As a lady, have observed these too.

Not many good advisers here.

Gengen

Am 28yrs old.
The married muslim man is 35yrs with 4kids.
The non muslim man is 32yrs old.

To my fellow muslim sister, your candid and honest opinion is required and even the brothers too.

I have two suitors, a muslim and a non muslim.

Both have asked for my hand in marriage and have met their respective families.

Here is the challenge

The muslim is married with kids and only willing to take me as his second wife.
We know every woman wants a man for her self alone.

The non muslim have told me I have to leave my religion, the parents even reiterated these on my last visit.

Both are gainfully employed and are serious about the proposal.

As a muslim sister, if you are in my shoe, what will you do?

Brothers, help a sister.

Sleeping.later

To be edited when i wake up

Hmmmm.

am in here even if i came late.

bring my dinner here ooooo.

Am 34yrs.

rezzy: I was born in 198*,
finished primary school 1994
finished secondary school 2000
finished poly 2003
finished university 2008
finished NYSC 2010
Got married 2013
How old am i?

32

I can never and will never rejoice in the death of my spouse even if he was a cheat.

from the east..

Really, i have said it and will continue to say it. A lady should not taste sex cos you will never stop.

they will deny it, but its the truth.

Some truth are dificult to admit, most ladies that will condenm these lady are also guilty of the same thing.

Most married men too are not spared, same goes for single guys who are tasting all kinds of apple.


but, sincerely why did God say we should never be quick to judge furnicators and adulterers? simply because it is very complex.

Many marriages are suffering from many related sex issues that we all cannot see. some men cannot satisfy their wives, some women does not allow their husband to touch them more than once or twice a month.Our libido's varies, size of the organ is another issue, styles and approach also matters.

Also, many single guys are worse than married men. They change ladies more often than their undies and sleep with anything that has a hole between her thighs.

The case of women being more than men is another angle, if every available man has just one woman then who assist to lubricate other sexually active women since no woman will consent to her husband taking a second wife (that is women are truely more than men as we claim).

Seriousely, am trying to see these issue from all angles and not be biaised.

A lady who is married will never support her fellow lady dating a married man, but what if she is the one still searching at age 35 and a married man is willing to take her as a second wife....story go change.

single guys will be quick to say married men are starving them of single ladies, but you also know how many you have used and dumped.

Abeg, never be quick to cast the stone because you never can tell what await you tomorrow.

Evanisgud: Seperating them nw means drawing the wrong signal, wen they ar of age, they wil b the ones 2 tel u to seperate them.

still reflecting on these.

Ten ways to help you find out if you should continue with your present relationship.

Those with the dilemma of choosing between two or more lovers, this might be of use too.

1. How much do you love him/her.

2. How much does he/she loves you based on your own assessment.

3. Do your family accept of him/her.

4. Do his/her family accept you.

5. How soon his/her ready for marriage and does this time suits you.

6. Do you accept of his/her level of religiousness.

7. Do you accept of his/her tradition and ethnic background.

8. Do you accept of his/her financial status.

9. Do you accept of his/her sexual prowess

10. Lastly, does he/she spend enough time with you.

Hope you find this helpful.

Daresh:

Ok I'm gonna have to disagree with your post. Growing up, my brother was closest to me in age and as a result we did everything together up until secondary school. We bathed together, slept on the same bed till I was in SS1. It wasn't a lack of space thing, our house had 7 rooms. We were just together and treated pretty much the same by my parents.

Now I have a son and a daughter and Im the same with them. They sleep on the same bed, that one you no fit try separate them sef. They bathe together, eat together play together. They only separate in school. We have 3 rooms, my husband and I have one, they have one and 1 is vacant. No body will agree o.

I really don't see the need to separating them, at least not yet, he's 5 and she's 2.

Things are moving rather fast this age.

Your time may not compare with what is obtained now.

Temismith: Any1 of us decides what position we feel is best for our satisfaction.

Something like this is cool.

This is for parents with mixed sex as children. There comes a time when you need to separate them from doing some things together. .like bathing them all at once, sharing of bedspaces and the likes.

How best do one carryout these task without creating friction, and not sending a wrong message between them?

Most married women are generally shy when it's time for intimacy with their hubby, most do not open up on how they would like it.

Most husband's too never bother to ask considering the fact that you cannot know which style or position she enjoys most. Since you cannot read her mind.

So, who decide or should decide the position?

The husband should assist his wife to put it on.

Wetin we no go hear.

MI is kneeling down joor

Awesome God

Send to gratestlove4all@yahoo.com

Give the location of the trucks too.

Am interested.

Where are the trucks?

Post their pictures, the ones you posted cannot be accessed.

In a few days time we will bid farewell to 2013.

What are your achievement that you are thinking God for?

What did you miss out and hope to achieve in the coming year?

Many of us have different reasons for choosing the church we worship, varying from it's my parents choice, my friend attends xyz church so I must follow, my pastor is a good preacher or motivator or because of that fine chic?

For some it's because of solution to their problems. ..looking for miracle of spouse or employment or healing.

Have you ever ask yourself self why did I choose this church?
Why am I attending this church?
What do I stand to gain for attending this church?

Call it security finance or minimum requirements, how much should a family man always keep for his immediate family upkeep?

Considering demand from extended family and friends due to economic exigencies, a man does not only cater for his wife and kids alone nowadays.

Upsurge in foodstuffs, health care and high cost of quality education, one should be able to put a benchmark to minimum available funds for his immediate family needs and put a "coma" to father Xmas pending when his account is replenish.

I know this will also vary and will be proportional to personal income, so I will use myself as a guide.

I earn 200k a month and could rise to between 400k to 500k with other business, hence my benchmark is 200k.

It must never go below, sometimes it's above when request are not so much.

So, what's your benchmark or do you even consider it?

Pretty ladies in the house, what's the best way to get good response from you?

Guys can be naughty atimes and then can also be very interesting. Many of us like the friendship before relationship approach while some are good at love at first sight.

But, mostly ladies easily get turned off at the sight of a stranger asking for relationship. Most especially when the guy start pouring out a recorded speech.

Which do you prefer and will consider for a relationship?

Strange I guess? Never mind.

For the men who have been married to more than one wife and experience in managing women...Please admonish us.

For single men who intends to have more than a wife, what plans do have? Which ways do you intend to manage them, keep them under same building or get separate accommodation?

For the women, if you ever find yourself marrying someone who is already married, would you accept staying with the first wife or prefer a separate apartment?


Save the "I won't share my man" mentality, honesy and matured response needed.