@op,u have really tried,I commend your efforts..Some family members are like that.They see you as a money bag,like as if u don't have your own problems.Your brother is an opportunist to say the least and u made life too comfortable for him,you give without complaining..Since your elder brother has warned you not to spend a dime on him,make it a family issue..Let everyone know what he has done and what you have endured so far,then tell them your decision and that's final.You have to be tough and stand by it.First of all,if possible, help him rent a room so he wud give u breathing space then concentrate on your marriage plans.At least wen u are married,he wud know that you aren't as free as before.If possible,give him the car so that heaven and earth wud bear you witness that u have done your best.Settle him once and for all,then let him know u are done with him for the rest of his life...May God gv u wisdom.

LadyGuinivere:

Yes you will. If you also need hot water along the way you can ask for.
But won't carrying dry cereal and making when neccessary be better in the long run as opposed to pap?

Thanks @ Lady Guinivere...but my baby doesn't like cereal at all,iv tried different types, he just prefers pap,den any solid food..I'm confused

Please help me on how to go about this..I'll be travelling to the U.S soon with my one year and six months old baby for vacation.He's no longer breastfeeding and eats solids..Rice,Pap and what have you.My question is this:Wud I be allowed to carry his food on the aircraft?Being that its going to be so many hours journey,he can't make do with what they will share on the plane.Pls wat do I do?

All I see is a bleached baby doll who cares anyway?

There's no need for all these condemnation, it can happen to anybody.@Op,pls don't get rid of that baby,u never can tell what the future holds.Try talking to your mum about it or if u are scared,get someone that u know she listens to,to help u break the news to her,she may be angry at first, but wud accept the child as soon as its born...Forget about the guy,he isn't ready to settle with you,don't pin him down with d pregnancy.Don't discuss marriage with him,just tell him to be supportive before and after delivery.. As for your job,continue to work till its obvious u are pregnant so u can save up some money for the birth of your child...Some organizations accept pregnant women,but if yours says otherwise,u can talk to your boss in confidence about keeping the job...I really wish u all the best and remember that Children are special gifts from God,millions of people out there are praying to get pregnant just once.. Decide well.

Bawss1:
Dunno why some guys find it hard to do as I do when it comes to matters like this. When a relationship ends everything about that relationship ends with it. No more phone calls, delete her numbers, delete all your emails to her, remove her from Facebook friendlist. Total erasure, no contact. That way issues like this will never arise. See how the husband causes his wife unrest because of refusing to let go.

Exactly my point ...wen you done with a relationship ,let it go for good,everything about that person has to be deleted from your brain as you move on..I hate it wen men still keep I contact with their ex..for what reason I don't know ..@OP,if your husband refuses to stop communicating with his Ex,shey u sef get Ex too Na?Ehen,start talking to him too..let him see how sweet it is..do me I do u,no body go vex.shekina!

Exactly my point...if the ex was so nice,why didn't they end up together?@OP,if he refuses to stop communicating with his ex..u too,start calling your ex and become friends with him again.. after all ,do me I do you,man no go vex....

VO and Lady Guinevere, we await ur advice.
Regards.

FabioRomani:
@Lady Guinevere and VO please comment on this. Thanks

Thanks a lot. So, should I send a notification of intent mail to the embassy?

worry359:


You should tell them that you are pregnant, and your plans.
Do not try to hide it.

If you travel in October take copies of your proof that you will return in case you are questioned at point of entry.
If you can get letters from hospital and doctor, along with costs again that might be useful.
If you can pay bills or even a deposit that will be good.
You might not be asked for anything, but have paperwork ready in your hand luggage.

Hello LadyGuinevere, I was given a b visa and my initial travel date was this July. At d time of interview I wasn't pregnant, but I noticed that am pregnant now. Due to the some reasons, I now plan to travel for vacation in October this year and I will be four pregnant by then. I will return by early November, then I plan to travel again next year to give birth in the US. I am worried that the custom and boarder patrol guys will stress me cos I will be four months gone by then. Please do I need to inform the embassy that I am pregnant and plan to give birth after this trip? Am worried cos i have booked for my ticket already. Please ur urgent response will be appreciated. Thanks.

Hi LadyGuinivere please comment on this. Thanx

FabioRomani:
Hello Lady Guinivere

My wife and I were given a b visa, we attended the interview together and told d VO that we will travel together. But for some reasons, I want her to go first for visit and return home, then much later in the year we will go together. My question is - will she have problems at POE with custom and border patrol or any other authority given that we were supposed to travel together but she traveled alone?

Cheers.

Z

Your English though is it anger that made you write like this?I managed to read through the post..lmao

We humans are just filled with wickedness ..May your soul rest in peace,Amen..I thought Ekosodin had calmed down with all the plenty killings..some years back,no day passes without news of two to three students being killed at different parts..Uniben authorities wud say dats not their jurisdiction..May God help us.

Bees are very dangerous.. I heard it killed my secondary school principal and her two kids..The children went to the village for holiday and decided to go look for cherry..They mistakenly provoked some Bees and they were stung ruthlessly.Their mum ran to rescue them and she was also stung,they were all rushed to the hospital but unfortunately the three of them died..
@OP,try and gather some dry woods around the tree and put enough kerosene or even fuel to enable it burn up..but u can do it at night when you know its time to retire to bed.If you do it during the day,children may want to play and they may get stung...
I hope this helps..

Such a beauty gone just like that?..R.IP..May God give your family the grace to bear this great loss..

Saddenedsoul:
Sorry, to bother you all , but I just had to get this off my chest. I recently got married, just little over a year ago. I have had no reason not to trust my husband, in fact I could trust him with my life. My problem started last week when I borrowed his laptop to complete some office work. I found his WhatsApp web was logged in, so out of curiosity, I decided to take a peek. What I found what worrying, I saw lots of messages from women who were literally asking my husband out, planning dates and meet up venues, even when they are all well aware that he is married. Since then I have been paranoid, every word from his mouth becomes suspicious, I get angry at him for no reason; I don't know wether to confront him, because I feel like he's just going to lie to me, I'm very confused , somebody help me.

I understand how u feel.What was his response to the chat messages?He shouldn't keep too many female friends cz he's married. Just talk to him in the best manner possible and suppress your anger..His reactions will show if he's really doing stuffs with any woman.

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UEDIBO:
i have been on #16,000 salary since three years now even with my M.Sc INFORMATION TECHNOLOGY with 8 years experience. and am having three children.

give me the job if no resign now from here.

Na cleaner you dey do?For u to have M.sc and accept a salary of 16k for 3 years means u don't have a dream..Don't be a mediocre,step up ur game jare

sinceraconcept:
you still haven't talked about how the woman cheated o

The woman is dead and can't defend herself.Nobody knows if she really cheated..and dat she did doesn't matter anymore..What matters most is that she gets JUSTICE.

Kai,see lie lie story.. You pushed her hand off the staircase but she didn't stumble.You met her lying there the next morning and u calmly walked away thinking she was pretending.. She didn't sleep in the same room with you dat night and u didn't bother to check where she was..You still dey boast ontop say u fit hide for 30 years..Na God go judge your case..May you rot in jail.Women,its better to walk away when u still have air in your lungs than for you to stay,get killed and others tell your story..

Hmmn,I blame the guy..6 years is a whole lot of time.Try and apologise to her and makes sure she forgives u..