Family / Re: Leaving A Marriage Because He's Not Taking Responsibilities, Make Me Bad? by fekeoshomoshi: 1:37pm On Jun 07, 2023 |
Giftedhands45: I have to join this forum to post this tonight.
I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain. Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide. Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.
Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money '' I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.
There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available. Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down
Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well. My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.
Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?
What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?
Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?
I think the issue is, was the man supportive when he had job and what are his plans to get a new job or start a business or perhaps learn a skill and be engaged. Also be sure he his not battling any health issues, his circle of friends should be check too, their influence in his life could also affect him negatively.
You as a woman can never shoulder the responsibility alone, the role of a man/father in every matrimonial home cannot be overemphasized. you have started what you cannot cope with, forever is a long time to go.
Correct it now and take your stand by insisting he go get something legitimate doing and be consistent in it, las las hustle go pay everyone, at all at all na e bad.
Don't pack out, rule out divorce from your marriage for the sake of your children and avoid the social sigma of a divorcee, pray hard, God will intervene.
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Family / Re: Leaving A Marriage Because He's Not Taking Responsibilities, Make Me Bad? by fekeoshomoshi: 1:35pm On Jun 07, 2023 |
I think the issue is, was the man supportive when he had job and what are his plans to get a new job or start a business or perhaps learn a skill and be engaged. Also be sure he his not battling any health issues, his circle of friends should be check too, their influence in his life could also affect him negatively.
You as a woman can never shoulder the responsibility alone, the role of a man/father in every matrimonial home cannot be overemphasized. you have started what you cannot cope with, forever is a long time to go.
Correct it now and take your stand by insisting he go get something legitimate doing and be consistent in it, las las hustle go pay everyone, at all at all na e bad.
Don't pack out, rule out divorce from your marriage for the sake of your children and avoid the social sigma of a divorcee, pray hard, God will intervene. |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 11:52am On Mar 02, 2023 |
Thank you Fumyyy:
Vo:where are you going to Me: Washington Vo: for what Me:conference Vo: oh ok I see you recently came back from xyz country in November Me:yes I also attended a conference/meeting there Vo:can I see your previous passports Me: sure! brings out previous passports with visas In it Vo: oh you ve been to China ? How was it Me: fine Vo: do you intend receiving any medical attention in the usa Me: not at all Vo: where are your relatives Me: they are all here in Nigeria Vo: are you an administrator at your office Me: yes Vo: your visa application has been approved Me: Thank you
The lady was so nice and professional by the way.. just be honest. no answer wetin dem no ask u o. Lol And make sure your intentions are genuine You are welcome In advance |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 11:51am On Mar 02, 2023 |
Recently aestake:
When did you apply for this visit visa? |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 7:54pm On Mar 01, 2023 |
please help a sister.
My B1/B2 visa interview is in few days.
i need a recent approved transcript for B1/B2, i want to study the likely questions to be ask and how to answer correctly.
Thanks in anticipation.
Note: I do not have any travel history, my first time of applying for a visa. 2 Likes |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 12:48pm On Jan 23, 2023 |
hello everyone.
Please I need a b1/b2 visa approval transcript. I want to practice and be familiar with likely questions during interview before my visa appointment in March.
Thank you. |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 11:54am On Jan 18, 2023 |
segsdynamic: Hello, fekeoshomoshi
I will like to give this advice to the very best of my knowledge. Telling the visa officer that you will be visiting the US to learn how a US school runs their curriculum might be a red flag. 1. Learning/undergoing a training requires you to apply for F/J visa and not B1 B2 (tourist visa) 2. Nigeria educational system has already intl standard curriculum depending on the school wc I know some sch practices British curriculum while some schools practice American curriculum, it will sound well if you are a govt official in education ministry going as a team to learn more about the American curriculum in other to practice it in Nigerian school system. 3. Some likely questions they can ask you is when have you be teaching in that particular sch? Why are you going to US to learn Abt the curriculum? Where will you be staying during the time u will be in the US? Who will be sponsoring your trip? Finally, this is my own observation and your visa might be approve if you were able to convince the consular that you are not an intending immigrant. Lastly, US visa entails fasting and prayer Good luck.
thank you |
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Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 1:03pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
hello everyone, kindly help a sister.
I have an interview for first week in March 2023 for B1/B2 visa. I am a teacher in a private school owned by a family member. My uncle in the US gave me an invitation to US to come learn how his children school run their curriculum and come back to Nigeria to implement that system in the school where I currently teach. My plan is to travel during the holiday and come back to Nigeria before resumption.
What are the likely questions to expect from the Visa Officer during the interview?
Thank you for your help. |
Travel / Re: Giving Birth In Brazil by fekeoshomoshi: 12:54pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
hello everyone, kindly help a sister.
I have an interview for first week in March 2023 for B1/B2 visa. I am a teacher in a private school owned by a family member. My uncle in the US gave me an invitation to US to come learn how his children school run their curriculum and come back to Nigeria to implement that system in the school where I currently teach. My plan is to travel during the holiday and come back to Nigeria before resumption.
What are the likely questions to expect from the Visa Officer during the interview?
Thank you for your help. |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 1:35pm On Aug 26, 2022 |
please, can a Nigerian student in the UK apply for B1/B2 visa in the Uk or the person need to come to Nigeria and apply for a B1/B2 visa to visit the US? 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Reno Abandoned His Wife To Chase After An Ethiopian Babe - David Hundeyin by fekeoshomoshi: 9:07pm On Jul 09, 2022 |
Watch out for Reno response |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 11:26am On Apr 01, 2022 |
Asking for an uncle.
The man had under his profile his wife and child of 17yrs. Their B1/B2 both expired less than a year ago, they are eligible for IW, the man and the wife renewed their visa last month without stress.
Now, the daughter wants to renew her visa via the man profile but the profile is asking the man to enter a new MRV receipt as the principal applicant even when he has valid visa at hand.
Does it means the man cannot renew the daughter visa alone with his profile? Please what's the way out? as he had already pay for the daughter MRV receipt and ready to book her for IW. |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 12:03pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Today make 2weeks that i attended the followup interview, my application status remains on "Administrative Processing" since on the 17th of March. what do I do? fekeoshomoshi: Hello Everyone,
I submitted my document for IW on the 1st of March(the exact date my eligibility for IW expire, I got date on 28th of February).
my document status shows "refused" on the 3rd of March, picked up my document from DHL on the 9th of March and was asked to come any Thursday for followup appointment. I was there last week Thursday, 17th of March, 2022. The followup interview went well, just two questions was asked and the VO said my document will be ready within 3 business working days.
I tracked my document today, status show "Administrative Processing" last updated on the 17th of March, 2022, the day I attended the followup interview.
Am worried, because I expect it should be on "Issued" and probably "ready for pickup" by now.
what could be the cause of the delay in processing my document?
Thanks for your responses. |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 12:01pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
To make 2weeks that i attended the followup interview, my application status remains on "Administrative Processing" since on the 17th of March. what do I do? fekeoshomoshi: As at today Friday, 25th March 2022, status still on "administrative processing" over a week I attend the followup interview.
I pray for positive outcome.
Fingers crossed.
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Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 11:45am On Mar 28, 2022 |
As at this morning Monday 28th of March 2022, I tracked my document, Status still On "Administrative Processing" Am worried. please what do I do? fekeoshomoshi: As at today Friday, 25th March 2022, status still on "administrative processing" over a week I attend the followup interview.
I pray for positive outcome.
Fingers crossed.
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Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 2:12pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
As at today Friday, 25th March 2022, status still on "administrative processing" over a week I attend the followup interview. I pray for positive outcome. Fingers crossed. fekeoshomoshi: Hello Everyone,
I submitted my document for IW on the 1st of March(the exact date my eligibility for IW expire, I got date on 28th of February).
my document status shows "refused" on the 3rd of March, picked up my document from DHL on the 9th of March and was asked to come any Thursday for followup appointment. I was there last week Thursday, 17th of March, 2022. The followup interview went well, just two questions was asked and the VO said my document will be ready within 3 business working days.
I tracked my document today, status show "Administrative Processing" last updated on the 17th of March, 2022, the day I attended the followup interview.
Am worried, because I expect it should be on "Issued" and probably "ready for pickup" by now.
what could be the cause of the delay in processing my document?
Thanks for your responses. |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 3:31pm On Mar 23, 2022 |
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Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 2:49pm On Mar 23, 2022 |
I put a call to DHL office, few minutes ago. They asked me to mail the embassy. Can I? fekeoshomoshi: Hello Everyone,
I submitted my document for IW on the 1st of March(the exact date my eligibility for IW expire, I got date on 28th of February).
my document status shows "refused" on the 3rd of March, picked up my document from DHL on the 9th of March and was asked to come any Thursday for followup appointment. I was there last week Thursday, 17th of March, 2022. The followup interview went well, just two questions was asked and the VO said my document will be ready within 3 business working days.
I tracked my document today, status show "Administrative Processing" last updated on the 17th of March, 2022, the day I attended the followup interview.
Am worried, because I expect it should be on "Issued" and probably "ready for pickup" by now.
what could be the cause of the delay in processing my document?
Thanks for your responses. |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 1:24pm On Mar 23, 2022 |
Ok. I pray and hope for positive outcome soonest. Thanks so much. Dampops: It appears that after the interview with you, they decided to verify certain information you provided before issuing the visa. Exercise more patience, you’re almost at the end of the tunnel…light lies ahead
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Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 12:50pm On Mar 23, 2022 |
Hello Everyone,
I submitted my document for IW on the 1st of March(the exact date my eligibility for IW expire, I got date on 28th of February).
my document status shows "refused" on the 3rd of March, picked up my document from DHL on the 9th of March and was asked to come any Thursday for followup appointment. I was there last week Thursday, 17th of March, 2022. The followup interview went well, just two questions was asked and the VO said my document will be ready within 3 business working days.
I tracked my document today, status show "Administrative Processing" last updated on the 17th of March, 2022, the day I attended the followup interview.
Am worried, because I expect it should be on "Issued" and probably "ready for pickup" by now.
what could be the cause of the delay in processing my document?
Thanks for your responses. |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 2:57pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
He said "Refused" since on the 7th of March. Dampops: Please confirm from the man what he saw when he tracked his own application. Did it say “issued” or “refused”; or even “administrative processing”?
In any case, he should be patient. Calls or emails won’t amount to anything…
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Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 1:57pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Hello gurus,
Someone submitted an IW document on the 1st of March with that of his wife as dependant, by 4th March, the wife status shows 'Issued' and she received a mail in her personal email that her document is ready for pickup, she picked up her passport with visa on Friday, 11th March. As at today, the man status shows 'passport still with the US embassy', the man is worried because he his the principal applicant and his passport is still not ready for pickup while his wife got hers. Note: tomorrow make 2weeks he dropped the document.
Please, what could be the cause of the delay?
Should the man call or email the embassy or keep expecting his pickup mail?
thank you. |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 10:10am On Mar 11, 2022 |
please, did your parent go with their filled ds 160 form that was submitted or the ds 160 submission confirmation page for the IW followup appointment interview? karypops: So my parents went for the follow up interview today. My dad was approved but not my mom. Reason she stayed more than she said on past visit even though it was 4months and she got caught up here during covid. Even though she applied for extension. How soon again can she apply? Any idea how farther new appointment dates are? Always say the exact times you intend to stay from the beginning, the VO said that outrightly! |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 2:48pm On Mar 08, 2022 |
do update us of the outcome on Thursday. thank you Qtip:
There’s no option to schedule a follow up interview on my profile since the refusal on 1st, so I will go to the consulate on Thursday with the follow up letter. |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 12:34pm On Mar 08, 2022 |
Same here, someone please help clarify. thanks. MaryAndrews: I'm wondering if there is a difference between those asked to come for interview on any Thursday and those asked to schedule an interview online after an initial refusal
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Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 4:24pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Thanks. Please, does that means those refused are to go get a new visa fee and schedule a regular interview or reschedule a followup appointments with the previous visa fee receipt? Pepes: Interview waiver submission takes 3days for the decision to be made if you have checked your status at ceac and it says issued or refused and after 2days you have not received a mail to pick up your passport kindly proceed to DHL your passport is already there I submitted on the 3rd of February and my visa was issues on the 8th I picked up from DHL on the 10th and I never got an email for pick up.
If your visa says refused then it has been refused if it doesn't say anything and it has been like that for over 5days proceed to DHL to check for your passport you might be required to submit extra documentation |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 1:23pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
congrats. Gigli: Update....
For I and Hubby
Submitted March 2nd IW Status- Administrative processing March 3rd Status - Issued on March 7th
Weekend in between the days.
Last Visa B1/B2 was used for Child birth, I sent a change of intent email before travelling , i spent 3 months in the US and hubby spend 3 weeks , no other travel till visa expired, though I have had previous visas that were used for vacation though.
Hope this helps someone |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 11:09am On Mar 07, 2022 |
fekeoshomoshi: I submitted my IW application on 1st March, I tracked my document on the 3rd and status shows refused�. Have not seen any pickup mail till now. Hope I will be schedule for follow up appointment? My profile shows passport still with the embassy. Please I need your responses? |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 10:30am On Mar 07, 2022 |
ninab:
Did it ever go through administrative processing stage ? Yes, please any advice? |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 10:06pm On Mar 05, 2022 |
Yes. ninab:
Did it ever go through administrative processing stage ? |
Travel / Re: USA Visit Visa Part 4 by fekeoshomoshi: 7:40pm On Mar 05, 2022 |
I submitted my IW application on 1st March, I tracked my document on the 3rd and status shows refused�. Have not seen any pickup mail till now. Hope I will be schedule for follow up appointment? |