if the girl was within the legal age of whichever country you are in and is fully accepting of the situation then i dont see a problem

But!!! if she is under the age of 16 that is defo a BIG issue that needs to be sorted out.

Unfortunately i have to say, its not normal and its termed PAEDOPHILIA which is a criminal offence, seek help before you actually get into trouble, Good luck

I wish it was a script but unfortunately this is my life here, I am terribly upset and worst still I have been ill all through this pregnancy but what can I do ? He read the posting which I wanted him to do so he knew that I knew  and sent me a what's app message saying the marriage is definately over and he couldn't believe he was reading about his life on nairaland ! What am I supposed to do? Beg? As for the baby issue I haven't 100% decided what to do just yet,but God will show me the wAy forward

Fellow nairalanders he has read this posting and texted me that the wedding is off anyways so issue is sorted. Thanks for all your inputs.i will try and rebuild the pieces of my life

His Ex wife was a white English woman , do by law it's illegal and I have seen the divorce papers, but while all this was happening, I am uncertain on if he has another wife in Nigeria.

Nope I don't think he is still married as I have seen the divorce papers, and we are having a registary wedding. It is against the law and a criminal offence to marry someone else whilst you are still legally bound (bigamy). As for the people saying why did I get pregnant again outside wedlock , trust me once you have experienced a miscarriage it messed up your head and you would do anything to reassure yourself that you are fertile and can bear a child like the majority of other women out there. Thanks all in all everyone for your individual advise .

@ coogar Thanks!, thats exactly how i thought to handle it, see what he is playing at quietly because at the end of the day, am the one with lots to loose here

I also read exchanged messages on his facebook, his excitement telling his friends and family how much he loves me and cant wait to have me as his wife,

Thing is i know he is a good catch as he is successful and very well mannered, he used to be married actually and he came out and honestly told me that when he wanted to get a divorce he lied to the woman that another lady was pregnant for him, ( this on its own is a dodgy scenario)


So my concern is, is this a way to let someone else from his past off gently? we have been together less than 2 years and i have not fully lived with him due to work commitments, but i have finally secured a transfer to his area recently,

This is just not good for my pregnancy hormones

@ Arkhin thanks for your advise, just glad someone understands my dilemma, am too embarrased to even tell my closest due to the fear of what might become, really appreciate your advise

should i confront him in person? or just email a copy back to him so he knows i am 100% aware of what he is up to?

to be honest i dont think its a crime so long as both parties set boundaries, fine you can reminisce once in a while about the good old days, but let history stay with history,

I so wish i never read that email, because now i have to confront my worst fears, it doesnt  help that i am pregnant

so you all think its better i confront him before the wedding rather than after?

I saved a copy for myself as evidence so he won't be able to lie about it, am just so scared of what demons i might bring out with my confrontation,

@ Jenifa, i am scared of what i would discover! i havent even told my family for the fear of shame as they all think he is such a wonderful man

But the wedding is in less than 3 weeks

And we have paid over £20,000 towards it already!

i am pregnant and getting married but found out husband composed an email using a fake account in my name, suggesting i am aware he wants to have nothing to do with the baby, has suggested abortion, which i have refused and i am keeping the baby and raising it all on my own, problem is he hasnt mentioned this to me, i only found out mistakenly and dont know if to ask him about what i read

hi nairalanders, i am new to this website as a member, but i love some of the advise given on here hence reason for asking for external help regarding my dilemma,

I am due to get married to this lovely kind hearted gentleman in less than a month; but i have just found out while using my partners Ipad an email that has got me worried, i had a miscarriage in April of last year, at this point we were already engaged, we agreed to try again soon.I told him i was not 100 % ready and he said he understood, about September of last year, he intentional started having unprotected sex with me and i fell pregnant again within that month, all is well with the baby and i am now over 4 months pregnant and he seems over the moon and ecstatic about the upcoming birth of our child,he even went with me for the scan and treats me like a princess(i used to feel like the luckiest girl in the world), we informed my family together and has even suggested we go to the states for baby shopping after the wedding, like i was saying earlier what i found in his email (inbox) really shocked me! he had set up an email address in my name , impersonated me and composed a letter addressed to himself with me saying i was aware he didnt want want the baby and also suggesting i was breaking up with him, and that we had both gone to an abortion clinic together and that i had decided to have the child on my own and i wont be needing his help or support with the child since i knew he didnt want the baby and i had a good job and would be able to support the child all by myself and i wanted nothing from him.

i am really upset and would like to confront him about the email, but i am uncertain of where it would lead considering the wedding is in only a couple of weeks time and friends and family have all been invited, MY FELLOW NAIRALANDERS PLEASE HELP