Brokenangel2:
How do you know if there's anything you did, when he insist you've done nothing? Pity from public? Public that don't even know me in real life? No I don't seek that. I just felt like lifting the pains off my chest a little. For the records, what I wrote here is a tip of the iceberg. I'm not saying I'm an angel.. . But if God decides to judge I and him, he'll die before the end of today because he has done abominable things to me.

Brokenangel2:
I just came back to see if anyone took out time to drop a word or two for me. I really appreciate your inputs. Prayers? I'm ashamed to say I'm tired of praying. We don't even have our morning devotions again. I'm even afraid that this atmosphere is unhealthy for my kids. I don't even feel like going to church today, though my beautiful new dress was ironed yesterday. I'm just tired of smiling outside when I'm actually dying inside. I wish this is a dream or novel. That's my life ooo, last night I felt like ending it all, this morning I feel like holding on whether he shows me affection or not. Loneliness is my best friend. You know what? I'll appreciate it if you all share this story on every social platform you know, especially Facebook. He's active there, he will read it somehow. He will know I wrote this, he just knows how I can pen down my feelings. God bless you all.

Amopeekun:
First of all, protect urself whenever he is around!
Now, bring out the best in u when he comes in terms of cooking, sex, appearance, etc.
If there is anything u do that annoys him, please try and stop. It will help.
Don't let him know u have been checking his phone, he will play smart and he will win.
At the best moments, always bring up the issue of how your being apart is affecting ur marriage, 'killing you' and so on. You know, bring it up like u really want to be with him and all that, like moving to where he is. In a nutshell, revive that old good loving all over. Calls, messages, chats, videos, pictures, name it! Play smarter ma.
Always give him what he will miss while u r apart. Trust me, the other lady does that.
Most importantly, be the prayer warrior in the house and fast dear.
Encourage him to pray with u and fast when he is at home and while praying with him, make sure u direct the power of God to destroy everything and everyone threatening your marriage, loud and clear.
If u can, save up real good, plan it and move in with him. It may help also.
All the best my sister.

pinky1974:
but have you forgotten that you mentioned it that he delets his messages, that is to tell you that he is smart and you are only been lucky to find out what you did.Anyway my candid advise to you is to be VERY PATIENCE and more PRAYERFUL,with God on your side you will have him for keep

twosquare:
When next he comes home, simply install a spyware on his phone that can't be seen. EOD

thorpido:
Wait till the number calls or sends a message again.As soon as you see it,show it is to him and tell him straight you know something is going on.
At a more relaxed atmosphere, raise the issue and have a discussion about it.
If possible plan relocating to where he stays.

FortuneTeller:


I hate to break the news to you, but most men are going to cheat. That may not apply to every single man in the world, but I do believe it applies to the majority of men. You are fighting a losing battle by chasing after him. If he is paying all the bills start saving everything you can. If he decides to walk out on you one day, at least you will have money for yourself. Take this opportunity to meet new people, form new hobbies, and travel if you can afford it. Consider yourself a rich woman who is single and living the fabulous life. Believe me, that is exactly what your husband is doing.

FortuneTeller:
If he is in another state and paying all the bills,,enjoy your life. Have a great time while he is away. Enjoy your freedom.

grafixdon:
Why women like to create unnecessary problems for themselves, why? You are depressed, really? Madam, you better face reality, if you divorce this man and marry someone else, be rest assure, you'll still find something to complain about. No perfect marriage.

Stop giving yourself unnecessary headaches. Stop checking his phone, stop that nonsense. My 2 cents.

grafixdon:
Why women like to create unnecessary problems for themselves, why? You are depressed, really? Madam, you better face reality, if you divorce this man and marry someone else, be rest assure, you'll still find something to complain about. No perfect marriage.

Stop giving yourself unnecessary headaches. Stop checking his phone, stop that nonsense. My 2 cents.

ArchEnemy:
Gentle guy?

Gentle guys don't cheat?

May God ve mercy on your home Sis.

Pray and fast before your man is finally lost.

jaszplus12:
usually when you're far apart from your spouse, the man meets or is met by females and usually they strike a cord and a friendship of sorts begin. mostly you're unaware until you stumble on it via phone records or what's app like you did. now the situation changes for you like you just said.
men/women are easily drawn away by emotional attachment to guy/ ladies mingling around them that's a fact.
now since you can confirm you saw this on his phone and he's deleted it means a lot and you must act NOW but SENSIBLY not to put him under pressure to begin a backlash.
speak kindly and gently to him but firmly. take time to DISCUSS not CONFRONT him. tell him your expectations of him while he's away and your fears and I will advice that you don't tell him you saw anything yet unless it continue after you have discussed the first time.
one thing, don't show agony and desperation in front of him else you put yourself too much in the defensive.
that's all you do for now. remember don't say you ever looked into his phone just yet else you won't get the chance again for he will obviously password it. try to copy and keep the female's number and don't repeat don't call her yet...time will bring things to the fore...be patient. good luck.

doughziay:
One of the most difficult things about being in a relationship is realizing that two people are different from each other. No two people ever have the same needs, goals and desires. And sometimes these differences can cause lot of hurt, pain and misunderstanding. So, while you may not be the type of person to flirt with others, it is possible that your husband enjoys doing so and has little trouble lying about such matters.

The trick is to express your feelings in such a way that your husband can empathize with your point of view rather than turn away. If you can do this, it will make it easier for you and your husband to work through this issue. But, again this is not fair—it places a lot of responsibility on you to make things work.

Finally, it is normal to want to seek revenge by exposing the other woman. However, we strongly discourage you from doing so. If you act on your desire to get even by telling her husband or her employer, it will most likely will come back to haunt you in the long run. Your motives will be questioned, people will talk, and the story may actually get back to your husband’s work environment

paintworld:
be good to him for no reason... prepare his best meal... then let him realize how much u love him. Tell him to forgive you for anything you might have done wrong... if you have enough money, take him out to have nice time with him... Ask him if there is anything u r doing that he doesn't like and is there anything he'll like you to be doing... if he tells you, "change" and use the power of woman(crying) to tell him to pls not to cheat on you with any other lady. then see if there are changes.
.. Above all make plans to go and live with your husband...