deluckiest:
Like I said, my wife and I have been married for 11 years, but she never told me from the beginning that she could monitor and access my phone anytime she likes. I think the only reason she confessed was when I introduced my female business partner to her.

My friend and I were working on a project, and I told my wife about it. I had the technical skills, while my partner was the sponsor. But my wife insisted I end the partnership and look for a male partner instead. She believed something was going on between us, even though there was nothing like that. Because of this, the business was put on hold and eventually failed.

For those asking, there’s no problem with my marriage. We are living peacefully, and both of us are doing well in our jobs.

The only challenge I have with her is that she invades my privacy.

I have 2 concerns:

1. What was the origin of the extra monitoring?.
Try and understand her point of view, and what you could do to reassure her or to win hertrust back.

2. "Did she submit to the same level of transparency?"
If she does, the problem is half solved. She may be insecure, but may still be safe. If, on the other hand, she does not submit herself to the same level of transparency, then you should shout for help or run for your life. That behaviour is manipulative, controlling and narcissistic.

Stephenmouka:


Don't say that my brother, if I don't see breast in a week to suck, my body will be itchinge

Must the breast be big before you enjoy it? If woman get bad character, you go get time to near the big breast self.

Karlifate:
THREE TYPES OF MEN

Why Are You Dating Her?

• THE FOOL:

"I'm dating her because I'm in love with her. I can do anything for her"


• THE FINISHED MAN:

"I'm dating her because of her looks. She's curvy & busty"

"I'm dating her because I met her in the church"

• THE WISE REDPILLED MAN:

" I'm dating her because she respects and submits to me."

"I'm dating her because she's young, feminine & a virgin"

"I'm dating her because she could make a good mother for my children"


WHERE DO YOU BELONG?

Funny thing is that I check all the boxes except that she wasn't that young when we got married, and even though she was a virgin, that was not the motivation for loving/marrying her. I guess i can call myself a "wise red-pilled, finished, foolish man". What a combination.

Ynix:
the guy knows he will be sued, the supreme court and other level of judiciary will be very careful. But already they played the wrong checkmating because now many are reading the book across the globe and they are interpreting the codes Farotimi placed.

I am not supporting Dele Farotimi by any means, but like I said earlier, his narrative is playing out. He is being held unnecessarily because a big man (the same big man that he wrote about) is involved.

Anyways, make we siddon dey watch all of them.

Ynix:
I remembered that AFE was once the Lawyer of the FG during Obasanjo's time so Farotimi might be up to something

hmmmm..... now YOU are on to something. ... I can't wait to watch the episodes unfold.

Judolisco:
OK, before you say what sir afe babalola is doing is bad, put yourself in his shoes..... The same thing I said during Femi Falana's saga with bobrisky.... U can't build up your name and reputation for over 30 years and someone will jst wake up one morning and come and spoil it...

I oppose to keeping him in jail over a baliable offence, but farotimi should drop proof of all what he wrote in that book

I have not read the book, in fact I no go school so I no know book. But going by your statement alone, there seems to be a miscarriage of justice already. Baba s within his legal rights to sue Mr. Farotimi - in fact, Mr. Farotimi should be sued for all he is worth. However, the moment a defendant is being held in jail over a bailable offense (like you said), then it seems as if the defendant's story about the Baba is being played out already.

Praxis758:
OJUYOBO: for having a big protruding eye balls.

You must be a lagosian. E get why the name no fit stick, but na the Teachers wey hear am that year go fit talk the story.

SmartyPants:
Fake topic. A 29 year old still talking about not wanting to leave his friends?

No one can be that much of a mumu

How fake can he be? I felt he was just trolling when he said he "graduated from school last two years as a petroleum engineering"

onome25:


If I be the husband of the said woman & I get money,
1. i go just go see the family & tell them say i no de marry again that i go give her money make she take do better bizness & move on with her life that make de no vex

2. because with wetin I de see from this said woman, bandits don useless this woman.
3. Those animals de sleep with anything under d skirt
4.no matter what U preach or give this woman , that trauma of what those evil bandit did to her will never be forgotten .
Even the said nephew , those evil bandit can sodomized Thier fellow man. Very stinky & useless being
Tor; I wish d woman & the young boy healing in Thier heart.

Wow....
Why would you conclude that the best way treat this woman is to abandon her after going through such an ordeal. It's a wife we are talking about o. I hope you're not going to blame Redpill for this or call the husband a simp for standing by his wife after the trauma.

Sleekfingers:


It is left to the bolt driver to accept his apology or not .... If he doesn't. .....the court will do the necessary......
I hope if similar thing happened to you or any of your love one. You won't be singing this song , by calling Adeyanju an attention seeker activist.....

I am yet to see or hear of an apology to the driver. I saw a video of him apologizing to his colleagues in the HoR. That is not out of place since he disgraced them, but nowhere in that video was any reference made to the driver. Maybe I didn't see it well sha.

unscripted:
I am sure you were paid to influence public opinion

Please stop this if na joke.

If you paid and got this type of defense, won't you ask for your money back with interest?

Armaggedon:
They will not get anything out of the case. The so called bolt driver was already recording him before the assault began. Who records a man by pointing a phone to his face inside his own compound without permission?

Of course there is also a provocation angle to it.

let me play pocket lawyer for 5 minutes.
I totally agree with you that he will get out of this relatively easily and nothing much will come out of the case. However that does not change the basic facts of the case.
1. He was totally and expressly aware that he was being recorded and nowhere in the video did he say his grievance was because he was being recorded.
2. The video presented enough evidence of assault and battery against "Honourable Senator"
3. His behavior failed the test of what a reasonable person would have said/done. The threats and physical were not commensurate to the issue on ground. It was just an unnecessary show of power.
4. There is something called self control and it was obvious that "Senator Peller" did not get enough share before that performance.

ALTERNATEID:
Court case over what? No need politicizing this abeg. The guy is a human being like the rest of us and he has apologized. The bolt driver should sit down with the lawmaker and resolve the matter like men. No need allowing attention seeking activist like Deji Adeyanju to start using the case to seek public relevance.

That is beneath "Senator Peller" o. How do you expect a whole "Senator" to sit down with a "rat"?

I guess the matter needs many rats to put mouth on the case. Maybe that will be able to get the attention of the "Senator" abi na magician self, since he said he can make the driver disappear.

I don't even want to talk about the problems with the so called apology

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Afonja44:
Nido
Coast Milk (we like it moooooo)
Canoe soap
Joy & Dove soap
Vim
Jik before Harpic came around
Vitalo was Ovaltine before Ovaltine
This Robb was stronger than aboniki
I can see Omo, Quaker Oats and the original Bournvita before Cadbury
The first one at the very top is Pronto. Far sweeter than Milo or Bournvita.
Is that Ribena I see atop the Elephant detergent?

Dove soap? which day dove come wey small store like this go fit stock am? That may be Lux soap
Ovaltine was way older than Vitalo. Ovaltine was later repackaged and reintroduced sha

Mrwhite09:
nthing is old i was born 1994 nd i know them all

Are you sure?

I thought Pronto beverage, Tree top orange drink, parozone bleach, Jenka chewing gum all left the market in early to mid-90s

wunmi590:


Both of them are not serious, are these not something they should have done before they walk down the aisle?

Absolutely true. They are both irresponsible. They should even do it as soon as they start thinking about having unprotected sex, not to talk of when they start having thoughts about marriage.

Maybe the man just delayed sha so that he can officially chop the woman small before using running away.

Lifestone:

Certainly not the owner. The careless sales girl should bear it. I'm happy she resigned, let her start her own business and see how it hurts.
For other sales girls resigning means there was a conspiracy, I'm happy the owner dodged a bullet

Who should bear it? It depends. If the sales person received fake naira notes, then the fault is absolutely with the sales person. If it was a fake transfer, then the sales person would be at fault only if she was supposed to receive the bank alert or if he/she breached some established policy to accept and approve the payment. For example, was there an established system to not receive transfers over a certain amount, or was there a policy to call and confirm payments before releasing goods?

I think the punishment should be managed within the context of existing policies, but of course this is Nigeria. Anything goes. It is all about the survival of the richest/strongest.

dapsoneh:
Awon eleribuuu
So that they can steal the Nation's treasury via their wives
Iku gbigbona loma pa yin all these corrupt politicians
You will see the speed at which those God forsaken people will pass that bill

Please stop cursing them o. God's children don't rain curses on people, but this one wey you don release will be delivered to them in Jesus' name.

tulabh:


It's not the matter of wicked mindset. Why did he collect the house rent at first when he know he want to renovate the house

Getting a house that suit your taste is not easy this days.

Taking about when I become a landlord, I am one already and I am telling you base on experience

It is a different thing if the landlord wants the tenant to move out with immediate effect while the rent is still running. In this case, the landlord has not done anything against the law. He simply played by the rules. I empathize with any tenant in this position, but the landlord is entitled to his rent for everyday the tenant is in the building.

BarrElChapo:


Lol... SMH

.... Stop shaking your head at the comments here o. Otherwise, you'll start having serious headache. I think this is just a reflection of the evil mindset we have as Nigerians - always looking for opportunities to cheat other people out of their sweat.

Lomprico2:


He is! Such notices should start reading after the rent has expired.

And who pays for that period? The law is not designed to make tenants live free of charge and deny landlords their right to rent.

Justnation:


Go and read the landlord and tenancy law before commenting further

I have read that particular section of the law a few times. I am only trying to be fair. The most important thing is that I can confidently pray that I would always meet "my type of tenant" if I am on the other side of the table. Do you pray the same for yourself or you want those that will use all their sense to ensure you do not enjoy the rewards of your labor?

erico2k2:

The way people talk about law will make you laugh and fall down,imagine enjoy rent and the serve 6months notice untop no rent.I wish these guys know how much it cost to build houses nowadays, Nigeria will turn to places like Uk where individuals now cant build and instead rent or buy via mortgage!

Small time they will say landlords should take monthly rents like they do in UK, US and other oyinbo countries. Unfortunately, they don't know that in most cases you start with a security deposit (usually one month's rent), which means you are paying 2 months rent in your first month of stay. Then, your subsequent rent is due on the 1st of the month with a grace period of 3 days. Once you don't pay after 4th, you start incurring penalties. If you don't pay by the 15th, you are already looking at eviction. Meanwhile, by the time the landlord sends you out at the end of the month, they are not really out of pocket because they technically have the month's rent.

samebony1:

By virtue of Section 13 of the Lagos State Tenancy Law 2011, The Landlord is within his rights. All you can do is to plead for extension of time, which he is not obligated by Law to grant.
If you are in doubt, please read the law. You can download it on the net. But i have included the relevant portion below

[b]13.-(1) where there is no stipulation as to the notice to be given by either party to determine the tenancy, the following shall apply-
(a) a week’s notice for a tenant at will;
(b) one (1) month’s notice for a monthly tenant;
(c) three (3) months notice for a quarterly tenant;
(d) three (3) months notice for a half-yearly tenant; and
(e) six months notice for a yearly tenant
(2) In the case of a monthly tenancy, where the tenant is in arrears of rent for six (6) months, the tenancy shall lapse and the Court shall make an order for possession and arrears of rent upon proof of the arrears by the landlord.
(3) In the case of a quarterly or half-yearly tenancy, where the tenant is in arrears of one (1) year rent, the tenancy shall lapse and the Court shall make an order for possession and arrears of rent upon proof of the arrears by the landlord.
(4) Notice for tenants under subsection (1) (c), (d) and (e) of this Section need not terminate on the anniversary of the tenancy but may terminate on or after the date of expiration of the tenancy.
(5) In the case of a tenancy for a fixed term, no notice to quit shall be required once the tenancy has been determined by efflux ion of time and where the landlord intends to proceed to Court to recover possession, he shall serve a seven (7) days written notice of his intention to apply to recover possession as in Form TL5 in the Schedule to this Law.
(6) The nature of a tenancy shall, in the absence of any evidence to the contrary, be determined by reference to the time when the rent is paid or demanded[/b]

Thank you o. I'm surprised that there's no like or share for that post.

"Fixed term" is another language that may be hidden in your agreement. Although, we all know that tenancy is over once your rent expires. The fixed term language sort of makes it clearer and enforceable.

AlphaNugget:

You are not getting it, how can you expect him to park out just at the expiration of his rent?
Why not give him an extra 3 months' notice, the 3 months' notice will start counting from the day his rent expires.

Chief, what exactly is your definition of "notice"? A rent free period?

BOUNTYDOG:


My thoughts
What if he does not leave after the 6mths when his rent just expired
What will the landlord claim as his evidence for giving quit notice when ur rent is still valid.
I doubt he can take any legal actions on him, cos I wonder which Ballif will follow home to execute it

If your rent is not valid, then you are not a tenant. There is no law that is designed to deny someone payment for the goods and services they rendered (or are rendering). It is not suya that you will ask for jara or taste small before you buy.

tulabh:


He is suppose to refund 6month money for you out of your house rent.

Or

You will stay in the house for another 6month after November for free.

Goto rent tribunal for clarification

This is a wicked mindset. Do you pray to have tenants like this when you become a landlord or do you pray that you have a similar outcome for your investments?

ceejay80s:

He allowed u to pay in December, the man is a wicked man

He is a wicked man for collecting payment for services rendered... Who do us this thing?

Entanglement:
who is feeding you this lie

Once them give you notice prior 6month to your rent expiration! If you try extend it to another 3month after your rent expire, you go pay for that 3 month and you must to park your load or tribunal go help you park your load go under bridge

People just like to be difficult and cheat other people out of their sweat. That is why they misinterpret laws and take undue and ungodly advantage of loopholes.

We should all aspire to be the kind of tenant we would want when we become a landlord.

When I had a similar situation, I ensured that I was as Godly as much as I could.
- Agent increased rent, but it was too close to the expiration of my tenancy. I told him to give me 6 months to move out and I paid for the 6 months at the going rate. Eventually, I was too busy and I didn't move out as planned. So I asked for another 3 months but I paid the new rate.
- He asked me to paint the flat after moving out. I told him I would paint only after removing the new wiring, mosquito nets and other improvements that I installed. He quickly told me to forget it.

He may not like me, but he could not fault what I did. I would also not cry foul if a tenant did the same thing to me in the future. in fact I would be extremely grateful if I had my type of person as a tenant.

Justnation:



Absolutely correct 💯, you cannot use his rent period to serve him quit notice he is entitled to enjoy the rent in peace, at the expiration of his rent you can serve him notice of r 6 months for a yearly rental tenant

It is absolutely not correct, and your explanation makes it worse. Every other thing being equal, you should renew your tenancy (pay your rent) before the tenancy expires. So, unless there are other issues (such as financial problems), quit notice is highly likely to come when your tenancy is still valid. Once you stop paying your rent, you are no longer a tenant and that is almost another discussion on its own.

You will be a landlord one day.

Elohorp:

You don't know tomorrow be careful in this life is all I will tell you

Absolutely!!! When God picks his call now and he has one promising investment and God sends "his type of tenant" to him, he will now be running from pillar to post.