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Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 3:17pm On Sep 24, 2010 |
lazy1: Your comment makes me confused as I decided that if he happens to be my happiness I prefer living in pain crying my heart out. |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 3:04pm On Sep 24, 2010 |
timijay: Thanks!!! I'm working on myself. Vic2k3: I believe you. Thank you! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 3:00pm On Sep 24, 2010 |
lazy1: If I was to judge myself on this issue, I would agree with you. I know my actions are speaking against me. I put myself in a bad position all in the name of "love". As I mentioned it earlier, I'm 26 years old. I appreciate your comment! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 1:48am On Sep 24, 2010 |
baby.me: Thanks!!! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 6:26pm On Sep 20, 2010 |
To all the people who took time to advise me I would like to let you know that I appreciate your time and your thoughts. Since I met him, he never say what he wanted from me even when I insisted. So today, I told him that I would like a platonic and healthy cross-sex friendship with him, and I set my limits to no sex, dishonesty and disrespect for I see no reason to become his enemy because I have known him for so long. To my surprise, even though the guy agreed, instead of being happy, he got upset for no reason, and refused to answer to any question while I was expecting him to set his own limits too or even to criticize my behavior. Is it a normal reaction to expect from an average Nigerian guy or else, should I watch my back? |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 8:25pm On Sep 18, 2010 |
Moonstone: Yorubah: What saddened me the most is that I can't speak about it to anybody in my entourage. My friends have been telling me they don't understand this kind of nonsense attitude of mine, they don't want to hear about this guy anymore, and my family loves the young man I mentioned in my first post so much. However, we were friends before and I'm not used to tell lies so I had to explain the situation to him. I'm just wondering why he had to play mind games with me. Anyway, I'm going to sort myself out of this mess. Thanks Nairaland! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 4:48pm On Sep 18, 2010 |
phemmy88: Is it common in Nigeria? However, he always put emphasis on the fact that he's a good Christian. I doubt that. I see no reason for such thing, but we never know. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 6:43pm On Sep 17, 2010 |
Can someone tell me what can it possible mean when a man tells a woman: "I have accepted you the way you are." |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 9:34pm On Sep 16, 2010 |
Ujujoan: Ujujoan and Oyinda, you have helped me with your comments. Thanks a lot!!! I admit that as a child I was spoiled. I used to have what I wanted the minute I wanted it without thinking too much. While growing up, my beauty and intelligence have brought so much attention to me, and as a young woman, men from all backgrounds are always around waiting for an occasion to please me. Then, because I always take them for granted, most of the time without having a relationship with them, I brake their hearts. However, don't get me wrong, I'm a classy lady and I have high standards. Some of them even introduce me to their mothers (against my will), but I was too selfish to understand that I might hurt them somehow. I lose interest in them quickly. Then, I met this guy, I think that he was clever enough to read my game. By the way, I don't like to be chased aggressively and I hate losing at anything. He is cute, but that's nothing I haven't seen before. He keep my interest in him on the rise by not being available, and by not following my instructions. He is the only one who ever resist me. I think that I get caught in my own trap. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 11:06pm On Sep 15, 2010 |
amefi: Thanks but I'm not that vulnerable. I have to face this by myself. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 9:44pm On Sep 15, 2010 |
oyinda.: Without knowing it, you opened my eyes to a new reality. Thank you for your honest comments! I never look at it from this angle. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 9:29pm On Sep 15, 2010 |
oyinda.: I don't have brothers, and my parents are happily married. My father is a wonderful man. I have not been not abused by any man. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 9:08pm On Sep 15, 2010 |
jay bee: Thanks again! I don't think it's proper to call it an heartbreak since we haven't date or be in intimacy. This whole thing is so strange. He once told me that no matter how hard I try, I can't put him out of my heart just like that. I'll try harder and wiser for sure. Moyola: I'll admit that even to me all this doesn't sound coherent or reasonable. missagbaa: It's not that I didn't try at all, but I should try harder.Thanks! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 8:33pm On Sep 15, 2010 |
jay bee: he told me he is single, but he's not engaged or married for sure. I talked to him once in 3 months so I'm not able to tell you if he has changed. Yes, I see future with him. You are probably right on moving on, but what it is that anytime I tried I hurt myself more, and I'm not interested in other men. I'll try harder than. Thanks for your comment! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 8:15pm On Sep 15, 2010 |
jay bee: My brother, it's not funny at all. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 8:10pm On Sep 15, 2010 |
MOBO444: I can't post my picture for privacy matter. I'm 26 and I don't understand what you meant by rocking town. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 7:28pm On Sep 15, 2010 |
s.ohiemi: According to me, we are platonic friends, but he will always insinuate that there's more to it. As an example, the last time I talked to him, he insisted for coming to see me. When I asked why, he just told me:"You know what it is, " Please, find more details here: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-364728.0.html |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 7:18pm On Sep 15, 2010 |
MOBO444: What did you mean by that? |
Romance / Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 7:14pm On Sep 15, 2010 |
I met a young man over 2 years ago while I was still at university. I was always hesitated about him because he seemed up to no good like a womanizer, and we never have any relationship. However, I tried as hard as I could to avoid him even though we live in different states, and he didn't show that he really cared about me, but I would always feel the need to talk to him just to make sure that he's OK. I have been advised more than once to quit contacting him. Finally, I found the strength to do so 3 months ago, but it was hell; I ended up depressed to the extent that I could not concentrate on my own life, and did not even have the motivation to start looking for a job as I recently graduated. Then, few days ago, while I was sleeping my sub-conscience dictated me to contact him which I did. Our conversation was to me what oxygen is to my body. I'm a very beautiful woman and amongst others, there's a successful good man who is dying to marry me, but I just can't get him out of my mind and I would not like to hurt a good person. Tears have become my refuge. Without hearing from him, it's like I'm lost, I don't know what to do anymore . I don't know why this is happening to me . Please people, I will appreciate your comments! |
Romance / Re: What Did He Mean? I'm not nigerian, Help please! by fiswu: 10:18pm On Mar 31, 2010 |
@kech Thanks a lot! You did a wonderful job!!! |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 5:02am On Mar 22, 2010 |
I came here few months ago in search of advices, and I'm so grateful for each of you that provided me with your best. I then decided to stop communicating with him because I didn't receive the kind of treatment I think I deserve amongs respect too. However, this is the message he sent to me recently: '' I was just thinking about you and decided I say hi. I know you won't understand how busy I am especially this period, but always remember I hold you high as a top priority and a friend no matter what the case may be. Hope you are good though! Hala at me later ok!'' I will appreciate your honest and mature comments! |
Romance / Re: No Lady Can Deny This Guy On Nl by fiswu: 6:19pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
I met this guy, and he's even my ex-boyfriend. He is Haitian, but unfortunately, I fell in love with a Nigerian Igbo guy despite of all my former boyfriend had to offer me whom I'm still struggling to understand (his way of life, his culture and his silence treatment). I tried to ignore my feelings, but it was stronger than me. However, I thank God that I didn't have intimacy with him or a relationship. This is so sad. |
Romance / Re: Haitian-Naija Relationship: What do you think? Share your experiences! by fiswu: 3:53am On Mar 07, 2010 |
feelncrazy: Are you sure he was haitian? The haitian men are amongs the must romantic black men. Was he a married man? I don't know much about your story with this man, but he seems to me that he simply didn't have that much respect for you or he was probably just kicking in. Back home, we have this proverb: ''A goat always looks at the face of the owner of a land before deciding to penetrate the fences''. Meaning: you have the power to decide what someone will turn to in a relationship with you. Next time, if you ever decide to go in a relationship with a west-indian, make sure he respects you; they value their women a lot. |
Romance / Re: Haitian-Naija Relationship: What do you think? Share your experiences! by fiswu: 12:27am On Mar 07, 2010 |
henry101: For your information, what theses articles failed to mention is the fact that a huge number of black cubans are of haitian descent. In fact, if you listen to some songs of the cuban folklore, you will hear some creole words among spanish. The haitians who immigrated in Cuba to work in the sugar cane plantations brought with them their culture, their food and their dances. Therefore, a lot of afro-cuban rythms or dances are similar to the haitian ones. |
Romance / Re: What Did He Mean? I'm not nigerian, Help please! by fiswu: 6:00pm On Mar 02, 2010 |
earthrealm: PLease, what is the other meaning? |
Romance / Re: Haitian-Naija Relationship: What do you think? Share your experiences! by fiswu: 2:27am On Mar 01, 2010 |
sillyboy: I must admit that there is a cultural gap between an Haitian who has been brought up in Haiti and the ones in America, but don't believe what you heard. Don't hang out with lowlives and use them for comparaison (mean no disrespect my friend). The must important thing for an Haitian is his pride. We don't play with it. Haitian women don't take crap from men. Find an Haitian from a respectable family (most of them are, and I'm not talking about money), and you will be amazed. |
Romance / Re: Haitian-Naija Relationship: What do you think? Share your experiences! by fiswu: 1:51am On Mar 01, 2010 |
MzDarkSkin: Nago and Yoruba are the same people. They have fulani and hausa blood also because must african think I'm senegalese and even fulani think I'm fulani. sillyboy: I hope you will be lucky enough in your life to find an Haitian as a wife. When an Haitian woman marries a man it's for love. She is able to fight every evil or even to die for her husband. They don't want your money because they are strong women who can work to live large. They know what it means to respect a man, to care for him, to stand by him. They will workship you like a baby, but they command respect. If one day in your life you are enable to provide, she will be the first one to search for any kind of job without complaints to help raise her family. They are so understanding and hardworking. I saw my grandmother do it, I saw my mother, and I will do just that. I think that the girl was just playing with you. She was not serious. In fact, it's not easy to find an Haitian woman as a wife because the Haitian men love them and go for them. It's the same everywhere they go with the foreign men. Moreover, Haitian people don't like it when their children are dating an African because they believe that an African man doesn't know how to treat a woman well with decency and respect. |
Romance / Re: What Did He Mean? I'm not nigerian, Help please! by fiswu: 11:59pm On Feb 24, 2010 |
@pweety4me and platinumnk Thanks for the answers!!! I'm out! |
Romance / Re: What Did He Mean? I'm not nigerian, Help please! by fiswu: 11:30pm On Feb 24, 2010 |
@platinumnk Thanks, but what does the whole sentence mean "na you be my madam, na you biko"? For a nigerian guy, what is the meaning "my madam"? He is not my boy though lol |
Romance / Re: What Did He Mean? I'm not nigerian, Help please! by fiswu: 10:13pm On Feb 24, 2010 |
@Mhismole Thanks for the offer, but I did not talk about money. If you guys decide not to help for free, I prefer using other means of persuasion on him, so he'll definitively start speaking only standard english hahaha (just joking). |
Romance / Re: What Did He Mean? I'm not nigerian, Help please! by fiswu: 5:18pm On Feb 24, 2010 |
@daduke2k I don't understand, but it's ok. |
Romance / Re: What Did He Mean? I'm not nigerian, Help please! by fiswu: 4:54pm On Feb 24, 2010 |
kpolli: ok. So, why did you put "The" in front of it? You are making fun of my ignorance, hein? lol. No condition is permanent. I'm a quick learner. @daduke2k ok. Thank you! |
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