byvan03:



I sniff am wella, Chai!!

This place is dangerous. Saints are the devil we are seeing.

Can you sniff what I'm percieving/Op/the history...jennyluv here..
Cc ...

Chidoks:


Thanks.this is a real life situation.me doing dinner, she calling.yes i asked her to mind her business but i sent a text.i even called the yesterday and she refused picking..it's true we have known for a long time but to me marriage is different..maybe i should have asked her to wait till when she bumps into them again then she could chip in something about madam..i think that's what i should tell her but telling is not in my place to do.i don't want to be involved in any matrimonial crisis.

Alright...

Chidoks:
@GHojes, i am not living in denial; not me i'm not.when i typed those words i was genuinely worried about Mrs C.i did't applaud myself, wasn't looking for more applauds.i don't believe in divorce.i believe it should be the last resort in any union thus i do all in my power not to make anyone divorce their spouces ad i'm not ready to divorce mine.
yes they were my secondary school mates.we each have our ways and styles but we get together as often as we can( which is rare) to catch up on things.i don't do bestfriends.my best friend is my husband.my closest friends are my kids.
my greatest problem is being sincere here.that hubby cheated, begged even with a new car then i forgave and moved on is not a crime.it doesn't mean i'm living in denial.i shared that to assurs youner women that it's possible to forgive if you can.
i decided not to discuss the matter with Miss B because it would profit me nothing to listen to how a man cheats his wife.i knew i would do nothing about it so why should i urge her to go on.it is not my business.ii have a lot on my plate that renders such idle gosdip inconsequential.why didn't she go ahead and call Mrs C? why must she rope me in? i make my stand known, they know it , i don't discuss people.it pained me that you said i'm living in denial.forgiving an erring partner is not that bad.he promised not to do it again and i believe him.i might have as well come here, beat my chest and decleare that he wouldn't dare try it or that i would divorce him if he tries it afterwards but it will not profit me a thing. i have love in my heart and that's all i'm capable of giving.we all must not be fighters.

Sorry if what i said pained you, i hate to deliberately make one feel bad. You know the man here dosen't seem remorseful, will most likely not be unless caught and there is a high probability that if he is not caught early enough he will never be remorseful.
Did you explain your stance to missB exactly the way you just did to me, i mean not just saying the mind your business thing because she may never know unless you tell her. Like i hinted before, that's where i faulted her, if you were my friend all these years i would have realise you dont do close friends and not be stupid to come to you with a thing like this. If you are certain, she knows your stance, and still came to you, then she need to grow up.

Onegai:


Here's the thing though: each person is different. If my friend sees something, she will know how to approach me with the news. That's why we're friends. I can get angry but I will know "this person will never deliberately hurt me so she's telling me this to help me". For her, I'd tail her husband and the other woman (our friendship has knacked 20 years, we good with boundaries ) and confirm without a doubt what I saw, then tactfully approach her, or better yet, noisily approach hubby and other girl with a "hey just ran into you! wassup! can i hang out for a while, how's madam, let me even tell her now now I'm with you... " etc.

Yeah what you have up there is the thing, but is also not out of place if she seeks the support of the other leg in the tripod for a better tactful presentation to the affected friend.

RoyalRoy:





Dont you think categorising people in this forum into groups is a bit off mark?

We will admit people have diverse opinions about issues and they will try and air the views in their own way...sometimes offensive to others sometimes not.

Having said that, I think all posters should just post along the line of their belief instead of looking out to post as a "group" and calling "others" who dont believe as anti-whatever.

Life is simple....really simple....make your opinion known and stick to your belief while not trying to change others.

Peace is all we want after all.

You caught yourself and deleted the name you earlier mentioned, too late because your group stance prompted your comment. You also are guilty and its worse because you are a mod, what you dont know is that it can only not been seen if it is not there, so its obvious.
We all are hypocrite at one point or the other, knowingly and unknowingly we try to make the contrary opinion buy into ours regardless of what is the truth which is why the master say there's no one that is good. However between the feminist and non feminist group, there are those who bare out their bellies and there are those who dont talk unless in the midst of their comfort groups but has "unpleasantaries" in their belly, quite dangerous. Let him who is wise learn quickly.

Mynd44:
I love my GF but she does not exist

Why did you give up on friicoco so soon, forget all those her stubborness and bombard her with the Pms.
The pm when you politically correctly say make "she" send you, you sure you go value the one you nor chase. Anyways good success to Yous.

My Opinion on this matter is that i would not be happy to see the one to whom i attached the "sacred" word friend to not tell me the truth as it is. Its like i'm unknowingly walking naked with the my friend and everyone else knowing yet my friend prefered minding business to me being mocked.
I value the word friend, so before i attach it to anyone, we most likely should have like mind or influence one another, known each other well enough. If i was miss B, having spend all these years with Op, i would have been able to determine her possible answer and not waste my time, who knows, Mrs C also reason like the Op, knows her man cheats, automatically miss B's help is useless and she becomes the enermy among the three friends.

Onegai:


This is probably the best way to handle it: tactfully. It sounds more like Miss C was calling to share bad news gleefully. I mean, she got passed when shut down, rather than reflect on what had happened. She could have gone to say "hello" to the husband and watch him squirm, but she called the OP first. Her motives don't seem right. I personally want my friend telling me if they see anything and I have told when I saw/heard, with a lot of tact.

I dont think she came to share bad news with glee, it was not her first time of seeing them. She prolly didnt know how best to handle it as a result, she told Op who is also friend with the Mrs. I see that it is the care she had for her friend that made her to be angry with the "mind your business answer Op gave her" and that also made her question their friendship going by what the Op said. If she was a mere gossip/carrier of bad news, she could have said it the first time she saw them, go ahead to tell Mrs. Even Op described her as the most comely lady she knows, she could not just have turned to a gossip if Op has not noticed her gossiping any of the friends before. I think she came for Op and her to put heads together to see how they can tell their friends, if Op had told her to confront the man, i think she would have accepted it than the mind your business when its friends involued.
What if your friend has seen your man twice or more in compromising situations with another woman and your friend was at a distance or position that did not allow her confront your man, would you rather have her tell you or wait for another opportunity when she is able to confront him first. Also which will you do if its your friend's man.

Phema:


Unfortunately, that is the kind of friendship that is most common in this superficial world. Friendship of convenience. As long as we can still shine fake teeth together, we are best of friends. What happened to telling your friend the hard core truth even when it hurts?

It is this "mind your business" ish that got us where are are today. You see someone stealing another blind - mind your business. Boko haram kidnaps 200 girls - mind your business, afterall, they are not your children or sisters. You see a man raping a neighbour's 8 year old daughter - mind your business. Very soon, the world will go down under. And to think that many of them call themselves christians.

If I were to be in Mrs C's shoes and get to find out that my so called two best friends were in on something that could put my family at risk (with proof ofcourse) and didn't even bother giving me a heads up, that will be the end of that friendship. If you can't be real with me, you may as well not be called a 'friend'.

To each his own.

You really shouldnt expect one that can see her man cheat and turn a blind eye, living in self denial do differently with another; one can't give what one dont have.
The thing with this mind your business is that you may eventually do business with the "another's business" because one dont do business with himself alone. We dont live in isolation.
Now she boldly tells you she doesnt do best friend crap, something she has not boldly own up to her friends all these years because for the friendship to have continued from secondary school till now, miss B certainly dont see her as mere " classmate", the term she used to qualify them first before friend. I bet you she has finished applauding herself for doing the right thing, she only came here for more applause. Op, your tone so far, says your title is a rhetorical question.

Squig:
Did you have doubts about your spouse before your wedding?

Did you meet someone amazing and you wanted him but decided to go ahead and marry your spouse?

How do you feel about the marriage now? Do you feel you did the right thing?

I'm in my mid 20s and I'm getting married next month, we've been together for almost 5years. He is the love of my life and I've never doubted my love for him or the fact that I wanted a family with him. He's got everything I want in a man.

The problem is we started having issues about 6 months ago, we stopped talking like before and we are completely disconnected now especially on my end but we're still going ahead with the marriage plan and I still want to marry him.

I met another guy I am really attracted to and we've been talking about a lot. He knows I am having issues with my man and I can't tell him we are planning to get married.

I'm having doubts about my man now, I'm confused, I feel I'll be happier with this new guy, I'm thinking it's lust but it's getting more complicated. Should I go on with the wedding?

Feel free to talk sense into my head, I need to hear hard truths.

If this your story is true, dont let what have been said thus far make you feel so bad to the point of hidding, come out and clarify things more to enable us decipher whether it is lust or not. Btw, if you are told here not to go ahead will you really cancel the next month wedding?
Although i'm seeing lust but i dont want to dismiss your feelings easily.
When did you meet the new guy?
Is the new guy also attracted to you?
What is it about this guy that makes you feel you will be happier with him?
Did you feel the way you feel for the new guy?
What are the issues you said you are having with your fiancee?
Answer with all honesty as you really have nothing to lose.

Nnemuka:

Jennylove is human too, imagine 1million people on this thread calling her names and making jest of her at the same time. ofcourse it is normal to flare up and say unimaginable things while angry.
What do you expect me to say, i read some post and it was obvious that majority of them laughing at her english and tearing her apart are yoruba.

Immediately i said i know Jennylove, with my username signifying my region all of them descended on me calling me a thief and a partner in crime.who does that?

Like she said, she doesnt owe you and has talked to the OP. they have agreed till end of september so dont come and tell her how to pay back money she is owing. If by end of september she doesnt pay then you are free to consult your god and call on your soldier brother residing at sambisa.

It is all these your character of i am the wiser/smarter that got jenny into trouble initially. It was the way jenny handled the matter at the start that made people hurled insults even before knowing her tribe, as a matter of fact, jenny spewed the first insult on this thread even when she was on the wrong and i wondered why you didnt cautioned her then. I mean you couldnt put yourself to feel the OP's pain to caution jenny but you felt her pain to comment only because of tribalism.
The issue with the two tribes did not start with this thread and wont stop with this thread. Agreed that the Yorubas are having it but the people going miles for OP are not Yorubas, again is it not jenny's shait that attracted flies and; if you will be honest, it could have been the Igbo's day, if jenny was Yoruba. You could have watched on the side like the other Igbos feeling your pain or speak peace without promoting tribal war on the thread that was already cooling with jenny's last few statements.
You started like you were coming to cool jenny when indeed you came for tribal fight, something Gboliwe already peacefully achieved. With all your ability to feed an entire family for a year, i would have thought you would lend jenny the money, instead you advised her to seek elsewhere. If you even want to drag tribe into this, jenny started it " because them no born jenny well" to treat her Igbo sister the way she did OP.
I wonder how aside tribalism, you cant see the joy that the op's money that was lost for 9months now, infact could have been forever gone is about to be recovered or even that jenny may change her ways after this as she could have carried on to someone else that may demand her life in return instead of the goods. Take your advise to jenny and let September lead the way forward.

apexquest:

U gave very good points, I acknowledge them. But to assume I bought that car for fancy is wrong sir. A primera doesn't meet fancy requirements. More so, I never left marriage hanging: its next year.

Alright good success.

MarvellousGod:
Hello food nairalanders,

How long can I store zobo drink in my fridge? Heard it doesn't taste good after about 7 days, how true please?

Thanks. ...

You can store up to a month in the freezer and possibly more given the right conditions. The taste doesnt go bad par say, it ferments, giving it a wine like taste; that's how many wine are produced. It is the psychological zobo taste expectation people dont get after 7days that makes them conclude its bad. I know some people who will prefare to leave it for days in order to have that old wine taste.

FriedPlantain:
Chai see how I take dey salivate for here like donkey, I'm sure the food would taste just a good as it looks. Tchidi is really really a good cooker.

It is called cook not cooker. What a "cookpy" name, lolz.

Idowuogbo:
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No waste your saliva again o, make we no go confuse you join the mad woman.

[quote author=Jennylov post=37443596][/quote] She that the gods (satan) want to destroy, they first make mad.

[quote author=colossus2 post=37431126][/quote]
Kindness to the poor is a loan to the LORD, and he will give a reward to the lender- Proverbs 19:17 (HCSB).

disloman:
R u talking abt just building a house just 4 having a house sake or u take ur tyme n build what u desire.Everyone has his or her own opinion but car is important in marriage especially u n ur family going to church n mount a bike?Baba God!Answer my prayer ooooo.

Read well before you hasten to quote, i'm not the uncle that asked him to buy land neither did i suggested building is own accomodation. I only hinted on him renting his own space to have a feel of responsibilities, being responsible and prioritising. I as well suggested 2 or 3 other things he could have done to expand his income before car purchase and marriage.
The matter that really brought the op here was not even misplaced priority but that of non working priority. That was why he felt the car was a mistake although it is, that was why he readily made his uncle's not immediately feasible land purchase his next priority leaving marriage hanging in the air not that it had a fixed place previously either. As a matter of fact, he is just taking suggestions now to make one. OP before now bought that car because the money was in his hand, i wouldnt have mind if he bought it considering its cost saving advantage over public transportation. Before this thread if he will be honest to himself, he would have spend his next reasonable savings on the next fancy that catches his attention.

Jennylov:
I don't have anything to say to u.u can say what ever u want.every blame is on me.so no need to battled words with u at all.you have every right to say what u want my dear.I'm not stopping u at all.u funny if I read all your response.but in everything thanks yo be God.I'm overcoming all d challenges.you have every right to do whatever u like oo.I won't say no dont do it.is only God that knows our mind.I'm not perfect but u also are not.so stop drawing more attention to itself.. d pple that suppport u will still talk back at u.that's life for u.

No wonder you rushed here to call her daft when you are the daft one. Do you think you are talking to kids. When she was crying and begging you were here doing business because you knew she does not have a nl account to state her case in the first place. You have been collecting money and giving people bales from where you couldnt give her, now you know you can give her rags. It was important for you to protect your image at the expense of her tears by blocking her. You lost her contact but couldnt come to nl where you met her to give her your new one, suddenly you remembered you have it somewhere. I put it to you that you are a scammer who scam people you think you can ride over and i know she is not the first you have treated like this.
Your cup is full to overflowing with the measure you have been serving. You think all these your lies will stop people from coming after you. You are only seeing the shoes you made her walked in and you are shouting God like you are his first daughter. You must walk in her shoes because the God you are calling has answered to make you feel 10times what you made her passed through till you will confess the devil whose child you are pushed you to it.
You are advising her now? So you can be scared?

You are truly suffering from misplaced priority, ok now that he has toss land priority your way, land is your next until another is tossed your way.
One would have thought you were saving to get your own accomodation, invest in any of the financial options open to have good savings for your marriage and marital life, to expand your income source with a business option or something but you saved to live perhaps bigger than the main owner of your accomodation, to buy a liability that you will be spending the rest of your tiny savings on.
You may not sell the car but you can consider using it for transportation on the side. Perhaps you should move to your own accomodation to have a feel of being responsible and learn prioritizing because you are still having similarities with one of 'em students that uses Iphone6 while their parents use nokia 3310.

If there was no property would you be seeing your job as tiring?
80k is quite okay, but i advice you work some more targeted time frame living only on 80k or less, then use the accrued salary to open a business that you can do with your wife as you wait for another job or better still do full time.
If you really are the laid back type i'm sensing, you may not stress yourself to join a more tiring hustle for another job especially with your 80k comfort zone. As you continously stay at home, you may make everything your tenants do your job, you may irritate them, they may irritate you easily and you may possibly lose their respect. When your needs become bigger, your eyes will be on your tenants, you may helplessly find yourself increasing rent outrageously or eyeing that tenant living larger than the landlord (it may sound "unyou", dont be too sure till you wear the shoe). How about savings? What about when more kids come? Property maintenance? You dont want to teach you child to only to sit back and depend on property, you are still a young man dont retire yet.
I know you are thinking it is just for now, but have you alternatives if now extends into 5years or more given the country's position. Get something to fall on immediately aside the 80k property before quiting your job.

mutter:


A woman that is submissive to her husband is hopefully more submissive to the will of God.
If your husband asks you to sin are you helping him by sinning. ? No you are condemning both of you.
She could have involved the family.

She should, she could, she... If the man asked her to sin and she did, she is the one that condemns them both.
When you were advised submit in all things you didnt tell her some are sins, now you turn to blame her for irresponsibility. When you also blamed that girl her to be mil told not to sleep together with her fiance under her roof for not being discreet with her fornication, it was not sin, now submission has gone sour you remembered something called sin. My ish with you is absolving the man of any blame.
I just exhausted the time i have to waste.

mutter:


Take your finger and remove the log from both your eyes before you face me.
Irresponsible is a mild way of putting it. Aborting is puting an abrobt end to a life.
And sorry I wasn't laying low...just too busy.

If she had come here to complain the first time she was asked to abort you would have told her to be submissive and keep her marriage. She has been submissive like you, now you call her irresponsible so that you can live comfortably in your world where man is god and blameless. Abortion is killing, yet the man that took her to his doctor for abortion is blameless because by you, no man is silly.

aigjoey:
He wouldn't dear.. I may consider leaving the marriage. I think there is a motive to his behavior. He actually took me to the his doctor this last time for the baby to be aborted but I ran away.. To be candid with you I think my husband is a cultist.. am just thinking

Since your guts is telling you he is occultic, you better be steps ahead of him, be prepared for life without him and be prayerful because if he is really one as the signs around him says, he may make the pregnancy rough for you. If you abort this one, he may use it as an opportunity to strike seeing that you are getting wiser. The signs are all over and dont be decieved his silence means he has accepted defeat, save yourself now.

mutter:
You are a very irresponsible woman.
That you can abort a life six times is crazy. I have friends that have spent over 20 years praying for God to bless them.with just one. I have a friend in coma for 2 years from an op to enable her conceive. How can your husband tell you not to abort and not to take precautions. Those two are contradictory. You should have resolved it. Anyway I find this hard to believe because no man is that stupid. Unless he wanted to just kick you out or kill you.
The only advice I have for you is that you seek forgiveness from the giver of life.

You are beginning to churn out meaningless posts, life was better when you laid low.
It is very possible for her to be irresponsible yet impossible for any man to be stupid.

cherryice:
really
d bale iz in lag since?? dd u call her to explain all these go her before now? I guess you ddnt. u evn stopped pickin her calls. you now came here to explain shiit jus cos u see shes on d verge of tarnishin ur business.
U were supposed to keep in touch
Dont blame her if she or anyone here calls u scam. u exhibited the features of one

With all the lies she has been spewing, there is no bale in lagos. She may now go and gather rags not worth even 50,000 ngn for the Op. Since she claim to be a big girl that 115,000 ngn is nothing, let her return back the money. This should be moved to front page, she should come and say when she is paying back so that everyone will see the end of this because if this thread dies down she will run from Op again as her type of scaming is one that watches when the tide is weak or still to scam. Imagine, she also wanted to scam the Op's sister.
Cc: Lalasticlala.

Homorlayor20:
hello nairalanders,i travelled to warri yesterday to my family home,to prepare for the forth coming GCE,i was home alone because my mum went with my younger ones to visit my elder sis who just put to bed,others are married or in school,so i arrived warri about 4pm,collected key from a neighbour and she(the neighbour asked me to come back and spend the night with them . i accepted the ofer i took the keys and went home,i was eating on the sofa i dozed off only to awakened by feelings of touch on my lap,i opened my eyes only to see one notorious criminal,i screamed for help while struggling to be free from his grip,our next door neighbour came and he fled.The problem is that i am a virgin ,don't know if i was fingered,can one hymen be ruptured without pains?I am going thru serious emotional truama,cant even study.matured advice needed pls.

Relax he didnt rupture it, you would have seen a blood trace though not everybody bleeds. Dont go showing anybody, even you remove your mind from it back to your books.
You would have felt it in you had he succeded, so relax you are still intact.

annawhite:
madam we all have attitude problem,like someone did mentioned jennylove has attitude problem but she is no scammer#you have opened her up to verbal attacks from Nairalanders #isnt that enough??..in Business you get what u paid for and not the money..she will get yu the best female london bale so u will make extra money for the duration the money has stayed in her hands.. she is no scammer

The only sad thing here is the jenny spoiling business for others.
You really think jenny came here because she is not a scammer of some sort? Should preach go and die because jenny goods was seize? Even if she wanted preach to bear with her, is this the way to go about it?
Let me tell you if you dont know, jenny came here to protect her image because of others that will still fall for her. If really her goods was seized, i bet you she would have since settled other strong clients, then why preach's? She suddenly retrieved her number because preach cried out. I tell you, this jenny i'm seeing would have cut off from preach for as forever as she keeps quiet.

goldenruby:
Please please please!!!! Y'all should STOP giving Online stores bad names. Madam Jenny What happens to communication? What Stops would from narrating all this long talk you posted here to your buyer?? I understand the whole cotonu/togo cloth buying ordeal..Yes so many things have happened to you but a simple pleas and subtle talk would have gone a long way.
She claimed you werent picking her calls, blocked her on FB and sorts and couldn't even deny that. Ontop her MONEY?? For someone to pay over 100k for cloths she has not seen you think say na beans?
And you're here saying if she gets you upset she wouldn't see her money or cloths WTF! Since last year.

Let me tell you something you don't know as a seller on a face less forum. 1 alleged scam and you have lost the entire clientele. If this thread use style smell frontpage body go tell you.
Abeg sort the Mess and clear your name.


Edited : I just went through your profile and saw the way you 'washed' a client that she is struggling to coff out 90k, that you'd deal with her, that you’re more than the money she paid blabla cos she requested her products. YUCK YOUR CUSTOMER CARE ATTITUDE IS DISGUSTING. continue this way and you won't last in 9ja market. Person wey get the whole Good attitude 100% sef dey find headway. Rubbish!

You couldnt have said it better and for her to come here to say she wont give preach's her goods or money means she had concluded on it hence her tarrying till 8months, blocking her line etc she actually took her long silence for "mumu", she must be shocked to see her capable of this. More will befall her if she doesnt pay preach's back her money on time.