@ TOPIC


so walk out then, or what are you waiting for Abi muscle pull carry ya leg

MrStrategy:

@Poster,
[others in similar mess can take note too]
two wrong things happened.
You must tread carefully else you'll make the
third and most fatal mistake.

First, change your paradigm.
If you remain with your current thought pattern,
you'll get things wrong.
I will offer therapy to the two problems in three dimensions.

The Problem:
1. Accept that you were wrong by inviting
you girlfriend to your house.
2. Your mother was also wrong
by exercising direct authority over your girlfriend.
(Maybe she thought she had no other option since
you were away when she found saw her).

The Implication:
1. Premarital sex has exposed your relationship
with the girl to much danger
(you should understand what I mean).
2. If you marry this girl,
you Mom can be very overbearing on her.
There will be a feud between Mom and wife.
The foundation of their relationship has been marred.

The Solution:
1. But with a change of approach and mindset,
you can resolve problem 1.
If you have cleaned up your relationship with the girl
and you really wish to marry her, you must proceed to Solution 2.
2. Convene a meeting with you Mom and fiancee
prove to your Mom that you have gone through Solution1
(that's all that's in her mind).
Then boldly make her know that you will not tolerate
her direct confrontation with your fiancee
now and in the years to come.
She must understand that you are in charge of you household
(she may get emotional with this
but that's the only way you can secure your wife
she needs you to be her sure security).

Give it a try
and tell me what you think.

AND WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SAY TO THE SMALL INSIGNIFICANT NEGLIGIBLE INPUT OF THE OP THAT HIS GIRLFRIEND'S PARENTS ARE NOT AWARE OF THE FACT THAT SHE LEAVES UNIVERSITY TO GO AND CAMP IN HIS HOUSE, WHICH IS PROBABLY DOWN TO FEAR AND RESPECT FOR THEM


Come back here, your job is not yet done, YOU HAVE TO REDRAFT YOUR STRATEGY TO INVITE THE GIRL'S MUM TO THE MEETING TOO, ODOYO

How can you be sure she was testing you, especially when she knows you own that car and live in a mansion and all she has to do is pretend she agrees to be your girlfriend, only for her to start asking you months later that her cat has died and she needs money to bury it, or she needs money to go and give the orphan she is raising in the village or that she needs this or that


Abeg forget the runs girl and move on biko, this one na odikwa too risky

@ Freedomfro


Congratulations, guard your heart and exercise the same precaution you would if you were dating someone else from another part of the World. Best wishes.

ZIM DRILL:

usually friends speak on his behalf when he is cheating on you

God bless you for this But to be sincere, i had always thought this was a Nigerian thing They'd visit Girl A, eat her food, reassure her she is the only one, head to Girl B's home, eat, wash their hands, say the same thing, then depart for Girl C's house, only to repeat the same ish, and so on and so forth . . . . . .MEN

kokoye:

Please dont discuss this guy (or relationships) on this forum . . . people (haters) will get you confused.

my candid advice

goodluck once more.

That was uncalled for So STFU and grow up and get a life, the dude that responded ain't even Nigerian, so whats your stress


Previously, the ladies that used to come here were the ones who come to gloat that Nigerian men were dating them because they were hotter than Nigerian girls, then these were followed by those who came to seek advice on whether the Nigerian guys were playing with their heart, AND THE TYPICAL MAJORITY RESPONSE THESE LADIES GET IS THAT THEY SHOULD BE CAREFUL THE DUDE IS NOT USING THEM TO GET THE "ELUSIVE" GREENCARD


So where did the alledged perceived hatred from haters come from

chaircover:

@Gestapo o! ha where is my car? Yepa Ive been scammed

I received a letter from Gesta-BMW Garage asking me to bring the car back for repairs; something to do with a recall due to faulty brakes. I am yet to get the car back and here you are saying you dont know anything about it. Iru kile leyi o!

I repeat o! cool down and find my car now now otherwise it is you I will be sendng to the village to live with my grandmother

Have been reading a few posts on this section. Because you won poster of the year, i want you to get me a 2013 Beemer this year instead and i am sticking to the story that I don't know where your car is until you trick Jennykadri into bringing over that car she posted that her Hubby bought for her that made her shed a few crocodile tears so i can swap it for yours .

Until then, i remain Chief Sanitisation and Head of Security Staff on NL, and cars don't fall within my remit, only scammers, so i dunno whacchu talking about 

pslm23:



@ Gestapo, do you have kids? She did not just get pregnant.She struggled for years to have those babies. Not only does she deserve an Emmy and Grammy, she desrves the Noble Peace Prize for standing up for what is right and putting her foot down when it comes to issues that could affect the lives of her kids. Any mother would do the same.

Husband and wife never discussed how and where their kids will be raise. i do not know of many African men and women that actually do this

Been there (nothing medically wrong so waited patiently on the Lord 6 years), done that (miscarried at 22 weeks), got the t-shirt (finally God answered like He said He would), and i still don't think i deserve an award for what is a personal choice i made Never stressed myself out whilst waiting cos i knew from "experience" the effect stress has on a woman's monthly cycle. I also made sure i was not carrying any fat around my middle. In my mid teen years, everytime i kissed a guy, i'd worry myself sick for the rest of the month whether i could be pregnant, and found that this delayed my MP for around 3 days on average, until i "grew up" and realised that you can't get pregnant from kissing a guy


And it is not uncommon and unafrican to discuss "how many kids would you like to have" "how should we train these children" etc

LadyT:

Dayo please service gestapo shes on heat see how shes agreeing with everything you say and jumping on anyone who dares to disagree.

*rolls eyes*

Really, thought i was the other way round with you people jumping on mine and Dasyokanu's neck

And now that you mentioned it sef, i am going to scout around to see if Dayokanu is single, heck i don't even care if he is taken What i want, i get And i will crush anything in my path, including you, to get to him

jennykadry:

OAM4Gestapo please

Thanks for correcting me, may you find your own missing rib too

jennykadry:

You are joking right?

Wait until you see your wife in the labour room, Wait until your wife wakes you up at night to pop some pillows behind her back because she can't sleep, Wait until you see her discomfort for 9 months, wait until you have to wear and buckle up your wife sandals for her cos she cant bend down, wait until you have to help her scrub her legs in the shower, wait until the contractions start, infact make sure she takes no epidural, wait until you see her push with all her might in the labour room(and I pray she has a normal delivery), wait until you help cut the cord, wait until you watch them sow up that area if she had a tear, wait and watch her get well for 6 weeks, wait until you see your wife survived it all.

Do you know how many women die before, during and after childbirth? do you know how many women bleed to death after pushing? do you know how many kids are on formula cos mummy couldn't make it? do you know how many homes have been left empty cos there is no mum? do you know how many women wished to hold their babies in their hands but never made it?

Do you dayo know that any woman that survíves all of these should be appreciated? Tell me which woman wouldnt receive a medal if she survives these?

Wow such high maternal mortality rate, what Country's statistics are you using by the way, need some stats for my coursework at Uni please

tigerpaws:

[/b]



I will try to be nice n’ gentle with you dear

Don’t be ridiculous! 

A couple tries so hard to have kids and eventually found a set of twins using[i]' flash light searching thru a small hole '[/i] (IVF), the parents should be much more closer to kids after going thru such an ordeal to have kids of their own!

I will give up my corporate job and take up a teaching job in the kids school, to always have them in sight; if i was the parent!

Violence in USA; people are being killed everyday, young, old, the young are sent to country home (Nigeria for proper upbringing  'cos Nigeria is a safe haven, no record of crime rate, no kidnappings, no cultist, and there’s value for human lives    ) but the old (parents) stay behind?   



@ OP,

Parents have the role of bringing up their kids in the best possible way; not the Grandmother. The Grand is just an interfering woman! Did she give her son (the man in question) to her grandma for proper upbringing when he was little? 

Pekele pekele, shey because i briefly employed you as Acting Manager na im make your mouth run like tapwater Ma worry, elewon e loga, na office you go meet me

Nollykini Here's one course i berra stay away from then, if i no wan get F9 then And as if these films are not already predictable and boring enough as it is, for me to now have to sit in lectures hearing a Lecturer disseminate the non-plot of the films I'd rather watch paint dry

apocalypse:

@ Bawss1
Exactly my point , she doesn't live with me and she comes around like once in two months. She still stays with her parents and the only time we have together are times when she's about to school or when she comes back from school. [size=16pt]Fine her parents don't know she spends time with me[/size] but we need to spend time together as a couple.

Which kain yeye point Be warned, this ain't a case of "she is scared of what your Mum could do in future", the girl is being sneaky and crafty and is actually making you choose her unwittlingly over your Mum

[size=18pt] You both respect her own parent enough to hide the fact from them that she sleeps over at your place, yet you are giving her free rein to rub it all over your own Mother's face, shame on you She even had the audacity and the nerve to tell your Mum she had been there since Tuesday, arrant nonsense, insult upon insugar, nonsense and jagbajantis Why do I feel like giving you a knock on your head [/size]

sleekch1c:

aturu awusa,u re the silliest NL girl i ve ever met on any thread and your suggestion(even though u meant it as a joke bt thank u) shows hw brilliant u re, and my head isnt hot u nanny-goat!

you this agaracha, back off before i unleash my wrath on you o, you cannot even thank me for advising you to stick with your man, you are an ingrate bloody nkita

The Bible says "if your eyes causes you to sin, PLUCK IT OUT"

queeneve:

Well Zimdrill,

When my husband first approached me I did not know he was Nigerian not that I have a preference of what type of man that I like, I do but I am not strictly picking but I have my standard, I spent time getting to know my husband while we were dating and when I found out he was Nigerian I was shocked because he looked like any other African-American people walking in America, and plus he is igbo,

As you know Igbo men have them noses, because few of my friends are igbo and they got them noses so that how I was able to tell they were Nigerians, my husband speak like an American mainly because his family is both American and Nigerians.

Although he is Nigerian-American, he practices the tradition of igbo culture so I was introduced to his family and they gave him approval, but BEFORE I EVEN said I would date my husband, I got to know his character by seeing how he interact the females in his family and his behavior with me in midst of other people.

I wasn't expecting to marry a Nigerian or an African because their are alot of good black men in America despite what the Media portrayed black men to be,

My husband and I was gelled, which is unique because we have two DIFFERENT cultures but we made it work, and I know Nigerian men HAVE BAD REPUTATION around the world, BUT I ALWAYS SAID, ONE NIGERIAN MAN DOES NOT REPRESENT ALL NIGERIAN MEN,

To sum it all up Zimdrill, I looked at all the GOOD QUALITIES MY HUSBAND had despite the fact he is NIgerian and it overweight the NEGATIVE QUALITIES,

No man is perfect and that what I tell the ladies, you will never meet the PERFECT MAN, but I married the RIGHT MAN FOR ME,

SORRY FOR THE RAMBLE, as you see I love my husband and enjoy sharing my love of him to others

awwwww, this is touching, wish you eternal marital bliss

Apostlexx:

My wife told me she dos'nt lovd me,but we are married with kids for 7yrs.what should i do?

go and post this in the family section for married folks, you will get better response and feedback from there

It seems inferiority complex is now the order of the car here

tensor777:

Woman you just don't know what you are talking about. Most people here are talking from extensive personal experience as opposed to relying on the commercially- oriented trash stories spouted in the red-top tabloids. What you are saying is just too ludicrous even to warrant a response.
However as you don't have extensive first hand knowledge about Nigeria or even England just keep your mouth shut and stop these foolish generalisations and comparisons.

Oi, who you calling woman or telling to shut up do you freaking know me from Adam to know whether i am talking from personal experience or not back the funk off if you don't want me to send you back to your iyalaya baba e O ba furo e, iwo alaileko radarada yi Don't know what is special about Britain the sick man of Europe, a country already on its knees where nothing works By the way, i was born and bred in the UK and US, now put that up your pipe and smoke it

ada24:

ha ha ha too funny - not all of us nigerians live in inner city areas, so like many other people in this country being exposed to this is not really something that keeps me up all night.

whether they discussed this or not b4 marriage things can change - nigeria of today is not what it was when these people where courting (about 10 years ago i assume) if the wife has now seen that Nigeria might not be the safest place for her children why is she now being branded a user - and none of us even know the effect being separated from their life in america will have on these children - children need stability and 5 is just too young for this kind of change.

I can only speak from the mother's point of view and for those saying the man should get a pat on the back for staying with the wife during 5 years of trying need to re-read what is said during a wedding ceremony, when u say for better for worse that is real, for better for worse does not have condition. This is something i hate about our culture - if this man lost his legs this woman would be expected to stand by his side - but if a woman has any small problem then wedding vows don't apply to a naija man cos he can "go and get a second wife".

i'm sure the man did his own share in the IVF process but if any of u know what a woman goes thru during that IVF process emotionally and physically u may understand why this woman in question is in no rush to send her precious twins to the village in Nigeria.

thats my 2 cents on this topic this morning

What is funny you daft bint, was that what i said or do you have problem with reading You have to always show off you are in England, you don't even bother reading before posting, sorry o Madam everyone on nairaland must know by force that i am from United kingdom, mschewwwww And since when did getting pregnant and carrying it for 9 months become a disability that requires women to be issued an Emmy or Grammy award for

chaircover:

Gestapo cool down now . . .

Cool down for where, you think its easy chasing after you on foot whilst you escape in that Beemer whilst fayawoing your car through the jungle to avoid paying me my due

and now i even more vexed since i heard just the tyres alone cost you £8k I demand you send a 2010 car of this same car to my personal garage before this week runs out to calm down my nerves  otherwise i will send my boys down to collect duty on the wholesale fake TURA you have been supplying African Michael Jackson wannabe Mr Oam4J

H$LBroker:

Dear Ma, I'm an agent or a broker, neatly spell by my identity on nairaland (h$lbroker) House and Land Broker, I have been marketing land on this forum for over 2 years with over 2000 post, I joined this forum June 9, 2008, I'm not a car dealer but i market cars for car dealers with the help of internet, because some car dealers i know doesn't have computer knowledge, so i help them to post there cars. Many people on this forum know me one - to - one.

To the best of my knowledge, since over 4 years that i have been marketing land for some of the developers in Mowe/Ofada Lekki/Ajah environs they all have one thing in common, because they all belong to one organizational body, you are allowed to build whatever you want either bungalow or duplex, but your house should not be more than two storey building, you can have your own gate too and fence your land, but your fencing should be half brick and half iron, hope you understand what i mean, like our own ESTATE (Garden of Eden Estate, Simawa) click here for more information about our estate we just started selling now with promo price of N380,000 per plot, with 10% discount on out right purchase, all this listed condition is applied, no face me and face building.

click here to visit our website

I will be happy to help you to achieve your dream

Thanks for tghe prompt response. Is this land behind the Redeem camp also the camp near Mowe? And why is this land almost halfprice in comparison to that other one with the posh sounding name, despite being in the same vicinity?


Will get back to you with that name once i remember it Sir.

Thanks for taking time out of your valuable time to respond to me.

Ha ha what did i say that was wrong Berra get that hot head of yours into some coldroom or deep freeezer if you don't want me to cool it for you, onye beri beri

Yes Cheryl was a chav, but she is not racist. Yes she was guilty of assaulting that toilet attendant (who is highly likely an illegal immigrant too - how many legal citizens do you know works in a toilet- subject for another day) but she is not racist, her victim just happened to be black. You could tell from her days on "popsters" she had black "leaning/inclination"

Ashley Cole's Mum is white, so he is free to claim he is mixed race.

Gamu and her family has the legal right to remain in the UK, all they need is a good solicitor

Na wa for all these undesirable elememts and clones that have bombarded the autosection o

Outstrip:


You are talking a lot but saying nothing.

Is this a fact or your inane opinion

Outstrip:


So we should now give him a round of applause because he stayed with his wife while she went through painful IVF. AFterall according to you most Nigerian men are irresponsible and just go find another woman. Wow. What a hero.

Like Dayokanu asked, Did they not talk about this before getting married
Did the fact that he opened up his mind to the friend Psalm23, not show you a man still willing to communicate and reason like a decent human being?
Why can't the wife capitalise on this?
Why don't you clap for yourself instead for labelling him the devil instead? Thats much better innit

Outstrip:

I don't know why people like to lie to themselves. Where do you live gestapo? Granted I have never lived in a ghetto

Wow, glad to know you have a perfect life, will you like a cookie to go with that

Outstrip:


but even in a ghetto the law will still hold people accountable for their actions. Is that the case in Nigeria?

What law? I have lived in California, i have lived in the UK, the Prisons are full and bursting at the seams, people are now let off to serve community sentencing for serious grieveous offenceS, jail terms are being reduced drasticlly, etc. But why this query? Who said anything about rate of conviction in Nigeria,DEFINITELY NOT ME, SO I WONDER WHY YOU BROUGHT IT UP

Outstrip:

Please do not insult people by trying to compare crime in the Uk to Nigeria. It will make more sense to compare it to a war zone.

Again, this topic raised the risks the concern of the Husband of his children and the risk they could be predisposed to in US, so abeg if you wanna present points, make sure it is relative to the issue on the ground.

LadyT:

Sorry I dont speak Gorilla.

Ode

Done?or is there still more you wanna get outta your chest


Now bounce my friend.


mscheeeewwwwwww

@ TOPIC


Wow, at last the report from NASA confirming "DISABLED PEOPLE" are not humans and are from Planet Saturn and Planet Jupiter  has finally been handed in to CONGRESS for Obama to pass the ruling for us Humans not to mix with "them" Thanks for the info, good to know this to avoid dating or doing "them"

sleekch1c:

he is an unemotional person and avoids any form of confrontation,he ended it tru phone, he accused me of cheating on him(i never tot of cheating on him 4 once) he said he never loved me,dat all he ever said to me was trash, dat he was me cos i was better in bed than his ex, then he said he got back with his ex cos they dated 4 six yrs b4 we met, while we dated,i always saw records of his calls to the chic bt he assured me that they werent 2geda anymore, yet,they were!

Please don't stop loving him, why would you wanna stop? What crimes has he committed that is unheard of? He said he never loved you, NOTHING SPOIL? He calls you trash, SO WHAT? He calls his ex frequently and dumped you to go back to her, KINI BIG DEAL


aBEG CARRY GO AND CONTINUE LOFFING YOUR MAN, LUCKY YOU

LadyT:

A lot of what you have posted does not make sense are you even sure you know what you are trying to say?

You don't understand? Awwww shucks, sorry about your plight, but i can't help you there, so kindly move aside for those who would understand No hard feelings

I agree with Dayokanu on this issue, this was the same guy who stood by his wife for the 5 years she could not conceive, helped with the costly IVF procedure, donated his spermatozoa, rather than act like the typical Nigerian man and go and get another wife to replace her, NOW ALL OF A SUDDEN, HE IS EVIL AND HAS MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS BECAUSE OF HIS GENUINE CONCERN ABOUT HIS CHILDREN'S SAFETY AND FUTURE


And like Dayokanu said, this should have been discussed whilst courting. Mind you if this story had been = My husband wants to divorce me or I want to divorce my husband because he wants to send the children to Nigeria, these two faced hyprocrites would have been the one preaching to the girl to go on her knees, cook his favourite soup, seduce him, blah blah blah and if all this fails, agree with him, he is the head, respect him, don't question his authority, blah blah blah


Big ups to Myjoe, Makayibbz, and ziga for setting the record straight. One would think everyone in Nigeria drops dead before the age of 21 from numerous diseases the way some ojuorolari here condemns the Country


Kids like svosi are reasons parents should raise their children in the Western world rather than ship them off to Africa  at all. Asians in the Uk send their kids home from age 7 compared to Africans who wait till child is 11 upwards, as they believe that is the right age to instill discipline and looking at statistics, whose children turn out worse? Which race is always making the headlines?


And as for the daft bint comparing crime rate to that in Nigeria, is it not in UK that a child is either stabbed or subjected to a violent assault every 45 seconds in the UK by another child? Is it not in the UK that you can't send your child to the next postcode or street because he will be chased and shanked(stabbed) by his fellow children for tresspassing their territory?  Is this level of mindless violence available in Nigeria? And y'all can keep your head buried in the sand if you think this only happens in Hackney, Peckham, Stratford . . ,

Tetleyauto:

@KINKYB , you might not have been in a serious issue with the police that's why your mouth is running all over. I do understand all you have gone through but if this thread goes 100 pages and still you haven't taken any step to resolve issues physically which you ought to do then the issue still remains the same. Like i told you i don't even know who this guy is. If this becomes more tense, be ready to pin-point the police guys who were involved and the also the jazz he used and how you could recognize they were jazz, lol, You don't know how serious this could turn.

I was just speaking in proverbs to be cautious of your words. Again i know how you feel and you ought to take actions. If you need to verify the ownership of the car , locate the address of the previous owner on the paper works or hook up with someone at a licensing office to give you details of the previous owners for your mind to be at rest.

Before buying a car you should have some backgrounds on the models & condition of the car you're buying and if you don't you should have a COMPETENT & TRUSTED mechanic to help you out with this !!!

Peace

nex:

@KINKYB

Please stop this nonsense! I was actually about to take you seriously when I read the spiritual angle to this your story.

If this Abbey fellow really does have such powers to charm people into buying his cars, why does he sell cars at all? Why doesn't he just charm people to hand over their money to him and walk away with nothing?

Please, let's keep things serious in here. There a jokes section somewhere.

Tetleyauto:

This is a very serious allegation. Wetin concern police with car sales ? Apart from a situation of change of ownership which is done in their station. Did you catch him red-handed using jazz ? Oga ooo.

nex:

@kuntash

I'm not co-anything with anybody. I just hate these ridiculous village "my mother stole my luck" stories when people are seriously trying to sell cars.

Will I not sound equally silly if I picked up the phone and called this Abbey guy and asked: "Is it true you're using magic to sell cars?". Please, we're enlightened people here.

This is not an accusation, it's a joke, and I'm not finding it funny at all.

Tetleyauto:

I'm not trying to take sides; this guy you're talking about, i don't even know him. But as a dealer as well i just need to say something. Also, for those who have met with me , they know the kind of person i am. I'm not here to sweet talk anyone but i must let you understand those are serious allegations and if situations might get worsened , you might need some proofs. When you noticed the way things were going, why did you continue with the transaction. Just a thought

Or better still , it seems you know this guy personally and you're aware of all his doings. We just need to be cleared on this issue.

Sorry oo , Pele ,

BOOKMARKED

H$LBroker:

Dear Ma, you can't exchange the car for land, I'm selling the car for a friend that need money urgently, the best I can do is let me sell the land for you first, if the car still available, then u can pick it up.

Thanks,

Yours

Adeniyi

Oh fair enough,but how can you help me sell the land though,thought you was a car dealer,is you a property agent too?


sorry to go off tangent for a bit Sir, see those green bungalows where this car is parked, if one was to have a land there, does one have to build the same kind of bungalow or could one erect a duplex there, and what of fencing and security gates? Is one allowed to section off one's parcel of land, or does one have to live side by side, neck to neck, toe to toe, cheek to jowl with one's neighbour?

Sir, can i trade in my land in Mowe in an estate, that is currently valued at N750,000 and add the balance on top in cash

Dr Know:

The question still remains; how did they know that Alhaji had been dropped off at 1.30 am?

The OP said Alhaji was released, NOT KILLED, so

~is it safe to assume Alhaji still has a fully functional leg that conveyed him out of the danger zone once released, or

~is it safe to assume Alhaji had a fully functional mouth to ask to borrow a phone to use to notify his family and friends that he is safe and in a certain location, or

~is it safe to assume Alhaji has a fully functional hand to use to fish out the spare mobile phone he had on him or hold the phone he was borrowed,

~ Is it now a crime to give testimony in the autosection

well, what do i know

Oh, i guess they meant next wednesday the 13th of october




Signed

Cheers

G

SA Goddess:

it too, it is shocking and you are shocked


You know what, forget i ever asked, cheerio


Of course I am shocked, I did mention Nigerians have been involved in other forms of crime but it is the first time I hear of them being involved in an armed robbery, AT A CRECHE where our children could have been hurt or worse, KILLED. . . . . . .I am not sure what it is you can't wrap your head around!

SAD NEWS! Nigerians going to S.A. to rob people. But then how did the security guard know that they were nigerians? Anyway i hope they catch them and amputate both arms just below the elbows and both legs just below the knees then deport them back to nigeria.

How much of your money did they steal?

They got away with only R150 and a cell phone, someone could have been killed for that little money and a cell phone.
The robbers had a confrantation with the guard before they pushed their way though the gate into the office, maybe he could tell by the accent I am not sure but I know I can tell a Nigerian from a mile away, Nigerians stand out among locals/others! I hope you get what I am trying to say!

Why the rant, thought i said you should forget i asked anyway keep venting and vexing, its your vein thats gonna burst, not mine, cheerio again