ademola2017:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am in a state of dilemma as my marriage is shaking.

Before we got married, my wife treated me like a piece of shit and never gave me any regards or attention. Any little quarrel would be blown out of proportion and wouldn't talk to me for days. I did the calling always and each time I ask her why she doesn't call, she would say I should get used to it. There was a day when a baseless quarrel occurred, she accused me falsely and we didn't talk for more than two months. I stayed single and was already moving on until her friend came begging on her behalf. I wondered why she didn't come herself but all the same I accepted her back. She changed like she was doing me favor but I still persisted because I loved her genuinely.

Fast forward, we got married and I was hoping for a good future with her. As usual I was very open to her and discussed every issues with her. At a point, I found out the marriage was one sided. I gave more but got little or nothing from her. I never burden her with house chores or cooking at all. We sat always to talk about her attitude but she would say things are fine while I will be grieving and having sleepless nights. She will wake up in the middle of the night to check my phone to know if i was cheating. I swear I have never cheated on my wife... She knows my password and never hid anything from her.
As we went on in the marriage, her behavior became worse and couldn't condone it again. She never saw anything wrong with her attitude and would say her apologizes are expensive.

I decided to do a background check on her and found out she double dated all through when we started dating and gave the guy more attention for 2years of our relationship. When things went bad between them, she fell back to me and unknown to me, I accepted her back. She and her ex were still in good communication till the night I confronted her. She would rather confide in her ex than confide in me (Now husband) Now, I feel so hurt, betrayed and used and can’t trust her again.

She has been very apologetic and says she is ready to change. So if had not found out about her double ways, I will still be condoning her insolent ways. I am seriously finding it hard in my heart to forgive her. Even if I do, I can never ever forget because I do not trust her again.

What will you guys advice?

Don't beg a lady to marry you, just like the way that Diamond guy is busy disturbing us with his girl issue

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Pls any designer in the house, i need a personal website to upload news etc. Can any one help out. Thanks.

"ah ah run, run, blast, bomb, oh God, these boko boys are on the loose again"

"boko boys ke? They are one name like that o, an old islamic movement"

"ahahhhh, so the gun powder Gen. Obasanjo spoke about has finally exploded.

With all the recent happenings in Nigeria, ranging from the wanton killing of peaceful protesters at Onitsha, to the gruesome killing of the shites Muslims in Kaduna, all happening in months after the wind of change took over the wheels of transformation. All of a sudden i nor no longer see or hear 'sai baba' even in the north, ha! What happen. Oh i guess even those who voted in this government, majority are already regretting, but patience please, things will only Get worse with time, if you like say God forbid;
What has this change really been all about, i mean since Buhari came into power, all we have been seeing is massive lay off of workers, the stench of the radical Islamic sect, boko haram gaining more grounds, killing daily at random, young girls and boys used as lethal bombs daily, fuel scarcity, one that have never been experienced since independence, an instance where fuel was sold 400 naira per litre, bias approach in the fight against corruption, and the recent inclusion of Nigeria among Islamic nations to fight ISIS.

Personally, i didn't vote change at the federal level, maybe i would have if i saw more educated and life-exposed persons like Atiku, so i didn't vote buhari, not because he is a Northerner.
I never believed in his promises nor visions, all i could see in him was a man on a final mission, i saw a wounded lion, coming back on a revenge mission, yes a revenge and it has started, i saw a religious fanatic and extremist, i saw the man who made Nigeria ungovernable during the last four years, what more, i can never a man who made the infamous Hitleric quote"... “if what happened in 2011 (alleged rigging) should again happen in 2015, by the grace of God, the dog and thebaboon would all be soaked in blood ”




Now, that's the man who says what he means, it was bore out of deep hatred for the country and mankind, Nigeria has voted in a wounded lion who will keep devouring for the next four years. I laugh when i hear people say buhari wont probe OBJ and others, watch out. The fact a lion sucks the blood of its victim at first, doesn't means it wont crack it bones at the end, he is only saving the best for last.

This country has been plunged into enough crisis already, and our president who is known for doing the wrong thing at the wrong time is fighting the loop-sided corruption, fighting corruption and nothing is working, fighting corruption and increasing electricity tariff, the nation is now a zoo, the animal farm, a country where where the military shoots and kill unarmed peaceful protesters, DSS now murders policemen, citizens are mal handled by security agencies before the press, even after you fulfil condition for bail, you are denied freedom till baba says so. And on a lighter note, a country where an unfortunate zoo lion could be used as sharwama, at least we now have a world record being the first country to create a lion-sharwama, what shame! And as for Bura, the chief of Army staff, the snake farmer, i know you see every body now as snakes, please for God sake, Nigerian are not snakes, killing us at any slightest provocation is totally unacceptable, all of a sudden Elrufai no longer calls it the JONATHANIAN ARMY, oh its now the BUHARIAN ARMY.

Everyday, we sing the national anthem, i get confused, of course its off-course to believe that the present government aim is "to build a nation where peace and justice shall reign. Justice fire! He who lives in a glass house should not throw stones, as far as this is Nigeria, there is no stainless politician, Buhari was sponsored into power by some persons who has case to answer bothering on corruption, some of these persons at the last time i checked are members of the federal executive council, what a bias change, real change is changing the is changing the rules of the game, not the players, please let me talk, few weeks back, some Nigerians were killed at Onitsha during the Biafra Protest, these people were labelled as miscreants, at the later, the untrained personnel did same in the North, this time hell broke loose, the FG of Nigeria sent representatives to apologise and visit the victims for the unprofessional act display by its military. One Nigeria ke? I hear, am only thinking... If Nigeria separate now, where do i belong, will i forfeit Mustapha suya for mama chi-chi okpa, fate will decide.


Its so clear that since the inception of this present government, Buhari has made so many historical blunders, he claimed to be more of a Northern president, and this he justified by the recent, branding ironically, Nigeria an Islamic nation, i dont need to consult Ifa, this is more than fighting terrorism, it is a plot to islamize Nigeria, its a one man show, one man parade. Under IBB, Nigeria became a member of the OIC(Islamic council), and people said it was the act of a military man, now this is democracy and same is happening. It beats my understanding why Buhari will wake up one morning, like the sluggard, Luggard and take actions without been meticulous of due consultation, whats the reason for joining the Islamic coalition, to fight ISIS ha! We never fight boko boys finish, please am i the only worried here, Nigeria is not and cab never be an Islamic country, i will advise baba to thread the path of equity and avoid heating up the polity.


Interestingly, i read online this morning how C. A N protests against the inclusion of Nigeria among the islamic nations to fight isis. Hey CAN, shhhhh, shihhhh, wollop, wollop just wollop, when you were busy dragging the church into politics, using private jets to transport and smuggle cash instead of preaching the gospel, you didn't protest, or Kaduna state PFN, that said God has chosen baba, aha! I gat you. Its time, another Jabin is on course, we wait the return of Deborah, the church has lost it already, its time for the consequence, if nothing is done quickly, it will only be in a matter of months when Britain herself will declare the amalgamation of Nigeria, rather Inconclusive.

I laff, i just pity christians in the north, another boko coming soon. Pls my northern sisters, marry us from Nigerdelta, so u can change location

So nepa nor take light for 23 years, if na naija, E for don brown when nepa show am pepper.

Aliu praying for me

I and Aliu

Usman

It was a great day for me today, defying the foggy and harmattan breeze, i took to the street of Portharcourt to celebrate with my brothers the international day of people living with disabilities. I met one interesting friend Aliu, he told me his wife was pregnant, now we are on our way to his house, wow, believe me, there is ability in disabilities. There were about 25 of them, had to put a smile on their faces, i believe every one is disable in one way or the other. So i think theirs is just visible disabilities.

Pls share the love, One Nigeria.

my people how market, just seeking attention, Aldo Sha it happens. I love to. to but not goat own.

well, let me say, some children are possessed, have you been framed before, I have see children that lie like that, my advice, if you are a guy here, don't allow children especially girls play close to ur lobby, I don't allow them, so of these girls are possess and when they accuse you, you have Nothing to say.
my opinion and it has saved me a lot of troubles

Wow.. Bake, I read your older post, am really sorry, but u did well, No is full of passes, u ask for advice, they end up giving u ropes to hang utself

Aspiregreat:



"By their fruit we shall know them".
I won't exchange Insult with you.because it obvious you have Nothing good out from that assinine heart of yours.You don't worth it.

#BitterTruth.

Guy it's OK, I get her, it's not wickedness, my friend wife once lost her baby, I couldn't tell him, if u check well she needs advice, and has been following them, it's hard tho:she's just a young girl... As for u miss, apologoze

naijaboiy:
Girl no dey rape guy again?

Although this one sounds untrue.

So untrue

PunkyVeer:


Yeah, I'm sure it happens, but how did this one ended up being on top/under an ex? I wanna hear the whole story so I can make sense out of this very unbelievable tale. It make zero sense so far. Nobody roams around nude, numero uno. Deux, unless she tripped & fell onto his dyck in some nudist beach somewhere, there's really no other explanation about how they ended up nekkid, together.

Hmmmmmm

Me too in a way am lost, but I think you shud forgive him since u didn't catch him

PunkyVeer:
Ok, back story, how did they end up without clothes? She must be a rapist as well as a magician if she can clothes fall off man. Craptastic excuse!

Pinky love, pls don't deny for your breed o, they have gone wild, girls now rape guys for real.

Hmm. Your guy is a liar, also, I love that tin, but I can't do it with my ex... Never . Also girls do rape guys now, just let his friend come and explain.
Boys don wise up

miszeno:
I'm seriously in need of an advice.. don't know what to to... I love my husband but I enjoy sex from my neighbor than my husband...

Please advise mi on what to do
I really love my husband.

Big joke

I am here, I do it better than ur neighbor , I know u are joking sha

I wish I was d one to eat that level