Franzese:
The earlier you realize that you came to this world ALONE the better. Hmmm. You see two things that I have come to realize that are completely over-hyped is Religion and Marriage.

Every guyman should always have a plan B, C and D when it comes to women.

Stay alive if for nothing, yourself

I have a lot to say but I'll keep it at that.

This is deep!

Can you please share so that others could learn?

Should anyone have reasons to protect themselves from their significant other?

Well .........

Two months ago, we got the sad news of the demise of my uncle who lived in Canada. He and his family have been in Canada since the mid 90s. Sadly, we didn't know he has been sick, we only heard of his death.

Last week, his only son brought the corpse back home, and burial preparations are ongoing. As we got talking with my cousin, I learned something shocking. He said that his dad refused to go to the hospital when the illness was less serious. Note that most places in Canada have free healthcare. The reason was because the wife would mock him and not care for him when he gets home from the hospital. Sadly, the son lives and work outside the city where his parents live. It was when the illness got worse, and was an emergency, that the man called ambulance, and was taken to the hospital. He had complications during the surgery, and died weeks after. My cousin narrated how his late dad was doing his own laundry after coming back from 2 jobs. Plus other things the man went through. I feel pained!

During our conversation, my cousin mentioned that, maybe his father would still be alive if he had acted like a friend he knows at work. He said that a friend he knows (Nigerian too), left home and went in for a surgery without the wife's knowledge. When the man was discharged, he checked himself into a hotel. When asked why, the man said he was protecting himself from the wife. That he cannot trust his wife under his vulnerable conditions. He rather paid someone to cater for him.

I was shocked! What could make a spouse to be scared of his spouse at such a moment. I used the word 'spouse' because it can happen either way.

For better and for worse; in sickness and in health? Abi things have changed?

Mhurfhy:
I met her 2yrs ago, she's hard-working and industrious, I love her and she claims to love me which I can't tell 100% as no man can.

I noticed she's always dry down there and no matter how long the pre-intimacy last she will not get wet but will in the course of action (she releases those white juice too) and so a vaseline is always handi and a must before penetration.

She claims she doesn't feel the sex and trust me I'm very very very good at it.

My fear is, how long will this last, how long before she get tired and stop giving me access to that sacred area cos I'm worried, I don't want a case whereby tomorrow she will start saying no to me when she's fed up with the whole sex thing probably after I have officially made her my wife.

She told me her mother circumcised her when she we little.

Experts in the house please advise me if I should go on or abort mission. Thank you.

I just wish to make few points that may help ;
1. Female circumcision removes only the outer part of the clit. But the clit is as long as some dic.k, but mostly inside the vjay. If she is someone that response to clitoral stimulation, then make effort to discover where the hidden part of the clit is.

2. Every woman response to things differently. Some enjoy clitoral stimulation, leading to clitoral orgasm. Some response to vaginal stimulation, leading to vaginal orgasm.
Try to discover which is hers.

3. Except she has a medical condition, every woman will enjoy sex when the right places in her body are engaged/stimulated.

4. Most ladies who were Circumcised enjoy sex, some enjoy more than the uncircumcised. Sadly, mostly ladies won't accept it openly. But most ladies borne before 1990s from regions where circumcision was done, had their clits removed. But they still enjoyed sex.

5. If she has all the qualities you need in a woman, go ahead and discover her center of gravity. Then go ahead to enjoy your marriage. The ball is in your court.

Mindlog:


Make Pastor catch you for "accusing" him of incompetence in handling marital issues.😜

The number of marriages that some Pastors have recked are more than the ones they have built.

Handsomejok:
I saw folic acid on our bed I asked her why is she using them for . She said she is pregnant was shocked and I asked her why did she not tell me the good news she said she has forgotten. I remember a month ago I noticed some changes in her body I asked her if she was pregnant she said no and I overlooked it. I feel so bad for her to keep this wonderful good news from me and what pained me is she is almost 3 months and I still had no idea. I know I have hurt her a lot in the past which I have apologised to her from the bottom of my heart and I don't know why she is still making life difficult for me. No matter what happened she shouldn't have hidden the pregnancy from me for 3 good months and I am begining to wonder if the pregnancy is even mine or not. It is right for a wife to hide a pregnancy from her husband? I need your inputs please 🙏

It will only take God's grace through the holy spirit for trust to return to your marriage. Accusing a spouse of infidelity is lighter and easily forgivable than accussing them of diabolical stuffs. Accepting to come back doesn't mean she has forgiven you. Forgiving you doesn't restore trust automatically. Forgiving and trusting you doesn't mean she will ever forget.

1. Work hard on how to rebuild trust between you and your wife.
2. Lower your expectations for now.
3. See a professional marriage counselor who has a background in psychology, not a Pastor oo
4. Pray and seek God's wisdom
5. Prepare for the worst, while hoping for the best

Modestanewsreel:


Tempt her with Keke? LoL.. how is Keke a temptation?
Somebody opened a business for you and even got you a driver, you said it's temptation?

My dear, it's not. As I dey so, if my bobo gift me Keke, Ill respect him for life.
Do you know how much that Keke will make for me?

That Aisha is too money conscious. The man has spoilt her by always giving her money. I follow their tv program. When she announced her pregnancy, the man wired her account immediately.
All through the pregnancy, the man was pampering her till she gave birth. Even the day her water broke, the man wired 100k in the hospital. So she now feels money is easy to get and doesn't want to do anything. No be say na she wan ride the Keke o. Mehn.. the girl fuc k up.

This is the problem with some of these social media content creators.

Does it mean every man must give his wife a gift after childbirth?
The way she made it sound as if the child for the man alone. At the end, the child will still take care of the mother more than the man.

Nigerian men are in for a rude shock at the rate things are going.

Maynman:
Honey gets its sweetness from 2 main simple sugars, Fructose and Glucose.

The composition of honey is
Fructose
Glucose
Reducing Sugars
Sucrose.


The composition of our table sugar(Granulated) is:
Sucrose. Sucrose is a Disaccharide of fructose and glucose.

The sweetness of honey is dependent on how rich it is in fructose, higher the fructose, more the sweetness.

Eating honey will not make you healthy; it's not a miracle food. It's just slightly better than Table sugar.
If you're diabetic, honey won't prevent the same adverse effects that would come from eating sugar.

Please tell some of our people ooooooo!

I still don't understand how some people market honey as super food.

Humbrown23:

I was at a girlfriend’s house watching a movie with her mother. We were high school friends and were at each other’s homes quite a lot.

After the movie was over, my friend turned to her mother and said, “What would you or Dad do if one of you were to die?”

I was shocked. I would never have asked my mother something like that, but my friend and her mother had an unusually close relationship.

Her mother thought for only a few seconds. Obviously, she’d considered this before. “If your dad or I were to die, the one who remained would be devastated. We’d be heartbroken. Yet, after time passed, we may very well find someone to spend our later years with. It’s impossible to know, but that’s a possibility.”

Then my friend asked a second question. “But what if one of us kids died.”

The mother was truly taken aback. “Our children are irreplaceable. If something happened to your father or to me, the one who remained would be devastated. We would always grieve, but hopefully we’d make a new life for ourselves.

“But, one of our children.” She shook her head as if the thought brought her world tumbling down around her feet. “There’s no substitute for our children. No, life would never ever be the same again.”

Her answers were beyond the ability of my fifteen-year-old brain to comprehend. Now that I’m a parent myself, I understand what she meant.

As tough as it is to type this, I will try my best, even with trembling fingers.

I lost my lovely 7 year old to the cold hands of death few months ago. Devastation is an understatement. He was my world!

Your question, or say your friend's question to her mother, is something no parents will ever think of. It sounds odd to even consider such a question. Even in the most liberal society, such thoughts are abhorred.

We all wish to pre-disease our offspring, not the other way round. Life has never been the same for me since he died, and will never be. If I raise another child, it will never be the same experience. But the life goes on, I guess. Moving on after such experience is better said than done.

I cried, planned his funeral, then cried more. After his funeral, I tried to do something to immortalize his name. Still undergoing therapy with hope of healing properly.

With so many Fintech getting licenses in Nigeria, why can't stockbrokers get licensed and act as Registrars too. Or Registrars getting licensed as stockbrokers too. That way, dividend can be paid without too much hassles. Dividends can be paid to your investment account, then you can choose to withdraw or reinvest them easily without too much trips to the banks.

Life2020:
Hi guys

First of all, for you to write all these shows that you are educated. Minus few typos, you write better than some graduates. Going to the university is more or less chasing a dream or career, and not necessarily education.

Secondly, please find a way to start loving your appearance. Let nobody define how you feel about your body. This goes for both men and women, especially if you are married.

What you are going through is one of the major problems in today's marriages; marrying for a wrong reason. He most likely married you for the support he was getting.

On denying him sex: Cheating is a very painful thing and most times need therapy to forgive. But on the interim, buy enough condom. Start having sex with him, but with condom. During the post sex discussion, you can tactfully bring the issue of STD screening up.

If your going back to university is for work/career, you may want to build on your business. There are no jobs out there. But if it is chasing a dream or for personal fulfillment, please by all means go for it. If you are less than 30, you can finish your studies before adding more kids.

Finally, I suggest you start seeing a marriage/family counselor. Go to a professional counselor, not some pastor or men of God kinda counseling. You can start talking to the counselor alone. Later you invite your hubby. If he doesn't want to come, count your losses and prepare for separation/divorce.

Zee0007:
One sided story. No man will love kids and yet not provide for them.

Maybe what he gives might not be much but it not nice to say he doesn't drop anything.

The bold statement is not absolutely true.

Will you also state that no woman that loves kids, and wants to give birth will not care for them?

I have seen both. They are men who just want to procreate but not ready/willing to take financial responsibility.

I know a woman who will do everything to get pregnant. But once baby is born, she leave the baby for her husband. She can't stay back from work one day for the sake of the baby.

Some humans can be weird!

phemmie06:
Never invest what you cannot afford to lose. If the market go down do you have a means of repayment?
You better look for other stable form of investment if you must invest it. If the money go down it means you have successfully planted the war tree for your family

Thank you!
I would refund the money to her if things go bad without much stress.
So, in your opinion, who is the NSE for?

IamR:

Why don't you put it in Money Market Fund?

Which one is Money Market Fund? Fix deposit or Treasury Bill?

Hello house, I need an answer to my question.

I advised my sister to start saving money for her kids University education. She decided to make me the banker. She has given me 250k so far.
My question; is possible to grow this money on NSE? The eldest child is in SS 2, meaning in 2 years time he will likely be in the uni. Can 250K grow to say 1M in 2years? If yes, what are the strategies?

Richy4:


Oh!! Okay.... Was that the overwhelming evidence you got? That the Priest and the woman were talking when the husband was not around... Hmmm!! Ok

I thought you got something better.. but hey, it's fine, It is a huge evidence...Infact, your friend can go and report the Priest to his superiors.. so that they can give him a termination letter..if that will make all the parties involved happy..

This is because under no circumstances should a Priest speak to female congregants in their husbands absence.. it is a taboo.. It is unheard of... He should have been meeting only men, boys and husbands for prayers and supports to avoid scandals like this one ..

My OP asked if she doesn't owe the husband an apology. Maybe I shouldn't even bring it here since I don't have the permission to share all that he found. Also, my disappointment in the priest friend is making me upset with people on a faceless forum like this. Yes, my friend is angry, yet he still wants the priest to retain his office. And yes, he has damaging evidence that would affect the Priest's Faculty if reported. Why the deleted chats? Why refusal to address the suspicion? Plus other classified evidences.

We are very good at giving out non practical advice, but when we are beneficiaries of such actions we speak differently?
My guy is hurting reading some of the comments here, and I feel bad bringing it here. It is shameful and painful enough that he is going through what he is going through in the hands of a wife. Reading through this is another blow to him.

Richy4:

Bro honestly, the last paragraph was not necessary... Besides, U have been giving out too much innuendo as if u have caught the priest and the woman red handed...

It is not fair to use a blanket approach on every priest... The fact that some priest were not keeping to their vows does not mean your friend or all the Priests were doing it... And it doesn't mean that there are no good and upright men of God...

In this day and age, we deal with facts.. speculations is in the '90s.. if u really have evidence against your friend's wife with the priest, we will like you to present it and end the endless subtle innuendo already... What could be more than the allegations levelled against her that she was cheating?

All these because a priest is involved? If it was an ordinary man, would you wait for all these logic? A wife having conversation with your friend only when you're not around is not a bad sign. The guy must wait to see them banging and moaning? Kai Nigerians!

kelechiodo:

May this your vomit and curse be your portion solely. It shall be send back to you a thousand times. It's only a bitter heart and soul that resorts to curse rather than logical explanation.

Lol!
You are done defending the indefensible just to look like a good Catholic?
Yes, if I am lying or trying to paint the Catholic priesthood bad, the curse is mine. Otherwise, it is yours.
Let everyone say Amen!

Kobojunkie:
We all have confidants, from time to time, even when in relationships and there is no rule written in stone that such a one must be of the same sex or one's own partner. Not everyone in relationships are soul mates or best friends.

Just like you seem your friend's confidant here, there is nothing wrong with his wife having one too.

If you are a guy, you introduced your wife to your friend, then later you discovered that that friend is your wife's confidant. It wouldn't raise questions? If you are a woman, your hubby becomes bestie with your female friend behind your back. Does that make sense? Is family family friendship not supposed to be transparent?

kelechiodo:


I know the above is where you are heading. No friend or friend's wife or priest is involved. This is a fabricated story. You just want to open a thread where Catholic priests would be castigated. Continue but know that you are too insignificant to hurt the church. Thanks

This blind defense of our priests, and generally "men of God" is why the church is messed up with priests acting with all immunity and impunity.

If you think that I just open this thread to rubbish an institution I grew up respecting so dearly, may my friend's pain and the disarray this priest brought to his marriage be your portion soonest.

AMEN!

Kobojunkie:
We all have confidants, from time to time, even when in relationships and there is no rule written in stone that such a one must be of the same sex or one's own partner. Not everyone in relationships are soul mates or best friends.

Just like you seem your friend's confidant here, there is nothing wrong with his wife having one too.

I wish I can share more details here. But the evidence is very strong.

InTheCloudySky:
The two major types of cheating/affairs are emotional and sexual affairs. The unecessary closeness and chats between her and the Priest /husband's friend frenemy already indicate they've had an emotional affair, plain and simple. Whether they've had sexual intimacy isn't clear but her deleting the chats, defensiveness, and comment that "whatever she did wrong, that she has confessed to God" are telling that something else happened between them.

If she has cheated, whether it be an emotional or sexual affair, or both, she owes the husband a confession and an apology. However, if she's too stubborn to confess and apologize because she has supposedly confessed to God (when that DOES NOT replace a confession and an apology to her husband), then you've got a manipulative and an unremorseful individual under your belt.

Don't be fooled that because the so-called friend is a Priest, he can do no wrong. There are Priests out there sinning and committing atrocities under the guise of being a Priest.

This one is the one that looks like a Saint outside, but a wolf inside. I had warned this friend when he overlooked his wife's closeness to this priest. Since many of us have this boundaries around our friends' wives, we thought we were good.
By the way, most priests in Nigeria are in romantic relationships with multiple girls and women. I am close enough to know, but we blindly assumed our friend is different.

Richy4:


Yes definitely... I understand what u are saying.. chatting with someone that is not your spouse could be tagged cheating...

But while we're on this matter, we should understand the office the priests is occupying..
As a priest, I believe confidentiality is very important..

This situation is like a female patient that sees a male doctor often to discuss about her health issues, chats with him, refused to discuss/ disclose the health problem with the husband... The husband in anger went to confront the doctor to know what his wife was always saying to him/ what they were doing..

If the woman has a spiritual stuffs that she was dealing with, and decided to talk to the priest, and doesn't feel like sharing with the husband, Why would that be tagged as cheating? In your opinion do you think the husband was right to confront the priest... Even when the wife refused to open up to him?

They said too much of familiarity breeds contempt... If not that the husband knows that priest as a friend, I'm wondering what will give him such boldness to confront the priest to ask what they were discussing...

Not saying that the priest was innocent or guilty but He should gather every evidence first before tarnishing the image of someone who might be innocent..

Waooh!

Eye opening! Unfortunately, the husband had already suspected these two long before. Since I am not the husband, and didn't have his permission to share more details, I will leave it at that. But like I wrote before, there are more info that prompted the man to confront both wife and the priest.
By the way, how does a wife's relationship with a friend to the hubby (be it pope or bishop) become more important than her relationship with her husband? Note that the priest is not in charge of their church, just a friend to the guy.

CC kobojunkie

I have a friend whose wife had an inappropriate relationship with a mutual friend of us. The mutual friend is a Catholic priest, and my friend's wife only communicate with this priest when my guy is not home. She deletes most of her WhatsApp chats with this priest. The husband have confronted both his wife and our friend (the priest). The priest has gone incommunicado with the my friend, and even me. My friend's wife has not seen anything wrong with what she did. She only tells the husband that whatever she did wrong, that she has confessed to God. There are so many clues to show that something went wrong between these 2.
My question is, does she owe the husband any apology or confession?
Or generally put, should a spouse infidelity be left for God or the erring partner should confess for proper healing to take place?

It looks like this service is not available.

If available, I will appreciate if I can be pointed towards the right direction.

I have a need for a private investigator in Lagos. Can someone refer me to a reputable agency that can give me private investigator? The details of the job will be discussed in details with the right person or agency.

Thank you!

I wish mine was any of the above. As a matter of fact, I once asked my wife if she has fantasies. I always wanted a wild spouse.

Sadly, my wife tells every thing happening in my house to the siblings. She has succeeded in making her siblings open enemies with me without my knowledge. And she sees nothing wrong with how his siblings, some whom I trained, insulting me. Fear some women, especially the over-religious ones.

Expensiverichyb:
Once an ex is married, it's better to cut off all forms of communications.
Go ahead and plan your own life.

Most times, it is the ladies who start such communication. I wish some ladies would stop begging their ex for money, and other favors.

I drink "Palmie"!

Our local palm wine has low alcoholic content, loaded with useful microbes and flora. The life yeast in it help in eyesight. Most importantly, it is delicious, especially when fresh!

Are Nigerian men really crude and unromantic?

Maybe and maybe not but the gist out there is that Nigerian men are not romantic, generally speaking. The topic - how unromantic the average Nigerian man is - came up during a discussion I had with a friend a couple of days back. So, is it true the average Nigeria guy is not romantic? Even in bed, it is rumored, that they just want to dive in and dive out and tell themselves they have done a good job. Seriously, some say Nigerian men are crude and unromantic and hasty in bed and again this is generally speaking.

"Bhet why na bros?"
Could it be they do not have the necessary touch and skills? Or perhaps many men do not bother to observe the body language of their woman to know what she wants? Or maybe just too busy chasing after too many women at the same time to be able to please any one of them? Or it could just be that you are so busy chasing after money that other “things” are now busy chasing after your woman? Little wonder the issue of DNA is now becoming a big one among some married couples because married women are getting the attention they lack at home from other sources outside the home. Yes, you heard me right, it is happening - some other person is about to take your woman and you do not even know it. Now i see you going "huh"? I promise you if you stop to look and listen long enough, there are things that you will see and hear even without her showing you or saying a word.


Your money or your love?
I would say both! Perhaps African men believe the only thing an African woman wants from them is money or material things. We definitely want money and all the other good stuff (sorry ladies for letting it out. Y’all know that I know what we know, right?) but sometimes, money alone is not just enough. Money and other material things will not, cannot replace the love and care and warm embrace that you are supposed to provide for your woman on a regular basis.

So what now?
Let us look at 12 very simple things you can do for her and with her. You can be creative and come up with your own stuff but I guarantee you, these simple suggestions will endear you to her and keep her happy - I should know #wink

1. Start with the easiest - buy her a dozen thongs or whatever style of panties it is she likes to wear. And some bras too won’t be a bad idea. Oh, you do not know her size. Shame on you. Anyway, in case you do not know what they look like,here are a few samples. Okay, so it does not have to be a dozen but you get the idea.



2. Buy her a great perfume. You can decide to splurge some good money on that or you can get a simple yet nice one – it is the thought that counts. The cost is totally up to you. Go with what you can afford but do not step it down if you know what I mean.

3. Give her a bath. Run a warm bubble bath for both of you every weekend or every other weekend or as often as opportunity presents itself and give her a body scrub while in the tub (get a gentle body scrub).
4. Massage her feet sometimes. Oh the soothing effect of a foot massage cannot be described! Those feet get tired from standing or from walking around all day long at home or at work.
5. You can rub some sweet smelling cream/lotion all over her body some nights before you tuck her into bed. Better still, give her a body massage with a good massage oil and thank me later for the ‘consequences’


https://annispiration..ca/2018/04/12-simple-romantic-things-naija-men.html

alexialin:





But you said the bolded.
Read what u type earlier

The man stopped giving money for food and upkeep.

My dear let's not deceive ourselves.

She should get a job or go into biz. So she can fend for herself and regain her pride back as a woman.

If a wife is working and earning money, the husband doesn't give feeding money again? I wrote that statement to show how far the man has gone, not to show that the woman depends on the man. The man gives feeding money because his mother lives with them, and not because the wife is so dependent on him.

I don't know why we believe a man's (in)fidelity is a function of the wife working or not. So husbands whose wives are working and even earning more don't cheat?

I understand the issue with child bearing which maybe a factor, but her working or not is not a case.

baby124:
Can you just imagine? I think your sister needs a job so that she can stop begging for money to feed herself from her husband. I also think she needs to either leave the man or ignore them if she feels she cannot leave. However, she should be prepared to cope with diseases worse than childlessness because of her husband's wandering.

God is giving you way to flee from a useless man without baggage. You say no. Even when you have kids he will do worse. By then it will be too late to run away and you will endure all sorts. I hope you have family somewhere that care for you. Please find something tangible doing with your life, your husband is not dependable in any way.

Sorry ma, I didn't say she is dependent on the husband for her upkeep. She has been feeding herself, the house help and the man's mother since this issue started. Your first paragraph made it sound like feeding money is the contention is here. No, it is not.

alexialin:
How old is the wife and how many years is the marriage so far?

Hubby is in mid 40s while wife is in mid 30s. Marriage will be 5 in November.