deepwater:


Is it appointment Letter for offer or visa interview appointment? What do u think, because the mail seems confusing

Meaning you got the mail too...

Congratulations

kebisky:
FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!

APPOINTMENT LETTER IS READY FOR COLLECTION.

MAY THE BLESSINGS BE!

Congratulations Kebisky, A quick one, when did you start this application process, was it the recent one that was advertised in April/June or from previous ones?

Once again Congratulations.

dragonking3:
Supported. I just pray for him though because his wife is still a student and we know how female students wanna show off to fellow ladies. It is well.

Yeah, yeah....

but some of the comments here tho'.....Unbelievable!

dragonking3:
Good, that's what you should advice him. You are earning far more than him, so it will be very difficult for him to carry out the exact same thing you did. Now, he pays his wife 30k, pay tithes of 17k, pays for feeding, school fees, baby food and general upkeep. Once you calculate the cost, over a 120k is already gone. How can he cope now when the wife is demanding for more by inflating the price by 100%?

Sorry for my questions as you said that you don't post on NL. I just love an intellectual conversation

I understand your point, but the underlying principle I was advocating was for him to sit her down, agree on a monthly budget with her (within his means of course) and then hands off the details. That will make her a lil bit more responsible and prudent.

softwerk:
Now that's a real man talking!

Any room for wifey No 2

Loool, I'm not ready to meet my maker, and I don't think you are too, right?

dragonking3:
One question. What will you advise the OP should he do what you did and one day looses his job? (we are not praying for it to happen)

If he loses his job and he has not been wise enough to have an alternative stream of income before this happens, then he won't even be able to continue being the breadwinner of his family so there is nothing for him to do but to work on getting back to being the breadwinner....(note the phrase 'Beg, Steal or Borrow' in my response?)

Dear Op,
I don't usually post on this forum, but yours is an interesting scenario.
I am in a similar position and I'd like to share with you how I was able to handle the situation. While I earn significantly more than you and therefore what I make available to my wife is more than yours, the principles are the same so I believe this might be helpful.

I make available 125k available to my wife every month, then a further 80k for the home needs (we have just 2 kids ages 3yrs and 1yr) in addition to the housemaid's salary, DSTV, fuel etc. but despite this, I still get tagged ''irresponsible'' by her and by the 19th or thereabouts she is already on the war path asking for more funds. She is a lawyer but she doesn't work so I quite understand that she doesn't have an independent source of income (I assume the same is the case with yours too).

Initially, I used to get quite resentful especially when her folks start calling me to ask why I'm depriving her of money when I know she doesn't work.
I got tired of explaining that I fork out minimum 250k every month on so-called upkeep.
So how did I solve this problem.
I sat her down and asked her to let us work out a monthly budget for the house....including her own allowance.

We wrote down everything needed for the month and the cost. We argued robustly on this until we were able to agree at a fixed sum. Then I made it clear to her that no matter what happens, by the 28th of every month, I will transfer this sum to her account. Even if I have to beg, steal or borrow it. And on her own part, she has to administer that money judiciously because no matter what happens, one extra naira will not come before the next allowance is due.
I stopped interfering in what she buys for the house, when she buys it and all those details. My own is that there must be no lack in the house once I've fulfilled my own part of the agreement.

The first month was funny because she attempted to ask for more, but I was resolute. it was kinda tough but she got the message. So she learnt 'Home Economics' by force. Maybe it helped that I have health insurance that covered the whole family from the office and I don't have so many friends or family around me so there are really no unexpected expenses during the month.

So, OP...you might try this approach. Instead of burdening yourself with trying to run the home and being billed for expenses as they come, agree a total monthly budget with her, and make that available every month, consistently, without any excuse. I want to believe that if she sees that consistency in the amount and timing....she herself will work to fit in with your financial planning.

Cheers and best of luck.