NoToPile:



It depends on the kind of person he is and the type of taste he has


You can get an expensive watch. Don't think you can go wrong with a watch.

If you know his shoe size add a solid pair of shoes.

Budget correct cash for these.

Thank you, for now I don't know his shoe size.

Like how much can I budget and can you also help with names of some nice collection of watches

Samantha124:
Buy him a designer suit.

Okay, thanks

Please, suggest a suitable gift items to give to a boss who helped you secure a very well paying Job.

I am just overwhelmed and I will really like to express my gratitude with a token of gift items.
Thank you

Freelane33:
if I’m in your shoe big bro , ama get out of the relationship, I’m not finna allow love to blind me from seeing the pains ahead of me and thinking on how I can circumvenge the pain . Big bro , pain is pain . Nobody loves pain , and the pain is real , pls don’t step in if you are not fully equipped financially

Thanks, I really appreciate

eyinjuege:
If you can have IVF, then go ahead. Genotype shouldn't stop you getting married to the love of your life especially when it can be avoided by IVF.
They will use the embryo that's not ss

Thanks a whole lot. That's exactly what this thread is all about.
I want to know if there's any hope at all before we go our separate ways.

Don't want to lose a good lady if I can get a solution

naija4life247:


Good. Very Good.

Go ahead and marry. The village people that are after you will be very happy to end your own lineage after wasting all the money you earn on SS children who are called Abiku / Emere in Yoruba and Ogbanje at the other side.

On the Judgement Day, you will still end up in Hell Fire together because the Abikus / Ogbanje that you will give birth to will never allow you stay in Heaven continue

Haba... Na fight?

ezugegere:
I work with an NGO that cares for Siclklers. Please don't even try it if you love your sanity. Even if you don't love yourself, kindly pity your unborn kids. I bet you, if you happen to give birth to a sickler, you will never forgive yourself, given that you are aware of the consequences of what you're going into

Thanks

DBestDoc:


I’ll need to know how wealthy you are.

If you’re going to dabble into this, make sure you earn well and are emotionally strong ‘cause the technology available depends strictly on the abundant availability of these two factors.

On no account should you birth a Child with SICKLE CELL because what follows afterwards is a whole depressing package on its own. Not just for you though but the child whose life you’d be screwing up.


If i have to give you an unbiased professional and non sentimental counsel, I’d say end the relationship. Continuing is not worth the risk or stress. But as someone who is open minded and believes in possibilities, you could go ahead with the aforementioned readily available for prenatal testing for every single pregnancies or even adoption...phew!

Thanks... I appreciate it. I will give it maximum thought

efficiencie:


Imagine you both had "compatible genotypes" and can get married, how would you handle difficult challenges when they arise in your marriage? Particularly those challenges that defy all solutions you know of. Would you rather end the marriage? Imagine you get married and find out that your wife has a tumour that keeps growing back. You have tried the medical approach and your wife has undergone like 5 operations and your doctor says he or she cannot perform another operation on your wife because it could claim her life but unfortunately the tumor is back. Now what will you do? Will you end the marriage?

This is the problem with the modern day generation. The moment we see a problem we immediately apply evasive maneuvers forgetting that no matter how we try we must face challenges. Your challenge now is genotype matching, and just like that hypothetical problem regarding a tumour, which you think cannot be solved and your doctors have declared you cannot wed the woman of your choice.

Well, you can pray to God when you reach the final busstop of all the solutions you know. You can try God when all of your options have been exhausted. You and your spouse to be should go to God in prayer. Some have recorded supernatural change of genotype and they got married. Your case may also be like that. Good speed.

Thanks... I really appreciate.

UpInTheSky:
All that writeup and you left out that you're both AS.
Honesty is the best policy, neither can you deny science.

With both of you being AS, you've a 1/4 chance of having an AA child
but there exists no guarantee that any of the 3-kids you want to have, will be AA,
because they could all be SS, which is very dangerous and you don't want to take that chance.

To avoid stories that touch, it's best for you to end the relationship and find an AA individual to marry.
Your other options are IVF, or adoption, but having biological kids when both of you carry the sickle-cell gene
is a no-no.

Thanks for your advice. I really appreciate it

Doubleoh7:
If you came here looking for validation and support in order for you to continue with this your relationship, just know it won't come from me nor will it come from most people here. In your own best interest, call it quits with the lady now and go build a new relationship elsewhere. But if you insist on going ahead, trusting your weird calculator of not planning to birth plenty kids and maybe banking on your strength to wither the storm, I can assure you one thing, no matter how wealthy or strong you are, managing even one sickler as a child will break every single bit of u and guess what, statistically, most of them still die before their early 30s. Your choice

Thanks, I appreciate

afrochics:
If you're rich, there's hope. IVF is an option, as a test can conducted on the fertilized embryos and only healthy embryos will be implanted. If you can't afford it, then don't risk it.

I have read on this and that's why I reach out to Nairaland to seek further advice and opinions

robinso01:
Don't come and be asking for advise and financial support here when you gives birth to a sickle cell that is frustrating ur lives here,because i don't understand what else you need to know,when medically you have been advised against marrying each others.

I appreciate your advice

Eazie351:
5 children, 1st, 2nd and 3rd born died (they were all SS), my Gf is the last child n she's AS.

if them sef talk say them no wan born much say na 3 pikin dem want, naso them for just turn barren overnight.


Stop making stupid calculations and kill the relationship before they start dropping advice for you say you fit maneuver am.

Love no go conquer this one if una wan born o

I understand the risk involved, I just want opinions and anyone with experience of overcoming this through IVF.

I just want to ensure we are dealing with a dead end situation before we take the final decision.

xedyl:
Mr lover lover , only God is irreplaceable. Get yourself AA girl.

Thanks

FERNANDEZISBACK:
What are you going on about? If there is a problem with potentially passing on an illness to a child that is a different issue...If you love the woman you can arrange children if you want them..adopt..foster..modern technology so a healthy pregnancy is implanted...


Or better still marry somebody else..or marry her but just don’t have children..assuming that by genotype issues you mean concerns over genetic incompatibility or the risk of passing on a genetic disease to your children..
Understood?

I have tried speaking to her on modern technology but she's still uncertain about it

mymadam:
Guess both of you are AS, right?

Yeah

Good morning Nairalanders, please I need urgent help.

My relationship is on the verge of break up due to genotype issue and I sincerely need your advice. I will appreciate if medical experts on this field and those with experience can help out and Share their experience.

I love this lady so much and she's everything any man can pray for except for the genotype. She equally love me so much as well.
On her part, she has booked consultation with doctors and all they keep telling her isn't good at all. No hope at all.

On my part, I have this strong believe that we will give birth to health kids since we are not planning on having much. Maximum of three.
I have also done some researches and also heard about "bridgeclinic". I don't know if it will work and the success rate.

Please, is there any hope at all or not.
I really appreciate your advice as I anticipate them.
Thank you

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Modified: we both have AS genotype