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Crime / Re: Daniel Obiano Arrested For 28M Job Scam In India - Picture by gabbiadinny: 4:25pm On Aug 10, 2021 |
Igbos and Fraud..... 3 Likes
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Crime / Re: Wife Leaves Husband To Live With Her Rapist While The Case Is Still In Court by gabbiadinny: 4:19pm On Aug 10, 2021 |
You Say What? 1 Like |
Crime / Re: Usifo Ataga: Chidinma Ojukwu In Court Over Murder Of Super TV Boss by gabbiadinny: 1:21pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
God,have mercy on her.... |
Family / Re: Help! An Unwanted Pregnancy Is Ruining My Life. by gabbiadinny: 11:50pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
This was terrible, my advice was that.... you must find means to go and see her family but don't go alone, go with one of elderly person in your family........ |
Family / Re: Help! An Unwanted Pregnancy Is Ruining My Life. by gabbiadinny: 11:39pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
This was terrible, my advice was that.... you must find means to go and see her family but don't go alone, go with one of elderly person in your family........Hello Nairalanders, It's a long story, but I'll try to keep it short and to the vital points. Please endure the length. There's a girl i met at a theological college in where I was studying to become a clergyman and also learning a skill under the civil engineering department of the college. She was my junior in the course, as I was a year away from graduating from my first course, while she was just a fresher. She was always having issues getting through her courses and projects and would always ask for my assistance since I was the course rep in that department. It was forbidden to have any intimate relationship with your course mate or anyone in the college for that matter, the penalty would be expulsion. But unfortunately for me, out of sheer lust and seduction on her part, and gross indiscipline and lack of self control on my part, I got intimate with her and we ended up committing fornication during one of our semester vacations. And it just happened once, of which out of deep regret and remorse I confessed the matter to the college Admin when the next semester resumed. We were panelled, after which I was suspended, while she was expelled. During this time I was learning a skill sponsored by the college, of which I use to get paid some weekly stipend. After I was suspended I was also stopped from continuing my apprenticeship, because I was not to associate with any of the students or lecturers in the school while my suspension lasted. So I was without a job and without a source of income since I wasn't yet mastered on the skill. The condition that was given to me to resume my studies and apprenticeship was that I should go and get married before I could come back to college, so as not to be tempted to repeat my error. But I wasn't ready for marriage whether financially or any other wise for that matter. So while I was contemplating my next move, this girl came to me that she was pregnant, that she needed us to go and see her parents. I told her I had no money neither was I ready to father a child at this point in my life. I pleaded she should give me time to think about what next to do. Two weeks passed, and I called her to enquire about her welfare but her number wasn't reachable, I decided to go to her place, but I was told she had travelled a week ago to go see her family. A week later, I received a call from a woman telling me she was the girl's mother, that her daughter came home with a pregnancy, and she asked me if I was responsible for the pregnancy, I answered her in the affirmative. She then asked when I was coming to see her family. I told her I wasn't sure about coming to see them that I needed to speak to the girl first. She said okay, then later that day the girl called me, and I told her to come back for us to talk deliberate on the way forward. When she came she told me her parents (who are by the way divorced) will not accept her nor the pregnancy without me coming to see them for marriage arrangements. I explained to her I wasn't ready for any such thing, that I have a calling to answer and a course to finish, that what happened between us was just a stupid and careless mistake that has been as a setback for me to achieve my goal, and that I was ready to overcome the trials and get back on track, and I explained to her that before then I had neither dated nor been intimate with anyone for over seven years, and so any kind of relationship or marriage was not even in my nearest future plans, and besides, I didn't even have a job, not to mention having enough money to embark on a marriage plan. She said she would never accept such excuse, that I should look for whatever means to make sure I come see her parents before her pregnancy becomes obvious. She also said that she needed money to move her belongings back to Imo state where her family resides. I agreed to raise some money for her. I went to do some menial jobs and raised some money, about ₦20k, which I gave to her and she traveled back to Owerri. From then on her parents kept calling and pressuring me to come and see them for marriage arrangements. I told them I was going to come, but just to introduce myself to them as the person responsible for their daughter's pregnancy not for any marriage arrangements. But they disagreed, that if I wasn't ready to come for marriage that I shouldn't bother coming. I pleaded with them to give me enough time to look for money to come and see them, but they instead started threatening me with court cases and arrests, at one time they brought the girl and some soldiers to my family house and harassed my family members including my mother. So I later traveled to Benin city to go look for money. After one week of my arrival in Benin, I lost my phone and I couldn't retrieve my number. I lost connection with them until I got back to Uyo where I got her phone number from a friend of hers. At this time, I was told that they came to my house several times with police officers claiming I raped their daughter and impregnated her then absconded. At this, I established contact with the girl again and she told me that I should not bother her that she wasn't in the mood to talk to me, I kept calling her but she often ended up abusing me or we often times ended up in quarrels, so I left her alone for sometime. Two weeks ago I related the matter to one of my distant uncles, who advised me to gather some money and go see her, I called her and told her I wanted to come and see her before she puts to bed, which is expected to be sometime next month (August). But she told me that she still stands by what her parents had said, if it's not for the marriage issue that I should not come, that I should rather send her the money I would use in coming so she can use it to buy the baby clothing and buy some hospital requirements before she puts to bed. I called her parents and they told me the same thing, and said if I don't come for the marriage agreement before she puts to bed, that after she's delivered of the baby I should forget ever coming, and should never mention that I have a child anywhere not to mention coming to claim it ever in the future. And that I should just forget about her and the child. The issue now is this, I am a bit frustrated because I seem to have lost everything at the moment because of this issue; my calling, the skill I was learning is gone, I have no job aside the menial jobs I do at construction sites which isn't available regularly. Now the little I have saved so far, I am contemplating on whether to use the money to pay for my skills training and continue with it and start my life afresh and forget about her, the child, and her parents, or use the money to support her in her hospital requirements for her delivery. Because I don't want to be seen as abandoning her when she is in this condition, and I also don't want to give up on the child, though I'm not capable of taking care of the girl and the baby right now, and probably, I might end up getting married but not under my present circumstances. I know I've made a grave mistake and this is the consequences for not being true to myself and my calling, and I deeply regret it, and I've suffered for it in any way I can possibly imagine, but I also need to put my life back in order, because right now I'm so devastated that I'm contemplating terrible alternatives to survive the storm, I'm at a very critical moment of my life and I just feel like giving up on life altogether. Please I need your help and advice on this issue. Thanks. PS. Please if anyone is willing to teach me any skill, I would be very grateful and willing to learn. [/quote] |
Crime / Re: 2 Nigerian Housemaids Arrested For Stealing Employers' Money, Jewelry In Libya by gabbiadinny: 1:19am On Jul 05, 2021 |
Why now? damilola4162:
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Politics / Re: Nnamdi Kanu's Arrest: Put Same Zeal In Arrest Of Killer Herdsmen ― Ortom Asks FG by gabbiadinny: 7:02am On Jul 02, 2021 |
This one just dey talk any how.... |
Politics / Re: Nnamdi Kanu Writes British Commission, Asks For Consular Services by gabbiadinny: 6:59am On Jul 02, 2021 |
Many Don enter one chance....No Govt all over the world will allow some group of people to cause problem in his or her country... that is why they are after Kanu and Igboho.... comments if any? |
Politics / Re: There Is No Better Candidate For 2023 Than Tinubu — Kano Group by gabbiadinny: 4:06pm On Jun 27, 2021 |
Tinubu is unstoppable.... 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Don Lulu @40 Celebrating A Living Legend In Philanthropy And Humanity by gabbiadinny: 4:01pm On Jun 27, 2021 |
@40? Ok!!! |
Politics / Re: President Buhari Has Failed Integrity Test. - PDP by gabbiadinny: 9:07pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
Zenzi: 1 Like
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Politics / Re: Buhari, APC Can't Rig This Election - PDP by gabbiadinny: 8:37pm On Feb 03, 2019 |
Is PDP that Rig Elections not APC... 2 Likes |
Politics / Re: Breaking: Gombe Beats Kano State, As Unbelievable Crowd Grace Buhari's Rally by gabbiadinny: 2:37pm On Feb 02, 2019 |
Ahhh see crowd 4+4 is sure... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Politics / Re: See The Moment Buhari Entered Stadium In Kano For His Rally(Video&Pix) by gabbiadinny: 11:36pm On Jan 31, 2019 |
PeeDeepee is a gonna... |
Politics / Re: PDP Raises Alarm Over Alleged Plots By APC To Disrupt Elections by gabbiadinny: 8:22pm On Jan 19, 2019 |
dre11:PDP Confused...you know PDP can not beat Sai Baba... |
Politics / Re: Kwara APC Governorship Candidate Visits Party Members Who Sustained Injuries As by gabbiadinny: 9:07pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
PDP and Violence are 5&6 3 Likes |
Politics / Re: Adamu Muazu Apologises To Buhari On Behalf Of His Former Party by gabbiadinny: 12:32am On Jan 13, 2019 |
Famousbabe:Honestly pbp,sorry pop is finished... 1 Like 1 Share |
Politics / Re: Crowd Hails Vice President Prof Osinbajo Today At Alimosho, Lagos State. by gabbiadinny: 7:05pm On Jan 11, 2019 |
Pekele007:why now... |
Politics / Re: Crowd Hails Vice President Prof Osinbajo Today At Alimosho, Lagos State. by gabbiadinny: 7:04pm On Jan 11, 2019 |
Pekele007: |
Politics / Re: Oyinlola: Buhari Is First Candidate Ever To Hire A Proxy In A Presidential Conte by gabbiadinny: 6:59pm On Jan 11, 2019 |
We don hear sir...4+4 |
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