Lurdd:
There's this girl I met..
I sheepishly fell for her after few romantic calls from her
She's fair and pretty.
Then I decided to take her out today,she took a cab which I paid 2k. so we went to an eatery.. then I bought rice and chicken and some stuffs we ate..the bill was 13500, after we were done around 2:35 we left there, she said she wanted to go swimming I then took her to a fancy hotel with an Uber 3k.. on getting there she saw a guy she knew, they exchanged pleasantries which I didn't care about.. turns out that the guy came to swim as well...the swimming was 4k each for both of us.. that's 8k plus the swimming trunks I bought for her that is 3500k...so we freshened up and jump into the pool, i noticed she avoided me inside the pool, always wanting to play alone, and avoided me touching her then I left her on her own..and was swimming alone and having fun, I came back again for her to notice me, she still snubbed me...I left her alone and sat down near the pool when it was raining and there was this cold that pulled me down as I was shivering... meanwhile she was still inside the pool having fun all by herself... until this guy we met when we came.. went inside the pool..I then saw them interacting and I was annoyed..not until I saw him backing her and carrying her around inside the pool while they have fun... Not once not twice, she later came later came to me and ask if I was feeling cold I said yes she said sorry and went back inside the pool...to cut the story short, while I was sitting all by myself interacting with some guys, that guy she was playing with came and told me that my girl said that I was just a friend that he wanted to confirm himself, so he will know he's not offending anyone.. I felt like an idiot, as I went to the dressing room and put on my clothes and left scene looking foolish as she called me back..
On my way back home I bought magic moment vodka.. and drank myself to stupur
Am still high while typing these... What is the problem..I put on an expensive VL shirt with a jogger I bought 21k a slippers of 7k, I sprayed a very nice perfume. I have a very nice facial look...what was the problem if I may ask, I avoided girls like plague all my life and gave this one chance and she made me a fool, am only 23. I think I've learnt my lesson.. my deepest regrets was the whole money I spent, it should remained in my account.. girls fear my return.

This response is not from an Alpha male or a red-piller. I'm as SIMPly as anyone can be. These are some things that my SIMP brain will see as a red flag if I was in your situation:

#1 Don't fall for someone that has not fallen (or is not falling) for you. Once the feeling is not mutual, don't sit down wasting your money, time and life with them.
#2 Spend only an amount that is dispensable to you on anyone that is not yoked to you.
#3 You don't need to succumb to every whim of anyone (male, female or whatever). If I take a lady out and she did not contribute anything to the expenses, then additional expense calls will be absolutely at my pleasure.
#4 Who goes to a swimming pool without swimming trunks? I'm definitely not making such a sudden expense (even if na 50 naira). Too impulsive. She's just taking advantage of you.

I am naturally stingy, so I'm tremendously OK if I save my money and lose the b**ch.

Goalnaldo:
You lost your son and suddenly a car is your problem. Odi egwu. Most people quoting me were sleeping like a sloth when i read and digested this thread. You all should rest please.

I am not in support of his request, but the son's demise is not a recent event. Even if it was, he needs to slowly get back on his feet and live his life. Getting back a car that he sold while attempting to save the son's life seems to be in line.

Stephen2324:
Is it cheating if your Man is sending Money to random Women ?

While you respond, also let me know if you ‘consider receiving Money from random Men’ as cheating too

My response is from the point of view of a married couple.
It depends on the financial structure of your family and your definition of random.

First, do you have a joint account and are you using money from the joint account (or money that should have gone into the joint account) for these donations? If yes, then it is cheating of some sort.

Secondly - How do you define random?
People you've had some rendezvous with in the past? potential candidates for a rendezvous? or are they people you're unlikely to ever meet for any reason?

On one hand, you want to be transparent with your spouse (I don't know about girlfriend o), so she knows she's safe. On the other hand, No matter how you define random, you need to ensure that you keep your tracks clean and ensure money you give out will not come back to haunt you. Some women will start a relationship with you (in their mind) immediately you send them money. Be careful.

Finally, you need to ensure that your giving (to any gender or any cause - religious or old student association, individual or corporate) does not jeopardize your family in any way whatsoever.

As to the last part of your question, I am a man, but I know (100% sure) that most women love men that are able to give money/support to random women with no strings attached. They (most of them)just don't want their husband to be that man.

YoungDaNaval:
Did you vote for BAT

No sir, and that is my point. Let us move beyond these unnecessary bickering. These politicians know where and how they meet. They may not agree but they are civil about the disagreement because they know what is at stake. Most times, they are wining and dining together while their supporters are fighting and breaking bottles to show support for their politician.

No matter how big your ministry or service is - whether spiritual or secular, there is always an assistant or deputy to cover the gap when you're not around. Sometimes we even have a clear succession plan to know who will take over when we are no longer available. The only ministry/role for which you have no deputy, no assistant, no planned successor (at least not known to you 😂) is your role as a husband/wife to your spouse. I think that should send a clear message about how seriously we should take that role. I am aware that family dynamics differ but do not let anything mess up your duty to your spouse/family. If God's work or career is messing up your family, go back and check your priorities.

God is not an author of confusion.

YoungDaNaval:
If you check well, they voted for Tinubu

Bros, leave that one. Wickedness knows no political, tribal, ethnic, religious or even educational boundaries.

xavuv:
Lol 😂 i remember, many years ago, when i was preparing for my bach eve. Popsy called me and said that he heard my siblings talking about me & friends arranging bach eve. I said yes, that correct. He said i should not do it, and if i must it must not be a night party, that we should do it like 12pm-4pm, and that there should not be any alcoholic drinks and stuffs like that.

With an innocent look, i said OK, i have heard. I left his presence.

Omo, the party loud gang, college chicks, booze, DJ music, food, smoke plenty well well, even my brothers inlaw came around and enjoyed themselves. Started the party around11 pm and ended like 4am ( on the wedding day).

Poppsy got a wind of how the party went and all that. Popsy didn't even mention it again till date.

What I'm saying is.... If possible do not engage ur popman in disrespectful arguments. "OK sir, yes sir, no wahala", should be your response when you went to his room that night, or whenever stuffs like this wants to happen.

Just be a good person and be moderate in your doings, he won't bother you again.

Abi now. My own father still wanted to be controlling me in the house I built with my money, in front of my wife and kids. Will I fight him? I will say "yes sir" and go back to doing what I wanted to do. Of course, e still get some waka wey I no go waka when he's with me.

DamianDd:


Omoh I guess so, I'll apologize when the time is right.... Let's just give it time. I know him well

Don't give it time o. Don't form for him. You are very wrong to have brought the rent payment up. I say that carefully because I do not have full details about the dynamics of your relationship and his role while you were growing up. However, based on what you narrated here, you are wrong. I am a father, and I would wish I was dead if my son told me what you said to him (in the way you said it). You could have still passed the same message across to him without making him feel that way.

Please apologize to him immediately. Waiting will only make it worse. He may not be in a position to retaliate or punish you but, he is still your father and the least you could do is to strengthen him and boost his morale when he is down.

We all have fathers like that - mine was worse. Unfortunately, by the time I started having children, I realized I was "worser". Not in a horrible way like that but I am a helicopter dad just like my dad before me. The only good thing is that I regularly make up for it with my sweet tongue. I am also able to quickly know when I'm not trusting God enough and getting over-worried, so I just acknowledge my over-worrying to my kids, I apologize, and we move on.

Please apologize to him without reservation and start cultivating ways of encouraging him rather than tear down his self esteem. That is one of the worst things you can do to a reasonable man.

SIONKPO1:
We have a Long way to Go as Nigerians and believe me our Value system is inexistent
.So many are insulting Iyabo ojo because she didn't Campaigned for APC Instead

You're so on point. That is why I have little or no respect for most people that are die hard supporters of any politician. They either refuse to open their brain to be objective or they are simply afraid to say something positive about their master's opponents even when the truth is slapping them in the face. I usually stay far away from such people o. Na only internet dey bring them close. Thank God we are all anonymous here.

YouandiAllofus:
She is not denying, she is not running away and she acknowledges the due sum! Failure to meet deadline can only result in misdemeanor if charges are pressed which shouldn't carry a sentence of not more than six months behind bars. Under this current economic 'sukar-spree', i would gladly trade the bars for the milz. No time

Be careful what you wish for. Tax evasion is a criminal offence in most countries. The prison term may not also exempt the person from paying what is owed.

Blackdeewhy:
I think they are getting back at you for supporting Obi.
God dey your side mama💝

1. It is definitely unfair if she's being targeted because she supported another candidate against them. Unfortunately, the fact that she supported another candidate against them does not exempt her from fulfilling one of the basic civic obligations.

2. He that comes to equity must come with clean hands. The only reasonable defense in this case is for her to show that she did not make the amount that is the basis of the assessment or that she has paid the income tax and it was not reflected in the assessment.

3. If you're making more than 3M per month in Nigeria as a self-employed individual, you will do yourself a great favour by ensuring that you are on top of your bookkeeping for tax purposes. If possible, spend a token to get an accountant to ensure that your records are straightforward and you're not paying more than is necessary. For example, the 35M she claimed to have spent on the dress for AMVCA could have been business expense considering the fact that it was used towards her appearance for a professional event. She would also have all sorts of professionals on her pay roll. In short, there dozens of legitimate expenses that should significantly reduce her taxable income and by extension the tax payable if she is serious. Coming to social media to cry will not help her matters in any way. If anything, she is just complicating her case.

https://taxsummaries.pwc.com/nigeria/individual/taxes-on-personal-income

MechanicMike:


Son, I giv out between 150k & 180k to marryed women I sleep wi..I smash another one on Thursday Afta her husband travelled to Abuja. 150to 200l is chicken shange to me BECUZ I hav moiney & I get marryed women. I don't need to be humble...any man that is broke & who cannot spend big MOINEY on women shod die in prison..broke people are also useless in life!?(true story)

I feel your pain sir!!!

MechanicMike:



NAIRALAND IS FULL OF BROKE AZZ SHAMELESS MOFOS BEGGGING FOR MOINEY ...WOT A SHAME BECUZ OF 5k...I GIVE A LADY 150K JUSS LAST WEEK TUESDAY & I DID NOT EVEN ASK FOR SEXXXXC.....SHAME ON U UNEMPLOY BEGGGAR S ON NAIRALAND... ESPECIALLY THOSE OF U POSTING YOR ACCOUNT NOMBA....SHAME ON U CHURCH RAT BEGGGGGARS..U will never make it in life..amen!!!(no offenscce)

The 150K that you're dreaming of is someone's lunch money. Be humble. Empty barrels make the loudest noise

Fahvvy:
Hahahahah ...
The average modern woman is REALLY DAFT! Kai! ...

Let's do the math...
Oga earns 400k, if he uses 345k (86.25% of his salary) to get you a phone, he'll be left with just 55k...

And from that 55k, I'm sure you'll still expect him to take you out and sub for you and make your hair and all ...

What then will be left for his basic needs (transportation to work, feeding, accommodation etc) ...

And what's worse is that, the fo.ol said "I didn't do anything wrong" ...

Sighs...
Tis well...

"didn't do anything wrong" did not even bother me. It's the "I have forgiven him" that made me nearly swear for the girl.

Sonnobax15:

Sexxx sexxx sexxx . What a generation! So,of all the problem wey dey this life,na limitation of sexxx by your wife be your major problem? . The same wife that produced two beautiful kids for you....And to even imagine that some kangaroos here are advising the op to marry another wife can't just beat my imagination . Op,if you like,make you go use your own hands take scatter your marriage all because of say your wife ain't giving your too much of sexxx.

Oga, I want to learn from you o -
Have you experienced the pain of being denied intimacy by the only person that should legitimately give it to you before? How did you handle it? Please respond so we can drink from your wealth and well of wisdom.

PS... I do not support infidelity for any reason.

Righteousness2:
The word " Christianity " has been bastardized in this generation.
People engage in evil, abominations and wickedness and claim Christianity.

Fear GOD ALMIGHTY. HIS eyes are too pure to behold iniquity.
GOD ALMIGHTY is Good, loving , kind and merciful. But don't forget, He is also a consuming Fire.

Pastor, I didn't notice where she claimed or professed to be a Christian. Maybe we should really start our questions with the issue of having "Christian" and "Only Fans" in the same sentence.

Jennyclay:
The most funny thing about this Hakimi saga is that broke, poor and wretched men that don't even have single property are the ones putting this matter on their head like gele . #1 they don't have, they can't even send common 5k to their girlfriend/wife to buy common body cream.

Shame!! Shame!! Shame!!!!!!

1. Any lady waiting for handout to buy body cream is not worth dating. Being a girlfriend is not an occupation.
2. Have ladies paused for a second to thing about the origin of (or the strength behind) the Hakimi coup? It is a woman.

So instead of abusing men (broke men or stingy men, yoruba demon, red piller or even SIMP), maybe women should call an emergency general meeting to address how you will support yourselves in the future.

Wordsfrombimpe:
Aaw

Make you na Dey share pics

Don’t keep up in suspense oh

Adebimpe.... You be good girl o. You don't want to damage your eyes

Artzdanielsz:

You made used of undies in your sentences a lot instead of boxers and also holey pants. Over here it will be hard to see a man on pant. Just my observation not beefing.

Bros, na one bush ajepako guy dey write here o. make I no lie, I never heard of boxers until I was out of secondary school. when I was growing up, older males wore "dross", which looked gross because of the way it looked. So I won't talk about boxers if I'm talking about my younger days. Till date, I still have more men's briefs (which I called pants) than boxers.

Artzdanielsz:

Are you a man or a woman. Your pant your wife

What did I say that made you think I am a woman? I mentioned my wife. Anyway, to remove any ambguity, I identify as a male.

Persephone1:
Do people pile up underwear ?

Yes, I do. Just that no guest will (or should) find my dirty pile. I have always hated hanging my undies where anyone would see them. So you would never find my holey pants (pata olokun/rainbow pant) on the line outside when I was young and living with my parents in our face to face apartment. When I shared accommodation with friends, I also would not leave my undies (men's briefs) in the bathroom for flatmates to see. Now that I'm married and have my space, I drop my undies (pants/singlet/socks) in a pile in MY room. My wife drops hers in a bucket in the bathroom (HER/OUR bathroom). If you go find that kind of pile, na you know wetin carry you go there. By the way, our lifestyle doesn't afford us the luxury of washing undies every morning. When I'm at work and they put me in a hotel or their accommodation, I have people that come in to clean my room while I'm in the office. I will hate to have them come in and meet my undies in the bathroom. When I'm at home, I don't wear pants for days and would usually go into the bathroom in my pyjamas or whatever I wore to bed. Why will I go back to and pick undies to wash?

By the way, before I start sounding like a neat freak, I have worn my undies for more than one day before. I still do if I'm travelling and can't pack. Socks? No even think about that one. I regularly wear my socks more than once. I just try to space it so I don't wear them on consecutive days.

Long story short - Yes some of us keep it in a pile and yes some of us wear it for two days in a row. Who wan form, make he dey form.

NOETHNICITY:
Please don’t misunderstand me
My assertion is limited to the spaces where I have control like my house and office. In my office for instance where I do not have my own personal toilet, thank God I’m placed well enough to set standards for all that get to use the toilet.
I understand that there are toilets in which the provision of water for cleaning the booty is not made. It actually cost nothing having a simple hand washer (pic attached)installed in such a place. I did that in the toilet of my current office and everything cost less than 6k plus workmanship for the plumber.
If there is one thing every reasonable mind learned during Covid it is that you can’t have a perfect cleaning without water. This I’ve known since my secondary days. As a matter of principle I can’t poop in a toilet that has no provision for me to clean with water, this is how important cleaning up with water is

las, las, we are both going to end up on the same side. We both agree that the only place where you have the luxury of wiping and washing in the most hygienic setting is the home.

I have never been fortunate enough to work in an organization where I can make decisions about the toilet setting. Maybe I wasn't bold enough to raise or maybe it's just one of the pains of working for big multinational.

Exodus15v11:
Then use water from the tap? Or where do you get it from that makes you uncomfortable to not want to use it? Tap water aside, you can install something called a bidet in your bathroom (whether hand-held or electric). If not, then getting water from the bathroom tap should suffice. I've a bidet installed, but before this I always used water from the taps in the bathroom. So long as it's water, that's all that matters. As for not getting your hands clean, that's what liquid handsoaps are for and I actually love shopping for these. I look for ones that come in pretty bottles and smell really good, so for me they're fun to buy and fancy to look at, lol. You're supposed to wash your hands after using the washroom anyway (whether you use tp, water, or both). You can still get stuff on your hands with just the tp alone that you use. But if you use toilet paper first, then water like I do, then the hands shouldn't be too soiled, if at all, but they still need to be washed, of course. No one is saying to use water right away/not wipe first because that sounds messy and why you probably feel you don't wash your hands properly or that your hands aren't clean. In any case, washing the hands (proper handwashing technique involves lathering and rubbing every surface of the hands like the fingertips and fingernails, and for at least 20 seconds) with handsoap & water after using the washroom is important.

You get me wrong. I'm not saying I'm ajebo that must have pipe-borne water o. I am saying the water must be close enough to allow me not to touch anything before washing my hand the way my OCD will be appeased o.

Just like you mentioned, I can have a bidet in my home but not in the office or market. The soap is also outside the toilet stall in most places outside your own home. And you nailed it when you used the word "too soiled". I don't want to use that not too soiled hand at all until it meets soap.

Anyways, nothing to worry about. We all have our peculiar ways of taking care of business. I only have my crack and the one on my wife to worry about. If people like make dem no shit self.

NOETHNICITY:
Oga all this crap you typed here actually sounds disgusting to me.
Where else are you supposed to get water from if not from tap?

Oga, I typed crap because we are talking about crap. Abi? . On a serious note, do you have tap water faucet in your toilet stall at work? In the mall? I have not seen many like that.

In my own experience, I have not seen plenty toilets outside my home (or hotel) where the water faucet is right inside the toilet stall. What I have seen is people taking plastic water bottles into the toilet stall to clean up. Sometimes the bottle is as small as 500ml. Then you need to start posting reminders for them to remove the plastic bottle from the stall after use. That, to me, is disgusting.

As a principle, the hand that touches my bum doesn't touch anything else until it gets washed. It's easy to wash up, stand up and walk a few steps to the water faucet without touching anything if I was at home. If I was at work or anywhere else, I would have to at least pull my pants up first with the hand that I have not washed (with soap).

Exodus15v11:
No, they don't use water. They only use toilet paper and wet wipes. Very nasty. I wipe first then use water everytime. I'm a neat freak and love being clean at all times.



No, it's not.

To illustrate: after eating, can you wipe your plates/dishes and pots clean with just paper towel?

It totally depends on who is doing the cleaning. I can even use paper towel to clean oil from plastic not to talk of ceramic. I have the patience, dexterity and attention to details. It even borders on OCD . I can do the same with my cracks. When I used to wear pants, I usually do whites and I used to "go" more in the office than at home because I leave the house very early. Yet, I hardly had skid marks in my underwear.

I love water but the problem is that it must be from a tap before I can be comfortable with using it. Otherwise, I will think I did not wash my hands properly, and my hand hygiene is way more important to me than having a sparkling crack. Using tissue paper allows me to enjoy the best from both sides - clean up with TP and walk majestically to the tap to wash my hands. My approach may be different at home because I do not have to leave my washroom before getting water from the tap.

limcar:
you lack basic understanding of English grammar. Go and work on your lexis and structure. Môron!

Bros, you don't need to insult me o, but if that gives you some sense of fulfilment in life, feel free. It's a faceless forum.

By the way, English is one subject I have never failed in my life. I did IELTS and got 8.5 out of a possible 9. I no try?

Actually, the problem is that people refuse to be objective once the reality does not align with their narrative.

limcar:
the law should have been 25% in two third of all states in the federation including the fct instead of and the fct. The supreme Court Justices are corrupt, I fear for atiku and pdp

Your wording may still be misconstrued to mean that the FCT is part of the 36 states. The total count is 37, not 36. That was the intent of the way it was worded.

PS: I'm neither a politician nor a fan of any of them. I'm just trying to be objective.

I still find it hard to understand that people will fail to see that the law is only trying to elevate the FCT or equate it with a State. This means the winner needs 2/3 of 37 entities (36 states plus 1 FCT).

The interpretation that the winner must win FCT is more or less saying that the constitution gives the FCT a higher status than the states.

This cannot be true. but what do I know?

Samantha124:
In as much as I respect their decision to abstain from sex for whatever reason that they may have.

I don't think I can ever choose to be with a virgin guy.

Please I would love to learn from you. What is the problem with being a virgin guy/babe?

iHateFraudsters:
Good.

But do these policemen read the news at all?

Or do they think they're invincible?

The reports of policemen getting arrested daily are all over the news, yet the police keep committing the same crime over and over again.

When a policeman is arrested, the news should be circulated around all policemen in Nigeria to serve as a deterrent to others.

That should be the first step in curbing police violence.

I think they continue to do these things because their immediate superiors don't caution them when they start the madness. Small time the madness enters their head and makes them think they can do and undo.

Maybe it will be more effective if his supervisor and his supervisor's supervisor (e.g. OC on the scene of the event and the DPO wey dey for office) share in the punishment. Aswearigad, the madness will stop with immediate alacrity.

You will see DPO issuing stern warning to his officers before they stain him with their mess.

Highways:
If she's truly 21 then we all need to apologise to you but seriously the two pictures don't look like the same girl....

Na the same girl. The first picture was taken 10 years ago. The second picture is more recent.

EmekaBlue:
You said it perfectly. I have to copy your style because I don't know how to answer people asking sometimes as low as 1k.

Imagine someone telling me that I should send 2k because they have not eaten for 2 days. That is supposed to make me feel bad. right? This person has relatives that I believe should be doing much better than me but pride will not let her bow and ask them for money/help. It is me that they have not seen in almost 15 years that is their only hope. Sorry.

Another told me that he's stranded in the north and was expecting me to send money to help him come back home (South). He was there for more than 2 months. In my mind, I was like even if you stayed in the garage for 2 weeks, you will get someone to help you. Sorry.

It looks like I'm callous now but it's the lessons these people have taught me. I will tell them I have stopped working for over 3 years (then), they will say "at least you're still better than us". They don't care about your own mental well being. They don't know how I was coping with the change in my status and they don't care as long as you meet their needs.

I don borrow myself sense o. Even if God send me to you and I no deliver the message, God go raise another messenger to you. Leave me, don't kill me.