Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?



I think the issue is, was the man supportive when he had job and what are his plans to get a new job or start a business or perhaps learn a skill and be engaged. Also be sure he his not battling any health issues, his circle of friends should be check too, their influence in his life could also affect him negatively.

You as a woman can never shoulder the responsibility alone, the role of a man/father in every matrimonial home cannot be overemphasized. you have started what you cannot cope with, forever is a long time to go.

Correct it now and take your stand by insisting he go get something legitimate doing and be consistent in it, las las hustle go pay everyone, at all at all na e bad.

Don't pack out, rule out divorce from your marriage for the sake of your children and avoid the social sigma of a divorcee, pray hard, God will intervene.

Fumyyy:

Vo:where are you going to
Me: Washington
Vo: for what
Me:conference
Vo: oh ok I see you recently came back from xyz country in November
Me:yes I also attended a conference/meeting there
Vo:can I see your previous passports
Me: sure! brings out previous passports with visas In it
Vo: oh you ve been to China ? How was it
Me: fine
Vo: do you intend receiving any medical attention in the usa
Me: not at all
Vo: where are your relatives
Me: they are all here in Nigeria
Vo: are you an administrator at your office
Me: yes
Vo: your visa application has been approved
Me: Thank you

The lady was so nice and professional by the way.. just be honest. no answer wetin dem no ask u o. Lol
And make sure your intentions are genuine
You are welcome In advance

aestake:

When did you apply for this visit visa?

segsdynamic:
Hello, fekeoshomoshi

I will like to give this advice to the very best of my knowledge.
Telling the visa officer that you will be visiting the US to learn how a US school runs their curriculum might be a red flag.
1. Learning/undergoing a training requires you to apply for F/J visa and not B1 B2 (tourist visa)
2. Nigeria educational system has already intl standard curriculum depending on the school wc I know some sch practices British curriculum while some schools practice American curriculum, it will sound well if you are a govt official in education ministry going as a team to learn more about the American curriculum in other to practice it in Nigerian school system.
3. Some likely questions they can ask you is when have you be teaching in that particular sch? Why are you going to US to learn Abt the curriculum? Where will you be staying during the time u will be in the US? Who will be sponsoring your trip?
Finally, this is my own observation and your visa might be approve if you were able to convince the consular that you are not an intending immigrant. Lastly, US visa entails fasting and prayer
Good luck.

fekeoshomoshi:
Hello Everyone,

I submitted my document for IW on the 1st of March(the exact date my eligibility for IW expire, I got date on 28th of February).

my document status shows "refused" on the 3rd of March, picked up my document from DHL on the 9th of March and was asked to come any Thursday for followup appointment. I was there last week Thursday, 17th of March, 2022. The followup interview went well, just two questions was asked and the VO said my document will be ready within 3 business working days.

I tracked my document today, status show "Administrative Processing" last updated on the 17th of March, 2022, the day I attended the followup interview.

Am worried, because I expect it should be on "Issued" and probably "ready for pickup" by now.

what could be the cause of the delay in processing my document?

Thanks for your responses.

fekeoshomoshi:
As at today Friday, 25th March 2022, status still on "administrative processing" over a week I attend the followup interview.

I pray for positive outcome.

Fingers crossed.

fekeoshomoshi:
As at today Friday, 25th March 2022, status still on "administrative processing" over a week I attend the followup interview.

I pray for positive outcome.

Fingers crossed.

fekeoshomoshi:
Hello Everyone,

I submitted my document for IW on the 1st of March(the exact date my eligibility for IW expire, I got date on 28th of February).

my document status shows "refused" on the 3rd of March, picked up my document from DHL on the 9th of March and was asked to come any Thursday for followup appointment. I was there last week Thursday, 17th of March, 2022. The followup interview went well, just two questions was asked and the VO said my document will be ready within 3 business working days.

I tracked my document today, status show "Administrative Processing" last updated on the 17th of March, 2022, the day I attended the followup interview.

Am worried, because I expect it should be on "Issued" and probably "ready for pickup" by now.

what could be the cause of the delay in processing my document?

Thanks for your responses.

Dampops:
Be patient

fekeoshomoshi:
Hello Everyone,

I submitted my document for IW on the 1st of March(the exact date my eligibility for IW expire, I got date on 28th of February).

my document status shows "refused" on the 3rd of March, picked up my document from DHL on the 9th of March and was asked to come any Thursday for followup appointment. I was there last week Thursday, 17th of March, 2022. The followup interview went well, just two questions was asked and the VO said my document will be ready within 3 business working days.

I tracked my document today, status show "Administrative Processing" last updated on the 17th of March, 2022, the day I attended the followup interview.

Am worried, because I expect it should be on "Issued" and probably "ready for pickup" by now.

what could be the cause of the delay in processing my document?

Thanks for your responses.

Dampops:
It appears that after the interview with you, they decided to verify certain information you provided before issuing the visa. Exercise more patience, you’re almost at the end of the tunnel…light lies ahead

Dampops:
Please confirm from the man what he saw when he tracked his own application. Did it say “issued” or “refused”; or even “administrative processing”?

In any case, he should be patient. Calls or emails won’t amount to anything…

karypops:
So my parents went for the follow up interview today. My dad was approved but not my mom. Reason she stayed more than she said on past visit even though it was 4months and she got caught up here during covid. Even though she applied for extension. How soon again can she apply? Any idea how farther new appointment dates are?
Always say the exact times you intend to stay from the beginning, the VO said that outrightly!

Qtip:


There’s no option to schedule a follow up interview on my profile since the refusal on 1st, so I will go to the consulate on Thursday with the follow up letter.

MaryAndrews:
I'm wondering if there is a difference between those asked to come for interview on any Thursday and those asked to schedule an interview online after an initial refusal

Pepes:
Interview waiver submission takes 3days for the decision to be made if you have checked your status at ceac and it says issued or refused and after 2days you have not received a mail to pick up your passport kindly proceed to DHL your passport is already there I submitted on the 3rd of February and my visa was issues on the 8th I picked up from DHL on the 10th and I never got an email for pick up.

If your visa says refused then it has been refused if it doesn't say anything and it has been like that for over 5days proceed to DHL to check for your passport you might be required to submit extra documentation

Gigli:
Update....

For I and Hubby

Submitted March 2nd IW
Status- Administrative processing March 3rd
Status - Issued on March 7th

Weekend in between the days.

Last Visa B1/B2 was used for Child birth, I sent a change of intent email before travelling , i spent 3 months in the US and hubby spend 3 weeks , no other travel till visa expired, though I have had previous visas that were used for vacation though.

Hope this helps someone

fekeoshomoshi:
I submitted my IW application on 1st March, I tracked my document on the 3rd and status shows refused�. Have not seen any pickup mail till now. Hope I will be schedule for follow up appointment?

ninab:


Did it ever go through administrative processing stage ?

ninab:


Did it ever go through administrative processing stage ?