where you dey o just dey there I dey come |
Celebrities / Re: Tonto Dikeh Slams NDLEA For Inviting Naira Marley To Their Office by Elsmufy: 3:17am On Aug 18, 2023 |
ExAngel007: Nollywood actress, Tonto Dikeh took to her Instagram page this evening August 17, to slam the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency NDLEA for inviting singer Naira Marley to their office.
The anti-drug agency had shared photos of Naira Marley posing with its Director General, Buba Marwa, and stated that the singer paid a visit to the agency to show his support for the War Against Drug Abuse.
‘Chairman/Chief Executive Officer of the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency, Brig. Gen. Mohamed Buba Marwa (Retd) with music star, Naira Marley when the artiste paid a visit to the National Headquarters of the Agency in Abuja to declare support for the War Against Drug Abuse on Thursday 17th August 2023'' the agency captioned the photo
Tonto disapproved of this and took to her Instagram page to call the agency out. Expressing her displeasure, she wrote;
‘’I’ll unfollow now…
You guys are the most unserious set of folks!!!
And if you come for me I’ll be ready!!!!! Shit hole!!! shittier home!!!
I don’t involve my self in bullshit, especially other people’s bullshit…
This I must say is the biggest embarrassment from any government agency/drug law enforcement agency…
I wld like to say more but I’ll wait for @ndlea_nigeria to pick me up for an interview/Drug test/ or just a chat on why I’m bold enough to call them out!!!!
Sirs/ma’s I’M READY.
You know my address, I’ll ask you do it respectfully otherwise we’ll have a PROBLEM…..
And if I’m replied I’ll gladly respond disrespectfully……
I have absolutely nothing wrong on the said artist but the government………''
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The cry of a concerned USER 1 Like |
Properties / Re: How Can My Husband Solve This House Problem? by Elsmufy: 10:00pm On Aug 17, 2023 |
Puss360:
Awww dear... Thanks I'm fine.... Lol you be yeye fowl bu it's good though 1 Like |
Properties / Re: How Can My Husband Solve This House Problem? by Elsmufy: 3:22pm On Aug 17, 2023 |
Puss360:
I dey live under bridge... This weekend come and take me out....
![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) I like your sincerity Send me your account number let me punch in something for you |
Properties / Re: How Can My Husband Solve This House Problem? by Elsmufy: 2:53pm On Aug 17, 2023 |
Puss360: Don't collect loan ... Rent your normal 120 k.... Do the plumbing for water.... Down... Charge your 120k... Once they pay, you use it to buy tank and connect water..... Next rent make it to be 150 max... Then you explain that "Because of the water running that's why the increment"... In the event they refuse, then they pack out and you give the incoming tenant 180k...
Don't borrow loan for building or house renovation.... Another round of applause Standing ovation You try but you dey pay rent abi u dey squat with man ? 1 Like |
Crime / Re: Nigerian Government Should Shut Down Quest International (QI) Now. SCAM by Elsmufy: 12:36pm On Aug 17, 2023 |
firstus51: How the poor reacts to products which are not in their level (if you read this message to the end, you understand Qnet business).
A Rolex 2013 pre-owned Cosmograph Daytona Rainbow 40mm and the price is $450,000. Yes this is accurate. It's not even a new one - it is pre-owned.
If you advertise this product in a country with high level of poverty, you will hear: "$450,000 for a watch? I mean almost 200 million NAIRA for just a watch? I will rather die than to wear such watch."
And yes, your sentiments are valid. You have a right to think like that because you are on survival mode.
But a wealthy man like Dangote would look at it and think of his daughter's 30th birthday. He understands that this could be a major investment for his daughter. He would rush to buy this watch with even $500,000 to ensure nobody else gets it before him. By buying the watch, he has intelligently invested $500,000 which will grow in value overtime.
This is the same with Longevity.... you scream "why do I need to be alive bla bla bla ".... The rich knows that at 88 years old, with money and life, a wealthy Tinubu can intimidate the country and buy presidency. He just needs to fight to be alive. All he needs is life. So longevity is important to the rich but food is important to the poor.
That's why Qnet is attractive to the elites and not attractive to the poor. Dato Sri Vijay Eswaran is an intelligent person - he knows that anyone who can solve Longevity Problems for the rich will control the world. This is the race Qnet has joined too.
But if you are on this page and hate poverty, you know that you need to start thinking like the rich and grow out of your poverty mentality.
I once thought like that. I hated people who bought expensive things or desired longevity. I told them that it is appointed unto man to die once. I was religious. But someone opened my eyes and I saw clearly. I realised that my poverty mentality was hindering my success. Many people might have heard about Qnet and some are afraid of losing their money but truth be told QNET is paying 225$ for a start and more as u progress and if you wish you can come to Lagos/Ogun offically to confirm or need more clarification Dm @ 09055451841 Call/WhatsApp
Best wishes Na them Very wicked and heartless person You know the truth probably but you are bent on towing the line of it's legit and not for the poor lol |
Crime / Re: Man Arrested For Running Brothels " Residents Complaints On The Brothels Works" by Elsmufy: 12:21pm On Aug 17, 2023 |
jeff1993: U go diie for Ashawo matter!!!
It's not a crime to be Ashewo ..... Ashewo no kee person, Asherwo no rob person .... Asheeo no wound person. NA Just normal biz transaction.... use what u have to get what u want.... SIMPLE!!!!
That man will come outside ... The police gat no case on him.
No one would have known how foolish you are if you had keep your mouth shut, now everyone knows. 1 Like |
Crime / Re: Man Arrested For Running Brothels " Residents Complaints On The Brothels Works" by Elsmufy: 12:12pm On Aug 17, 2023 |
Prostitution is a crime against humanity 1 Like |
Politics / Re: 15 LASTMA Officials Wounded In Clash With Soldiers: LASTMA Vacates Duty Posts by Elsmufy: 10:09pm On Aug 15, 2023 |
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Romance / Re: Can You Leave A Good Woman/man Because They Slept With Someone By Mistake? by Elsmufy: 4:53pm On Aug 15, 2023 |
Lutherblaq: They say Forgiveness is the firs step to fixing relationship issues. It gives you a window to understand the reason behind your partner’s actions.
Being cheated on is one of the most traumatic feelings one can go through in any relationship. There are times when the love and affection between two people decrease due to various factors.
Cuddles, romance, and communication become less frequent with time. It is in times like these either of the partners may search for love outside.
As a man/woman, tell us; Can You Leave A Good Woman/Man Because They Slept With Someone By Mistake?
People sleep with people by mistake? I didn't know and nobody told me Sleep with someone by mistake wow that's new . |
Religion / Re: Is It True That Witches Use Trees As Their Covens? by Elsmufy: 1:46am On Aug 14, 2023 |
jimmyolasun:
Well I dey enjoy their company. Net kor, cloth nii.. Lol bro enjoy |
Crime / Re: GRAPHIC VIDEO: Cultist Returns From Prison, Beats Up His Girlfriend For Cheating by Elsmufy: 7:43pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
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Religion / Re: Is It True That Witches Use Trees As Their Covens? by Elsmufy: 12:31pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
jimmyolasun: Yes, behind my apartment my neighbor planted lots of banana trees in his garden and luckily abi unluckily the garden falls at the back of his compound where we both share same fence. So witches likes banana trees and I believe that's where our whole community witches use as coven because na wetin everyone believe. But I like them been there infact I protested when he wanted to cut down few because my apartment dey always cold enh!! I no need fan abi AC. And the air in my apartment always pure. So whenever people ask how I cope with such trees close to me, I just smile and tell them "I and the witches understand one another" infact when they start meeting and their noise dey plenty, I do warn them to keep it low. Most especially when I carry babe come house..🤗🤗 If this rendition is anything to go by then you are part of their jurisdiction and you are in their net |
Politics / Re: Breaking: Cote D'ivoire Sends Heavy Military To Support Niger by Elsmufy: 11:41pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
ivolt:
See this ones. Why did you think the Soviet union and the US left Afghanistan? Is it because the Taliban is stronger?
Stay away from topics you don't understand. Pray tell why did they leave? |
Politics / Re: Breaking: Cote D'ivoire Sends Heavy Military To Support Niger by Elsmufy: 3:17pm On Aug 06, 2023 |
ivolt:
See this ones. Why did you think the Soviet union and the US left Afghanistan? Is it because the Taliban is stronger?
Stay away from topics you don't understand. By all means tell us why they left sir |
Politics / Re: Breaking: Cote D'ivoire Sends Heavy Military To Support Niger by Elsmufy: 2:31pm On Aug 05, 2023 |
ivolt: ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
Do you understand French Mr. special military operation? I suppose your racing heart didn't let you bother to check. Even if the whole West Africa gather, Nigeria can vanquish them all within days. And then a bunch of untrained insurgents who have nothing to loose could not be vanquished for years now Think again bro Nigeria is not the daddy of Africa anymore wake up smell the coffee |
Crime / Re: Socialite, Cecilia Agu Sent To Prison Over ₦275 Million Internet Scam by Elsmufy: 10:50am On Jun 15, 2023 |
KingOfIsoko1: Sauce pls Which do you care for tomato sauce Or egg sauce? |
Forum Games / Re: If You Were To Spend 5m Naira In 1hr by Elsmufy: 11:20pm On May 22, 2023 |
IyaTola: If you were to spend 5m naira in 1hr, what will you buy? I go order for private jet ,one cargo ship,buy one house for tincan island,one Lexus Rx jeep and a glock16 1 Like |
Crime / Re: They Open His Fore Head Removed All The Brain - Blackaxe Vs Vikings Benin PHOTOS by Elsmufy: 8:16am On Apr 22, 2023 |
Killerbag36:
They sleep perfectly ok trust me às if nothing happens U never kill chicken b4 Or rat or mosquito Bro its fine trust me in that d killer sef go fucck hot fvck that night sef normally 😒 This is not totally true bro ask questions They don't sleep well at night nightmares are their constant companions Most of them have to even go diabolic to ward off attacks from their dead victims 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Stephen Muoka Behind Viral ‘Eluu P' Song, Obidient Anthem Crooner by Elsmufy: 12:38pm On Mar 10, 2023 |
FATHAT:
Well it's because I refused to be angered by anything again,with the way things are unfolding in this country it's shear waste of time and energy getting angry with people who you can't change nomatter how you insult them people would always be people. So I think resorting to scolding them is the current trend now Wow you are a changed person now am happy for you |
Celebrities / Re: Stephen Muoka Behind Viral ‘Eluu P' Song, Obidient Anthem Crooner by Elsmufy: 12:18pm On Mar 10, 2023 |
FATHAT:
You see your life for outside I like the fact that your words are becoming fewer you are learning to be civil |
Celebrities / Re: Stephen Muoka Behind Viral ‘Eluu P' Song, Obidient Anthem Crooner by Elsmufy: 9:35am On Mar 10, 2023 |
FATHAT:
I don't insult parents I know their worth I can only scold you for being so stupid You that can't take simple correction without insulting people You are the one scolding me This life no balance define stupid please? |
Celebrities / Re: Stephen Muoka Behind Viral ‘Eluu P' Song, Obidient Anthem Crooner by Elsmufy: 11:10pm On Mar 09, 2023 |
FATHAT:
Shatdafakaap!!!! Is this all you can offer You can do better na Don't you think you should insult my mom dad and my generation too? you don Taya ? |
Celebrities / Re: Stephen Muoka Behind Viral ‘Eluu P' Song, Obidient Anthem Crooner by Elsmufy: 8:32pm On Mar 09, 2023 |
FATHAT:
I beg I no sabi Grammer come teach me local fkn champion na idiot wey no go school go dey command pesin for this place all this spoilt kids.Oloshi Come up Heather I can't come down to your level to banter words with you bro have fun |
Celebrities / Re: Stephen Muoka Behind Viral ‘Eluu P' Song, Obidient Anthem Crooner by Elsmufy: 9:52pm On Mar 08, 2023 |
FATHAT: Odey boy no-go find work na politician d mumu dey sing for Las Las d obi go sell your generation for slavery when Im enter oresident . Please spell words correctly when you post, and try to use perfect grammar and punctuation. you broke rule number 21of this site And you dey insult people 2 Likes |
Politics / Re: Results From INEC IREV So Far Shows That Obi Won 19 States Plus FCT by Elsmufy: 8:04am On Mar 06, 2023 |
KingOfTheDamned:
You are very stupid. I am 100% Obidient and voted for Obi . Does that make me stupid like you to post fake things ?
This is the real INEC website https://www.inecnigeria.org/
Mugu. Iliterate dunce. When they say go to school you will be arguing Bro undoubtedly what you posted is the real inec website But there is a result viewing portal that is used for viewing election results that's what the guy posted you can't view results on inec website bro 1 Like 1 Share |
Politics / Re: Lp's Gbadebo Rhodes-vivour Is An IPOB And Biafra Apologist (Proof) by Elsmufy: 6:46pm On Mar 01, 2023 |
Hopium: More Poorly done conspiracy 7 Likes |
Politics / Re: APC Wins Two Senatorial Seats In Delta by Elsmufy: 9:29am On Mar 01, 2023 |
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