Oh, I'll tell you all if it works after I try it! lol

Actually, I do have a car and I did pray about it. Intensely.

I think I finally have an answer! I just need to test it and see what happens!

Anyway, thanks for listenin to my ranting guys!!

How could you fall in love with a picture? Like it was already said before me, lust over a picture maybe, but not love a picture. C'mon.

I don't have anyone to die for, therefore no.

But, in theory, IF I did have a wife or a girlfriend I really loved, I wouldn't have any hesitations about dying instead. That is love after all. (Bah. I'm such a sap.)

Girls digging the bad boy image... yeah, sounds about right.

I think women are drawn to men who tend to treat them like crap, though I'm not 100% sure why.

Either way, it doesn't help me out. (I'm far from the typical bad-boy. If anything, I'm too nice once you get to know me - doesn't help.)

Ironically, although women tend to go for the bad-boy type, they seldomly stay together. Women get tired of being abused, mistreated and neglected after a while. (I'm not saying all bad boy types are like that, but many are.)

Depends on the culture.

I live in Canada, and I find in North American society, women like large, muscular (not fat) men. Being extremely thin or extremely fat are both seen as very unattractive.

In women, it is similar, but more emphasis is put on being on the slender side, though generally not "too thin".

My opinion? Don't ask.

Putting the other person ahead of yourself as much as you can, generally motivated out of a very strong emotional-attachment to another person.

In regard to the topic... sure, you can be single and not be lonely. Just like you can be married or in a relationship and feel extremely lonely.

Several years ago, I was "alone, but not lonely". It never used to bother me. Heh, now, however, is a totally different story...

I feel there is nothing inherently "wrong" with a girl asking out a guy, but if it were me, then I'd probably feel kind of weird and awkward about it.

I think it's only normal for a women to express initial interest in a man, but it's up to the man to respond back and inevitably ask her out, IMO anyway.

Sorry, I haven't been online much the past day or so.

I appreciate all the replies and everyone's opinions.

Where do I begin...? Well, firstly, I attend Western in Ontario. 

c0dec said that it could be the way I walk which repels girls. That could be true, actually. (I say this because a friend of mine said a similar thing to me yesterday about this very topic.) So, that is, perhaps, one possibility.

Many of you said that I lack self-confidence, and that is very true at the moment. I can only attest that it definitely a problem area. However, I'm not sure if it's as simple as merely getting more self-confidence = getting girls to notice me/getting dates. Remember, there was a time (maybe a little more than half a year ago) when I did have a great deal of self-confidence in myself. It has only been recently when I got down on myself, thinking I'm obviously unattractive since I don't get the attention I'd like (meaning 'ANY' at all) from girls at my school. It's a fact that no matter where I go, not everyone is going to like, accept or be attracted to me... and that's fine. The issue here is that it appears to me that NO ONE feels that way; which, I admit, does baffle me. I will admit, though, that I am quite sensitive and don't care for rejection even in the slightest. (But, in today's society, it's hardly rare to see a girl actively expressing romantic desire in a potential boyfriend.)

One of the reasons why I wanted to hear everyone's opinions was so that, perhaps, I could isolate the problem and then try to fix it. But I still have a tough time thinking that this problem is solely based on my confidence level. I mean, is having more self-confidence going to somehow magically make me more appealing to girls? (I ask in truth, not sarcasm.) I just don't think it will help me as much as everyone may think. Is it worth a shot...? Of course. However, you have to remember that back when I did have a lot of confidence in myself, girls still tended to ignore me and not even pay me so much as a glance, while I watched all the other "better-looking" guys have girls endlessly vye for their attention. (In my experience at university, there are far more girls than guys, so that is why this is the case.) I say "better-looking" guys because that is honestly how I feel right now.

I just don't see how more confidence is going to put more weight on me or make a girl all of a sudden say "Wow, that guy is hot" or even elicit a mere smile or "hi" out of any of them. From what I've heard from girls (at least many of which I know), being 6'1" and 145 lbs. is not going to play to my advantage. (And yes, I do work out, eat tons and have tried endless methods to gain weight, but it is all for naught. I'm cursed with a ridiculously high metabolic rate - which girls say they'd KILL for.) I wish I had a picture I could post online, then many of you would understand what I'm getting at. Regardless, tall and skinny = me, that's for sure.

I'm not sure what else to say. Even when my confidence was high, as I already said, I have always been a shy, quiet person and it's not my style or personality to just go over to a girl I don't even know and strike up a conversation with her. It's not me, unfortunately. I envy guys who are extraverted enough to do that. But at the same time, I do not believe that out of all the girls I encounter in and outside of class on a daily basis, that not even ONE of them is interested (although I am forced to believe that based on what I see in how others respond to me each and every day of my life). I hear from other girls about how important it is for a guy to "totally buff" and muscular, and it's quite belittling at times. (Even though I do have some muscle; I'm not a 200 lbs. walking mass of muscle... I wish!)

I've tried looking elsewhere for dates, too. Work is out; I don't work with anyone under 40. I tried church (a lot of girls my age attend my church), but that didn't work out either. It was simply more of the same... ignore me and talk to the other "hot" guys in the church instead. Besides, going to church shouldn't be to "pick up chicks" anyway. Hardly the right reason for going. Getting passed over like yesterday's left-overs is commonplace for me now, it seems. And bars are out; I don't drink or care to start. Being friends with a girl is a great place to start, but I don't have a lot of girls that are my friends and the ones I do have are all taken. Heck, even fix-ups are out since most of my friend's friends are all taken. It truly does seem all the good ones are either taken (or uninterested).

Also, I may come across as an overly-passive guy, which is not totally true. My shyness really only extends to beautiful girls. Girls I am not attracted to or guys do not elicit the same response in me. When I say I more or less expect girls to somehow "make the first move", I am merely referring to the subtle, and usually indirect way that girls tend to make their romantic interests in a male known. (Most of you women posters will know what I am talking about.) I would not expect a girl to actually ask me out (and I admit, even as shy as I am, that would actually scare me off or, at least, intimidate me a bit). In the past, I had no trouble asking out girls whom I was interested and would probably have little trouble with that in the future. (But I need to, obviously, ascertain their interest before I'd run the risk of being so bold as to ask one of them out.) But that's common sense really; I think it's only natural to want to see some form of interest on the part of your object of desire, correct?

THAT is what is lacking for me.

Whew... long post.

I'm new here, but I had something I wanted to get off my chest anyhow.

I am 24 year old male and am currently attending a very large university in Canada. I've been single for quite a long time (four years sincw my last serious relationship and almost two since my last date!), and it is now frustrating me to no end. I'm not the kind of person who really enjoys being alone (although if that's you, that's fine), but for me, I absolutely hate it. I also realize that I am by no means "old" or over-the-hill yet, but I still must admit that I am quite lonely and not at all satisfied with my love life (or lackthereof, rather). So, obviously, I want to find a decent girlfriend.

Anyway, the problem is that, for the life of me, I just cannot get a date! And the thing is, I don't fully understand why either! I'll admit I'm not all that experienced with the fairer sex, but I am at a complete loss as to why I cannot meet anyone at such a large school. It just doesn't make any sense to me.

I've theorized that maybe it is because of my looks. Although not an easy thing for me to accept, I have considered the notion that I am not as attractive as I initially thought I was (I happen to be a rather tall and skinny guy, unfortunately). So I'm under the large impression that girls tend to avoid me due to my appearance. I don't honestly know what else it could be. I am a somewhat shy and reserved person when it comes to dealing with an attractive member of the opposite sex, so that may also play a factor(?). But considering the complete lack of interest I receive from any and all girls, I presume it's definitely something wrong with my appearance.

I am also aware that some of the more old-fashioned and traditionally-minded females will say that as a male I have a "duty" to be the one to make the first move; by initiating conversation, interest, advances, and the like. But I just have a hard time swallowing that. I mean, is it that inconceivable that at an enormously large school with thousands upon thousands of women my own age that there is not one who is extraverted and forward enough to take the first step? (I was always under the impression that women are usually the ones to take the first step, either via body language, gestures, conversation, and so on.) Moreover, it is extremely difficult to be bold when you're naturally shy, and even worse, you feel badly about your own appearance.

In the past, I never used to lack confidence, but as of late, I admit that it certainly has been a bit lacking, to say the least. I know women appreciate confidence in a guy. Recently, however, now that I'm seeing myself in a much more unattractive light than I previously had, my self-confidence is pretty much shot down the drain. (Wouldn't almost two years without a single date do that to someone?) And don't think I haven't tried to get a date either. On more than one occasion, I have asked out girls and been given a super-polite excuse for not being able to further our conversation. It's quite painful, I admit. Like most people, I don't handle rejection very well from the opposite sex.

So now, in light of all this, what do you guys think? What are some other reasons why girls tend to avoid me like the plague? Any tips or advice on how to raise my self-confidence or on getting a date? I'm just trying to figure this out and perhaps someone else can help shed some light on this problem.

Any and all opinions are welcome. Thanks.

~James