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Family / Re: 6 Keys To Showing Your Husband Respect by Glitterdust: 10:11am On Jul 25, 2014 |
Jesus Christ! U people sef! lf u ever try it near my husband, he would say u are pretending! Lol.... 1 Like |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 7:40pm On Jul 24, 2014 |
Chrisbenogor: Its with his consent o. When MIL called him to say that she came in and saw me taking my things and the kids, he asked her to let me go. What does that mean to u?? Severally, he had told me that if I want to leave, that I can leave with or without the kids. So I took the option of leaving with them. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 10:24am On Jul 24, 2014 |
baby124: Na wa o. What does he mean his love for his kids is dependent on how much love he has for their mother. Most people who have the capacity to love will love their kids more than their spouse sef. Though it should be the spouse that comes first. A real parent will fight tooth and nail for their child. I put up with a lot of things just so that I could keep my marriage. If your hubby comes home everyday between 12 and 3 am, would u be obliged to make food for him, and massage his feet till he sleeps? Then wake up tomorrow afraid of what will happen next... I thank God for everything. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 9:13am On Jul 24, 2014 |
Chrisbenogor: No. We were good that day and was why I called him to tell him and was shocked that he didn't respond. My brother, the truth is that I'm at peace now. I don't have to worry about the next cause of fight. The reason I left was because I had begged him severally to get a house where we would live since he was always complaining about his nephews and how wild and treacherous they are. Yet he refused. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 9:10pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
chrisbenogor: @ OP My brother, I am not a saint and make mistakes too. But I thought that as I am able to accomodate his excesses, that he should be able to accomodate mine too. But one thing I know is that something is wrong somewhere. The last time we quarrelled, his entire family said I wasn't leaving. If I were that bad, they would have supported him to chase me out. In all, there's an underlying factor but I can't go into all that now. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 8:41pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
Splendblex: My daughter loves him silly. Between friday and sunday, she would just break down and cry. "I want my daddy to come back; I want my daddy to be a good man". It broke my heart but I had to do what I had to do. My parents spoke with her and since then, she hasn't shed one tear again. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 8:23pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
The last time we had a disagreement, (that was last year) he left the house for 4 weeks. In those 4 weeks, he spoke with our daughter twice! |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 8:10pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
Splendblex: Nice? Yes. Well, he was hardly ever home early. He comes home between 12 and 3 a.m., by then my 3yr old would have gone to bed asking whether dad was coming home that night. He buys stuff for them and makes sure they never lack anything. But whenever we have issues, he distances himself entirely from them. And even stops bringing money for their feeding. On one occassion, he was talking to a newly wed couple and said that he loves his kids to death but that the love he has for them flows from the love he has for me and that anyday I piss him off, that he would completely forget me and by extension, my children... |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 7:11pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
Amhappy: Thunder fire devil. Years later he will come back to say na jazz. The Lord is you strenght sis. Just keep it clean,no abortion,informed him about preg. Make him go bring in that thing wey dey shack am from outside. He go hear nwiiii. Lol... I know something is wrong somewhere sha but I don't want to stay around to find out o. Let him sort himself out. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 5:52pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
subzidi: Nne, the determination comes from many years of suffering and smiling. Physical and emotional abuse. I was sceptical of what people would say. But I thank God... |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 5:39pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
maclatunji: No Mac, he wont come back. My dad called him today which was only natural to say "I saw ur wife and kids here. What's going on?" But he refused to pick up. If he comes back, I aint going nowhere! 3 Likes |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 12:35pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
^^^^^ thanks a lot. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 9:17am On Jul 23, 2014 |
No... aborting this baby is a no no for me. I've moved on but I'm keeping this innocent soul... These kids are all I have now. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 6:44am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Kanwulia: You should tell him about the pregnancy. My sister, I don take my fate as I see am o. 1 Like |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 7:32pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Greyworld: 1st & foremost i say sorry 2 yu 4 yur grief. Although leavin yur marital home isn't smtin 2 b proud of but believe mi yur life was worth saving and d only way that guarantees yur safety was leaving. U best believe it o. He makes the money remember and brings out money for baby food and clothes and expects everything to be accounted for kobo by kobo. The house keeping money is given to MIL because she does the shopping for house food and stuff... If u know the problems that have arisen because I was itching to work? He wouldn't even allow me to do the minutest thing saying he's not complaining and that I should concentrate on the kids... 2 Likes |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 6:29pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Thank you all... Initially, I was pained by the fact that my daughter kept breaking down, asking for her daddy whom she had severally asked me in the past why he keeps going to work and wouldn't return. Thank God that she has gotten over it now. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 5:56pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
egopersonified: Op, if you must go back, it shd be based on courting him and finding out if he has changed(if he comes begging). He shd get a place for u and d kids. Start looking for a job now or start a bizness, dont just stay idle waiting for him. I moved from his state to mine and hopefully, the kids would start school in the estate where my folks stay. I know he's capable of doing that so I'm not slacking. Stay idle waiting for whom Hmm.. I left with no dime in my account. How on earth would I stay idle waiting for him? I'm already selling some things my sister sent from abroad. 4 Likes |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 5:27pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
baby124: He has empowered those nephews to do that. My dear, this guy has always told you he did not give a damn about you. It is time for you to start giving a damn about yourself and your kids. dont worry, even if all is not well in your time, all will be well with your kids and their future. At least you have the comfort of your parents home. Just focus on your next move for now, and watch your kids closely. God bless you for your kind words... Thank u. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 5:06pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Sad... I have o...hmmm. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 5:05pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
aisha2: No abortion PLEASSSSSEEEEE. Toh... But he won't contact my folks. I know him. A friend of mine said I should send him an sms to tell him just for the records. Not that i'm expecting anything from him. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 5:02pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Who??!! His middle name is EGO. He would do none of the above. When I was moving my things, MIL called him and he said she should allow me to go! Who does that?? |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 4:53pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
thorpido: Perhaps,it was why the marriage took place. No, it wasn't. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 4:51pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Going back to him is out of the question. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 4:49pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
aisha2: I'm only concerned about this pregnancy. I hate abortion... I am happier now than I've ever been in the past 3 yrs. And for me to have taken the step of leaving that house, I am not going back!!! 6 Likes |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 4:45pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
rolled: If I were you I would go for an abortion asap I'm sure he put them up to it and that was why he didnt come home to address it.I expected that he would at least come home and reprimand the kids. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 4:40pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Do you have a source of income No Yes Nothing They are supportive. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 4:31pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
aisha2: Me! Run back.for what? 1. It shocked me to hear he said that because he has severally told me that he boasts to his friends that he married a good woman. That he is blessed. So I was.shocked when I heard what he said. He comes back home from 12am-3am and I don't nag. I serve him fresh food and even massage his feet just so that he would be happy. 2. The boys are naturally wild but whenever their uncle comes back from work, the pretence starts. I just corrected one of them on leaving the living room door open and that was it. He raised his voice at me asking what I'd do and that was it. 3. I don't know. 4.I just want to make understand that I dont know why he refused to get us our own house cos money clearly isnt his problem. 1 Like |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 4:19pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
teeo: My advice to women, don't ever marry a man living with his mother no matter how comfortable he is. You would always be treated as an outsider. Ask him to rent an apartment or no marriage but I forgot all these ladies are so desperate for marriage they see the signs but they fall to ignore them. He wasn't living with his mum when we met. He had just relocated from u.k. but he kept saying he hadn't decided if he wanted to stay in the east Or Abuja. When he eventually decided to stay in the east, we moved to his home in the village. We stayed there for almost 2 yrs before MIL rented an apartment in town and he asked me to stay with her. All the while we were there, he kept claiminf that he had paid for a house and was furnishing it. Each time I asked him to show me the house, he would either pretend to be busy and come home late or pick a fight. |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 4:02pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
aisha2: I loved him. We dated for two years and it was one issue after another. He wooed me for a long time o. I wasn't pregnant before getting married. The last part that shocked me was when he threatened his account officer never to tell me his acct details that I'm a bad wife who intends to kill him and take away his wealth. Hian! |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 3:49pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Btw, the house is my MIL'S house and I have lived with her for almost three years now. We don't have financial troubles because hubby is rich. Severally, I asked him to get my kids and I a home but he said he had a plan. What plan?? He didn't disclose to me. |
Family / What Do I Do? by Glitterdust: 3:37pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
I am in my early 30's, married with two kids. Living with my MIL and two of my husband's nephews... (btw, I am a stay-at-home mum at the insistence of my husband.. My husband and I have always had issues but the basis of my story isn't the constant battery, emotional and psychological assault. On thursday night, I had a minor misunderstanding with one of my husband's nephews and it resulted into a fight where the two boys pounced on me and beat me up. Hubby was not at home at the time so I called him but the phone went off after I mentioned what happened ..I called him severally but he refused to answer so I called my folks who advised that I should wait for him to come back. That night, he didn't come baick but from the telephone conversations I heard, he was calling and speaking with MIL and his nephews. On friday, I called him and spoke with him briefly. I was already fed up with the marriage and had decided that if he makes it back home that friday night that i'd tell him that since he was clearly unhappy in the marriage and constantly reminded me that he made a mistake marrying me that we should separate for sometime. He didn't come back that night and also didn't take my calls. So on saturday, I packed my things and left with my kids for my parent's house. On sunday, I did a test and found out that I was pregnant. I haven't called him and he hasn't called us either because he always made it clear that he didn't care about me or the kids. I want to send him an sms and tell him about the pregnancy. What do I do? |
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