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Do men have feelings too? Yes, they have feelings too. Thousands of articles out there is primarily focused on what women want and need in life and love. Then comes the question like “what about men? What do men want and need in life and love?”
what a man need in his relationships

The fact is that we shouldn’t focus only on either group, and instead all strive to learn how we can be better in our relationships.
Read: 12 Ways To Bond With Your Partner For Better Relationship

Here are basic needs men have in relationships:

1. Men need a teammate in life and love.

There’re men out there who want to be in command of everything in their relationship like a military general and don’t value your opinion or input in anyway. But we aren’t talking about such men in this article because they don’t worth our time and energy.

As a lady, you shouldn’t give this type of guys your time and attention. They are a complete waste of time.

They’re not men my friends and I would want to be friends with.

Now, let’s talk about the stable and goodhearted men:

They need a teammate in life and love.

They need someone they can count on, confide in, and work together with in order to achieve the life you’ve both dreamed of. Just like you have in any successful sport team, teamwork plays a vital role.

You might start a business together.

You might have separate careers.

You might be a stay at home mom or dad while your partner brings home the bacon.

You shouldn’t bother about what people will think and say about you or your relationship, only that it works for you as a couple.

That’s what the best teams in the world do: They figure out each individual member’s strengths and then put them in positions to capitalize on their strengths.

2. Men need their self.

This is important for both of you. In that you both need your own self/identity, but you also both need each other to have your own self.

A lot of men are trying pretty hard to get a woman’s attention that they sacrifice who they really are in the process. They do whatever they think she wants, mold themselves to her and sacrifice time with friends or family or doing the things they love.

Spending time with your partner is as important as yourself discovery. But you should also have your own passions and interests that bring you joy outside of the relationship. Remember there was a you before the relationship.

You treat your relationship and your partner like your only source of existence and that’s not good enough. If you do so, you’ll put yourself under a lot of pressure.

The challenge for most men and women is developing this identity in the first place.

Most people make decade’s worth of decisions based on making a partner happy, making money, raising kids or something that is totally outside of themselves. It is a noble course for sure, but there need to be limits to everything worth doing and doing well. Be sure that each decision you make is in alignment with your values and beliefs.

They are challenging to implement right? Absolutely.

Are they necessary for your own happiness and fulfillment? 100% yes.

3. Men need to feel desired.

Have you heard the phrase; “women don’t need men!”

That’s right, men are well aware that women don’t need them, and that’s why many are facing existential crises.

To be sincere, I believe it’s men’s fault. We’ve held on so long to the belief that we need to take on certain roles and responsibilities in relationships that it’s stunted our ability to grow and evolve with the times.

Though, the point here stands. Men still need to feel like they have a purpose. You know, a task or you can call it a mission. This is a way men naturally contribute to life and the relationships.

This is only becoming worsened by the lack of need itself. Men aren’t getting that “fix” of “being the man” in the relationship.

As a result, lots of men are questioning the value they bring to their relationships. They’re questioning themselves. They’re always left wondering where their place is and it takes a toll on them all.

“So, what are women supposed to do? Should they pretend like they need men sometimes just to make them feel better?”

Hmmmm, maybe yes.

On a more serious note, guys of this generation don’t need such. They like to open your door, pull out your chair and help themselves seat comfortably. They like to carry all of the groceries in a single trip. They like to contribute to your life and make your days easier. Is that too difficult to understand?

Asking for his help, even if you don’t need it is going to make him feel like he has a purpose and a place in your life. Common, we all know you can carry your own groceries, but then, just ask for his help. It is another great way to start a conversation with someone of interest.

Naturally, women often have natural instinct to be nurturing, caring and have biological urges to have children.

Men on the other hand, don’t understand that either, but they have similar biological urges in the ways of wanting to provide and protect. So, even if you don’t need his help, just ask.

Read up here:
https://www.juilal.com/2022/12/10-thought-provoking-needs-men-have-in.html?m=1

The Most Important Factor in a Relationship Is Not Communication, But Respect.

What I can tell you is the #1 thing . . . is respect. It’s not sexual attraction, looks, shared goals, religion or lack of, nor is it love. There are times when you won’t feel love for your partner. But you never want to lose respect for your partner. Once you lose respect, you will never get it back.

1. Keep a promise/secret, no matter how minute.
2. Have integrity/ moral principles.
3. Don’t gossip.
4. Be consistent.
5. Be honest.

How else to be a more trustworthy person

While these are a few key things you can focus on to be a more trustworthy person, there are other small things that you can do as well.

6. For instance, if you spend more time with good people, you will be less inclined to do untrustworthy things such as gossip, and go back on your word because you will be surrounded with people that won’t tolerate that.

7. If you hang out with positive people that are also reliable and honest, you are more likely to reflect those behaviors.

8. As well, do some homework and find out what exactly people think about you. You can candidly ask people in your life how trustworthy they perceive you to be. Be careful, you might get some brutally honest answers. But, even if you do get some harsh feedback, take that and go with it and work on yourself.

The best that we can do is learn from our mistakes and try to improve ourselves as individuals. Being a trustworthy person is difficult, but it is often the kind of character that other people want to be around and aspire to be.

Being trustworthy and dependable may take a while to grow on you, but when you make a conscious effort and keep these 8 traits that make a person trustworthy in mind, you’ll soon be the person that’s admired, respected and trusted by everyone you know.

Read more here:
https://www.juilal.com/2022/07/unique-qualities-that-make-person.html?m=1

You're so so right.

dawnomike:
Nice write-up... It takes a strong will not to cheat nowadays cos, temptation is everywhere you go like MTN.

What's that nagging thought that crawls into your conscience whenever you’re given the opportunity to get into someone else’s bed/panties?

Temptations are all around us, it’s in the air we breathe, on the streets, at work, it is just everywhere you go and it’s easy to have some moment with a complete stranger without getting caught.
why not to cheat

To cheat or not to cheat, that’s the question. Though we’ve heard that severally. But what should you really do when faced with this sweet temptation.

To cheat or not to cheat, that is so much a big question many want to sit on the fence. The truth is, it’s not a question in the real sense but a nagging thought that crawls into your conscience whenever you’re given the opportunity to get into someone else’s bed/panties.

So should you cheat or do all you can and resist the temptation?

First thing first: Understanding the temptation:

You need to understand why the temptation? Because you know the answer to the question already and it’s: Don’t cheat!

But in this article, I’m not going to tell you to cheat or not, just read along.

Cheat if you must. Don’t cheat if you can. You like that right? But at the end of the day, it’s you that has to evaluate it and understand the real difference.

Have you ever cheated on your partner? If you haven’t, you should know that once you do without being caught, you’ll never really be able to forget about it. You may be able to put the thought away, but it’ll always haunt you for as long as you stay in the relationship. And if you’ve cheated already, you’ve been there. But how do you feel about it now? Feeling great about yourself?

Facts about Cheating:

1. Cheating is fun and very easy.
Cheating is fun and easy with such a sexy rush plus the adrenalin that comes with it. With the hectic lives we lead these days, it’s really easy to cheat on your partner or have an affair and get away with it.

If you’ve been naughty conversations or flirting with someone outside the relationship for a while, and the flirting turns to petting and even phone sexing, it’s only a matter of time before hands start slipping inside each other’s panties. And when it does happen, the experience could be one of the best you’ve ever had in your entire life. And the very best part is that you get away with it.

2. Falling in love with someone else – so you think.
Some affairs are purely sexual and some, well, they can get rather complicated. It all starts with a bit of flirting and long conversations. And then you convince yourself to start to believe you’re in love with someone else.

If you do cheat and get into their bed or even exchange a kiss, it may remind you of everything that’s missing in your own relationship, the affection, the weak knees, and all those happy feelings.

Here is to cheat…

Let’s admit it for ones, cheating is fun. Imagine the sexual attraction that builds up before you actually do anything with your secret lover, is even more fun.

With all the happy lights flowing out of every jaws of cheating, cheating on a partner seems like a fun thing to do right? I could even advice you to go for it and have a wonderful time, and just don’t get caught.

But now is where we look at the other side of this joyful story on cheating - it ends with an orgasm

3. It ends with an orgasm.
In almost all cases, you cheat because of the sexual excitement, the rush for it is killing. You just want to do it, like a hungry lion finally having a feast. You guys may have worked out the perfect time and place, and finally you find yourself in bed, naked and sweaty, and so full of passion it makes you go blind with horniness, oh my goodness, you just got to cloud 9..., but it just ended. You’re done. Finally you can breathe.

It may feel really good, but it will end just as soon as you orgasm. Isn’t that the final bus stop or destination of your weeks or months of nurturing and building the excitement, but as soon as you orgasm, it’ll all come to a grinding halt. You know how it feels when you suddenly step on the brakes?

4. Your memory is back.
And if you do love your partner, whether you want to or not, you’re going to remember them just moments after reaching cloud nine and suddenly hit the flour. And it’s not always a happy thought. In almost all cases, you’ll be consumed with a devastating sense of guilt even if you push that thought away.

5. Is it worth it?
To cheat or not to cheat? There’s only one answer to that question. You do want to cheat and that’s why the thought keep popping.

Cheating on a partner gives you a high that a drug addiction may give you (hard drug). You’ll hate it as soon as you do it. But a day or two later, you’d want it again. There’s no escaping out of an affair, unless one of you start to get uninterested or lose the sexual craze.

It’s such a little thing, an orgasm, and you’re willing to throw your loving relationship of months or years away just to experience an orgasm with someone else. Is it really worth it? Throwing away your loving relationship over excitement for some minutes. You decide.

Here is to not to cheat

6. If only I could turn back time.
Again, is it worth it? Cheating on a partner and getting away is pretty easy if you’re smart right? But that memory of cheating will always exist. And almost all cheaters say the same thing… if only I could turn back time.

It may seem like fun, but once it’s all done and a few months have passed by, you’ll feel stupid about it even if you aren’t caught. And every time you think about it, you’ll realize how much happiness you could have gotten out of your own relationship if you could have devoted the same time and energy on your own partner.

7. How would you feel if your partner were in your shoes?
Now I’m not trying to take you on a guilt trip, but you need to think about it all before you make up your mind on cheating. How would you feel if you found out that your partner has been cheating on you? Think about it twice or even thrice.

Imagine how angry and disgusted you would feel if you could hear those words that are exchanged in the heat of the lusty moment? Would you ever forgive your partner or forget the words they spoke?

Then relate that feeling and thoughts to what would happen if you get caught?

You may have been very careful to erase all the signs of the affair. No late night texts/calls, no phone calls/text at all, no social media messages, etc while abiding on a set rule: meet only at lunch hours, after closing hours, etc.

But luck is funny or should I say karma is a B.TCH? And somehow, your partner get to know that you cheated on them. How would they react? Your loving relationship may end for ever, and even if it doesn’t end, it’ll never ever be the same unless a miracle holds both of you together.

So, is it worth it?

Before you cheat on your partner, ask yourself if you’re ready to lose your relationship for an orgasm. It is like losing your birthright over a cup of coffee.

8. Cheating without cheating.
If you truly value your relationship, DON’T CHEAT. Those few minutes of sex and orgasms are just not worth it. Think about it.

If you do want to bring more pleasure and fun into your sex life, look for ways to keep the relationship exciting. You could fantasize with your partner.

If you and your partner trust each other, learn to be honest about each other’s sexual interests and talk about it while having sex. Talk about your fantasies even if it involves another person. It’ll help you get over the obsession and bring both of you closer too.

9. End the relationship.
Sexual frustration and the urge to cheat on a lover can at times ruin perfectly happy relationships. If you see no way to keep the love alive, then end the relationship instead of cheating and breaking your partner’s heart. Make up your mind on the way forward and stick with your decision.

So, should you cheat or not cheat? Avoid cheating and look for ways to bring that excitement into your own relationship in a manner that can keep both of you happy.

To cheat or not to cheat? Well, always remember to consider what you’d gain and what you could lose before jumping into another bed. You know your options now. Think about it and make up your own mind.

https://www.juilal.com/2022/05/to-cheat-or-not-to-cheat-9-guide-to.html?m=1

This is a topic with so many contradictions. Many are shy to talk about it yet they are fully engaged in the act. This post may seem different from what you have been reading on this blog. But there is never a wasted knowledge.


Feeling Hot in bed and want some sexy time? Here’s everything about pillow humping and the different techniques you can use to know how to pillow hump!

We’re looking at the art of pillow humping, why women do it and the techniques you can use to learn how to hump a pillow and moan your way to the best solo orgasms.

The thought of pillow humping might sound silly and awkward, but the fact is most people have done it at one point or another.
As a girl going through puberty, odds are, you had to find new and exciting ways to touch yourself without the convenience of running to the store and picking up toys. Here comes pillow humping.

You’re lying in bed, feeling tingly and Hot all at the same time, and you just don’t know what to do or how to find a release of this over whelming feeling. In fact, you don’t even know what or how exactly you’re feeling because it feels all weird and nice at the same time.

During one of these moments, you unintentionally grab a pillow and placed it in between your legs and roll about on the bed, because somehow it seems like a good idea to just roll over it the pillow.

And suddenly, you realize it feels good. Like really good. You move the pillow around a bit more, and bang, it feels better, even way better than expected. And then before you know it, you’re grinding the pillow like a sex object/doll. And that is usually your first introduction to pillow humping.

So, what is pillow humping?

What is pillow humping? Or you want to ask: How do you pillow hump?
Well, this technique basically involves a woman mounting a pillow and grinding herself to orgasm. Kind of like dry humping without a human company.

Why do people hump inanimate objects?

Strange as it sounds, humping inanimate things usually starts during childhood. This does not mean it has to be sexual. Psychologists and parents agree that many children start displaying sexual behavior early. So many things have changed and children are not left behind.

This can manifest itself through simulated intercourse like dry humping/pillow humping, and basically dry humping or grinding against household objects because it is readily available. More reason to keep an eye on your kids because you don’t just know what they are up to.

This is common for children in the 9-12 age range. However, children’s ages vary for discovering their bodies. You’d be surprised to know how many people carry their pillow humping habits into adulthood.

Pillow humping for girls: The different ways and methods of pillow humping
You don’t need a intimacy gadget to pillow hump. If you’re still living under your parent’s roof, or are just too shy to head to a sex shop and buy a intimacy gadget, pillows are an alternative.

Curious to know how to hump your pillows to orgasm? We’re always here to help. Here are the tips and tricks on how to make yourself cum with your very own pillow.

1. Corner of the bed.
Some girls like taking a pillow and placing it on the corner of their mattress while humping their pillows. This way, they can grind against it while standing and get more friction from the mattress edge than they would if the pillow were just lying flat on the bed.

2. The triple (3) stack method.
This pillow humping method involves stacking three pillows one on top of another, and mounting them. Using a rocking motion, grind back and forth until you find a rhythm that gets your cruise running.
You may feel a bit out of balance at first, but you will feel like you’re lying on top of someone, which is pretty close to the idea of dry humping.

3. The stuffed animal, eg teddy beer.
Ever wonder why many girls keep stuffed animals on their bed well into our 20’s? We have a disturbing answer: They might be humping the stuffed toys and that is so true for many girls.
Stuffed animals, body pillows, or oversized stuffed animals are great for humping because they have different shapes and other features that can spice up a humping session.
For example, their button nose can be the perfect button for clitoral stimulation.
And the best part is, as a girl, you can literally buy any stuffed toy keeping the specific shape in mind. And no one but you would have a clue what your real intentions are.

4. Shape your pillow like a body.
Sounds creepy right? But it really does make all the difference. While pillows are great sex alternatives, they don’t give you that body-on-body connection you get from a partner.
So you can set up your pillows until they resemble a body shape on your mattress. This allows you to cuddle up against the mound while you grind away and give you a fabulous up close and personal feel like you’re actually having sex you’re your partner underneath you.

5. Ride the pillow.
Fold the pillow in half to make it firm. Now squat on it like you’re riding the pillow, and grind against the folded pillow.
If you need to visualize it, just imagine being on top while having sex, but with a pillow instead.

6. Traditional pillow humping.
Place your pillow in the middle of your mattress, under your pelvic area, and start grinding with your legs as spread apart as you can get them.

7. Fold that fluff.
Another popular method of pillow grinding is to fold the pillow in half before mounting. This will make your pillow firmer and easier to get friction from.

8. Be loud.
On average, women are noisier and louder in bed than men. That doesn’t mean being loud is only for the benefit of a partner’s ears! People make noise during sex because it feels good, not because it sounds good. Unless they’re faking it.
Regardless, don’t be afraid to get a little loud during your humping session. It’ll feel that much hotter and you’ll feel much hornier too.
Note: Don’t do this if there are other people in the house!

9. Take it off.
Even if you keep your underwear on, try removing your shirt and bra. Lean forward and grind against your pillow and feel the fabulousness of your breasts bounding against the pillowcase as you grind back and forth.

10. Widen those labia.
If you’re grinding with panties on, try spreading your labia and setting your vagina against the pillow with it spread. This allows more direct stimulation for the clitoris.

11. Put on silky panties.
When you’re completely aroused, grinding can feel amazing with no clothes on. But, until you hit that point, it may be too much pressure and might bruise your clit.
Instead, try grinding with silky panties on. This allows you to slide against the pillow with ease and will be gentler on your sensitive areas.

12. Add another component.
Stack your pillow under your hips, or wherever is most comfortable. Then, try adding a new element to the mix such as a vibrator or empty shampoo bottle. Place the phallic object underneath the pillow.

Placing it underneath will create an arch for you to grind against and more closely resemble grinding against your partner.
Pillow humping is pretty straightforward. Just jump on your pillow, start grinding and get those orgasms on.

The key features leading to orgasm are a soft but resistant mound creating friction while conforming to the woman’s body, and tension in the vagina and thighs from all that grinding.

https://www.juilal.com/2022/07/pillow-humping-12-pillow-humping-method.html?m=1

EdricBond:
Stay out completely! Nigeria no dey smile at anybody at all!
The guy below is already losing it !

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Most adults grow up watching movies where women are portrayed as princesses and men as their knights in shining armor conquering war after war. In some other romantic movies, the lovely couples are portrayed as perfect couples and eventually rides off into the sunset in a country side home or to Beverly hills and become neighbors with maybe a top celebrity and live happily ever after.

But no one actually teaches us the things we need to do to have our “happily ever after” in any part of the world we decide to call our home.

Here are 15 things you can do to have the greatest relationship ever:

1. Treasure and honor your connection.
2. Don’t expect any form of perfection from your partner.
3. Talk with your partner about how much impact you have on each other.
4. Look at a fight with your partner with the eye of an outsider looking inward.
5. Grow friendship before partnership with your partner.
6. Discuss with your partner on building more closeness by practicing empathy.
7. Know that emotional damage can wreck relationships.
8. Support each other’s hopes and dreams.
9. See if you can each share what you need most.
10. Give your relationship the best attention.
11. Have a shared relationship goal and find a way to achieve them together.
12. Create rituals/moments in your relationship.
13. Help each other in any little way.
14. Don’t take things too seriously.
15. Equate your partner’s needs with yours.

If you only worry about your needs and you ignore your partner’s, then they will eventually grow bitter. People need to know that their partner loves them enough to put them first‒at least some of the times.

Source: http://www.juilal.com/2020/11/how-to-have-greatest-relationship-of.html?m=1

It drives one crazy and eventually both of you. Asking for the same thing over and over again is not fun. Repeating yourself makes you feel like a nag and maybe you are one. It also makes the other person feel bad about themselves. There’s a way around nagging that won’t hurt any reasonable person.

Quitting nagging and start talking is not as complicated as it seems. It’s really easy. First you have to acknowledge your fault, accept them and be willing to change for good. Know that it’s not about competing with your significant other.

Take your time and gradually open up those good lines of communication and adjust your expectations. I mean if you have them up there, bring them down a little and if possible, a little further.

See the steps on how to stop nagging and learn how to open a healthy conversation with your significant other.

1. Relationship is about shared decision.

One of the easiest ways to stop nagging is by getting your partner involved. Relationship is equal to partnership.

Partners don’t solve problems individually but collectively for greater good. When you’re married or in a serious relationship, you’re partners, not parents to one another.

He isn’t your father neither is she your mummy. Stop Mummying your spouse and fathering them, telling them what to do, when to do and how to do it.

Your job in a serious relationship and in marriage is to come together as one and work at healthy conflict resolution. This might not be easy from start but it’s all about you two having an understanding of how you want your relationship to be. The ideal thing to do is to identify the problem you’re having in a kind and respectful manner without hurting the other and then ask your partner to weigh in on how to resolve the conflict.

Meanwhile, have this in mind that great problem-solving are communication, empathy, and listening to one another.

2. Be mindful of your words.

It’s normal to feel frustrated or angry at your partner or yourself if you feel your partner is not pulling their weight around the house. It’s okay to feel that way. In all, don’t put your partner on the defensive, else you’ll hate yourself.

There’s a way to avoid putting your partner on the defensive and it’s as simple as listening. Take a moment and listen to the way you normally ask your partner for help. What’s your tone like when you ask for their assistance? What’s your body language too? Do you ask for your partners help while been distracted? Do you look at them while requesting for their help? Do you ask for your partners’ help with a commanding tone?

Your words/body language and the way you make requests of your spouse matter. Instead of making them feel guilty while making a request, phrase it in a way that makes them feel special and they’ll do all you asked for.

Try these lines: “I’d really appreciate your help with…”

“It always makes me feel great/special when…”

“You’re my superhero when you…”

These phrases are great conversation starters and can even lead to hours of great conversation between you two.

Other than your spouse, you can also use these lines/phrases to ask for help from anyone.

3. Make your significant other hear you.

With reference to #1, no partner wants to be a nag. The argument is avoidable if the spouse did what they asked the first time right? And this would effectively stop nagging.

The best way to get your significant other to listen to you and avoid nagging is to get them to see things from your perspective. You might need to be a little creative here. Relate your situation/feelings to something they can understand. Our level of understanding varies and that of your spouse might be way lower than yours. But don’t treat them like second class.

Take a look at those you call your mentor, leaders, etc. they all try to convey their message(s) in the best possible way so their followers will understand them. They drive their points with stories (long or short), theirs or fictional stories. The bottom line is making the other person understand you.

One stay-at-home mom and homemaker (house wife) worked hard to keep her home neat and tidy, but her husband would come home and walk through the freshly mopped floors with his dusty shoes on. She asked him to take his shoes off repeatedly, but he could never seem to know why his pretty wife repeatedly asked him to take his shoes off in his home.

One faithful day, she said to him in a gentle voice, “Keeping the house clean is my job, just like doing your job in your office. When you come home and walk through the house with your shoes on after I just finished cleaning it, it’s as if I came to your office and ripped down the wallpaper in your office every day. Do you see how I could find this really disturbing and frustrating at the same time?”

She simply used an example the husband could understand best and this made the husband more empathetic to her desires and was willing to stop that habit with the help of his wife. They came up with an idea. A little sign was written at the front understood only by them to remind him to take off his shoes before entering the house. And guess what? She had her peace… everyone is happy.

4. There’s no such thing as mind reading.

We all have this one bad habit of believing that, after a while, our partner knows us so well that they should be able to understand what we want without ever having to tell them. It’s a 50/50 chance if your partner predicts what could be going on in your mind.

Marriage therapist all over the world will tell you that your partner cannot read your mind. That if you ever need something from them, you should ask for it.

You could use body language to tell your partner your needs or you can send out cues that you want A, B or C, but if they don’t understand where you’re driving to by the time you get to D, it’s about time you communicate with your words. Tell them straight up what you want.

5. Do it yourself (DIY), if possible.

Nagging could be decreased by asking yourself if what you’re about to say is worth getting upset over.

If you really want to stop nagging without external interference, it’s possible. You simply need to learn how to make a request differently. Speak with love and respect and work on building empathy in your relationship. Every relationship needs empathy.

6. Take a marriage course.

Some people see marriage course as a curse. No, it’s not. The need to nag comes down to a fundamental lack of communication in a relationship. When both partners are open and honest about their needs/feelings, conversation flows naturally and partners look for ways to help each other out – instead of being told to do so over again.

There’s a difference between seeing a marriage therapist and going for a marriage course. One is like a school while the other isn’t.

There’re both online and offline courses designed to help couples understand each other better.

Some topics covered in online marriage courses include the following: mastering the art of communication, intimacy, setting shared goals as a couple, building compassion and empathy, sharing traditions, etc.

Good communication is key to any successful relationship, and it’s especially more important for partners. Sometimes, we may feel like we’re communicating properly, without knowing that our partner is already hearing us nagging.

Carry out a personal assessment of yourself and avoid this plague.

Twelfthman:
All is fair in love and war

Awesome. I love this... Gracias..

Everyone is different, each one of these points will look differently depending on the individuals. These are what I draw from my experiences. Comments are encouraged below. Negative ones won’t be deleted either. Smiles.

So, here are some psychological facts about love, crushes and friendship you should know.

1. Giving a woman independence is a love enigma. The more independence you give her, the more she feels drawn to you.

2. You can easily know if a woman loves you by looking at her body language when another woman is looking at you while smiling.

3. Surprising a woman with intimate gifts like a bathrobe, new undies, etc triggers the same feelings of love like just before the first romantic encounter.

4. You can revive a numb relationship by frequently spending time together on a trip, going to a picnic, etc.

5. Women can easily make their men remain faithful by buying them surprise gifts like a watch, a shirt, a pair of shoes, underwear or a new shirt.

6. Women experience psychological pleasure first before they experience it physically. While men experience physical pleasure first before they experience it psychologically.

7. One of the ways of making a woman feel loved is by stimulating her mind and making her feel the love experience by words of affirmation like “I love you” and other love languages as peculiar to her.

8. Making a woman feel loved, beautiful, and appreciated means a great deal to her.

9. Looking into your partner’s eyes and holding eye contact during sex and pre-intimacy can make them feel far more turned on and excited than if your eyes were closed.

10. When two people cuddle or hug each other for a while, the brain releases oxytocin hormones that help relieve migraine and calms the nerves for up to four hours.

11. “The Lady In Red” - Men are psychologically turned on by women on red dresses. The color red is strongly linked to desire and attraction in men.

12. The first impression and eye contact are some of the most effective ways of attracting someone. Most people fall in love through eye contact during the first 30 seconds.

For instance, it is reported that women wear red clothes more often during the fertile phases of their menstrual cycle. Could that be why men are psychologically turned on?

13. You gradually fall in love with someone you spend a lot of time with.

This phenomenon is known as the exposure effect. Exposure Effect is a psychological phenomenon by which people tend to be attracted to each other the more time they spend together.

14. People are more likely to be attracted to those who are just as attractive as they are. This is known as the Matching Hypothesis.

Studies show that if you are attractive, you might want to be with the most beautiful/handsome person in the neighborhood, at work, etc.

15. Changing the curtains of the room where you frequently make love has the same psychological effect as making love in a different room.

16. Taking someone on a first date that gets their heart pumping like a roller coaster ride, fast car, motorcycle ride or a movie thriller spikes their adrenaline, tricking them into believing they enjoyed spending time with you more than with any other person.

17. The one who cries with you in your pain will hardly workout on you.

18. Testosterone is a powerful male hormone that attracts women by the odour it produces. Wearing a cologne that simulates that same odour can make your woman strongly fall in love with you over again.

19. The link between humor and intelligence has for a long time fascinated psychologists.

Women are emotionally, psychologically drawn to funny and humorous men. Women love to be happy, therefore, a man who makes them laugh draws them like a magnet.

21. With reference to #12, looking in strangers’ eyes frequently can lead them and eventually fall in love with you. A study involving 72 undergrad students showed that staring into a stranger's eyes can make you form an attachment, despite never even talking to them.

22. Holding hands with your significant other reduces mental and physical pain.

23. With reference to #22, looking at the picture of your significant other deeply, provides some sought of relief to the mind.

24. Out spoken females and quiet males tend to make the best couples. Though they might need to compromise at some issues just as it is peculiar to every relationship. “Understanding is key”.

24. A person who has been cheated on once is less likely to fall in love with someone else.

25. Relationship with those of opposite nature/behavior tend to last longer than those with similar ones. “The balance is key here”.

26. Men tend to love faster than women, though they might not express their feelings immediately.

27. Seeing your love can automatically raise your heart beat.

28. Love can decrease your vision, making you to understand only things that you can interpret or imagine.

29. It’s a great feeling being loved back by the person you love.

30. Love makes the fastest bond between individuals.

31. Most often boys make the first move. But, if she does, then, no one can love you more than her.

32. Most people can't make eye contact with their crush.

33. A relationship should last more than four months to be a true love story.

34. Love can be addictive.

35. Tears caused by loved ones has the most painful feeling.

36. Someone who has never been in love before 16 is too judgmental and picky when it comes to finding love.

37. Not speaking with the one you love for more than 48 hours can make you feel homesick or terribly lonely.

38. Unexpected and unplanned stories of love last for a longer time.

39. According to experts, a birthday wish from loved ones produces a vibe in our body which can increase almost 10 days of our lives.

40. You always relate to a person you love with your best songs.

41. True love can wait for several years to get in a relationship with the one they love.

42. The reason behind successful teenagers love, heartbreak movies and songs are the true life heartbreak stories of humans.

43. One of the reasons behind depression is unsuccessful love stories.

44. Appearance and Social Status matter less if you have liked someone due to their good behavior or great personality.

45. Some people can't bear the loss of loved ones and eventually die after a few months or years due to mental or physical illness or deep loneliness.

46. The more you ignore the one you truly love, the more you fall for them.

47. Relationships are ruined as a result of misunderstanding and lack of mutual understanding.

48. Heartbreak after true love is equally painful as physical pain.

49. People say that trust is very important in a relationship. But, it's a false concept. Time is the most important thing. With time grows the trust, friendship, you grow together, immense and inseparable bonds.

50. After learning the name of your crush, does it suddenly appear everywhere? It’s like they’re stalking you.

This phenomenon is called The Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon. Also known as frequency illusion.

51. If you love someone, your brain overlooks and ignores the flaws of that person causing them to appear perfect.

52. Shy people tend to be more modest which is considered an attractive trait by many.

53. With reference to #34, passionate love is like an addiction. For better or for worse.

54. Love inspires creativity. It changes how you think. It opens your mind by stimulating creative thought. This new way of thinking shapes the way you analyze and process both emotions and experiences.

55. With reference to #54, our creativity when in love could be expressed in the art of writing, painting, etc.This eventually become one of the ideal medium of expressing your love and those other new and complicated feelings you just can’t express with words.


56. Men tend to lower their voice when they talk to their crushes and they get pretty loud when they’re excited.

57. Absence of your love makes the heart grow warmer and sometimes, a brief absence of your love creates a stronger attraction.

58. Opposite attract is real. Being similar in so many ways is not always the best recipe for true love. Love needs conflict to survive sometimes.

59. With reference to #58, conflict creates passion, interest and curiosity. It breeds compromise and allows you to learn from your partner not only does this strengthen your connection but it also keeps your love on its toes. Though this is largely dependent on your partners wiliness to learn new stuff about your and you doing likewise.

60. The butterflies you get in your stomach when you see the person you’re in love with is actually a stress response. This stress response is caused by adrenaline rush.

61. You get a woman’s attention with your appearance while personality locks her heart-in.

62. Love relieves stress. After a long day, one act of love such as holding your loved one’s hand can transform your mood and melt your stress.


63. If a girl likes you, she’ll play with her hair when talking to you. Though not applicable to every girl.

64. Based on triangular theory of love, perfect love is a combination of passion, commitment and intimacy.

65. Mimicry is a sign of attraction. If you mimic the gesture of your crush, it would make him/her closer to you. Just don't overdo.

66. If you want to create an instant link to your crush, say his/her name at least twice in the conversation.

67. In your mind, you have tried your crush's last name - admit it.

68. 2 in 5 women suffer from anuptaphobia. The fear of never finding love.

69. Pretending or trying not to miss the one you love tricks your mind into missing them more.

70. Beautiful ladies are often less likely to be asked out because most men tend to be intimidated by their beauty.

71. Having a conversation with the one you love will improve your mental strength.

72. Research has shown that men and women tend to fall for each other in dangerous situations than in unexciting surroundings.

73. You’ve probably had an imaginary conversation in your head with your crush. It usually goes better than any real conversation you might have with them.

74. From experts, over 60% of people change their looks after a break up.

75. Cuddling is great and cuddling with your loved one triggers a reaction in the brain similar to taking pain killers.

76. You can love two people at the same time but never at the same level.

77. Love changes you, guides you and sometimes, destroys you in mysterious and powerful ways you can’t phantom.

78. Love is a double-edged sword. Sometimes it keeps us safe and happy. Other times it cuts us up and cuts us down.

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Source: http://www.juilal.com/2020/10/what-are-some-psychological-facts-about.html?m=1

virginprincess:
Really a long write up, but i read it too the end, and i must say, you really tried, thumps up.

Thanks dear.

Guys can be confusing creatures sometimes. Puzzled if he like you or not? If you’re searching for vital signs he’s falling hard for you, you’re at the right place.

It’s quite confusing sometimes to know where you stand in a relationship at the early stage especially if you’ve being in the friend zone for a long time. To help you deal with the confusion, it’s best to try and figure out where you stand.


I’m sure you don’t want to ask the guy outright like ‘hey, do you love me? What feelings do you have for me? Instead, I’ll suggest you look out for signs he’s falling head over heels.


The truth is that the first few months of any new relationship can be confusing or puzzling and could leave you in some serious doubt about everything including your friend zone.


You might even ask yourself “if it’s even a relationship”? You’re not sure if you’re exclusive, and you’re confused about asking. You’re not sure of its destination and you’re really terrified to even drop hints of your feelings regarding the relationship.


Sometimes you just want to fast forward past those first few months and get to the comfortable zone where you’re sure of your place in your partners’ life.


To be honest, those first few months are pretty exciting too. They’re full of mystery, charm, fun, etc. Once you’ve been together a few years you might find yourself thinking back reflectively about those fun first few months.


Here are the signs he’s catching feelings for you


Note that these signs are not in any particular format or arrangement. Some signs are more obvious than others. What is important is that you look for more than a sign, maybe two or more before drawing a conclusion and you’re on solid ground. Take a pen and tick as many of these signs he’s catching feelings for you.


1. He spends his spare time with you.

Let’s be honest, most guys have many friends to hangout with or be alone if they so choose. They only have to snap their fingers and their friends come running especially when there’re freebies. Now, if this guy is choosing to spend his spare time with you, that’s a great deal. Of course, he shouldn’t spend all his time with you, but if you notice he’s spending more and more of his spare time by your side or on phone calls/text and chat, you’re 100% onto a winner plus other signs.


2. He pays attention to little details.

Did you tell him something insignificant that happened when you were a child? Or something you witnessed when you were out? If he remembers it a few weeks down the line, that’s a great sign and a big deal you want to hold on to. Simply remembering little details about you means he’s paying attention. Even if it’s your appointment with the dentist, gynecologist or the hairstylist, you should not take those for granted.


3. You’re always catching his eyes taking a glance.

It’s so true that you can’t catch the eye of someone who’s not looking at you in the first place. So if he’s staring at you in a cute way, that’s a clear sign there’s something building up deep within him and that’s some serious feelings for you.


Note that there is cute staring and altogether weird staring. Cute staring will leave you blushing/feeling shy and at same time, wanting more glances while the weird stare will make you uncomfortable or irritated. So let’s hope you get the former, and not the latter glances.


4. He kisses you with meaning.

There is a difference between kissing someone and actually kissing someone. If there is definite passion behind his kisses then he’s trying to communicate his feelings non-verbally. If you feel the same, pick up the pace and show him how much you care in return and if you don’t feel same way, kindly notify him some way.


There’re different types of kisses:

·        A kiss on the forehead is a gentle expression of admiration.

·        A kiss on the hand shows your admiration and passion for someone.

·        French kiss is for your emotions with or without tongue.

·         Single lip kiss is a suggestive kiss that lets the other person know that you are very into them. etc.


5. He looks for no reason at all to touch you.

Does he touch your arm at random, play with your hair, stroke your face, poke your noise, etc. He’s finding excuses to touch you because he just can’t believe his luck and maybe your skin is so tender for him. If he’s pretty cuddly and touchy feely, that is one of the signs he’s catching some feelings. Note that some guys aren’t into touches. So if your soon to be partner isn’t touching you, don’t be upset because that’s fine too. He’ll definitely have a way of sending signals. All you have to do is watch closely for other signs.


6. His friends and family, if not all know something about you.

If you meet his friends and family and they know your job in detail, favorite TV show or series, your best food, etc, he’s been talking to them about how great you are.


7. You receive cute good morning or random texts.

If someone texts you, it is because they thought of you else why will they waste their time and energy texting you? It could be because they want to tell you something in particular or just want to know how you’re fairing. So, if you’re getting some nice, spicy texts, that’s a sign that he can’t get you out of his mind like you encompass his totality.


8. He lets his guard down.

Generally, guys don’t talk about how they feel with just anyone. Guys tend to keep to themselves how they feel. Guys have to trust you first before letting their guard down. This is because they’re not sure how you’ll receive this vital information. So, if he is happy to be a little vulnerable from time to time around you, which most guys won’t permit, e.g. he doesn’t mind talking about his feelings a little, what he’d like to do with you, etc, then he’s certainly into you and looking forward to exploring with you.


Note: If his guard drops around you, occasionally or not is a great sign. But be sure to listen, don’t laugh and be supportive else he won’t tell you how he feels next time. Let him know he can trust you enough to talk about anything and at anytime. Guys want to know you’ll always listen when they come talking just the way ladies do. Sometimes just listening and being a gentle piece in his life is enough to get him to open up even deep and secret things.


9. You are the only one he is talking to.

Most guys are talking to a few other girls beside you at the same time. This is normal for most single guys. However, if you’re the only one he’s talking to in a flirty kind of way and he spends most of his time with you physically or over the phone calling, texting or chatting with, is one of the big signs he’s catching some real good feelings.


What you should bother about now is whether you’re talking to anyone else or not because this is a two way thing.


10. He lets you know he misses you.

If he sends text telling you that he misses you is a deal breaker. This is because someone who doesn’t care isn’t going to bother sending this type of text. Pay attention to what he says because sometimes he won’t come out straight that he misses you. Instead you’ll have to read in between the lines. So, this is another good sign he’s catching some sweet feelings and thinking deeply about you too.


11. He mentions you in his future.

This is not just talking about being engaged or weddings and the like, but about the future in some way that reflects the two of you spending the rest of your lives together, that’s a clear-cut sign he has you in his future. It might be a comment as a joke or a serious comment. What’s important is that he mentioned you in his future. It’s like having a secured number/shirt in a football team.


12. He shows others and brags you’re with him.

There’s a tiny line between showing off and being controlling. Having a controlling behavior includes manipulation. If you notice him holding your hand when you’re in public, picks your hair, helps with your bag/pulse, standing a little closer like a private bodyguard when there are other guys around is a great sign too.

These nice gestures tell other guys to stay clear “she’s taken.” Contrary to this, if he’s being controlling, you should probably let him go because it’s a typical sign of a toxic relationship and find someone a little more respectful so you can have some peace.

The main signs he’s catching feelings might not be all that obvious at first. When combined together as a whole, it points to a relationship moving towards the comfortable stage.


When guys start showing signs they’re catching feelings, approach with caution. This is because not all guys find it easy to open up and be vulnerable to a lady. Carefully looking for these vital signs means you can feel your way into his heart and help you to relax into it.


It is important you feel the same way when these signs come your way and be sure to reflect them back and show your affection too except you don’t feel same way. Be open with your own feelings too.

Source : http://www.juilal.com/2019/10/signs-he-is-catching-feelings-for-you.html?m=1

Officials of Hisbah in Kaduna State have banned girls and ladies in Kuriga Village under Chikun Local Government Area from using or possessing mobile phones and sunglasses.

A resident of the community, who spoke with SaharaReporters, raised the alarm over the increasing repressive activities of the religious police in the region.

He alleged that Hisbah had been ‘frustrating the lives of youths in Kuriga and often carry out severe punishment for moral failings’.

“Hisbah is punishing youths for keeping afro hair and sometimes it is accompanied with beating.

"They have also prevented women and girls from using smartphones, claiming that it is used to spread unIslamic behaviours. They are just terrorising us,” he told SaharaReporters.

Another resident of the town also said Hisbah personnel have prohibited women and girls from using sunglasses.

“They also sometimes storm houses where ceremonies are taking place and punish playing of music, dancing and any form of entertainment,” he said.

Hisbah recently made headlines for shaving off stylish haircuts of young men in Kano, arresting people for improper dressing and seizing tricycles from riders for adorning them with pictures considered to be obscene and against the tenents of Islam.

The agency established to enforce Sharia law in some states in Northern Nigeria, also banned stylish haircuts, sagging of trousers and playing of music at social events by disk jockeys in Kebbi State.

The group also banned commercial motorcycle and tricycle riders from carrying two women at a time.

This is in addition to other unusual directives reeled out by the Islamic police.

Despite condemnation from Nigerians, the group has continued its push for Islamic agenda in the North.

Source: https://ojblitz.com/hisbah-kaduna-laws/

The US Federal Bureau of Investigations (FBI) says it has stopped a plot to kidnap Michigan Governor Gretchen Whitmer.

A criminal complaint unsealed in federal court Thursday said that four of the six men the FBI claims were involved in the plot had planned to “make a payment on explosives and exchange tactical gear” on Wednesday and carry out their plan before Election Day on November 3.

The FBI affidavit claims the men — five from Michigan and one from Delaware — had originally conspired to storm the Michigan State Capitol in Lansing with 200 armed militia members to take over the state government and capture the governor with the intention of putting her “on trial for treason.”

Eventually, they settled on a plan to abduct her at her northern Michigan vacation home and take her to neighboring Wisconsin.

‘All good things must come to an end’
One of the men involved in the group, which the FBI was able to infiltrate, said Whitmer, a Democrat, “has no checks and balances at all. She has uncontrolled power right now. All good things must come to an end.”

The FBI affidavit says the men conducted two reconnaissance runs to the governor’s vacation home at Birch Lake as well as purchasing an 800,000-volt Taser and night vision goggles as part of the plot.

The FBI says two members of the group “agreed to unite others in their cause and take violent action against multiple state governments that they believe are violating the US Constitution.”

Trump’s ‘rallying cry’

Hours after the arrests, Whitmer said US President Donald Trump’s rhetoric has given extremists a “rallying cry,” citing Trump’s failure to explicitly denounce right-wing extremist groups during the presidential debate.

During the debate, Trump told a far-right extremist group known as the “proud boys” to “stand back and stand by.”

“When our leaders speak, their words matter. They carry weight. When our leaders meet, encourage or fraternize with domestic terrorists, they legitimize their actions and they are complicit.

When they stoke and contribute to hate speech, they are complicit,” Whitmer said in a speech.

The criminal complaint gave no indication that the men arrested were inspired by Trump. On Wednesday, White House press secretary Kayleigh McEnany said Trump has “continually condemned white supremacists and all forms of hate.

Accusations of overreach draw armed protesters
Republican lawmakers as well as Trump and his supporters have accused Whitmer of overstepping her office’s powers in her strict approach to the coronavirus pandemic.

In April, Trump tweeted “LIBERATE MICHIGAN!”

Whitmer has justified her actions by pointing to the governor’s emergency powers, which came into effect when she declared a state of emergency in March.

While Republicans initially agreed to extend those powers until April 30, they have fought hard since to undermine her authority by employing legislative tricks and court injunctions in an effort to stymie her.

On October 3, the Michigan Supreme Court handed down a 4-3 majority decision stating Whitmer did not have the authority to extend the state of emergency after April 30.

The governor objected to court’s the decision and its “interpretation of the state constitution,” saying that, “Right now, every state in the union and the federal government have some form of declared emergency.”

The Michigan State Capitol has repeatedly been the scene of boisterous protests in which attendees have entered the building — accompanied by heavily armed far-right and militia members — to threaten lawmakers.

Source: https://ojblitz.com/gretchen-whitmer-almost-kidnapped/

At least 88 people were being treated for minor injuries, according to South Korea’s Ministry of the Interior and Safety. It was not immediately clear if there were any deaths or serious injuries.

Some media outlets showed footage of the building engulfed in flames and slabs of burning concrete falling down to the street.

Hundreds of residents were evacuated from the high-rise building in the South Korean port city, authorities said. Another 77 people, who had escaped to the roof and other spots in the building, had been rescued.

While the cause of the fire is being investigated, the fire is thought to have started between the 8th and the 12th floors. Strong winds helped spread it further up. The fire is now under control.

The southeastern coast of South Korea has been battered by very strong winds and heavy in August and September, with Typhoon Haishen touching down in Ulsan early September.

Source: https://ojblitz.com/high-rise-building-on-fire/

Wizkid has finally replied Lauretta Onochie, who called him out for addressing President Buhari as “old man”.

She earlier tweeted:

“Its not disrespectful to call anyone old. Its the way and manner Ayo Balogun addressed the President that leaves a sour taste in the mouth. He exhibited crass ignorance, insensitivity and childishness. But hey, he’s a #DumbkidNotWhizKid When he grows up, he might learn respect”.

In reply, he reminded her of Buhari’s age, cited himself as a father and expressed his simple demand of good governance.

He wrote:

“lol a 77 year old man is not young ma.. You are a woman and a mother and kids are getting killed by police/sars and this is all you have to say? shame on you!!! shame on you!! I am a father and age has nothing to do with demanding for a better governance in my country!!”


Source: https://ojblitz.com/lauretta-onochie-shamed-by-wizkid/

Popular Nigerian actor and film producer, Bolanle Ninalowo showers praises on his wife, Bunmi Ninalowo who was there for him during his days of being broke.

According to the actor, only those women who stay by their partners when in their least financial state will the ones to enjoy their man’s wealth when he finally hits the jackpot.

In his words, “Na girl wey follow us climb okada go follow us fly private jet… My ride and die from day one.”

Source: https://ojblitz.com/bolanle-ninalowo-lauds-his-wife/

Donald Trump and his wife Melania have tested positive for Covid-19 and will start quarantine barely a month before the US presidential election.

“Tonight, @FLOTUS and I tested positive for COVID-19. We will begin our quarantine and recovery process immediately. We will get through this TOGETHER!” Mr Trump tweeted.

He made the announcement after tweeting that Hope Hicks, one of his closest advisers, had tested positive for coronavirus.

Ms Hicks had travelled with Mr Trump to the first presidential debate in Cleveland, Ohio, on Tuesday and to a campaign rally in Minnesota the following day.

In a television interview with Fox News host Sean Hannity earlier on Thursday, Mr Trump appeared to suggest that Ms Hicks contracted the virus owing to her interactions with “soldiers and law enforcement” who would “come up to her”.

Source: https://ojblitz.com/donald-trump-test-positive/

China has declared a health emergency over Black death plague after a three-year-old boy was struck down by the disease.

The child, from a remote village in Menghai county, Yunnan, was confirmed to be infected by the killer disease on Monday according to Chinese state media reports.

Bubonic plague is a bacterial disease spread by fleas living on wild rodents and can kill an adult in less than 24 hours if not treated in time.

Chinese authorities have now started a level IV emergency response to prevent another epidemic following the Covid-19 outbreak.

The development comes after the discovery of three dead disease-ridden rats in a village in Menghai, China.

Also known as the ‘Black Death’, the disease killed up to 200 million people in the 14 century according to WHO records.

In Mongolia, China’s neighboring country, there has been a Plague outbreak which has seen 22 reported cases, six of which have been confirmed.

A 25-year-old woman was reportedly hospitalised with the disease after eating an infected rodent called a marmot.

Three of the six confirmed cases have died in Mongolia – most recently a 38-year-old man in Khovsgol province earlier this month.

Hunting marmots is illegal in Mongolia, but many regard the rodent as a delicacy and kill it for meat.

The Black Death was an epidemic of bubonic plague which struck Europe and Asia in the 13th century killing more than 20 million people in Europe – almost one third of the continent’s population between 1347-1352.

Advancements in modern medicine mean a similar pandemic is highly unlikely as it can now be easily treated, if caught.

The bacteria can travel through the air as well as through the bites of infected fleas and rats. Bubonic plague can cause swelling of the lymph nodes.

If untreated it could spread to the blood and lungs. Other symptoms included fever, vomiting and chills.

Source: https://ojblitz.com/black-death-plague/

South Africa’s ruling party, African National Congress (ANC) in Mpumalanga on Monday said it was shocked and angry following the arrest of a member in connection with the rape of his two daughters.

Local publication, Eyewitness News did not name the accused to protect the children involved. However, the ANC confirmed he was suspended.

The ANC said in a statement the provincial executive committee (PEC) member was arrested at his home earlier on Monday.

“The ANC in Mpumalanga province has learned with serious shock and anger of the allegations of rape levelled against a PEC member of the ANC in the province,” said ANC acting provincial secretary, Lindiwe Ntshalintshali.

Ntshalintshali said they took allegations of sexual assault extremely seriously.

“The ANC takes these allegations against him extremely serious as the president has characterised gender-based violence, which includes rape, as a pandemic which we should all be struggling to defeat at all cost,” she said.

“The ANC stands with the victims and complainants in this case and assures them that it will do all in its might for justice to be served. We also wish to let them know that the ANC-led government has established different institutions to support victims of rape and all types of gender-based violence and they should feel free to approach those institutions.”

The accused is expected to appear in the Nelspruit Magistrates Court soon.

Source: https://ojblitz.com/anc-member-rapes-daughters/

It is no rocket science to keep your lady emotionally happy. Use your brain tool well to gather cues from what your woman wants of you.

There will be times when she would be very demanding or short-tempered, but then there might be days when she would shower all her love and attention on you.

So, here is a plan outlined for you so that she knows you are there with her at every step, literally.

1. Heart-to-heart conversations
There will be times when she will drop hints on the ‘need to talk’. You have to keep your eyes open and break the ice by intiating conversation. Leave behind the four walls and go out to grab a cup of coffee or go for a morning/evening walk and speak to her. Find out about her day, talk to her about things that make her happy, take her to places where she feels at peace. All these things will make her open her heart out to you. Remember, communication is the most important part of any couple’s relationship.

2. Domestic support
Share the responsibilities of running the household. Whether your partner is a working professional or a homemaker, she still needs your involvement at home. In fact, your involvement must increase manifolds if you have kids. Co-parenting will be comforting because she will not be the only one running around kids all the time. Your involvement at home will comfort her and will keep her emotionally happy.

3. Make love, not sex
Well, physical intimacy is not limited to just one goal! Snuggle up to her, pour in your emotions when you are with her, indulge in some pre-intimacy, and put some thought into playing some fun bedroom games. This will help you cut down the monotony that might be crawling into your bedroom act. And, do not doze off after making love. According to a study in s*xual behaviour at Albright College, Pennsylvania, post-coital cuddle tops a woman’s list of to-do because at that moment she tends to become more emotional.

4. Travel together
Make the most of the times you can take off from work and family, and spend time with each other. Do not starve each other of attention. There can be no better way to shower your love and attention on her than while vacationing together. Surprise her with a weekend getaway (if you don’t have much time in hand) or plan a week-long vacation together. Travel the roads of your relationship together.

5. Downplay ogling
If you are out with her make sure all your attention is on her. If there is a pretty woman who crosses your line of vision, it is best not to ogle. Why on earth would you spoil the evening for a glimpse of a stranger. Try to put yourself in her shoes; how would you react if she was the one staring at some other man? Ouch! Did we hear your heart sink at this very thought? Let us keep things simple, folks. You have got a beautiful woman by your side, treasure her.

6. Admire her
Admiration is one thing that makes a woman feel happy and loved. Whether she is 25 or 50, she will always love compliments, especially when they come from you. So, admire your woman. Compliment her on her looks, her dressing style, her smile, her eyes and everything else. Go beyond the physical attributes as well. Admire her for how she takes care of you and your family, how perfect she is for you, how you love the way she looks at you and handles every problem that arises. All these things are bound to make your lady feel loved and happy.

7. Make her laugh
A woman wants to be with a man who can make her laugh. Sense of humour is an attractive quality in men, and we all know that women really dig that. So, tickle her funny bone and she is all yours! Your woman wants you to uplift her spirits when she is not feeling too well.

Source: https://ojblitz.com/emotional-satisfaction-for-your-partner/

A 44-year-old man from Mbeya, Tanzania has been arrested after he was on Wednesday, September 23, allegedly caught in a lodging facility with his pupil, a 14-year-old girl.

Tanzania’s anti-corruption agency (Takururu) said the suspect, Adelhard Mjingo, who is the head-teacher at Nyaregete Primary School in Mbarali, lured the learner into the guest house after promising to help her pass her final exams scheduled for later this year.

Mbeya Region’s Takururu boss, Julieth Matechi, confirmed the incident, saying Mjingo had booked himself into the guest room with the girl with the intention of defiling her.

“One of the local residents called and informed us that they had seen the teacher entering a lodging facility with an underage girl. We deployed our officers, who went to the lodging and arrested the suspect,” said Matechi.

The girl claimed the head-teacher had threatened to fail her in her final Standard Seven exams if she won’t entertain his sexual advances.

“On the date of the incident, the suspect bade other teachers at his institution goodbye, saying he was going to attend a workshop on vaccination in Rujewa, Mbeya Region. Upon arriving at the seminar venue, he signed the attendance register and left shortly thereafter,” said Matechi.

The head-teacher is reported to have gone to pick the teenager, whom she took to a lodging facility in Mbeya Town.

“We managed to arrest him before he could sexually abuse the girl,” said Julieth Matechi.

The Mbeya region anti-graft boss said the suspect will be arraigned with soliciting sexual favours from a minor.

Source; https://ojblitz.com/headteacher-with-student-sex/

Ghanaian professional singer and songwriter known by her stage name Eazzy; Is on the verge of setting a new fashion trend which i’m sure our slay queens will follow suit in due time.

The Wengeze hitmaker might be the first person in history to wear a nose mask designed type of bikini which appeared bizarre to her twitter followers.

A section of them who found this nose mask-bikini amusing flooded the comments section of her post with hilarious sentiments which will ultimately get you rolling on the floor if you read them.

Is this nose mask designed bikini going to be the new trend in town? Well, time is the best answer!

Source: https://ojblitz.com/facemask-bikini/

Mayng01:
Why should a condom be repackaged for God’s sake.... Nigeria! Shame!!!

not in Nigeria.

A groom  reportedly collapsed after finding out on his wedding day that his wife-to-be has four grown-up children who are all boys. 

The jaw-breaking incident happened as the wedding was going on at a Pentecostal church in Nyansiongo ward, Borabu Constituency in Kisii County, Kenya. 

Identified as Omwenga, had the shock of his life by the discovery, reportedly collapsed and became unconscious as he couldn’t stand the shocking news.

Report claims, Omwenga made serious preparations for the wedding. 

However, the wedding took a dramatic turn for the worse when it came to the exchange of vows and the bride revealed to the man that she had four boys in her previous relationship between the ages of four and 12.

Source: https://ojblitz.com/groom-collapses-during-wedding/

Authorities in Vietnam uncovered a vast number of used condoms being recycled and stocked for sale following a raid on an apartment on Saturday.

According to local market monitors, nearly 324,000 used condoms, equivalent to 360 kilos, were recycled at the facility and would be sold on the market later.

They confiscated all products at the facility, which is located at DX12, Hoa Nhut Quarter, Tan Vinh Hiep Ward, Binh Duong Province, located in southern Vietnam.

Upon their swoop on the illegal production base, all the used condoms were found unpackaged and unlabeled.

Pham Thi Thanh Ngoc, owner of the facility, who comes from Nghe An Province, admitted that she had received a monthly input of used condoms from an unknown person.

The used condoms then underwent a process including washing, drying, and reshaping with a Love Machine in unhygienic conditions before being put up for sale.

Every year, Vietnamese people use 500-600 million condoms, according to statistics.

Using condoms from dubious manufacturing sources poses a huge threat to human health, including severe infection.

A couple of years ago the Centers For Disease Control And Prevention tweeted out a message aimed at sexually active Americans – advising them not to wash condoms. This is not a joke.

The agency tweeted: “Don’t wash or reuse condoms. We say it, because people do it.”

According to the Daily Mail, as many as three per cent of people have tried to re-use condoms and the CDC want to do their job and help reduce the risk of people contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs), they also reminded everyone that prophylactics can be picked up for free at health centres and can only be used the one time.

You might think three per cent (3.3 per cent to be precise) isn’t that many people, but there are a lot of people in the US, so that would still equate to a hefty amount of people going for round two with their rubber friend.

To give those people some credit – and the benefit of the doubt – washing condoms used to be standard practice.

The Sex Pistols (appropriately enough) and Elvis Costello have even sung songs about washing condoms. But that was back in the ’70s, people.

Source; https://ojblitz.com/used-condoms-recycled/