The only legitimate reason to get married in its original principle is "you're tired of working alone and needed help, this help includes giving birth to children expected to inherit your legacy".

Take note: if you haven't worked enough and be tired with impactful legacy, you have absolutely no reason to get married.

***Work
***Legacy
***Helpful lady
***Marriage

Follow the order above. Ignoring the above order is the reason for our broken � world.

I am so sorry about what just happened to you.

As I empathize with you, please do know for real that, the greatest transformation comes from our darkest moments. One of your greatest coping mechanism now should be seeing the opportunities in this crisis.

Know that what just happened is not your fault neither do you possess the power to stop the crisis. However, you have absolutely the power to decide how you'd respond to the whole situation around you right now.

Let's start this way:

1. Time heals every wounds, including your current predicament.

2. Can you start meditating by looking inward to discover inner, but hidden voices and coping choices.

3. Consider your location, can you start a laundry business as it requires little or no capital to start.

4. Should you need support to discover your hidden potentials and transform your ideas into reality, do not hesitate to reach out to me.

I am holding you up in prayers, and sending well wishes your way to receive enough strengths and encouragements to make it victoriously through this storm. I see you coming out even stronger than you could have ever imagined!

Interesting post!

Christianity is a very dangerous religion for those who do not understand the Bible. I mean those who only follows what their pastors taught them alone.

The bible says: you shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free. Truth here means original information. Information can be dangerous when it is not the truth. So many Christians have been fed with wrong information, most especially on socialism.

When it comes to the use of possessions and possibilities, Jesus Christ taught that a person of Christian faith can learn from those who do not profess Christian theism. This is because the Children of the world understands how the social terrain works, and uses it to their advantage.

Most of the people you see as being wayward are often times not the case, some only socialize for the gains it brings. This, Jesus taught very well. However, your pastors will never teach you, so as to keep controlling you.

“[T]he sons of the world are for their own generation wiser than the children of light” (Luke 16:.

They often invest more money and market their products, publications, and programs with more shrewdness, while holding themselves to a higher standard of aggressiveness and aesthetics, than many believers in Christ often do.

Remember the command in Genesis, it says "take dominion of the earth" i.e make of the earth whatever you wish. Jesus himself says "occupy till I come".

How can one fulfill this command?

You need to socialize, develop your gift or a product, then use it to your advantage. Unfortunately, Christianity as a religion will only teach you to keep praying for jobs that doesn't exist anymore.

I wish I could tell you more........may the holy spirit help you to understand this.

I could relate with your challenges.

So many people have commented very well, and interestingly.

However, I want you to remember that Spiritual maturity is a very tough journey to attain. If you've ever attained it, do not trade it off. Many cannot relate to the question you're asking - a carnal mind understand not spiritual things.

My candid words to you dear sister, is to pray more now, ask him to give you time.

To hear from God, you have to change your prayers.
Don't ask for who to marry in your prayers, God doesn't relate with that. Is like eaten your cake already, and still trying to have it. Instead, pray to God to establish you maritally. This is the only way to show your total dependent on God.

Hear me sister, I would suggest to you to act according to the level of your spiritual maturity. The spiritual journey is a personal journey, so it makes no sense to the person even sleeping besides you.

Many people abuses their pastor for the same reason they're guilty of. Everyone who have attained spiritual maturity, never think religiously, and thus, they don't criticize others. The reason for that is simple - they discovered that spiritual things only makes sense to individual who have one way or the other discovered themselves, while exploring spiritual adventure.

So, please tell your fiancé to give you time to seek God's face for the journey you've both chosen.

You have two sides here, it's either you wait for God's word/convictions/discernment or you go ahead with this journey at hand. In which case, choose your happiness.

Peace sister!

Love they say is blind: But love, also, conquers all things and is blind to a multitude of sins. Choose where that love comes from wisely: your family or your woman.

Inter-tribal marriage have in recent times increased despite challenges faced by individuals involved in the areas of language, cultural values and culinary variations among others.

Now, should you abandon your families' love and choose that of your woman and be happy ever after?

Your getting married to your love is the least concerns of your Mother, but the "what if" - what if things turns the other way round after marriage?
Life is very unpredictable and full of ups and downs;. i.e seasons. Seasons are influenced by a lot of factors, sometimes beyond our control. Do you have the strength to survive alone peradventure the season of love you are enjoying from your woman now dwindled or changes abruptly?

Family love is not the one to be traded for marriage. Take heed and do not be deceived by your status quo. Except if your family have been treating you bad previously, do not choose a woman over your family.

In days like we have now, when storms comes, family is what you'll see. Most especially, your mother.

A word is enough for the wise!

Provided your family have been good to you in your dealings over the years, I tell you Brother, choose family love over that relationship. If you love the lady as you claimed, choose your family and let her find love elsewhere where she will be accepted and you also, look elsewhere and find a lover that fit into your family system.

The above is my personal opinion and you can do otherwise, provided you are prepared for whatever comes in future. Do not forget to build your house on the rock to withstand every storms that comes your ways in future, irrespective of what you chose now concerning this issue.

Goodluck Brother!

Welcome Back Home! Your family must have missed you so much.

When people are asked here to give the sinned, the confused a direction; all they do is quickly jump into conclusion of all they could have done if it was them "as the victim".
We all live in different world even as we are all on the same earth.
Learn to think off yourself while commenting on issues asking for direction @ all.

Back to you OP,

Despite the breathtaking - and insulting - audacity of how you've treated your wife, she still granted you peace at home all this while!

Amazing!

This reflects the amazing indulgence that God shows toward you through your wife. Even when you are acting as selfishly as the prodigal son, God used your wife to indulge you.

She yields what is hers and allows you to misuse it out of respect for the freedom that she has allowed you.

But she knows that the misuse of your freedom will have no better results than it did with the prodigal son's misuse of his freedom, and God trusts that you will learn your lesson and come back to him and your wife.

Now, tell your wife all you wrote here. If you both are Christian, open your Bible to Luke 15: 11 - 32. Tell her you are the prodigal son.
Beg, Beg, Beg...........and keep begging till she forgives you. Start treating her the same way you've been treating that your gone devil, respect her wishes always and allow her to heal, as it may take her time to totally forgives you completely.

Please, repent and do not go back to your vomits again.

May the peace of the Lord abide with you and your households.

I hope bringing this issue here in the first place wouldn't leave you more confused.
A lot of people you see around here are either "naive" or "too young in age or experiences" to help you in anyways.

Life is a journey full of so many unprecedented things. The things of the spiritual realm can only be attended to by those who have once lived in such world. I can relate with your challenges. Now, you have alternatives: you either choose to marry a second wife or you live with contentment having little. If I were you, I would think very deeply considering the pros and cons. You might have to talk to your wife, maybe with an elderly person who understand how spiritual things work. Explain to your wife first, carry her along in the decision making, it's going to be kind of cumbersome for her to comprehend, but in the end; you both can choose what is more important to you. Meaning either the "business and money" or "family and peace". If I have to choose after getting my wife to understand such situation, I would chose the latter - family and peace.

Think together and choose side together. That way, you can both understand in future what you both are either missing or enjoying. May the Lord guide you aright. Goodluck!