I think its a nice move on the part of Glo, besides since we have just been branded Terrorist. Its good to see that there are still some people who believe in doing buisness with Nigerians.

On the other hand, with the NFL not ready to move forward, its better for Glo to find somewhere else to put his money.

Lastly, with Glo as a Man. Utd sponsor, Adenuga's buisness interestts in the UK can continue to foster.

question: why do women find it hard to be submissive in relationships?

Original poster didn't give us the complete quote. he says

"Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord." Ephesians 5:22 - that's what the bible says but it seems nowadays the world is changing and the whole world is changing. Ladies are becoming westernised and are finding it increasingly hard to submit to their partners. Why is this so? is submission still relevant in modern day climate? Guys what are your views on this?

What does the Bible say in Ephesians 5?
Ephesians 5 talks to the Church as the Body of Christ. It spells how members of this body should relate one to another. For example:
v1 = be ye therefore followers of God,
v2 = walk in love as Christ loved us,
v3 = fornication and uncleanness, etc must not be named(must not happen) amongst you
etcetera, etcetera.

as from v22, the ideal loving and caring relationship between a husband and wife is used as an example of how the members of Christ's body should relate one to another.

v22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord

submission here means: sex, obedience, love, care, loyalty, etc. In plain terms: wives, do not have intimacy with another woman's husband = don't commit aultery.
Therefore,

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

meaning: just as the Church(body of believers) hold on to Christ alone in thick and thin, a wife should hold on to her OWN husband.

V25 now starts talking to Husbands, with a first responsibility to:

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Analysis:
1) Christ Loved the world. John 3:16 - For God so loved the world. God loved the world: God took the FIRST initiative. This first initiative included sending several prophets to warn man of their sins. This first move included sending Jesus his OWN son to die for Man's sin.
2) Christ loved the world - He had to sacrifice himself.
3) Christ loved the world - and even after making the first move, not all have realized his Love.
4) The command to LOVE is in black and white for the husbands. The reason is because naturally, women will love you back.

Going back to Verse 25: Husbands, Love your wives, even as Christ loved the Church: meaning Husbands have to make the first move to LOVE their wives. Husbands must show this love with all of their might and energy: words, thoughts, deeds, in everything and in everyway.

v28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
v31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
v32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
v33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband

so v33 ends with:how the wife should reciprocate, by "Reverencing" her husband. Reverencing here includes "submission, etc, etc" as stated in the previous verses - the responsibility of a wife.

To answer the question: why do women find it hard to be submissive in relationships?

Let me assume you meant : marriage relationships. If your wife finds it hard to be submissive to you, there is a problem somewhere, which could be any of the following:

1) Love wan tin tin: you think you do, but you don't really know her: If you really know a woman, you'll know what she likes and what she doesn't; how and when to talk to her; what to say, what not to say, what to do / not to do; how to make her do what you want her to do(positively) without her being offended, etc., all to make her love you back, and stay with you through thick and thin.

2) Perhaps you loved her initially, but something had gone wrong along the line, for which her attitude has changed, and is manifesting in lack of submission.

"Husbands Love your wives" has two dimensions: (1) Husbands love your wives: husband makes a deliberate effort to love his wife, and (2) the wife coming to the realization that "my husband loves me".
- the most important part is #2 coz, its possible for a husband to think he is "showing her love": running helter skelter - , while whatever he might be doing might not really ring a bell in the woman's ears. Therefore, the man has to play his cards right: Husbands, Love your wives: first find out what she wants you to always do to make her happy, and then do it.

3) Perhaps, someone else has discovered what you havent discovered in her - in of your many years of relationship.
- the golden rule - you can never know who you don't talk to. Unfortunately, "talk" for many married men is defined as either of the following / related to the following: what will I eat? what will I drink? what clothes will I wear? where is my shoe? why is there no fuel in the generator? why is the TV not working? where is my phone? lets go to Church right now? Lets go home right now? stand up; sit down;, Yes. No. etc, etc,

4) Guys, no lady will respect you if you don't love her. She might live in the same house with you. She might give birth to all your children, but deep down they (wives) know they don't love you. Women love to be respected, cherished, complemented and held in high regard. If you are a "none of the above" to the aforementioned, she wont be submissive.  The reason why some women get physical (fight) with their husbands is because they(women) don't see any difference in him and the stranger on the street.

Husbands Love your wives, then she will be submissive.

One major problem in this country is that we understand too much English. I'm trying to imagine how much time this guy took to fish out these heavy duty grammar:

Intimations of a finitude
By Uthman Shodipe

THERE is a grim certitude now in the Nigerian isle. There is that bold prophetic affirmation resonating in the alleys and the broadways, perceived in the putrid anonymity of the ghettoes and the restless chambers of fortune, signaling the ruin to come. The permanent unraveling has begun. Now the blind thronging towards that violent, inevitable rupture is almost absolute. Nothing can change this. The heavens are in accordance.

We are all latched to this end, detained in a chasm that nothing can alter, chained by a self-absorbing survivalist creed that disowns higher ethicality. None stands aloof in seraphic distanciation. None is beheld in that redeeming glow of innocence and lustrous distinction. None can claim a pulchritude unblemished by this smearing, dirtying universality. We are all complicitous either by the sweeping largeness of our mercenary fixity or the sickening gestural hurry to surrender, to plea pitiably extenuating circumstances before a withering foe.

The nation is a farcical game, now nearing tragic conclusions. Here there is no barometer of piety that is really borne upon patriotic righteousness. Everywhere there is a fraud writ-large. Everywhere there is a smug pretentiousness of the mastery of the corrective path. But there is no death-defying messianic forfeiture. Even those who pretend to put up a fight, the very few who assume gladiatorial pitting against the hated state are sometimes spurred by hidden instigators. There is always somebody somewhere pulling the levers in hidden parochial calculations.

But even a cyclical malady must have an end. Nothing can revolve forever in blissful unchangeability. Nature insists on renewal and change. Nature insists on a fervent concussive disturbance in the general quietude. We are there now.

Naturally, the irretrievability to ruin is often trailed by provocative aberrations: the blind, vulgar contempt for the rules, the sheer hubristic delusions of power to frown at reality, to scoff at the truth, heedless of any countervailing logic, mocking at the face of heaven, ascribing to itself the illuminations of the unerring God.

From the ruins of Mesopotamia to the plains of Marathon, from the eclipsed glory of Iona to the mystery of the intervening balance of Serengetti, there is a sobering archival illustration of great nations destroyed by little men; there is a moralistic caution of once progressive societies flung into darkness and forfeiture by the submission and indifference of everyone else to the general ills.

Such historical ills are now consuming this isle with implacable cumulative challenge. Nothing is real anymore. The national drama now steers towards a mystifying absurdity that strains logic. Here, their warped democracy is stripped of any indices of developmental graces. It is without the passion of principled articulations. It is without the self-denying, the self-eclipsing ingredients of democratic Hellene. And surely, it is absolutely unknown to the selfless totality of the Athenian agora where service to the state was the natural compulsion of power, where the instruments of the state were gravitated by the uncommon passion to rectify the ills, to rebuild the broken places, to redeem the society in constant beneficial renewal.

And thus, while the instruments of power in more enlightened isle are often spurred by the pull of the higher truth, by the rivet of principled articulations far beyond the pettiness of self-pursuit, far beyond the tawdry hurry of self-gain - power here is defined by the whimsical fancy of primitive arbiters, the thronging parade of little men frozen in mercantilist totality.

For this nation really is not some shared destiny or some common shared provenance in the classical Athenian meaning. It holds no one together in some binding spontaneous fraternity. It is without any sympathetic fraternal promptings. It is treated as an orphan and a prize. Hence the general mercenary hurry. Sure, the tools of power here are often gravitated in mechanical mouthings about their devotion to the state, about the urges of patriotic zeal, about the fervent spirit to move the nation forward. But only that. We all know the reality.

This accursed isle is now confronted with its greatest crucible since the quondam imperial Britain planted a native colonialism in the mischievous guise of independence. This malady haunts us still. While governance once wore the mask of specious productive gestures, straining in dubious propagandist prattle to cultivate popularity and acceptance, this subsisting power alas, pretends no credible substantiation of its own existence. Even in its most despicable fraud, we cannot acknowledge its presence. It is a void in a transitory vacuum. We acknowledge the space but we cannot see the power. We do not know who or what is there! It is this ghostly emptiness that traumatises us all now.

The origin of the present national rivening does not require a cognoscenti. It is an open book. Spurned and rejected by an alert people, spurred by a vindictive fury, a virulent atavistic character who by some unknowable logic of heaven had twice misruled this nation, foisted on a captive people a broken down, decrepit ghostly frame from the womb of Mohammedanism.

The reluctant impostor, he of the distant, solitary emptiness etched in vacuous fragility, quickly graduated into sickly, wobbly ghoulishness. We see a spectre and not the man! Sinking in and out of a legion of paralytic enfeeblement, his diseased frame was hidden for a while by artless contrivances and Soviet era convoluted tales. No more.

The impostor is now terminalised in some vegetative uselessness somewhere in the dunes of Araby or even beyond. Nobody knows for sure. And where all the ingenuity of science that money can procure has apparently proved futile and none abiding, a Goebbellian treachery has taken over the state with farcical improvisational deceit, mulishly bent on stretching the tenure of an expired power.

There is now a functional coup in the Nigerian isle since deceit is enthroned in righteous substantiation, since reckless manipulative courtiers preside in self-protective brazen largeness, indifferent to any rule save their own, contemptuous of constitutional guidance, locked in a ruinous arrogance that is spiteful of enlightenment.

Without the necessary national coherence and the purity of power, there is that inevitable descent into decay and debauchery sweeping across the organs of the state, betraying the huge putrefaction everywhere from the chambers of commerce to the once hallowed pulpit, from the groves of Academia to the banking halls.

In this general affliction, a crazed fanatic with murderous fixity crowned the thronging dementia as he attempted to put to flames about 300 innocent people thousands of miles above the city of Detroit. The failed bombing which increased the national notoriety invariably betrayed the rudderless fabric of statecraft through the feigned noise and thunder of a moronic legislature that would issue meaningless ultimatum to a great power.

There is no patching up of this Augean filth. There will be no half measures. Surely the coming sanitisation will not be superintended by anyone remotely aligned to the subsisting perversion. It will be virginal in the depths of its sweeping venom and in the fury of its cleansing totality. And sure, the cleansing may start with the classical purgatorial routing of a Cromwellian overlord purging the confounded spaces with the iron and the sword, harrying the robber barons into a thousand winds. That will not be the end.

That will be the beginning of the fray. A thousand artifices may be devised to pretend a renewal, to mock the truth and prolong the diseased republic. Not for long. The ultimate finitude must come in the withering fury and storm of a rebirth and a new identity. A more blissful virginal isle will only be gained through wrack and ruin. There is the liberative din now ringing loud and long.


Shodipe is a company executive in Lagos.

source: [url]http://www.ngrguardiannews.com/editorial_opinion/article04/indexn2_html?pdate=120110&ptitle=Intimations%20of%20a%20finitude[/url]

Babyboy26:

Uh,

Dandas;u have a point there.I should have asked at that same day i discovered the fone.


Now that it had happened that i did not ask at that same day or next,i think thye next thing is close monitoring as u havbe said henceforth.



Well,whtever that come next,i will let everbody knows on this Nairaland.

Thank for the responses so far frm everbody and may the good Lord see to your situations too,Amen.


Thank you all,you guys have made me realised some points and u have teached me some lessons which i wuldnt have known if i have not excallated the issue to you guys.

Once again,thank you very much.

boy o boy, are you sure you married a wife?, as in you had a wedding ceremony, you vowed to each other? or perhaps you guys are just playing daddy and mommy?

1) as in 3months into the marriage and shes already cheating?
2) and in 3months, you as the husband of the house is already thinking of calling it quits? Have you, as a man consumated tha marriage, or another guy is consumating it on your behalf every friday night.

Sorry, my words are harsh, but the whole story just seemed far fetched. Besides if you say you are coming to Nairaland to resolve a 3-months, I got married and my wife is cheating on me, and im thinking of quitting issue, I think you got it all wronger and wronger.

the 3months stuff is just too ridiculous, uknow. Not that I dont believe you, but I cant but take your story with a grain of salt

@Poster,
you have a valid point, but to add, I'll say:

A typical Nigerian is not a coward, but he/she is usually afraid and apprehensive to be the one to take the first step.

Common scenario: a bus conductor is shouting 50-naira, 50-naira, calling for passengers into his bus, for a distance that is usually 30-naira with nothing unusual(no rainfall(past, present and future tense), no police/agbero-fight scare anywhere) happening / happened. In Lagos state for example, you'll observe that at first, people wont enter the bus just because the fare is "suddenly increased".

Once one person decides to enter, everybody rushes in.

Now we are inside the bus: one person is complaining that the fare is to high / increased, blah, blah, blah - then everyone just joins in and starts to complain. If the bus conductor stands his ground and refuses to collect less than he demands, once one person pays the dubious amount, everyone will follow suit. The end of such discussions is "that God will punish all the corrupt people in Nigeria, that God will do this and God will do that".

Why is it that even when labor unions decide to go on strike, there will still be people who will decide to obey the fraudulent law-makers, and who will prefer to stand on their own. Why is it that regardless of the amount of times fuel price has increased in this country, for no justifiable reason, Nigerians are still buying it?

See, the truth is, if Mr. President decides tomorrow that fuel price is 500-naira per litter, Nigerian bus drivers and commuters will still buy it. We will go back to our churches and mosques and continue to pray to God to provide. Sometimes, I wonder what God has to do with fuel increase. If God provides food for you to eat, and you refuse to eat it, is it Gods fault. When God Provided Manna for Israel, what if they refused to gather it?

One bad thing about this country is that it is very hard to get people to unite. Ibo, Yoruba and Hausa, and any other tribe in our Nigeria's 4-corners will never unite on anything. Taking the yoruba, for example, they would rather further divide into their towns and villages, with some people claiming to be Ibadan, others Kwara, others Ekiti, etc. They have collectively forgotten that they are Yoruba. Then we arrive in Ekiti, and you hear some people saying I'm from Ado Ekiti, and you are from Ikare, etc. Ive observed that the above attitude is not a result of patriotism, but just ignorance. Have you ever seen Chinese peeps breaking up into the Beijing'ians', and the non Beijing'ians'? Have you ever seen Japanese dividing up into their tribal excesses?

Its sad but to say the truth: the number of Ibos, Hausas and Yorubas in this country is more than the number of Nigerians. Thats the bad part. Have you met Nigerians outside Nigeria. Immediately two strangers introduce themselves to one another, and discover that they are Nigerians, one would 99% ask the other if he/she is Ibo, Yoruba or Hausa. Once the tribal bruhaha is discovered, its either the relationship become long-distanced or is solidified as a result of same tribal affilation. And further they will dig into: which state are you from? Its sickening, you know.

Its because of this lack of unity that our corrupt leaders are able to do and undo. And its the reason why: YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN is at the back of the mind of everyone. In fact, its a doctrine that every politician has to understand to be able to successfully rule Nigeria.

Secondly, Nigerians are not ready to die for anybody. They are not even ready to die for themselves. When its time to talk, everybody can talk, but they are not even ready to die for what they believe in. A conversation in a bus I entered this morning went like this:

First person, in reference to our corrupt leaders: "some people have to die for Nigeria to move forward".

The second person replied: "you be the first".

Everybody laughed.

And then a third person added: "If he dies for Nigeria, would you die too?".

The second person replied: "the person wey kill himself for this country, na hin own don pafuka eh".

Now, thats the Nigerian Mentality.

hmmmm Nigerians when are you going to stop scamming?

can Nigerians ever stop scamming?

I myself just lost money to a web hosting company in Nigeria.

hi there,

I can help you with your request. What are the details you have. Ive mailed you.

hi guys, just saw this thread.

Im interested 101%. Pls how can I contribute / what can I contribute.

when people have too much to eat, they begin to look for ways to die.

Such is what happened to Farouk Matallab our Nigerian terrorist. He had too much to eat, nothing to worry about.

In Nigeria, do you think anyone is praying about the world ending? people are looking for tomorrows breakfast. When it was year 2000, there was a prediction, all through till today. See, its history repeating itself.

Mekusxyz:

Agbero[b]ism[/b] is a form of employment for many folks in those parts. Do you want Fasola to render them unemployed?

If Agberoism is a form of employment, then the whole state better turn into Agberos. Some of this boys earn much more than what some people working in offices earn in a month. I once saw(on a Saturday) a very popular agbero in Ojuelegba bus stop, on his way to an outing with his family(wife and two kids), seated and smiling in a 5-series BWM. I was like, what the, The next tuesday, I spotted this same guy at Ojuelegba again, running after buses, fighting and making himself a total nuisance. It was then I became convinced that these agbero boys are not as poor as they look.

There is no doubt the Lagos state governor has done extremely well, at least till date. One agenda which I have been expecting him to lauch is an agenda to curb the activities of agberos in Lagos state; and to make the Nigerian Police in the state understand that they are policing human beings like themselves, and not animals.

A couple of days ago, someone was killed in Oshodi. He was shot by Policemen who had come with his team to disperse streetfighters: Agberos and bus drivers. The story is that the Agbero union increased the daily taxes of these bus drivers, from 200-Naira to 500-Naira. The bus drivers disagreed and an argument / fight ensued. The police came around to stop the fight etc.

One of them, wanting to do the usual: point your gun straight up and shoot into the air" to disperse people / alert the fighters that "we(the police) have arrived", unfortunately pointed it in an inclined position and shot a man passing on the overhead bridge, just like other people. The man, who was obviously coming from his workplace was in formal clothes(long sleeves shirt tucked into his Jeans trousers), and sporting a good shoe.

The policeman that shot him showed absolutely no emotion and just looked on as if nothing happened. Passers by just had to look on in awe, and leave the man in his own pool of blood. Even other policemen who witnessed the incident showed no emotion, as if one of them hadn't done anything wrong.

The point is this: an innocent man has been killed by the Nigerian Police, saraa, and they wont be held accountable for his death.

The scene left me thinking: perhaps these officers would do the usual, of removing his clothes, labelling him as an armed robber and reporting to his relatives later on, (they searched his pockets, took his phone/wallet) - since he wasn't with someone who could have spoken for him, as a witness at the time of his death.

Back to the Agbero issue: I am of the opinion that by now, Governor Fashola should have laid Agberos to rest, and restore peace to the Lagos environment. The idea where fully grown men stand at bus-stops collecting 50-Naira from every bus driver that passes by; or those in Oshodi who collect dues they are not entitled to is a bane to Lagos state.

Ofcourse, the story is that these Agberos and Touts / arial boys have backers in the state government, etc., thats why they are very confident in doing what they are doing - as long as they make their daily returns to their concerned Ogas, up, up, up, into various tiers of goverment, which we all know is not supposed to be.

The question still remains: why hasnt Governor Fashola done anything about Agberos, Touts, Arial boys, etc., in Lagos state?

I stood wondering what would happen to his relatives awaiting his return from work.

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If Yar'Adua is not in the hospital, then where is he?

[size=18pt]Nigeria is such a great nation. Our President is missing and yet we are rulling ourselves. We entered the new year by ourselves. There is still Peace and Harmony. So, do we really need a President?[/size]

Let the CIA/FBI investigate who they will, but one thing we should be thankful for is that the plane didnt blow up, either in Nigeria, Amsterdam or in the air.

Come to think of it, if Mr. Terrorist succeeded, his father would have more than an interrogation to answer to.