GeniusWannabe:

If I remember correctly, the poster said he apologized to her but she didn't seem to pay attention to him. I don't know if there's more to the story, I don't know how long their differences has been on, but from the look of things, it seems the lady just isn't interested anymore, it's beyond what the poster has done/is doing.

You are correct, however, we are only getting one side of the story and I was being optimistic from the view that since he says she has been bringing up grievances against him, he is not entirely innocent. Perhaps he has apologized before and then reverted back. The poster says he has changed, so I will give him the benefit of the doubt, but depending on the offences, it may be hard for her to forgive. Perhaps this next meeting would determine everything, but it seems the poster has already made up his mind. A lot of men have responded, but it seems not many women have. Just because she was talking to the other man, does not mean she has moved on. Perhaps she is trying to be hard because she felt unfairly treated. Any way, the ball is in their court.

GeniusWannabe:

And you blatantly ignored the part where he talked about the guy that visited her.

I ignored it under the assumption that he is willing to work things out and get to the bottom of the issue. If her disinterest is a result of his poor treatment of her, then there is hope. If it is because she is interested in another man, that is a different matter. My evaluation, is she may be giving him this attitude not because she is interested in the other man, but she doesn't like something that the poster has done/is doing.

LilMissFavvy:
Most women would be happy to marry the man they once had a child for, so if she is doing otherwise, it means you have been a bad partner. You mentioned that she brought up your past deeds. You cannot control her like a robot, accept her dressing, or let her be.If you wish to keep her, then change your character for the best.

This poster is making sense. You have not told us her grievances against you. Most women would be happy to marry the father of her child unless he has a major character flaw. I doubt it is simply a school fees/money issue. If you really want to work things out, you should find out why she is no longer interested.

Also, it seems you have no problem criticizing her dressing. Do you ever praise her dressing or any other thing about her? If you only criticize, she may not feel valued and have lost interest because of that.

The ladies have said it all. Most of us, are yet to meet such a man. At best, some of us meet one who would be willing to wait, but most do not want to wait before marriage.